All committed relationships have peaks and valleys, but here are some signs that your partner is falling out of love with you or has already fallen done so. While any one of us may exhibit some of these signs from time to time in our love relationship because of life stressors, conflict, ill health, or other issues, consider the overall pattern, severity, and duration of the behavior below.
1) Your partner frequently chooses to spend less time with you, opting instead to work, hang out with friends, or pursue some other priority instead. Even when they are with you, they’re “checked out” -- on their phone or other device or watching television, for example.
2) They’ve withdrawn emotionally. They don’t share secrets, hopes, dreams, feelings, and fears like they used to. They don’t solicit this type of information from you either and shut you down when you try to discuss.
3) Your partner treats you more like a roommate, sibling, or buddy than a lover. They avoid all signs of romantic intimacy. The hand holding, kissing, cuddling, hugs, and sex have dwindled or stopped. (Sometimes, sex is the only thing they want from you—sex without the emotional intimacy.)
4) They don’t talk much about the future or they change the subject when you bring it up. They avoid situations with other couples. They don’t talk to others about you as a couple (only themselves as an individual).
5) Your values and interests are different and there’s no longer an attempt to discuss, share, or meet in the middle.
6) Your partner no longer invests much time or energy into their appearance or suddenly begins to pay way more attention to it.
7) They become easily frustrated with you. They may express disrespect, contempt, and disappointment, sometimes disguised as sarcastic “jokes.”
8) Your partner has developed a wandering eye. They no longer bother to hide the fact that they’re sneaking a glance elsewhere.
Chances are, if you’re asking yourself the question, “Is my partner falling out of love with me?” then you’re probably seeing some of these signs. Go ahead and have the difficult discussion with your partner about the behaviors you’re noticing and where to go from here as a couple. I hope these have helped.