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The Narcissist's Playlist: 58 Songs on Arrogance and Self-Love

Updated on February 13, 2017
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The Narcissist: Proud As a Peacock

Proud as a peacock, the narcissist struts his stuff.  He demands to be center stage in attention.  But he'll peck your eyes out if you don't watch out.
Proud as a peacock, the narcissist struts his stuff. He demands to be center stage in attention. But he'll peck your eyes out if you don't watch out. | Source

Narcissistic Natalie: A Memory Like A Bad Tattoo

If you've ever dated, loved, or worked with a narcissist, his or her memory has been seared upon you like a bad tattoo. Narcissists are all about

  • self-aggrandizement
  • entitlement and
  • ruthlessness.

I worked closely with one and actually enjoyed her from a safe distance ... in the same way that some people enjoy dangerous snakes. They can be fascinating to watch, but you must respect the bite.

Narcissists tend to be male and active self-promoters -- online as well as off.
Narcissists tend to be male and active self-promoters -- online as well as off. | Source

Puffery, Name-Dropping, and Shameless Self-Promotion

Narcissistic Natalie was usually the loudest person in the room — a loud talker with sudden bursts of unsettling laughter. She clunked and slammed her way around the office for attention ("Hey, look at me! Ask me about ME!"). There was no mistaking she had arrived. She was quick to share the latest drama in her own life, no questions required.

Inevitably, she steered each conversation to her own talents, and she littered her language with the names of executives and influencers. (Cue eye rolls and barely contained gagging.)

Hypersensitive to criticism, Narcissistic Natalie ruthlessly turned on anyone who gave her less than glowing feedback. Who cared if the criticism was valid?

A manager told her to wear longer skirts so that coworkers and clients couldn't see "up there" when she crossed and uncrossed her legs during meetings or put her feet on the table. Natalie ranted, claimed victimization, and resorted to subversive retaliation. She declared personal war.

Narcissist:  Stuck on who?
Narcissist: Stuck on who? | Source

Narcissistic Natalie also attacked the reputation of a prior supervisor who had given her disagreeable feedback. She continued to do so during the woman's terminal battle with cancer and afterwards for at least two years. Sinister things happen when you cross a narcissist. Natalie's story morphed in unflattering ways as she repeatedly retold it.

The young narcissist also probed co-workers, bosses, and especially naïve new employees about their personal history and opinions. Then she used the information to

  • advance her personal agenda
  • cast herself more favorably while portraying targets in an unflattering light, and
  • portray the image that she had special relationships, inside knowledge, or brilliant insight.

So what happens to narcissists like Natalie? Often they bounce from one context to another, leaving a path of relationship destruction along the way. At other times they become leaders. (After all, they'll tell you they have a talent for it.) For Natalie, it was both.

Is A Narcissist Pulling Your Strings?

Narcissism involves a sense of entitlement and manipulation of others for one's own purposes.  Narcissists often come across as arrogant and self-absorbed.
Narcissism involves a sense of entitlement and manipulation of others for one's own purposes. Narcissists often come across as arrogant and self-absorbed. | Source

1. "Blank Space" by Taylor Swift

In this 2014 hit, Taylor Swift takes on the persona of a self-involved, crazed woman who breaks hearts for the sport of it. In doing so, the singer mocks her own dating life which has become the target of all the gossip magazines.

She tells a new love interest that "I could show you incredible things ... Magic, madness, heaven, sin" and she alludes to special powers she has at reading people and making "the bad guys good for a weekend." Ever the vixen, she also cautions that "darling, I'm a nightmare dressed like a daydream."

Don't underestimate this one, guys. And don't say no one ever warned you.

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Confidence To Spare

So sexy it hurts?
So sexy it hurts? | Source

2. "I’m Too Sexy" by Right Said Fred

The fashion model in the 1991 song by English group Right Said Fred has a big problem: He brags that he's too sexy for

  • his lover
  • his shirt
  • Milan, New York, Japan
  • your party
  • his car
  • his cat
  • this song.

That's a whole lot of sexiness. No wonder the song ends so abruptly.

3. "Applause" by Lady Gaga

Lady Gaga captures the essence of attention mongers in this 2013 song, and we all recognize the type. They're the ones who elbow others out of the limelight in search of an audience. Always on stage, these approval seekers soak up the accolades and live for "the way that you cheer and scream for me." Impatiently, they demand: "Look at me!"

Narcissists: Me, Myself & I

Got a narcissist in your life at work, in your family or romantic life? Tired of their endless self-love, lack of empathy, and all the me-me-me? While you figure out how to deal with them, make your own playlist about narcissism, arrogance, and self-love. You'll realize you're not alone. Unfortunately, neither are they.

Narcissists: They Live For the Applause

Narcissists expect to be treated as unique, accomplished, and superior -- even when they haven't done anything of any special significance.
Narcissists expect to be treated as unique, accomplished, and superior -- even when they haven't done anything of any special significance. | Source

4. "Under My Thumb" by The Rolling Stones

The narrator in this classic song by The Rolling Stones (1966) is a flaming narcissist. Today, we'd call him emotionally abusive, or worse.

He can't control his narcissistic rage against the girlfriend who supposedly once controlled him. Our narcissist boasts that change has come: "the squirmin' dog who's just had her day" now talks when spoken to, dresses how he requires, and keeps her eyes to herself while he's allowed to ogle other women.

Someone advise Girlfriend to tell him where he can put his thumb. (As my grandfather would say, "Sit on your fist and lean back on your thumb.")

5. "I Want You To Want Me" by Cheap Trick

Cheap Trick (1979) reportedly wrote this song as a joke. The song's narrator is determined to be the center of his lover's world:

I want you to want me
I need you to need me
I'd love you to love me
I'm beggin' you to beg me.

The Mask Of A Narcissist: Anyone You Want Me To Be

Narcissists lack empathy and do not feel the emotions others that do or take their needs or perspectives into account.  They form relationships with others that are "useful."
Narcissists lack empathy and do not feel the emotions others that do or take their needs or perspectives into account. They form relationships with others that are "useful." | Source

6. "Blurred Lines" by Robin Thicke

This 2013 song by Robin Thicke has a catchy beat, but if you listen to the lyrics you understand why it's on this list. It's no wonder some people complained that the song was misogynistic.

In flirting with a woman he is attracted to, an over-the-top narrator calls her a "good girl" and says that her man

tried to domesticate you
But you're an animal. Baby, it's in your nature
Just let me liberate you

He then repeatedly taunts, "I know you want it," and says that he knows she "must wanna get nasty."

Narcissism: The One Percent Club

Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects about one percent of the population and involves a preoccupation with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects about one percent of the population and involves a preoccupation with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity. | Source

Signs You're Dealist With A Narcissist

Hallmarks of Narcissism
 
A grandiose sense of self-importance
Communicating a sense of entitlement
Expecting recognition for superiority, even without corresponding achievements.
Expecting special treatment without question (i.e., a feeling that the rules don't apply to them)
Exaggerated accomplishments and talents.
Taking advantage of others to get what one wants
Preoccupation or fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
Lack of empathy (recognizing others' perspectives)
Believing a person of your special gifts should only associate with and can only be understood by similarly special people
Envying others and assuming that others envy you
Requiring constant attention
Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner
Consult a qualified mental health professional for mental health advice.

7. "Piece of Me" by Britney Spears

From struggles with the law to mental illness, addiction, and troubled relationships, Britney Spears (2007) has seen her life play out in the media. Remember her hair shaving incident that was a low point?

In this song, she comes back swinging. She calls herself the following and repeatedly challenges, "You wanna piece of me?"

  • Miss American Dream since I was 17
  • Miss Bad Media Karma
  • Mrs. Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous, and
  • Mrs. "Extra! Extra! This Just In!"

The Narcissistic Motto: "Let's Hear It For Me!"

"Don't you understand how special I am?"
"Don't you understand how special I am?" | Source

8. "Fancy" by Iggy Azalea (featuring Charli XCX)

Although the beat is great, the lyrics to this 2014 electro-hop hit by Australian rapper Iggy Azalea (featuring Charli XCX) are sheer self-aggrandizing nonsense. Iggy brags about how sexy and fancy she is and how she doesn't listen to the haters.

She becomes overly concerned about being paid appropriately yet also brags about trashing hotel rooms and swinging from chandeliers. That'll get your name remembered, alright.

9. "Can't Be Tamed" by Miley Cyrus

Back in 2010, Miley Cyrus warned us with this song that her puzzle pieces were jagged and she was wired a different way. (I'll say.) She said she was attention-crazy and couldn't be tamed or blamed. Believe her now?

10. "You Belong With Me" by Taylor Swift

In this 2008 song, Taylor Swift considers herself uniquely qualified to be her best guy-friend's sweetheart. Never mind that he already has a girlfriend. She's the only one understands him, gets his humor, and really cares about his life story.

The narrator sounds a bit obsessed, like she could easily take a pencil to the neck of his present girlfriend to get what she wants.

Facts About Narcissism

  • While people commonly refer to self-involved braggarts as being "narcissistic," Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a serious mental disorder. Only a mental health care professional is qualified to properly diagnose NPD.
  • An estimated 1% of Americans experience NPD.
  • Male narcissists outnumber females at a rate of about 3-to-1.
  • Research has found that narcissistic men react with most hostility towards heterosexual women. This means that their partners could be especially vulnerable targets of their aggression.1
  • One study found that men who post more selfies through social media channel are more narcissistic. Dudes who edit their selfies (e.g., through cropping, a special effects app) are particularly narcissistic .2
  • Want to spot a narcissist on Facebook? Research indicates here's what to look for: a large number of contacts and shallow relationships (mirroring real life), a larger number of photos, more glamorous photos, and more self-promoting posts.3
  • People who are overconfident about their abilities are more likely to become leaders. (That's not to say they are good leaders, however.)4

His Own Biggest Fan?

Narcissist-in-Chief
Narcissist-in-Chief | Source

Let's You and Him (Or Her) Fight

Trump's Target and What They Did To Allegedly Merit His Rage
Trump's Attack(s)
Target's Clever Comeback
Arianna Huff's Huffington Post ran an article that was unfavorable to Trump's television show, "The Apprentice."
"@ariannahuff is unattractive both inside and out. I fully understand why her former husband left her for a man -- he made a good decision."
"@realDonaldTrump we've always wondered what's under the bottom of the barrel. Please report. #flameout.
In 2006, Rosie O'Donnell slammed Trump on "The View" for his handling of a drug scandal by Miss USA
"What she is is a bully." / "Rosie's a loser. A real loser. I look forward to taking lots of money from my nice fat little Rosie." / "Rosie is crude, rude, obnoxious and dumb -- other than that I like her very much!" / She's not a very smart person, if you look at her IQ I guarantee you it's not up there." / "Rosie always self-destructs."
"You're an a$$ in every way." / "He returns -- like a raging herpes rash." / "He wants me … He needs me -- he is obsessed … like a grandpa stalker."
Cher tweeted negative comments about Mitt Romney during the 2012 election campaign.
"@Cher attacked @MittRomney. She is an average talent who is out of touch with reality. Like @Rosie O'Donnell, a total loser!"
"Donald Trump is a Pompous A**hole. Saw him in Aspen with one Dcup chick after another. Everyone up there thought he was a complete idiot."
High profile plaintiff's attorney Gloria Allred represented a disqualified transgender Miss Universe contestant. The pageant is owned by Trump. Allred commented that the contestant shouldn't have to prove gender to the Trump organization, as no one was requesting that information from Trump himself.
Trump called television show TMZ to discuss his genitals: "I think Gloria would be very, very impressed with me." He said he would show his (ahem) package to Ms. Allred if she paid the right price.
“I don’t have a magnifying glass strong enough to see something that small. The world does not revolve around his penis. We have to get off the subject of genitalia and let’s just look at people as individuals and put aside the fears, the prejudices, and stereotypes that he may have.”
Comedian Bill Maher joked that the color of Trump's hair suggested his father was an orange-haired orangutan.
Trump sued the comedian for $5 million.
"Just like we're the gun country, we're the joke country. We love our free speech and we love celebrities getting taken down a peg. So Don, just suck it up like everybody else!" / ""Look, I'm not looking for a feud with Donald Trump and I certainly only wish the best for the syphilitic monkey who does his Twitter feed."

Notable Quotes From Donald Trump: Told Through Photos

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Sexy ol' grandpa?  Love him or hate him?Ah, brutality.  It works like a charm.Go big or go home.Everyone should be so rich and so confident.And just look at how he does it.Never refuse a breath mint.So greed is good?
Sexy ol' grandpa?
Sexy ol' grandpa? | Source
Love him or hate him?
Love him or hate him? | Source
Ah, brutality.  It works like a charm.
Ah, brutality. It works like a charm. | Source
Go big or go home.
Go big or go home. | Source
Everyone should be so rich and so confident.
Everyone should be so rich and so confident. | Source
And just look at how he does it.
And just look at how he does it. | Source
Never refuse a breath mint.
Never refuse a breath mint. | Source
So greed is good?
So greed is good? | Source

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11. "When You're Ready Come and Get It" by Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez, known for her on-again/off-again relationship with Justin Bieber must be singing about him in this 2013 song. The song's narrator taunts her lover like a kid on the playground with lots of "Na na na na" refrains.

She knows their love is going to kill her but she'll die happy as she summons her lover, "When you're ready come and get it." Sounds like two egomaniacs headed for a train wreck, if you ask me.

12. "SexyBack" by Justin Timberlake

Oh, Justin Timberlake, you so love yourself. Are you perhaps overcompensating for Britney Spears cheating on you? Hmmm.

In this 2006 song, Justin promises to bring sexy back because he says the girl he's attracted to is "burning up" for him and he's going to show the other guys how to be cool.

Have you ever known a narcissist?  Are you one?
Have you ever known a narcissist? Are you one? | Source

13. "I Love Myself" by The Wannadies

Sweedish group The Wannadies puts the message right out there in this alternative rock song (2000): When it comes to love, there's nothing better than loving yourself.

The narrator compliments himself on what good company he is. He says he's charming, physically attractive, and never disappoints himself. What more could you want in a mate?

Mirror, Mirror, On the Wall ...

"Mirror, mirror, on the wall, I love myself best of all."
"Mirror, mirror, on the wall, I love myself best of all." | Source

14. "Can’t Tell Me Nothing" by Kanye West

This 2007 Grammy-nominated song is classic Kanye West — bold and in-your-face. In in, he boasts about his money and reckless behavior, including getting arrested. He recalls a dream about buying his way to heaven and has no guilt about the way he treats others. Sounds narcissistic alright.

15. "I Am Superman" by R.E.M.

Rejected by the girl he loves, the narcissistic narrator of this 1986 R.E.M. is scary-obsessed with getting her back, whatever it takes.

Although she's found a new love interest, the narrator "knows what's happening" and "can do anything." He promises to track her down, even if she ventures a million miles away from him. If there's anything narcissists hate it's rejection.

Every Narcissist Is A Hero In His Own Mind

While this guy is merely having fun dressing up as Superman, actual narcissists see themselves as truly superior and unique.  Narcissists tend to be men by a 3-to-1 margin.
While this guy is merely having fun dressing up as Superman, actual narcissists see themselves as truly superior and unique. Narcissists tend to be men by a 3-to-1 margin. | Source

16. "This Is How We Do It" by Katy Perry

Katy Perry captures the narcissism of what it's like to be young, rich, and carefree in this 2013 song. She pays homage to karaoke, day drinking, and spending money with reckless abandon. In defense she sings, "It's no big deal. It's no big deal."

17. "My Prerogative" by Britney Spears

This was Bobby Brown's song (1988) until Britney Spears (2009) remixed it and made it hers. She defended her right to make her own decisions and live her life life as she wanted. Sounds reasonable, right?

They say I'm crazy
I really don't care
That's my prerogative
They say I'm nasty
But I don't give a damn
Getting boys is how I live ... .

18. "If I Wanted To" by Melissa Etheridge

Melissa Etheridge's surging vocals give credence to this powerful 1993 song in which the narrator certainly seems full of herself. She narcissistically boasts that she could dance with the devil, not grow old, influence political leaders and even exercise supernatural powers. That is, if she wanted to.

19. "Warriors" by Kesha

Kesha — yes, the artist who once had a $ as a part of her name — represents a generation of self-styled warriors in this 2012 song.

But rather than warriors, they sound like a bunch of narcissists. She calls her people the "misfits," "the bad people," "the degenerates." Then she really gets nasty and tells us what they'll do to us.

Put your big girl panties on, Kesha, and play nice with the rest of us. Being a mean girl will only get you so far.

Kid Rock: He's Cocky, Alright

Kid Rock's real name is Robert "Bob" James Ritchie.
Kid Rock's real name is Robert "Bob" James Ritchie. | Source

20. "You Never Met A Motherf#@$er Quite Like Me" by Kid Rock

If someone makes this claim, you sure better believe that they reek of vanity. Then, I'd suggest you run the other way.

Kid Rock is a talented musician, having delved into genres that include hip hop, Southern rock, R&B, and country. And while I'm sure this over-the-top song (2002) is somewhat satirical, it captures the sheer essence of narcissism.

Who brags about meeting the President of the United States while half-stoned? Have some freaking respect, dude. And that black hat makes him look like a magician.

The Narcissist: Poisonous Lover, Friend, Co-worker, Relative

Narcissists can blow you a kiss with one hand and reach for a dagger with the other.
Narcissists can blow you a kiss with one hand and reach for a dagger with the other. | Source

21. "Hard to Handle" by The Black Crowes

This 1990 version of the song by The Black Crowes oozes with the dangerous overconfidence of a man who won't take "no" for an answer. He sees a woman he is instantly attracted to and boldly propositions her, even though she's already taken.

22. "I’m Every Woman" by Whitney Houston

In this song, Whitney Houston (1993) proclaims to her lover that she the epitome of womanhood. And he doesn't need to bother to make comparisons because whatever he wants, she's got it. She can cast a spell, forecast his needs, and give him all the love he needs. She is every woman, all in one.

23. "So What" by P!nk

You know what a narcissist does when life hands them lemons? They'll demand that you make them lemonade.

Self-engrossed, the narrator in this 2008 song by P!nk repeatedly reminds herself that she is a rock star, baby. Having just experienced an ugly break-up with her husband, she makes plans to go drinking, start a fight, and not pay his rent. Narcissists tend to overreact when rejected.

24. "We All Sleep Alone" by Cher

Cher warns narcissists in this 1988 hit not to make promises that cannot be kept or become captive to someone else's needs. In the end, she says, all we have is ourselves:

Nobody nowhere holds the key to your heart
When love's a possession it'll tear you apart
You may have lovers wherever you roam
But sooner or later we all sleep alone.

25. "Mirrors" by Justin Timberlake

Imagine loving someone because they remind you so much of yourself. That's what Justin Timberlake claims in this song: "'Cause it's like you're my mirror — my mirror staring back at me." He's so convincing that he'll have you wondering whether he's singing to a girl or himself.

Toxic Relationships

Narcissistic people can be very successful and are charismatic when they want to be.  However, their self-absorption poisons personal and professional relationships.
Narcissistic people can be very successful and are charismatic when they want to be. However, their self-absorption poisons personal and professional relationships. | Source

26. "Blame" by Calvin Harris

Don't blame narcissists if they cheat. In this 2014 Calvin Harris song, he suggests that his lover blame it on the night. "Can't you see it? I was manipulated by it. ... I had no choice in this," he justifies and defends.

In reality, sexual narcissists do tend to cheat more often. These are the brand of narcissists who fancy themselves very skillful lovers. They also have a lack of sexual empathy, believe they are sexually entitled and can exploit others sexually.5

So what should you do if you're the partner who has been cheated on? Just let them go.

27. "U Can’t Touch This" by MC Hammer

In 1990, hip hop artist MC Hammer became a cultural sensation with this #1 song. Hammer brags about his dancing, singing, and ability to attract the lady folk. Several narcissistic catchphrases originated from this song: "Stop! Hammertime" and "You Can't Touch This!" Using them now will definitely reveal not only your ego but also your age. Go ahead. Try it.

28. "Fastest Girl In Town" by Miranda Lambert

The girl in this country rock song by Miranda Lambert (2012) is trouble with a capital "T." She's a gun-toting, whiskey-guzzling, cigarette-smoking mama. Her tattoos should scream "narcissist" and carry a warning. She even tells her boyfriend that if they are stopped by the police for the crimes they commit together, she will charm the officer while the boyfriend takes the blame.

29. "I’m Different" by Randy Newman

In this 1983 song, Randy Newman gives a narcissistic middle-finger to those who would try to make him conform or play well with others. From his smile to his way of walking, the narrator is a one-of-a-kind, and he says it drives the ladies wild:

I ain't sayin' I'm better than you are
But maybe I am
I only know that when I look in the mirror
I like the man... .

30. "Leaving On A Jet Plane" by Peter, Paul and Mary

This 1967 song was Peter, Paul and Mary's biggest hit, but don't let the sweet folk sound fool you. As her taxi awaits, the narrator is at her sweetheart's door to bid him farewell. She's leaving for an indefinite period and wants for him to put his life on hold for her. And here's the real kicker:

There's so many times I've let you down, so many times I've played around,
I tell you now they don't mean a thing.
Every place I go I'll think of you, every song I sing I'll sing for you,
When I come back, I'll bring your wedding ring.

We don't hear his response, but I hope it was along the lines of, "Have a nice life."

31. "Hell On Heels" by Pistol Annies

Brains, beauty and a wicked streak a mile long. That's what these gals celebrate in this delightfully narcissistic country song by Pistol Annies (2011). As they recount all the men they've taken advantage of, they warn: "I'm hell on heels. Sugar daddy, I'm coming for you."

32. "Love Me Harder" by Ariana Grande featuring The Weeknd

If you've ever loved a narcissist, this 2014 song by Ariana Grande featuring The Weeknd probably feels eerily familiar. Narcissists issue incessant demands that "if you wanna keep me" and "if you really need me" then you'll love me harder. Unfortunately, they can attract highly empathic individuals as mates.

33. "I Feel Pretty" by Julie Andrews

Julie Andrews sang this song in West Side Story in 1957. It captures the essence of egotism as a young girl tells herself how pretty, witty, and charming she is because she is loved by a boy.

34. "Shameless" by Garth Brooks

In this 1991 song by Garth Brooks, a man admits to being uncompromising and overconfident. He could walk away from anyone before. Apologizing or admitting he is wrong is not in his character.

Now this woman has his him hooked and he's says his love for her is shameless. Is it a recipe for trouble? (Run, lady!)

Self-Portrait: Narcissistic Masterpiece

Ahh!  A narcissist's favorite person.
Ahh! A narcissist's favorite person. | Source

35. "I'm Sexy and I Know It" by LMFAO

The narcissist in this song by LMFAO (2011) emphasizes that he works out. He says he has passion in his pants and he's not afraid to show it ... because he's sexy and he knows it. The song was a #1 hit.

36. "I’m All About That Bass" by Meghan Trainor

The debut single by Meghan Trainor (2014) is all about self-love and self-acceptance, no matter one's size.

However, the narrator who brags, "I'm bringing booty back" takes narcissistic jabs at her thinner sisters: "Go ahead and tell them skinny b*tches that." Does she forget that just as she is naturally "larger boned," perhaps some of those girls are naturally slight framed?

When you're dealing with a narcissist, their need for control can pull your strings.  They're experts at this.  Don't let them break your spirit.
When you're dealing with a narcissist, their need for control can pull your strings. They're experts at this. Don't let them break your spirit. | Source

37. "Black Widow" by Iggy Azalea

The guy that Iggy Azalea is singing to in this song (2013) is a marked man. Iggy portrays a bunny-boiling, broken hearted woman who is bent on revenge:

You used to be thirsty for me
But now you wanna be set free
This is the web, the web that you weave
So baby now rest in peace. (It's all over with now).

38. "Ain't As Good As I Once Was" by Toby Keith

Toby Keith is an over-the-hill narcissist in this 2005 country song. He reminisces about the good old days when he was a great lover and could fight with the best of them. He gives a warning not to double dog dare him because he might have to relive old times.

39. "Diva" by Beyoncé Knowles

A female version of a hustler. That's what stiletto-wearing Beyoncé Knowles is proudly claiming to be in this narcissistic song from 2008.

40. "Don’t You Want Me" by The Human League

The narcissistic man in this 1981 song by The Human League met a cocktail waitress in a bar and helped her turn her life around. For five years, they had a relationships, and now that she's moving on, his narcissistic rage is unveiled. (How dare she leave him!)

But don't forget, it's me who put you where you are now
And I can put you back down too.
Don't -- but don't forget -- it's me who put you where you are now
And I can put you back down too
Don't, don't you want me?
You know I can't believe it when I hear that you won't see me.

What's In A Name? Locations With Names Associated With Malignant Narcissists

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A markerBlame, France -
Blâme, France
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B markerConfidence, California -
Confidence, CA, USA
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C markerEgo, Gabon -
Ego, Gabon
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D markerGrand, Oklahoma -
Grand, OK, USA
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E markerTrouble Lake, Montana -
Trouble Lake, MT, USA
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F markerPunish Wood, United Kingdom -
Punish Wood, United Kingdom
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G markerRage, France -
Rage, France
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H markerSuperior, Wisconsin -
Superior, WI, USA
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I markerTerror Trail, Colorado -
Terror Trail, CO, USA
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J markerVanity Creek, ID, USA -
Vanity Creed, Idaho
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Even More Arrogant, Narcissistic Songs

Song
Artist
Year Released
41. Billionaire
Travie McCoy featuring Bruno Mars
2010
42. I Touch Myself
diVinyls
1990
43. You're So Vain
Carly Simon
1972
44. Oh, Lord, It's Hard To Be Humble
Mac Davis
1980
45. Bow Down
Beyoncé Knowles
2013
46. I Wanna Talk About Me
Toby Keith
2001
47. Me, Myself and I
G-Eazy & Bebe Rexha
2015
48. Love Yourself
Justin Bieber
2015
49. Me Too
Meghan Trainor
2016
50. The Greatest Man That Ever Lived (Variations on a Shaker Hymn)
Weezer
2008
51. The Man
Aloe Blacc
2013
52. Life's Been Good
Joe Walsh
1978
53. Don't
Ed Sheeran
2014
54. Girlfriend
Avril Lavigne
2007
55. Don't Cha
Pussycat Dolls
2005
56. I Love Kanye
Kanye West
2016
57. Smarter Than U
The Undertones
1979
58. Unapologetic B*tch
Madonna
2015
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It's You Against The World

Do you feel on top of the world?  (This guy's not a narcissist but he takes a great selfie!)
Do you feel on top of the world? (This guy's not a narcissist but he takes a great selfie!) | Source

Notes

1"Women Anger Narcissistic Men Most." Psych Central.com. Last modified July 29, 2010. http://psychcentral.com/news/2010/07/28/women-anger-narcissistic-men-most/16157.html.
2 Engel, Meredith. "Selfie-taking Men Are More Narcissistic, Psychopathic: Study." NY Daily News. Last modified January 12, 2015. http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/selfie-taking-men-narcissistic-psychopathic-study-article-1.2075114.
3 "Facebook Profiles Out Narcissists." LiveScience.com. Last modified September 26, 2008. http://www.livescience.com/2904-facebook-profiles-narcissists.html.

4 "Narcissists More Likely to Be Leaders." Msnbc.com. Last modified October 8, 2008. http://www.nbcnews.com/id/27086365/ns/health-behavior/t/narcissists-more-likely-be-leaders/#.VLnieivF-UU.

5 Hillin, Taryn. "Sexual Narcissists May Be More Likely To Cheat, Study Finds." The Huffington Post. Last modified April 11, 2014. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/10/infidelity-study-narcissism-cheating_n_5128626.html.

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      FlourishAnyway 5 weeks ago from USA

      James Starr - Thanks for that suggestion. Adding!

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      James Starr 5 weeks ago

      Great list! Tho I am surprised not to see anything by the Queen Narcissist herself, Madonna. Maybe there are too many to list, lol! If there is one song that could sum them it all up it would probably be 'Unapologetic Bitch' from the Rebel Heart album.

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      FlourishAnyway 7 weeks ago from USA

      Martin - Thank you for the encouragement. Glad you enjoyed it that much! Have yourself a terrific weekend.

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      Martin 7 weeks ago

      Love it!

      Well made my dear.

      I think there are different types of narcissist.

      One that only thinks for themself and missuse their energy for personal gain and pleassure, but on the other hand there are the ones that think their are their own holyness that just wan't to change the world around them for the better - what I find is not bad at all.

      In every epoch of history there are some that fully commited to be unique and never be to forgotten. And some do so why not go for it.

      Think of yourself as the best - yes sometimes it is hindering you but if you smart as well you work this issues out.

      Great Songs!

      love

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      FlourishAnyway 3 months ago from USA

      a - You are awesome! I've added many of these. (Pretty much anything by Kanye West and certain other artists seems to qualify.) Thank you so much for your suggestions! Happy holidays.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 months ago from USA

      Mano! - Thank you for the compliment. Sadly, if your loved one is really a narcissist, it's probably a losing proposition to try to "fix" them yourself by making them realize they are selfish, self-aggrandizing, arrogant, and lacking in empathy. As a starting point you could have a conversation and request that they seek counseling, putting it in terms of how it will benefit them.

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      Mano! 3 months ago

      Excellent article! But I'm pretty much looking for songs to make a narcissistic in my life to understand, how SELF- @ss (suffix the entire narcissistic terms) she is...

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      FlourishAnyway 4 months ago from USA

      Nate - Aw, you think? I've always thought of that lady as a bit bipolar or trying to express the complexity of all the roles women can play rather than just the black and white, good vs. bad. Now you have me thinking.

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      Nate 4 months ago

      The song Bitch by Meredith Brooks is another perfect example of one that reminds me of Narcs.

      I'm a bitch

      I'm a lover

      I'm a child

      I'm a mother

      I'm a sinner

      I'm a saint

      I do not feel ashamed

      I've never heard some of these, and they helped me a ton in adding the inspiration for writing a fictional narcissistic character. That one by Pink is hilariously accurate in reference to Narc injury!

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      FlourishAnyway 11 months ago from USA

      Audrey - You are so right. Several come to mind as terrible behavioral examples, making irresponsible statements about the country or its leaders, advocating illegal drugs and otherwise behaving badly. Thanks for stopping by again!

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      Audrey Hunt 11 months ago from Nashville Tn.

      Here I am again to review this excellent hub. I'd like to add one more thought to my previous comment. Celebrities have a huge responsibility to their fans - at all ages. Humility is a great teacher. Some of our idols are humble. Most do not display humility (they may try to but it's often a superficial act.)

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      FlourishAnyway 11 months ago from USA

      Peggy - You wouldn't believe some of the comments I get that I decide not to approve. This playlist, like no other, has attracted all kinds of interesting comments -- from victims, bystanders, and apparently narcissists themselves. I've had some real doozies but they're looking for "air time" and I deny them the oxygen. Thank you for stopping by, good lady!

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      Peggy Woods 11 months ago from Houston, Texas

      You certainly know your songs! It is not funny being around a narcissist! I know one and she is a wrecking ball. Does not get along with her own children, neighbors and has very few friends. Everyone else is the problem in her opinion. Sad!

      You are getting some very interesting comments. It is too bad that this is the kind of music the younger generation is listening to.

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      FlourishAnyway 14 months ago from USA

      Dog Fox - How silly.

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      Dog Fox 14 months ago

      Without narcissists and Borderlines in the World there'd be no music. It's a shame more people weren't abused and neglected in their childhoods.

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      FlourishAnyway 21 months ago from USA

      Justthemessenger - Glad you enjoyed this! Thanks for reading and have a great week ahead!

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      James C Moore 21 months ago from The Great Midwest

      You have a knack for classifying songs. "Cant touch this" #27 and" All about that bass" 36 are classics.

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      FlourishAnyway 22 months ago from USA

      justmesuzanne - Thank you for your vote and comment. Have a great week!

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      justmesuzanne 22 months ago from Texas

      Interesting and thorough treatment of an annoying problem! :D Voted up and interesting!

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      FlourishAnyway 23 months ago from USA

      Besarien - Great additions! Thank you for stopping by and for leaving these suggestions! Have a great weekend.

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      Besarien 24 months ago

      This is how old I am, I'd add Carly Simon "You're So Vain" and Mac Davis' country classic-

      "Oh lord, it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way.

      I can't wait to look in the mirror, 'cause I get better looking each day.

      To know me is to love me. I must be one hell of a man.

      Oh lord, it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can."

      Great themed play list and a great subject for a hub!

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      FlourishAnyway 24 months ago from USA

      Tracy - What a great way to look at it! Lemons into lemonade! Have a great day!

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      Tracy Lynn Conway 24 months ago from Virginia, USA

      Music about narcissists is like turning lemons into lemonade. What a great idea! As someone who is all too familiar with "N" people, I can certainly relate and appreciate this.

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      Nicholas Daly 2 years ago from NSW Australia

      Haha my work here is done.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      NonCopyBook - Oh, that's a good one. I guess at least they're thinking of someone else when they self-touch, huh? Thanks for the suggestion! I'll add it.

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      Nicholas Daly 2 years ago from NSW Australia

      Laughed, and gratified to see "I Feel Pretty" in there haha.. When I read "self-love" I read it to check if "I Touch Myself" would be on the list- perhaps another list is needed for that song eh..?

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Jo - Glad you enjoyed this. It's strange that there are so, so many of these songs out there. Narcissists really make an impact. Have a great week!

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 2 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Brilliant!! Great choice of songs with incredible insight into the narcissistic personality embeded in the lyrics of the songs. Exceptional, fun to read and great music.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Sheila - It certainly is a popular topic for songs, isn't it? Thanks for stopping by, and have a great week.

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      Sheila Brown 2 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      You chose some really great songs for this hub. I am beginning to think that many song writers must be narcissists! I have know several people just like this in the past and try to avoid them if possible. They must be quite miserable people who have to brag on themselves as no one else will.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Audrey - There's research to indicate that song lyrics reflect more narcissism now than in past decades and I suspect it's both a reflection of our society and an influencer upon those who listen to the lyrics (particularly impressionable young adults). What an unfortunate reality, especially the sheer number of songs that there are! Thanks for stopping by.

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      Unfortunately the lyrics to songs like these have an impact on the younger generation - and it's not good. These young people worship their idols in every way. I'm sure the sense of entitlement that many harbor is set by the songs they listen to.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Romanian - Thanks for stopping by. Have a terrific weekend!

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      Nicu 2 years ago from Oradea, Romania

      Your list it's awesome. I will probably listen to some of these songs. I think it was very difficult to select this list.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Audrey - Good one! Have an awesome weekend!

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      Audrey Howitt 2 years ago from California

      Well this was fun! I'm too sexy for my sweats!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Devika - Thank you for reading! Narcissists are such dangerous people to love, to be related to, or to work with! Oh, heaven help those who do.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I like the way you approached this title. Interesting and should be read by many more. Music does show more about such individuals.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Susie - Glad you liked it that much! have a feat weekend.

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      Susie Lehto 2 years ago from Minnesota

      Always a pleasure to come to one of your topical play lists of songs. This is seriously entertaining and educational. I have heard several of these songs, but you introduced several I haven't.

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      ezzly 2 years ago

      Wow he sounds awful to be around ! Have a great weekend too :)

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      ezzly - I know one or two myself and the wives often completely miss it early on. I worked with someone who would yell at his own mother over the phone in his office and make up lies just not to be wrong -- ever. How dangerous. I wondered how his wife didn't see through the charade, although he was amazingly charming at a distance. Have a great weekend! Thanks for reading.

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      ezzly 2 years ago

      Wow, I absolutely love this. My hubby's best friend is a complete narcissist , posts pictures of his gym workouts etc, his facebook statuses are more like oscar acceptance speeches, and yet my hubby doesn't see it that way ! "Narcissists tend to be male and active self-promoters" great read :)

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Nell - If we were all like that we'd probably not let things get to us much. I mean, when's the last time Trump blew a gasket? He just thinks too much of himself and too little of the other guy/gal to get that upset. Glad you liked the list.

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      Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

      This so reminds me of a certain someone at work when I was down there, but the one that is totally like that now is perez hilton, he is on big brother England, and boy does he drive the others nuts! love your songs! wish I was one too, perhaps I would be rich and famous and not care about how I got there! lol!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Bill - Thanks for reading. I know exactly what you mean. They are best to be avoided. The scoundrels! Have a great weekend.

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      Bill De Giulio 2 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Flourish. Another great play list. Unfortunately I see plenty of narcissists at work. Fortunately I avoid them at all cost. Just not my type of people. Some great songs on the list.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Joyfulcrown - Thanks for the kind kudos. I'll try to not let your compliment go to my head though! :-)

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      amazmerizing - Sis sounds like she's a big, big deal. Thanks for stopping by amaze.

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      amazmerizing 2 years ago from PACIFIC NORTHWEST, USA

      Ha I have a sister who INSISTS she is a sex goddess... lol and also insists we all hear about her latest exploits... think samantha on sex in the city only triple!!! I kept thinkin Gotta wear shades (futures so bright) Great hub! ;)

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      Joyfulcrown 2 years ago

      Very well written hub. I enjoyed the list of songs. And the addition of Donald was genius.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Catherine - Let's hope that's so! Have a great week and thanks for stopping by!

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      Very nice how you intermingled songs with real-life narcissists. In the case of the singers, maybe at least some of them were just playing a character.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Frank - You're a hoot!

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      Frank Atanacio 2 years ago from Shelton

      I love how I read this.. It wasn't all about me, but I made it all about me...LOL I enjoyed the read and the songs took me back.. love cheap trick... hotd..congrats...

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Linda - I appreciate the kind kudos. Have a great week!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      ones - Thanks for the compliment.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I love the way in which you've mixed music with information about narcissism, Flourish. Thanks for creating another great playlist. Your hub is educational as well as very interesting!

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      Kayla Swanson 2 years ago from Wyoming

      I must say, I'm impressed by how many songs you must know. Great list!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      MsDora - Reading through all the verbal scuffles that he has gotten into it's amazing we take him seriously. It's interesting that a great many of them are with wonen, too. Have a lovely week!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Faith Reaper - Thank you for taking the time to read this. Men definitely outnumber the women with narcissism, although among younger populations women are making great strides. (Yay?) And that photo of Poison Ivy, wowzers indeed. She looks a bit dangerous. Enjoy your day off; well deserved!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Sha - Taylor Swift seems to capture the essence of a generation. The fact that she writes her own music is interesting indeed. I love her songs but you take a look at the lyrics and there's a whole new layer there! Thanks for always reading and commenting.

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      Jacquelyn fuller 2 years ago from Woonsocket, Rhode Island

      So true and I see this in my friend. She is a good person with a good heart but do not know or too ashamed to get the help that she need....

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      What a great compilation here you have gathered! Wow, I learned a lot here and know a few of these people. It is interesting to know that men outnumber women. I would have thought the opposite, but in thinking about it, can see it now.

      That one photo there of the blowing of the kiss, wowzers! LOL

      I hope you have a great week. I am enjoying the day off today due to the National holiday, and it is a beautiful, sunny day here.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Jacquelyn - Thank you for your comment. When these behaviors interfere with a person's daily life and relationships, they often are labeled problem behavior. Narcissists rarely self-label themselves as in need of help, however.

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      Jacquelyn fuller 2 years ago from Woonsocket, Rhode Island

      WOW....I have never looked at people in this manner, I mean I knew something was not right about them and they definitely need counseling. But what happens when a person realizes they have an issue and do not want the help to correct the problem. I know someone like this and all i ever is "it is about me" she never want to listen just talk most of the time about self gain and being proud of what she so-called accomplished in her life. Not to mention always bragging about how she got over on someone.... This is sad and everyday I pray on bended knees that God will allow her to live long enough to correct her and heal her broken heart...

      We have to be careful in our lives to what we are listening to not to absorb all the rhetoric. I have learned what look good on the outside is not good on the inside somethings or people are a deadly weapon.

      The enemy (satan) came to rob, kill, and destroy so be safe and beware the enemy comes to us as a sheep in wool clothing to set us up for failure. Pray for those who are a narcissists that they will be delivered...

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Bill - Thanks, Bill. Hmm. You listen to the radio? You're such a good guy!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      In addition to the great list of songs you give such helpful information to help us deal with narcissists. Trump by himself is a lesson. Great research and lovely presentation. Thank you.

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      Shauna L Bowling 2 years ago from Central Florida

      I love these playlists, Flourish. Funny how often Taylor Swift shows up in these posts. She's really got some issues! On last season's The Voice, she was a guest mentor. I just wanted to yank and hair and wipe the red off her lips. She really thinks she's the end-all-be-all.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Heidi - I loved their comebacks to Trump too! Beyond entertaining! Thanks for stopping by!

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      Heidi Thorne 2 years ago from Chicago Area

      I've known some narcissists in my day! A troubling disorder that goes waaaay beyond pride and confidence in oneself. Sadly, it's sometimes masked by a variety of behaviors, often making it difficult to diagnose. Love the comebacks!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Congratulations on your recent HOTD, and nice job on another great playlist. What does it say about me that I recognize most of these narcissistic songs? LOL

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      Christin Sander 2 years ago from Midwest

      clever list - some I'm too old to recognize ;). I can see how it would take some degree of narcissism just to become that famous. Sadly, a lot of these people are who others look up to as an example when they're young.

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