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104 Songs About Suicide and Suicide Prevention

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Music is a powerful communication tool. Songs from this Save A Life Playlist aim to prevent suicide and raise awareness about its lasting impact on family, friends, and others.

Music is a powerful communication tool. Songs from this Save A Life Playlist aim to prevent suicide and raise awareness about its lasting impact on family, friends, and others.

Life Does Get Better If You Can Hang On

I was 15 years old when a male friend drove his truck out to the middle of nowhere one night and didn't come back. He died by suicide, and a part of me went with him. Death by suicide runs deep in my family, across generations. I hated that it touched my friends, too.

Sadly, while the rest of his peers graduated, went off to college or the military, or found work in local factories, my friend missed out. The rest of his peers became adults and met the love(s) of their small town lives. They married, had children, and some of them divorced (in various orders, but that's okay).

They ventured to far flung locations to pursue careers that some of them would never have imagined as teenagers. He missed those adventures as well. He will always be frozen in time as a high school sophomore in the sad land of "What if?"

If you're struggling with depression or thoughts of suicide, stop and seek help now. While it may feel like you're out of options, if you can just hang on, life does get better. If you don't have someone you can talk to, reach out to one of the crisis intervention resources listed in this article.

If you've experienced the loss by suicide of someone you care for and want to raise prevention awareness, we are kindred souls. This playlist consists of pop, rock, country, metal, and R&B songs that do not glorify suicide but rather seek to prevent self-harm and remind people that suicide permanently impacts many lives.

1. "Lullaby" by Nickelback

Sung from the perspective of someone who has been there, the narrator in this 2012 rock song expresses the urgency of turning away from the ledge of suicide. He tells his friend that they are not alone and expresses faith in their decision-making, even at the last moment.

Please let me take you
Out of the darkness and into the light
'Cause I have faith in you
That you're gonna make it through another night.
Stop thinking about the easy way out
There's no need to go and blow the candle out
Because you're not done.
You're far too young
And the best is yet to come.

2. "How To Save a Life" by The Fray

This 2005 was inspired by the lead singer's work with troubled teens. The song describes an example of how to listen non-defensively and provide the necessary support to someone who feels they are all out of options.

3. "Why" by Rascal Flatts

In this touching 2009 country song, the grieving narrator struggles to make sense of a 17-year-old friend's suicide. He wonders

  • why he didn't see it coming
  • if there was something he could have done to prevent the death and
  • what could possibly explain walking away "in the middle of a song."

Suicide Facts & Statistics

Each suicide intimately affects at least 6 other people such as immediate family members, relatives, neighbors, co-workers, friends, fellow students, health care providers, etc.

More than 50% of completed suicides are by firearm. Access to a firearm is a major predictor of completed suicide.

Males comprise 79% of all completed suicides. Women have more suicidal thoughts.

On average, one person dies by suicide every 16.2 minutes.

Physicians are more more than two times as likely to die by suicide as non-physicians.

In the United States, the months of March, April, and May demonstrate consistently higher rates of suicide than other months of the year.

A suicide note is left behind in only a minority of cases (10-35%).

A family history of suicide significantly increases suicide risk, regardless of whether a person is mentally ill.

At least 90% of people who complete suicide have a diagnosable mental illness at the time of death. Undiagnosed, undertreated, or untreated depression is common, for example.

Each day, an average of 20 American veterans die by suicide. Compared with nonmilitary civilians, veterans are at a 21% higher risk of suicide. Female veterans are at special risk.

4. "Everybody Hurts" by R.E.M.

This 1992 song was written with a teenage audience in mind, although its lyrics speak directly to anyone who is suffering. It tries to impress upon those who are depressed and contemplating suicide that they are not alone. Everyone hurts. Take comfort in your friends and hang on.

Reach Out For Help: Don't Suffer In Silence

If you are considering suicide, reach out for help.  There are many crisis resources available to assist you 24/7. Call the National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433).

If you are considering suicide, reach out for help. There are many crisis resources available to assist you 24/7. Call the National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433).

5. "Goodbye (I'm Sorry)" by Jamestown Story

The narrator in this 2007 song indicates that time has run out on him, and he is ready to leave this world behind. He has experienced abuse, an untreated emotional disorder, and deep feelings of worthlessness. With regret, he is saying goodbye.

Towards the end of the song, there is a sudden cut to brief spoken facts about suicide, plus a phone number for the National Hopeline Network (1.800.784.2433). Unfortunately, a 2011 version of the song omits this important information.

6. "Boulevard of Broken Dreams" by Green Day

Sung from the perspective of a depressed and lonely person, this 2004 song is about feeling isolated by one's personal problems. The narrator walks a boulevard of broken dreams, accompanied only by his shadow.

However, he offers that "sometimes I wish someone out there will find me." People who are suicidal often signal their intent to others.

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What Is a Survivor of Suicide Loss?

People who have lost someone they care about to suicide are referred to as "survivors of suicide loss."

As the ones left behind, they are often haunted for many years by guilt, anger, and questions that can never be answered. Survivors are at risk for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Their grief is also still stigmatized.

7. "Fire and Rain" by James Taylor

This classic 1970 song is one of Rolling Stone magazine's 500 Greatest Songs of All Time. It references the death by suicide of James Taylor's childhood friend, Suzanne Schnerr, as well as his struggle with drug addiction and depression and his reflections on fame.

Taylor's lingering sense of loss is reflected in the song's famous refrain:

I've seen fire and I've seen rain.
I've seen sunny days that I thought would never end.
I've seen lonely times when I could not find a friend
But I always thought that I'd see you again.

8. "You're Only Human (Second Wind)" by Billy Joel

Billy Joel once attempted suicide, and he wrote this upbeat 1985 song for a teenage audience to remind them that it's okay to make mistakes. Between accidents, heartbreaks, and bad choices that leave you with a bad reputation — hey, life happens — you may feel like giving up, but stick it out.

The narrator promises that brighter times are ahead:

Don't forget your second wind
Sooner or later you'll feel that momentum kick in.

Feeling Like Your Path Ahead Is Closed? Seek Help Now

Help is available if you feel like you have run out of options.  Don't go it alone.

Help is available if you feel like you have run out of options. Don't go it alone.

9. "Stay Alive" by Smile Empty Soul

Alternative rock offers up this soothing 2009 song that provides reassurance to anyone feeling stuck, like they're out of options. Even if you feel misunderstood, lied to, and like nothing is going right, stay alive. Even if you feel nothing is right in your head or you're in too deep, stay alive. Better days are ahead.

10. "The Last Night" by Skillet

One friend approaches another in this 2006 Christian rock song, intending to issue a final farewell. However, the friend senses the lie and promises to be their lifeline: "I won't let you say goodbye. I'll be your reason why."

11. "One Last Breath" by Creed

At first, this 2001 song's protagonist believes he's found the unfortunate road to nowhere and is in grave danger of falling. He is down to one last breath, struggling to survive. Then he finds the road to somewhere, reflects on his mistakes, and comes to believe that there is something left for him in this world.

12. "How Do You Get That Lonely" by Blaine Larsen

This 2005 song asks the question that many people ask, in disbelief. How do you get that lonely, feel that empty, hurt that bad that death seems like the only option? The protagonist is without blame and just doesn't understand. (If one has never experienced depression, this may be very hard to comprehend.)

Printed underneath a sports story in the local newspaper was an article about an 18-year-old who died by suicide. It didn't even make the front page, but it would change the lives of his family, friends, and others forever.

13. "That Year" by Brandi Carlisle

The narrator in this song from 2009 lost a classmate to suicide. As a traumatized survivor of suicide loss, she couldn't say his name for 10 years, but is now finally coming to terms with what happened:

You were lonesome and blue eyed
And so special to us
You should have taken a long break
Instead of a long drop from a high place.

14. "Never Too Late" by Three Days Grace

A man is desperately trying to convince someone he cares about that it's never too late to decide that you want to live rather than die. He explains that the world will never be what you expected. The song was released in 2006.

15. "Jumper" by Third Eye Blind

Step away from the ledge. That's what the narrator in this 1997 song tells his suicidal friend on the bridge. He validates that there may be difficult life challenges that seem monumental. Then he encourages him to face those demons down rather than trying to escape them this way.

16. "Whiskey Lullaby" by Brad Paisley & Alison Krauss

This haunting 2003 country song illustrates that alcoholism plays a role in one-third of all completed suicides.

After a woman broke her lover's heart, he spent the rest of his life wrapped around a whiskey bottle, trying to forget. Eventually, however, they found him dead with a suicide note nearby. Guilt consumed her, and she also became an alcoholic who died in a similar manner. ONe broken relationship, two tragedies.

Most suicides occur during the beginning of the week.

Most suicides occur during the beginning of the week.

17. "Hold On" by Wilson Philips

This empowering song from 1990 provides hope and encouragement for people who feel distressed, unhappy, and stepped upon by others. It promises that change is indeed possible if you can simply make it through the short-term circumstances of today:

Don't you know things can change
Things'll go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can you hold on for one more day?

18. "By the Grace of God" by Katy Perry

In this emotional 2013 song, a protagonist experienced a heartbreak and found herself being blamed for the unraveled relationship. Feeling defeated, she lay on the bathroom floor in tears. With determination and the help of her sister, she decided to stay alive:

By the grace of God
There was no other way
I picked myself back up
I knew I had to stay
I put one foot in front of the other
And I looked in the mirror
And decided to stay
Wasn't gonna let love take me out that way.

19. "Hey Stoopid" by Alice Cooper

Yep, seriously. You wouldn't expect this 1991 song from "The Godfather of Shock Rock." The song addresses the person who might be considering ending their life by telling them in no-nonsense terms that it's a terrible idea and they're not alone.

Suicide is associated with diagnosable mental illness.  Most often this includes depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, post-traumatic stress disorder, and substance abuse.

Suicide is associated with diagnosable mental illness. Most often this includes depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, post-traumatic stress disorder, and substance abuse.

Suicide Warning Signs

Source: American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

TALK - If a person talks about:BEHAVIOR - Specific things to look out for include:MOOD - People who are considering suicide often display one or more of the following moods

Being a burden to others

Increased use of alcohol or drugs

Depression

Feeling trapped

Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online for materials or means

Loss of interest

Experiencing unbearable pain

Acting recklessly

Rage

Having no reason to live

Withdrawing from activities

Irritability

Killing themselves

Isolating from family and friends

Humiliation

Feeling hopeless

Sleeping too much or too little

Anxiety

 

Visiting or calling people to say goodbye

 

 

Giving away prized possessions

 

 

Aggression

 

20. "Save Me" by Shinedown

In this 2005 hard rock song, a substance-addicted narrator living on the streets has reached his rock bottom. Now desperate to preserve his life rather than destroy it, he pleads, "Somebody save me. Please don't erase me."

Even More Songs About Suicide and Suicide Prevention

Got a song suggestion for this playlist? Leave us a comment in the Comments Section below.

SongArtistYear Released

21. Don't Give Up

Peter Gabriel (featuring Kate Bush)

1986

22. Make It Stop (September's Children)

Rise Against

2011

23. On a Bus to St. Cloud

Trisha Yearwood

1995

24. Rise Above This

Seether

2008

25. A Day Without Me

U2

1980

26. Bad Luck

Social Distortion

1992

27. Stole

Kelly Rowland

2002

28. Haunted

Kelly Clarkson

2007

29. With a Broken Wing

Martina McBride

1997

30. Don't Let Me Get Me

Pink

2002

31. She's Falling Apart

Lisa Loeb

2002

32. Take One Breath

The Spill Canvas

2014

33. Zero

Hawk Nelson

2006

34. Shine

Vanessa Amorosi

2000

35. F*ckin' Perfect

Pink

2010

36. The Outsider

A Perfect Circle

2003

37. Joining You

Alanis Morrisette

1998

38. Stand In the Rain

Superchick

2006

39. Welcome to My Life

Simple Plan

2004

40. Wonderful Life

Hurts

2010

41. In a New York Minute

Don Henley

1990

42. Hold On

Good Charlotte

2003

43. Save You

Kelly Clarkson

2009

44. Suicide Alley

Shawn Colvin

1996

45. Sweet Old World

Lucinda Williams

1992

46. The Pass

Rush

1989

47. Don't Close Your Eyes

Kix

1988

48. Reason To Live

KISS

1987

49. Answer

Sarah McLachlan

2004

50. The Last Letter

Michael W. Smith

1985

51. The Light

Disturbed

2015

52. 1-800-273-8255

Logic (featuring Alessia Cara & Khalid)

2017

53. Move Along

The All-American Rejects

2005

54. Truce

Twenty One Pilots

2012

55. Friend, Please

Twenty One Pilots

2009

56. No Giving Up

Crossfade

2004

57. Out of Control

Oingo Boingo

1990

58. Staying Alive

Cursive

2003

59. Life Left To Go

SafetySuit

2008

60. You Are the Heart

Blood On the Dance Floor

2018

61. You’re Not Alone

Saosin

2006

62. Missing You

All Time Low

2015

63. Come Out Fighting

Pennywise

1991

64. The Great Escape

Pink

2012

65. Angel and Airwaves

Angel Haze

2013

66. One More Light

Linkin Park

2017

67. Heavy

Linkin Park

2017

68. Vincent (Starry, Starry Night)

Don McLean

1971

69. You Will Be Found

Ben Platt & the Cast of Dear Evan Hanson

2015

70. 24 Floors

The Maine

2015

71. Imperfection

Evanescence

2017

72. Easy Way Out

Low Roar

2014

73. Home

Foo Fighters

2007

74. Keep Talking

Pink Floyd

1994

75. The World I Know

Collective Soul

1995

76. Asleep

The Smiths

1986

77. Cemetery Drive

My Chemical Romance

2004

78. One More Day

Andrew Case and Laura J. Miller

2018

79. Forest for the Trees

Huey Lewis and the News

1986

80. Seasons in the Sun

Terry Jack

1973

81. I Need a Miracle

Third Day

2012

82. When It Rains

Paramore

2007

83. Lullabies

All Time Low

2005

84. Ghost

Badflower

2018

85. The Strong

Eva Under Fire

2018

86. Put the Gun Down

Andy Black

2016

87. Savior

Black Veil Brides

2011

88. Get Up

Shinedown

2018

89. Don't Try Suicide

Queen

1980

90. Gray Sky

311

2003

91. Permanent

Holding Absence

2017

92. My Tomorrow

Dead by April

2014

93. Hold On

Chord Overstreet

2017

94. Don't You Dare Forget the Sun

Get Scared

2012

95. Still Breathing

Green Day

2016

96. To Write Love on Her Arms

Helio

2011

97. Leave It All Behind

Sleeping with Sirens

2019

98. Adam's Song

Blink-182

2000

99. Before You Go

Lewis Capaldi

2019

100. Tea and Sympathy

Janis Ian

1975

101. Take It Back

Bug Hunter

2019

102. Moments

Emerson Drive

2006

103. Coming Down

Five Finger Death Punch

2011

104. A Reason to Fight

Five Finger Death Punch

2018

The Grandparents May Be at Risk, Too

Suicide in the elderly is rarely impulsive.  It may be motivated by the loss of friends and loved ones, pets and diminished autonomy and health.  White men 85 and older die by suicide at rates four times higher that of any other age group.

Suicide in the elderly is rarely impulsive. It may be motivated by the loss of friends and loved ones, pets and diminished autonomy and health. White men 85 and older die by suicide at rates four times higher that of any other age group.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Questions & Answers

Question: I feel like I'm drowning in a sea of black but dying of thirst. No matter what I do, I just can't feel happy. My mom isn't much help, and says mean and hurtful things to me. What's left for me to do?

Answer: It sounds like you could be suffering from symptoms of depression. Only a health professional who is treating you can diagnose and treat you, however. About one in five teens experiences depression before they reach adulthood, so know that you are not alone. (I was one of them a long time ago.)

It would be best if you could communicate your feelings directly to your mother, describing your feelings to her as vividly as you have to me above. Request that she take you to a counselor -- a psychologist, psychiatrist, or mental health counselor -- before the issue becomes critical. Be prepared for your mother to potentially be defensive since it sounds like she is part of the dynamics of what's going on (i.e., saying mean and hurtful things). When you ask to see the counselor make sure that you reassure Mom that you love her and aren't blaming her, you're just having a very difficult time and would like to get some help from a professional counselor before the situation gets even worse for you and those you love.

If you feel safe doing so, choose a time when Mom is relaxed and unrushed, and tell her you need to talk to her about something that is important to you. If that is not at all possible, try talking to another trusted adult relative, close family friend, teacher or school counselor, pastor, or another responsible adult. Share with them your feelings and what's going on in your home. Maybe the right person could even help you approach your mother to discuss seeing a counselor. If you're over 18, then you're legally an adult and can make your own appointment.

I'm going to give you some crisis numbers below, but I also want you to generate a list of positive things about yourself. Forget what other people say. What do YOU like about you? There are lots of good things so write them ALL down, even the small things, and keep that list going strong. When you're feeling crummy, go to the "sunshine" list. Ultimately, people can pound you with negative messages, but it's what YOU TELL YOURSELF that matters. Let's start counteracting the negative with some positive today. Depression is treatable, but you must seek someone qualified to treat it soon. There's no need for you to suffer in silence like you've been doing.

In the event of a crisis, contact 911 or one of the following resources:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Question: I believed the relationship with the love of my life would last forever. I forgot, however, that people change. She was my drug when I was depressed, but now that she is gone I can't breathe. I have nothing besides her. What should I do?

Answer: I'm concerned that you refer to your ex as your drug. No healthy person wants to be depersonalized as you describe. What were you bringing to the table in the relationship if she was your "drug?"

People are not drugs to be exploited for one's self-medication, particularly in excess and to the extent that it is toxic for both parties. They instead have feelings, thoughts, and free will to consent to love relationships. Relationships require give and take. They should not be used as substitutes for seeking professional help for mental illness and doing the hard but worthwhile work that is involved in therapy. I suspect you may have been using her as a substitute for seeking professional help for your depression. That's not fair to her, nor is it good for you.

Since she has left you, I recommend that you let your ex and her memory go and learn from the situation. Work on addressing your depression and any other issues you are struggling with by seeking help from a professional counselor or therapist. There is absolutely no shame in that. Before you attempt to be in a love relationship, you need first to be healthy yourself. Go forward and seek to be as healthy as you dare!

Question: I'm broken and scared. I feel like someone is crushing me under a mountain of pain. I tell my friends and parents I'm fine, but I'm not. My friend saw my cutting scars. She laughed and asked how I drew such realistic ones. My sister previously threatened to kill herself, and my mom overreacted. I'm scared of what people will do and say if they know I am hurting. How can I get better without asking for help?

Answer: You don't want to feel like this, but you're worried about others' reactions, particularly your mom's. While that is understandable, your safety MUST come first. Family and friends help one another through times like this, but how are they going to do so if they don't know? I'm sorry that insensitive peer -- I'm reluctant to call them a friend -- laughed at your scars. You need to be honest with those around you so that you can get the support you need ASAP.

It's likely that you are experiencing depression and thus need medical attention. Depression is a manageable, treatable condition, and you don't have to suffer as you currently are. It's quite possible that you have a biochemical imbalance. This condition is no more shameful than a broken leg. You wouldn't hesitate to ask for help then, would you? I'll offer a couple of ideas and also provide crisis resources. You must, however, get professional help and build a support system of people who know your truth.

Talk to your mom:

1) Consider enlisting the support of someone you trust who can help you talk to your mom. Perhaps this is your sister who has experienced feelings of suicide, an adult relative, school counselor, coach, teacher, etc.

2) If you are having difficulty getting the words out, write them in a brief letter to your mother so you control the message and she can reread it, if necessary. Tell her why you waited, what you need from her, and how you're feeling. It's better if you sit with her while she reads it, but if you cannot do this, just get the information out.

3) Tell your mother you need counseling and it's essential. This is a conversation opener.

For more urgent help (i.e., if you fear you may harm yourself before you can talk to your family doctor), I summarize below the resources from the article:

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

We need you here with us. Please get the help you need by contacting one of these resources.

Question: I'm losing myself. It's like I'm about to fall into a very dark cave and the people that are holding me are slowly letting go. I just want to hide from the world, and go "home." I need help, but I'm not sure if I can say that out loud. So I'm asking it this way: How can I stay?

Answer: My sweet friend, you've done the right thing in acknowledging to yourself that you feel like you are sinking. The world wants you to stay here among us. Just because you are unhappy now doesn't mean it'll always be this way.

Please don't feel disappointed in your social support system or yourself. It's likely that one or more of the following are true:

1) While those around you who love and care for you want desperately to make it all better, they don't have the right skills, experience, or insights to do so. Thus, the deeper you fall, the more confused they feel about how to help.

2) They may not understand that the gravity of your issues includes suicide unless you have been absolutely explicit with them about it -- and even then denial may be at play.

3) You may very well have a biochemical imbalance such as clinical depression that could be remedied with medicine if you saw a professional.

If you are in crisis now, immediately contact 911, one of the crisis lines mentioned in this article, or one in your community. We need you here, and we need you feeling well.

If you are not at immediate risk of self-harm, then contact a clinical or counseling psychologist, psychiatrist, or another qualified mental health professional for an appointment. Do this today. You could start with the names your insurance plan permits. You can also ask your family, friends, and family doctor for recommendations. If your income is limited, there are many that provide services on a "sliding fee schedule." A social support system is crucial, but I cannot emphasize enough that you need to get to a professional who can help you.

As far as general strategies for hanging on, here's what I can offer:

1) make a gratitude list of all the things for which you are thankful for, no matter how big or small. Perhaps write a paragraph about each: your friend who does the awkward celebrity impressions, your dog and his sloppy wet kisses, the way your mom sings off key to 5 Seconds of Summer and thinks she's nailing it, being an American, the smell of fresh cut grass, Chick-Fil-A -- whatever is important to you.

This list is more than a distraction. It's an evolving list of the reasons why despite all the shitty things that go on in this world, it's worth having you tough it out and stay here for the long haul.

2) If you find yourself in a bind, feeling like you might harm yourself, STOP. Do what you need to do to delay acting on the deadly impulse. Tell yourself you're going to discuss your decision with three people first to see what they think. (That's what you'd do with any other major life decision, right? You'd talk to people -- probably several of them.) Then, call 911, a crisis line, or your therapist for help. Or decide to wait a day or a week, then another. Postpone it until the feeling passes. This is not a substitute for getting urgent help but rather a way to keep you here until you can get access to the resources you desperately need.

3) Keep trying to share your feelings with your social support system, and let them know the severity of your dark feelings. If you cannot say the words out loud, the write them down. Ask for their help, and be specific. You need them, just as they need you.

4) Build yourself a safety net by removing firearms from your home and avoiding alcohol and drugs which could impair rational thinking.

I reiterate that the world needs you here and feeling well. Please stay here with us.

Question: The walk happens today on my birthday. I have no doubts, but I am afraid. No one understands me. I have tried to make them understand what I'm going through. How do people cope?

Answer: I can only assume that you are referring to participating in the Out of the Darkness Suicide Prevention Walk which raises money and awareness for suicide prevention. People who participate in this event understand deeply the devastation that death by suicide can bring to family members, friends, coworkers, acquaintances, and others who are left behind when their loved one dies by suicide. (I can attest that losing someone this way is deeply traumatic and forever life-changing.) Talk to some of them about why they are participating in the walk and the loved ones they lost to suicide.

Although you've made attempts to share your feelings of distress, perhaps you haven't connected with the right people in the right way. (I'm not blaming you.) For example, you may have thought you were being clear but were perceived as joking or referring to people in general, or you were being too vague to be understood. (Suicide, by the way, is never a joke.) Or perhaps you were perfectly clear, but the people you turned to lacked the required skills to effectively listen and responsibly act.

I strongly urge you not to give up on yourself. Keep trying. You're worth it. Here are some tips for coping.

1) Contact a crisis line or 911 if you are in immediate danger of self-harm. Several excellent options are listed in the article. Keep the numbers with you in your wallet just in case you need them in the future. You never know.

2) You're absolutely not alone in feeling that no one understands you. We ALL feel lonely, sad, rejected, or like giving up from time to time. However, if you're feeling like this on a regular basis rather than short-term, you may have clinical depression or another treatable mental illness. There is no more shame in this than having a physical illness, so do not let that stop you from seeking potentially life-saving treatment. I recommend that you seek out a mental health practitioner such as a clinical or counseling psychologist, psychiatrist, or mental health counselor. If you don't know where to start, try your family doctor and be super plain about your needs: "I have been feeling very depressed for the past x months, and I need a referral (or the name and number of) a qualified clinical or counseling psychologist. Will you recommend one?"

3) Exercise releases endorphins (the body's natural narcotics) that will help boost your mood as well as help you keep fit. Depending on the location and type of exercise, you may also meet new friends this way.

4) Make sure you are also eating right and getting enough sleep. Stuffing your body with junk food and depriving it of rest will cloud your thinking and limit your coping resources. Now is also NOT the time to turn to alcohol or other substances for relief. You need a clear mind and health body.

5) Remove your access to firearms. PLEASE! Note that suicide is often not a well-planned act but instead reactionary. By thinking ahead and removing access to this extremely lethal means of self-harm, you're potentially saving your life.

6) Look into ways that you can help others either informally or formally, through volunteering. Turning your attention outward rather than inward can help you feel good about your contributions to others' well being and make you feel needed.

6) Humor can really help when you're depressed -- funny movies on Netflix, YouTube videos, going to a comedy club, for example. Like exercise, laughing releases endorphins that can boost your mood.

7) Try to expand and deepen your social support network. Spend more time with people who validate you as a person. Broaden your friendship circle to include other positive influences -- people who are easy to talk to, people who make you laugh, etc.

8) Express yourself through a journal or creatively. Being able to get your feelings out into written word may help you process them.

I hope these ideas help you.

Question: You said you had both a friend and family members who have died by suicide. How have their deaths affected you, if you don’t mind sharing?

Answer: To say that a loved one's suicide leaves you with profound, lingering loss is an understatement. The devastation can last decades or even a lifetime and is a unique type of loss in that your loved one chose to leave you and everyone else in their life, most often without saying goodbye. There's no "rewind" on a loved one's suicide; it has irrevocably changed who I am. Tears can unexpectedly crop up from a song or a memory even all these years later. For relatives, it also impacts future generations who never knew the relative who died by suicide.

I felt

1) denial (especially in the beginning)

2) for years felt a lot of anger and resentment towards my loved one who died and people who I blamed for causing them to be so troubled

3) regret and wondering if I could have changed their decision (a coulda-woulda-shoulda phenemenon), and

4) now, I mostly feel just sadness at all the good things they're missing.

There's also some level of fear that it may strike again to someone I know or love which it has. When that happens, it's like a wound has been ripped back open.

People don't know how to talk about suicide, so those grieving a loved one's suicide often suffer social stigma. There's a lot of shame associated with it. Thankfully, this has diminished somewhat over the last few years. I still find it most distressing knowing that a loved one was in that much psychological pain that they saw death as the best option.

I have come to empathize fully with the sad choice that multiple loved ones have made. I hope that anyone reading this who is considering suicide will STOP and call 911 or one of the crisis support lines listed in the article. We need you here in this world. Life is worth living.

Question: I want to die. I want to kill myself and I would have no problem except for my parents. They care and they love me and I can't leave them because I know it would break them. If something were to take them away, then I would be gone in an instant. I feel trapped because of this. I want to be free, but I can't without causing them harm. I don't know how to overcome this. Will it get better?

Answer: As a parent, I can tell you if you were to die by suicide, it WILL BREAK THEM. Don't do this. It is very possible that you are suffering from depression due to a biochemical imbalance. Depression is a treatable illness, and you MUST share your feelings with them immediately. How you overcome this is to confront the issue head on.

Sit them down and say, "I need your help with something important, and if I don't get the help I need, I fear I won't be here next week." Make sure they know that you've had persistent thoughts of killing yourself. Then ask to see a psychologist, mental health counselor, or psychiatrist immediately.

I also want to give you crisis contact information as follows.

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevent... which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

I'm counting on you to do the right thing here, particularly since you love your parents so much. If my daughter were to reach out to someone this is precisely what I'd want them to tell her. Know that the world needs you in it, my young friend.

Question: I'm eighteen, and I lost my best friend to suicide when I was eleven. My life has been really hard since then. I live with my abusive mother because I have nowhere else to go. I'm failing school because it's hard to wake up in the morning and because I can't listen in class. I go to sleep every night with a bottle of painkillers in my hand. I'm scared that one day my fear of death won't be enough to keep me alive. Am I a lost cause knowing I have already tried killing myself fifteen times?

Answer: No, you are absolutely not a lost cause at eighteen. You wouldn't be a lost cause no matter what your age. You are not a throwaway person, and your life is worth living. You just haven't fully realized that yet. We can all learn from the past and make changes and different choices, but we need the right resources, support, and information. I'm truly sorry that you have faced family abuse and personal loss in your young life. Some of us have been dealt much rougher circumstances in life than others and have so much more to deal with.

Those painkillers that you're sleeping with are not helping you, and I sense that you get that. If you are dependent on those painkillers, regardless of whether they were prescribed for you, it's important that you seek treatment NOW. Start with your family doctor or local health department. I'd hope that given your prior mental health history you already have a mental health counselor (therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist), but if not, inquire about obtaining these services. Your family doctor or health department can help connect you to a resource; tell them everything you've told me and fill in any additional details.

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments, veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: http://beta.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevent... which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

Don't become another statistic. Regardless of whether you're failing school, you have a future ahead of you, and you can make it what you want it to be. There's always an alternative to suicide. Your life is worth living.

All the best,

FlourishAnyway

Question: My cousin died by suicide, and it has been difficult for me. What should I do?

Answer: I'm so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, I do understand. I've encountered multiple losses by suicide both in my extended family and also lost a high school friend to suicide almost 35 years ago. Sometimes small things seem to tear off the emotional scab. Although everybody grieves differently, here are things that helped me:

1) talking to friends who simply listened nonjudgmentally as I tried to process my loss and recalled old memories

2) having a positive memento of the deceased person to keep, as this reminded me of the good times

3) writing my thoughts and feelings in a journal and expressing myself through creative writing; if art, song, or another form of self-expression is your thing, then consider that instead

4) exercise (the body produces a natural feel-good drug called endorphins when you exercise)

5) connecting with other people who cared about the deceased and knew how I felt

6) attempting to gather enough reliable information in a respectful way so that I could try to resolve for myself the question of "WHY?"

7) finding a personal way to honor or memorialize the deceased; it could be as simple as a rose on their grave or as elaborate as a charity gift in their name

8) staying busy in my life (academics, social life, etc.)

9) getting psychological counseling from a qualified professional therapist so that I wouldn't repeat the pattern

Again, I'm really sorry for your loss. Depending on where you live, there may be a support group for survivors of suicide loss. You may also look online.

I recommend that you consult the resource packet that has been written by Survivors of Suicide Loss, a charitable organization: https://www.soslsd.org/resources/. They have one aimed at parents, one at teens, and one at children so that you can choose the appropriate one for yourself.

Another good resource is this Handbook for Survivors from the American Association of Suicidology: https://www.soslsd.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/... This can help you understand more about the devastating loss you have experienced.

Wishing you all the best as you move forward, my friend. - FlourishAnyway

Question: I have friends who are suicidal, and they talk about suicide with my best friend. She started to become suicidal as well. When I go to her house she lists all sorts of dumb reasons like I'm not skinny, etc. With all my friends talking about suicide, I feel like it's the best thing for me to do. I have real problems and lies biting down on me, and I just want it to all go away. What should I do, for me and for my friend?

Answer: Your friendships are encouraging unhealthy thoughts and behaviors, and they could be deadly. I sense you realize that. Tell a school counselor, parent, teacher, coach, pastor/preacher, or another adult you trust about your own suicidal thoughts or intentions and those of your friends. If they don't do the right thing, then tell another adult until someone intervenes. Several of you need mental health assistance.

Not being skinny enough is NOT a reason to kill oneself, sweet girl. These are negative, dangerous thoughts. You need support and help, not prodding to do it. (Big sigh.) I would prefer that you share this information directly with your parents so that they can get you the help you need, but if for some reason that is not possible, just tell someone. Below I list crisis intervention resources. Do the right thing for yourself first, your friend second and get help.

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Please do the right thing for yourself. We need you here, and we need you well.

Question: What should I do? I’ve made a lot of mistakes and hurt people I care about. I lost the love of my life because I couldn’t be honest. Sometimes I feel like the people in my life would be better off if I wasn’t around. This is not the first time I’ve thought about this. The pain sometimes feels unbearable. I don’t know what to do anymore.

Answer: You don't include any information about what mistakes you've made or how you've hurt those you've loved. However, please know that we have ALL made serious mistakes, had lapses in judgment, hurt those we loved deeply, lied, betrayed, and broken trust of those we cared about. Yep, if you think you're the only one, then you're kidding yourself. We are all human and fall short of our own expectations and others' expectations of us.

That, however, doesn't mean that we can't help each strive to change and be better people. Others might be deeply disappointed in you. You are obviously deeply disappointed in yourself and have suffered consequences as a result of your behavior. Don't take your life over this, friend. Please. Resolve to learn from your experience and move on.

I recommend that you talk this out with a professional counselor (e.g., therapist, psychologist) so that you can address the emotional issues of shame, your thoughts of suicide, your inability to be honest in relationships, and whatever else is going on. Resolve to be a healthier you in the future who makes better choices. You can do this.

In the meantime, if you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Don't write yourself off as a bad person unworthy of love and life. You're too important and needed here on this earth.

Question: I am depressed and am having thoughts of suicide. I cut myself to keep going even though I know that’s bad. I have all A’s and am a good student, but my friends are suicidal, and I am greatly influenced by them. I have many friends but I live behind a mask during school and in my soccer games. My stepdad is mean, and I rarely see my regular dad. I haven’t told ANYONE that I cut, and I cannot call anyone because I don’t want my parents to know. What should I do to deal with my self-harm?

Answer: Depression is often an easily treatable condition, but you must bring it to your parents’ attention regardless of how uncomfortable this makes you feel. Your health, happiness, and perhaps your very life URGENTLY depend on you doing this for yourself.

Imagine it this way: If you were drowning right now and your parents, a school counselor, soccer coach, teacher, or other responsible adult were safely on shore holding a life preserver, you’d instinctively call out to them to throw it to you. Do that NOW by sharing exactly how you are feeling and the fact that you have started to cut yourself. (It will become obvious eventually anyway, but you cannot afford to wait.) Do not hold any information back. Write a note to your mother and sit there as she reads it if you cannot make the words come out. Don’t keep your parents in the dark. They NEED to know this.

If you are surrounded by a group of friends who also express suicidal intentions, this is not a good peer group for you. You’re reinforcing each other in a very negative way with your ideas of dying and your poor coping skills. You need friends who better support each other in living on a day-to-day basis. You’re probably participating in this to fit in by sharing suicide jokes, details about how depressed you feel, etc. Hopefully, you’ll see a therapist and can work on more positive coping skills.

Although you said you cannot call anyone for help, I need to give you the following information in case you get are in a bind before you can talk to your parents. There are phone, text, and chat options. For you, I recommend chat since apparently you were able to submit me a question without a problem. Another alternative is perhaps you can borrow a friend’s phone or go to a pay phone (note that 1-800 calls are free). Also, know that at least on an iPhone you can delete a previous text or phone call. Remember, my smart young friend, that there are ALWAYS multiple options in life!

Here’s the crisis resource information:

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: http://beta.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevent... which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Please talk with your parents and ask for the help you need. Parents may be challenging to relate to, but give them a chance to support you when you need it the most.

Question: I am a 32-year-old lifelong sufferer of a major depressive disorder. I have tried every form of treatment available from psychotherapy, to every type of medication, to electroshock therapy. I have experienced no relief whatsoever. I have attempted suicide a few times, and I just won't die. What should I do?

Answer: I have an aunt who suffers from the same level of depression. Continue to work closely with your psychiatrist, clinical psychologist, and the rest of your care team, giving them timely feedback about what medications are working (or not) and how you can tell they’re not working. Ask your psychiatrist about TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation), a therapy for treatment-resistant major depressive disorder. Most importantly, don’t give up on yourself.

Continue to attend group and individual therapy sessions to discuss your feelings, build social and coping skills, and maintain social contact. Ask your psychologist about helping you to develop a plan to strengthen and broaden your social support network, your contact with other people. It’s important to get up, get bathed and dressed, and have someplace to go every day where people are counting on you to be there -- whether that’s somewhere you volunteer, work, exercise, or engage in a hobby or sponsored group activity. It’s important to be needed and to stay active and involved. Do this for yourself.

I wish there were a magic fix, but the truth is that your solution will require hard work, cooperation with your care providers, and patience. The results, however, will be worthwhile once that dark cloud lifts.

Question: I am 18 years old and was involved in a severe event in which I made a mistake. Now people all over my country are laughing at me. I get bullied online, and now, some man is posting nude pictures of me online on Snapchat, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, and Viber. What should I do?

Answer: If you are being bullied on one of those social media platforms, contact each platform directly with the specific information regarding the nature of the bullying (who is doing it, what it involves, how long it's been going on, etc.) and ask them to intercede. You may also want to block bullying social media users if possible or delete your social media accounts altogether.

You said you made a mistake. What person hasn't made a mistake, even a huge one? Unfortunately, you are being shamed for yours in a very public way. Remember, however, the words of Eleanor Roosevelt -- that no one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

Question: Why should I NOT kill myself?

Answer: I'm concerned about where your thoughts are right now. If you are in crisis, I urge you to contact 911 immediately or one of the resources below:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Question: I am 22 years old and have been through several episodes of deep depression. I used to cut myself when I was fifteen or sixteen. Lately, the suicidal thoughts have resurfaced. I attempted to suicide last year after my grandpa's passing. What kind of help do I need? I don't want to die, but this is killing me inside. What should I do?

Answer: You’re doing the right thing to express concern for yourself and your health. None of us would think twice about seeking assistance if we suspected a broken bone, and mental health issues should be no different. Rather than continuing to suffer from untreated depression and thoughts of suicide, you are doing the right thing in wanting to seek help.

Let me first provide you crisis information before I address seeking non-emergency mental health assistance. If you believe you are in crisis (meaning you pose an imminent danger to yourself), immediately call 911 (emergency services) for life-saving assistance. If for some reason you cannot do that, have someone else do it for you.

Other resources include the crisis numbers listed below. If you’re someone who tends to feel depressed, please be proactive by keeping these numbers with you in case you find yourself in a very dark place emotionally in the future and need to reach out to a trained volunteer counselor 24/7 to talk, text, or chat about your feelings. It could save your life.

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

If you’re not currently in crisis and interested about a longer-term solution, you can start by asking your family doctor for their recommendations on a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist. (Other options include a counseling psychologist, licensed clinical social worker, psychiatric health nurse, or a mental health counselor.

However, these might not meet your needs because of one or more reasons: 1) they tend to concentrate on specific problems rather than therapy, 2) work under the direction of a psychologist or psychiatrist, or 3) focus less on serious mental health issues than everyday problems and decisions such as family and marital conflict or stress management.)

Let your family doctor guide you. With the severity of the depression that you describe, you very well may have a biochemical imbalance but may also need talk therapy to address the issues that contributed to your prior cutting, previous suicide attempt, grief following your grandfather’s death, and ongoing depression.

A psychiatrist is a licensed physician who views mental/behavioral health through the lens of medicine. Some conditions, such as ADHD, depression, or anxiety can be managed very well with the introduction of an appropriate medicine. Psychiatrists can prescribe such medicine whereas in most states a licensed psychologist cannot. (New Mexico, Iowa, Illinois, Iowa, the military, and several other locations provide do provide prescription rights to clinical psychologists who have met certain qualifications). One may be surprised, however, that there often isn’t a lot of “talk” time with a psychiatrist. A clinical psychologist specializes in talk therapy and mental/behavioral health. They can help you with behaviors and thoughts that aren’t healthy, allowing you to learn new coping skills and perspectives that are more adaptive. Often, the two specialties work in tandem in the best interests of their clients.

Bottom line is: start with your family doctor. I’m glad you are being proactive. Take care of yourself, and know that you’re not alone. Many people have been through deep depression and come out on the other side.

Don’t keep this to yourself either. Share it with confidantes–friends, and family–so that you have a social network that is informed of where you are emotionally in your life. They can’t be your safety net if you haven’t shared how you are feeling.

Question: I'm a teenager and life is hard. It's like the world around me loses more and more color as I go. I find it hard to keep myself happy. It feels like the world wants to put me through heaps of pain in many ways. The mental and physical stress are unbearable. I have attempted suicide, and next time I might not be so lucky. What should I do?

Answer: Based on the limited information you've revealed, it's very possible that you could be experiencing clinical depression or another treatable condition that needs the attention of a qualified therapist and/or doctor. Depression is both common and treatable, but you must seek help now. It may be that you have a biochemical imbalance in the brain. There is no more shame to this than having asthma or a broken leg, so don't let that prevent you from asking for the help you need. Your life is at stake, do you understand?

It is important that you seek this professional help by alerting your parent(s) about your current psychological state. If you need to, enlist the support of an adult relative who cares or another trusted adult like a teacher, coach, school counselor, family physician, a friend of the family, etc. Be candid, using blunt language when describing the problem, so they know exactly what you're saying. Tell them you are suicidal and need to see a psychologist for counseling and evaluation. They'll help you involve your parent(s) as appropriate.

I'm going to reiterate the suicide prevention resources that were mentioned in the article. If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/... which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

Again, I am concerned about you. We need you HERE with us. The world is a better place with you in it. Please take the steps necessary to save yourself. You're worth it.

Question: No one in my family has died by suicide, although both my nana and I have tried. I also cut to reduce the pain – the pain of sexual assault, having gone into mental hospitals, my grandfather's death, etc. Although I have a great support system, they can't help. I feel worthless, empty, sad, and depressed, even though I'm on meds. My depression persists. May I have some advice?

Answer: Take advantage of the solid support system you have. Let your parents and medical team know immediately exactly what you have expressed here: that you are cutting yourself and that you still feel deeply depressed and in danger of taking your life. Your safety depends upon your speaking up and being candid about this.

The first step in healing is to work with your medical team to find a mix of medications that works for you. You will also need to work with a therapist regarding your psychological issues, including the sexual assault, grief over your grandfather’s death, and self-concept. This will be a process and you need to be patient with yourself. Start now by having that conversation. This world needs you HERE with us.

Following are the crisis resources covered in the article:

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Question: Recently, my friend moved away, and she went to therapy. They gave her medication for her depression. She took it for a while then stopped. After a while, she started planning out her suicide. Now she's dead. How do I deal with this? It still breaks me down just hearing the mention of her name.

Answer: Your friend’s death was no more your fault, sweet friend, than if she had had a tragic car accident and hadn’t been wearing her seatbelt. You couldn’t require her to take her medicines, especially long-distance. Her doctors and parents couldn’t do that either, unfortunately. It’s natural, however, to blame oneself and ruminate over the coulda-woulda-shouldas. Please don't beat yourself up.

I'm truly sorry for your loss and sorry that you have become a member of the club no one wants to join. I am also a survivor of suicide loss. The pain can be deep and searing for years afterward. It can seem bottomless at times. That's why you need to seek counseling from a qualified psychologist or mental health counselor. This is not something that I recommend that you try to work through on your own. Having been in your position, I understand that there's way too much anger, regret, guilt, sadness, pain, and blaming to know what to do with it all. Your counselor will help you to understand that truly you were NOT TO BLAME.

Every suicide produces an average of six survivors of suicide loss, such as immediate family and other relatives, co-workers, friends, and others who cared for the departed person. And that's a conservative estimate. After they lose their loved one to suicide, they must suffer what feels like unbearable grief, as well as the unfair stigma of how their loved one died. There is often shame, guilt that you could have somehow prevented their death, and a preoccupation with unanswered (and often unknowable) questions about why this happened.

As a result, grieving a death by suicide can be much more intense and lengthier than other losses, and survivors like you and I can face depression and post-traumatic stress. Survivors are also at higher risk for considering suicide themselves. You must protect yourself and ensure that you don’t repeat your friend’s tragedy.

In addition to counseling, I recommend that you read the following FREE resource packet written by Survivors of Suicide Loss, a charitable organization: https://www.soslsd.org/resources/. They have one written specifically for teens plus other versions for adults and children. Another good resource is this FREE Handbook for Survivors from the American Association of Suicidology: https://www.soslsd.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/...

It can help you understand more about the devastating loss you have experienced. Please be sure to access this FREE terrific resource as well: http://beta.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevent... It describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments, veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

My concern is that if you can’t hold it together right now at the sound of your dear friend’s name, then her death is either quite recent or you may be in need of help yourself. Please promise that you’ll love yourself enough to access the recommended resources, as necessary.

There was once a time after my friend’s suicide when I didn’t think I would ever be happy again. I was wrong, of course. You will be happy again, too, I assure you. With love, FlourishAnyway

Question: I've been down for a long time. It seems like my life will never change. I don't want for it to be this way anymore. How can I solve that?

Answer: You may well be experiencing depression, a serious but very treatable mood disorder that can be linked to a family history of depression, medications you may be taking, and/or trauma, stress, and life changes you have experienced.

The fact that your symptoms have lasted so long, they have interfered in your enjoyment of life, and you don't want to feel this way means you need to seek help, preferably from a licensed clinical psychologist who can work with you on the underlying issues and, as appropriate, partner with a psychiatrist (who is a medical doctor) to dispense required prescriptions. Additionally, you may choose a social worker, psychiatrist, or licensed mental health counselor. As far as where to start in selecting a therapist, the best option is to ask for a recommendation or referral from your family doctor or another trusted healthcare provider.

In addition, exercise releases the body's own "feel good drugs" called endorphins. Whether you want to or not, try to commit yourself to walking or another form of exercise. Better yet, make an appointment with your family doctor and tell him or her about your exercise plans so s/he can work with you on that. Share how depressed you're feeling and be totally honest. Your doctor may want to run some tests, and it's the perfect conversation segue for getting the name of a good therapist.

Question: I used to be suicidal, then I got help and felt a little better. However, I am being bullied at school and have lost many friends. There has also been an incident at school in which I was suspended because I was blamed for something I did not do. I get yelled at by my dad for becoming overly hyper. I think about suicide and don’t know what to do. I just feel like I’m going crazy. I just want help. Do you have any advice?

Answer: Take some calming breaths and don't act on those negative thoughts of self-harm. You have a lot going on in your life and need to be kind to yourself. Your behavioral issues may be the result of some aggravated or undiagnosed mental health concerns. And the bullying? Both kids and adults can be utter jerks sometimes. I'm sorry the bullying has happened to you. Report your bullying to school administrators or talk to a school counselor in case you are blamed for other things you didn't do and get in trouble. Then go about your life and ignore the bullying as best you can. Don't give the bullies the perverse pleasure of knowing they're getting under your skin. (It may get worse before it gets better, but when they see they can't upset you, they will give up trying. Try to act bored by their taunts and games.)

Since you previously had professional help with feeling suicidal, it would be best if you could revisit that doctor or therapist ASAP. Talk to your parents when things are going well between at home rather than when there is a conflict between you. Ask them if they have a moment to listen to something that is troubling you. You can simply say, "Remember when I had trouble with thoughts of suicide and saw Dr. Jones?" (Wait for response.) "I need to see him/her again before something bad happens. Can you help me?" That should get you started in the conversation.

I'm also going to give you the following crisis response information in case you get in a bad place and need to talk to someone urgently.

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Be good to yourself and have that discussion with your parents so you can get an appointment soon!

Question: I'm 18, and I got kicked out of my home 3 days ago because I'm transgender. My parents were hitting me and telling me things like "you're worthless" and "you're fat" even though they know that I have a serious eating disorder. I don't know what to do. I already tried killing myself 7 times but somehow I survived. Now, I'm ready to try again. Please, I need advice cause I don't know if I'll be alive next week. I use drugs to forget, but it's not enough anymore. What should I do?

Answer: It may seem like the end of the world to be abused and rejected by your parents, but suicide is NOT the answer. Don't do this to yourself. You have a number of apparent issues going on in your young life, including 1) the immediate mental health crisis of feeling suicidal; 2) drug abuse; 3) the abuse and lack of support you've received from your parents (and probably from others, too); 4) being transgender and the need to build a positive support system; 5) the eating disorder; 6) supporting yourself financially.

There is an organization called The Trevor Project that hosts a 24/7 crisis line as well as an online chat and texting service. It is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning (LGBTQ) young people under 25. Here's their website: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/. Reach the Trevor Project Lifeline at: 1-866-488-7386.

I'm ALSO going to provide you with the following additional resources:

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Choose whatever resources you'd like. Just make the call, text, or chat connection. Your life is worth the effort.

Question: I'm twenty-eight and I'm feeling empty. Can I die now?

Answer: It's likely that you are experiencing depression and thus need medical attention. Talk candidly to your family doctor or other health care provider ASAP about referring you immediately to a psychologist, psychiatrist, or another mental health professional in your area. Do not wait. Depression is a manageable, treatable condition, and you don't have to suffer as you currently are. It's quite possible that you have a biochemical imbalance.

For more urgent help (i.e., if you fear you may harm yourself before you can talk to your family doctor), I summarize below the resources from the article:

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional, special hotline numbers for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments and veterans in crisis, and people facing distress related to natural disasters: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/talk-to-some...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

Finally, please be sure to access this terrific resource: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ which describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Question: I am a 49-year-old man in constant physical pain due to a chronic illness. The pain doesn't get better. Any advice?

Answer: Although you don't indicate what chronic illness you have, I can identify with having a chronic illness that is lifelong, physically debilitating, unpredictable, and painful, as I've lived with multiple sclerosis for 15 years and migraines as well. I'm sorry that you experience such frequent pain that it is interfering with your life and your happiness.

I'm going to recommend three things. First, contact a pain management specialist as soon as possible by working through your doctor, if possible. I found an excellent one through my physician specialist (i.e., my neurologist). You might have a rheumatologist, gastroenterologist, or another type of physician specialist instead that you see for your chronic illness. Regardless, be brutally honest with your doctor about how desperate your pain is making you feel. Make sure he or she knows that on a scale of 1-10 how you'd rate your pain and what your pain keeps you from doing on a daily basis (e.g., getting out of bed, climbing stairs, driving, picking up anything over 5 pounds).

If thoughts of suicide cross your mind because of the chronic pain, then let your doctor know because this is straight talk about how bad the pain is for you. Doctors have an ethical responsibility to help control your pain, and if they cannot do it themselves they need to connect you with a pain management clinic or another healthcare provider who can help you manage your pain. This doesn't necessarily mean more prescriptions although it can. Pain management clinics often include a variety of health professionals, including psychologists, doctors, nurses, nutritionists, dieticians; and occupational, vocational and physical therapists.

Secondly, take care of your mental health while you are exploring solutions to your pain management. It's not uncommon for people with chronic illnesses to experience depression. Therefore, if you suspect you may be depressed, say something to your physician about that, too, so you can get a referral to a good psychologist if the pain management clinic doesn't have a psychologist on staff. Talk about your feelings with your relatives, partner, and friends who will listen.

If you find yourself in a crisis situation and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Carry the above information in your wallet or keep it in several convenient locations in case you get in a bad situation and need to talk to someone in an emergency.

Third, I recommend seeking support among others with your illness. For the illness or disease that you have, there is likely an organization associated with it. For example, for MS, there is the National MS Society as well as a variety of others. Reach out to the organization associated with your illness for resources, tools, and support. You may be surprised at what they offer.

Most importantly, I want to encourage you not to give up on YOU. There were some very low moments for me when I laid in misery with optic neuritis (an MS-related eye condition) in the dark, my blind eye pounding, feeling raw and electric. It was excruciating, and the only thing that kept me glued to this earth was the soft purr of the cat who refused to leave my side.

Question: I used to be bullied a lot and got told to kill myself. My dad abused drugs and alcohol as well as my family. Last year I started isolating myself from other people as well as the things I loved to do. Recently, a friend of mine died by suicide because of bullies, and I’ve been isolating my best friend, getting angry, experiencing anxiety, crying, and considered death. What do I do to approach my grief and trauma?

Answer: You have survived bullying, abuse at home, the suicide of a friend, and more. It sounds as if you are currently experiencing distress and need crisis support. Please reach out to 911, a local emergency room, or one of the following resources for immediate life-saving assistance if you feel you may harm yourself. You may contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Note that the National Suicide Prevention website lists additional resources for Spanish speakers, people with hearing impairments, veterans in crisis, LGBTQ+, youth, Native Americans, loss survivors and people facing distress related to natural disasters. I’m providing the link to their survivors of suicide loss resource page: https://afsp.org/find-support/ive-lost-someone/res...

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

Take action for yourself today by contacting a mental health counselor or psychologist in your community and keeping the names of these crisis centers in your wallet in case you need then in an urgent situation. Remove weapons and other lethal means from your home now while you're thinking about it. Tell your family and/or other trusted people in your life that you are feeling like harming yourself so they can get you professional counseling.

You are worth saving. We need you on this planet, alive and well. Stay with us, friend.

Question: Almost a year ago, a boy who lived in my neighborhood and rode my bus died by suicide. I did not know him well nor did others, as he kept to himself primarily. I took it hard and feel like I shouldn’t be grieving so much for someone I didn’t really know. Sometimes I think I see him walking or hear his voice. Will this get better? Is it wrong?

Answer: Grief doesn't have to be logical. It's a gutwrenching experience. Grief can grab you when you least expect it and twist every ounce of emotional energy you have in you.

Death by suicide is sudden, unexpected, and often violent. Each death by suicide leaves behind six or more survivors of suicide loss -- friends, relatives, classmates, acquaintances, coworkers, and others impacted by the tragic death. I'm sorry your loss hasn't been validated. Survivors of suicide loss often feel symptoms of post-traumatic syndrome disorder (PTSD) which include intrusive feelings of anxiety prompting them to relive aspects of the death. PTSD can interfere with healthy emotional resolution of your acquaintance's suicide.

Since you've experienced these feelings for more than a year and you are concerned about them, talk to your parents about your experience. If you have feelings of depression or thoughts of self-harm as well, also reveal those concerns. Ask to see a mental health counselor for help in sorting out your lingering feelings of guilt, shame, sadness, anger, and abandonment. Your parents may not be survivors of suicide loss and may not understand you, but a mental health counselor is expert in doing so. Don't let this go by untreated.

© 2016 FlourishAnyway

Comments

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 09, 2020:

Casandra - Thank you for both of these song suggestions which I have added. Take care of yourself.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 09, 2020:

VM - Thanks for these additions which you should see on there now.

Cassandra on September 08, 2020:

Here’s another one I thought of. Moments by Emerson Drive. That’s an older country song that’s about a man who was going to commit suicide but a homeless man living under the bridge helped him.

Cassandra on September 08, 2020:

Coming Down by Five Finger Death Punch. The music video shows teens wanting to commit suicide, but they decide against it right at the last minute. There’s a fake out at the beginning when a teenager shoots himself in front of his parents. It’s pretty intense. Watch with caution. If you’re sensitive and empathetic like me, even if you’re not nor have ever been suicidal I don’t recommend the video because it will make you cry regardless of whether you relate to it or not.

VM on September 07, 2020:

"A Reason to Fight" by Disturbed abd "Coming Down" by Five Finger Death Punch

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 26, 2020:

papadaddy - Thanks for the song suggestion. I have added it to the playlist.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 26, 2020:

Chris - Thanks for letting me know about this song. I have added it to the list.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 26, 2020:

Scott A - Thank you for this suggestion which I have added.

papadaddy on August 24, 2020:

Please consider adding “Take it Back” by Bug Hunter to your list. This song with Lyric video has been on you tube for under a year and has a very intimate response from people that have been in low places. The song addresses the issue of suicide under a metaphor of sending a resume’ to God and waiting to see if it would be accepted. It is touching and I believe worthy of your list. Thank you for your work here!

Chris on August 24, 2020:

One of the best songs I have heard relating to suicide prevention is called “Take it Back” by Bug Hunter. It is using the metaphor of sending a resume to God. This has been out on youtube for a less than a year and there have been multiple touching responses from people that have been in low places, praising the benefit of the song once they listened. Please consider it on your list.

Scott A on August 21, 2020:

Tea and Sympathy by Janis Ian

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 01, 2020:

Ally - Thanks for this suggestion. I have added it.

Ally on July 31, 2020:

Before you go by Lewis Capaldi

Beautiful song and very eye opening

Kirk on July 22, 2020:

I Tried- Bone Thugs N Harmony would be a good song for this list.

Lord knows I did.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 22, 2020:

Kirk - You are only 50 years old and despite your addictions and heart failure, your time is NOT up yet. Figure out with professional help what's worth keeping you here. I don't think you'll find it in your garage. Please, my friend, seek out a professional counselor for guidance in how to get your life back. If you don't do it for you, do it for your family. I believe in you, and I'm rooting for your success. If you get in a bind, keep those crisis numbers in the above article handy. Thanks for sharing your difficult story, Bud.

Kirk on July 22, 2020:

I just turned 50 on the 16th. I have been an addict since the age of 5 (i know it seems like BS), and an IV meth user since 13. I have stage 4 congestive heart failure. Im unable to work, unable to do anything I used to do. I no longer feel like a man. Ive always been a functioning addict. I actually was clean for 7 years, was a minister, who went all over the country sharing my story of addiction, physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. When i got sick, i gave up. I never contemplated suicide thoug h, until recently. Im tired of being a waste of oxygen. Im tired of not making a difference. Im tired of being alone, and most of all im tired of feeling guilty for my failure. I hide in my garage, so i can stay away from my wife. Ive lost everyone in my life that i cared about. I hate whiney people, and dont want to be one. I just want a life back, that i loved. I am angry every morning when i open my eyes. I pray my sickness takes me, before i do. Thanks for letting me vent.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 07, 2020:

MG - Thanks for stopping by.

MG Singh emge from Singapore on July 06, 2020:

Great collection but suicides and depression though real is not my cup of tea. I never knew so many songs were there on this subject.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 06, 2020:

kd - Thanks for the song suggestion.

kd on July 05, 2020:

Sufjan Stevens - The Only Thing

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on May 01, 2020:

Peggy - It's very sad that she died by suicide. I think one of the unfortunate legacies of this pandemic will be mental illness rates and deaths by suicide.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on April 30, 2020:

This is such a serious topic. I am glad that most of the songs you chose were encouraging people that life does get better. That statistic about physicians taking their lives twice as often as non-physicians was an eye-opener. A female doctor is in the news today because of committing suicide. She saw so many COVID-19 patients dying. Apparently it was just too much for her to bear. That is so very sad!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 03, 2020:

Maskedmarlin - Please contact one of the crisis resources listed in this article who can help you. You may not be able to see the other side right now, but firm ground is there and you can reach it.

Maskedmarlin on April 03, 2020:

Just have to say. No no it don't get better i fell for that lie now i just hurt every day. Cry myself to sleep every night because of what a failure i am and cry every morning because I'm still here. I can't wait for it to be over.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on February 23, 2020:

Louie - Thank you. I've added this song. Be well and happy in your life.

Louie on February 20, 2020:

"Adam's Song" by blink-182

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on December 07, 2019:

LaustCawz - Thanks for the song suggestion.

LaustCawz on December 06, 2019:

"The Seeker"--The Who

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on November 17, 2019:

Emmanuel - Thanks for your comment. Try Googling "songs like ..." and that should give you some options.

Emmanuel Salinas on November 14, 2019:

I like this song, it's rap, and I wish I could find more like it. Maybe it doesn't send a positive vibe, but it's what I need, ironically.

"I'm Sorry" by Joyner Lucas

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 11, 2019:

CracyGal4-1 - Thank you for this song suggestion.

CrazyGal4-1 on September 11, 2019:

if i die young by the band perry

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 29, 2019:

Name - Thanks for this suggestion.

Name on July 27, 2019:

Cemetery drive by my chemical romance

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 22, 2019:

anon - Thank you for this suggestion which I have added at #98. Have a good day.

anon on July 21, 2019:

A song suggestion, You are the Heart by Blood on the Dance Floor. At the beginning it gives facts.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 03, 2019:

anon - Thank you for this song suggestion. I have added it to the playlist above. Have a good Fourth of July.

anon on July 02, 2019:

Leave It All Behind by Sleeping With Sirens would be a good fit for this list. Seems to be a very recent release.

Lyrics blurb:

If you feel like you are nothing

If you feel like letting go

I'll be your hope if you are hopeless

We are not alone

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on June 28, 2019:

anon - Thank you for that suggestion which I have added.

anon on June 27, 2019:

"To Write Love on Her Arms" by Helio

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on February 03, 2019:

noone - Thanks for your comment. No, there's not.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on February 02, 2019:

Freddy - Thank you for this suggestion. I've added it to the playlist, "Songs About Sorrow, Grief, and Lost Loved Ones." I appreciate you.

Freddy on January 31, 2019:

A Song that has been a great comfort in difficult times...

The Wind - Mariah Carey

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 10, 2019:

K.s. - I hope you feel better soon. Use the crisis numbers above if you need them. Music is often a way to bring calm, lift your mood, or connect with others. I've always found it helpful knowing that others experience similar emotions and challenges. Be good to yourself.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 10, 2019:

syd - Thanks for the suggestions. Ghost was already on the list, but I added the other two. I appreciate you. Have a great rest of your week. Pardon the delay, as I just returned from vacation.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 10, 2019:

Spencer - Thank you for the suggestion. I've added the song at #95. Have a great rest of your week!

K.s. on January 09, 2019:

This is very helpful, thank you very much. Music is my way to relate back to my emotions and calm down when feeling overwhelmed. I'd also suggest disease by Beartooth, and s.o.s by the glorious sons, also I refuse by five finger death punch. They are all newer-ish rock songs that have been my soundtrack lately when I'm depressed, along with many already on your list.

Spencer on January 04, 2019:

Still Breathing by Green Day

I suggested this on the "songs about depression" as well as I think it fits on both.

syd on January 03, 2019:

ghost- badflower

hold on- chord overstreet

dont you dare forget the sun- get scared

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 03, 2019:

John Doe - Thank you for the song suggestion, "My Tomorrow." I'll add it to the playlist.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 02, 2019:

BlueEyes - Thanks for the suggestion. Continue to connect to others who care and can make a positive impact on your life. Keep the resources that I provided close at hand. I believe in you, and we need you here in this world. You are a strong and beautiful person. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 02, 2019:

Lolo - Thanks for the suggestion. I've added it to the playlist.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 01, 2019:

Thatbrokenone - You're not broken. You'd be surprised to know that you're just like the rest of us -- fallible, human, vulnerable, and ultimately yes, able to stand again. Your comment was mistakenly labeled as spam so I'm just now seeing it. Thank you for the song suggestion. Keep your chin up and be true to yourself. Know that you're incredible.

BlueEyes on January 01, 2019:

Hi. Thank you for the article. I think that Permanent by Holding Absence would be a great addition to this list.

'You want to die today, you don't wanna die forever'. It's helped me stay alive so far

Lolo on January 01, 2019:

Gray Sky by 311

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on December 30, 2018:

chrystal212 - I've added the song to the playlist. The playlist is filled with songs that are life-affirming.

Chrystal212 on December 29, 2018:

Shinedown - Get Up.

this is my 'when i want to give up' song i think this kind of lists should have songs about beating this more than about suffering through it without a way out :)

Thatbrokenone on December 18, 2018:

Don't try suicide - Queen.

the title is a bit direct, but it's great and it keeps me going sometimes

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on December 03, 2018:

Ash - Thank you for these two additions. I have included them both.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 22, 2018:

Anonymous - I agree! I've added it to the playlist. Thanks for suggesting it. Have a good day!

Anonymous on October 21, 2018:

The Strong By Eva Under Fire

It's a beautiful song!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 11, 2018:

blue16 - I'm deeply concerned about you. My own father lost his mother and brother to suicide as a teenager, and the grief is lifelong.

First, if you lost your father to suicide at such a tender age and didn't have a strong support system, there are likely lingering issues that you need help in dealing with in order to lead a healthy life. Having a family member who died by suicide puts one at higher risk oneself.

It's probably the case that since your mother was so deeply and personally impacted as well that she may not be equipped to be there for you then or now.

I do congratulate you for recognizing the need for help and asking for it. I'm sorry that your mother isn't responding to get you the professional assistance you are requesting. Please redouble your efforts by enlisting the support of an adult relative who cares or another trusted adult like a teacher, school counselor, family physician, friend of the family, etc. Be candid, using blunt language when describing the problem so they know exactly what you're saying. Also know that if you are 18, you don't need parental permission to see a doctor or therapist. If you're on Mom's insurance, just discuss with her so you have your insurance card and work out the payment details with her. There may also be clinics in your community with sliding scales available.

Second, cutting is not going to solve your emotional pain, and I think on some level you know that. Does your mother know you are cutting? Rather than trying to relieve your anxiety and pain through cutting, please seek an outlet that is healthier. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Exercise releases a natural feel-good drug called endorphins to the body and can be a positive alternative. Meditation and relaxation breathing are other options for stress release. Please pursue what works for you while you seek professional help.

Third, I'm going to reiterate at the end of my comments below the suicide prevention resources that were mentioned in the article. In addition, because you mentioned that your step-father is a "horrible man" and I don't exactly know how you mean that, I'm going to provide you with another resource: the National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800) 4-A-Child or (1-800) 422-4453, available 24/7. Contact them if you need their assistance as well.

Fourth, there's an organization, Survivors of Suicide Loss, that has some good online resources that I'd like for you to take a look at.

These are the types of resources that I wish were available when I lost my friend to suicide. Here's their link: https://www.soslsd.org/resources/. They have free downloadable suicide loss books for parents, teens, and children (3 different books) to help different audiences understand their grief.

Also available is a Handbook of Survivors of Suicide Loss from the American Academy of Suicidology: https://www.soslsd.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/... Please be sure to access this terrific resource as well: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevent... It describes action steps to take if you are feeling suicidal.

NOW THE SUICIDE PREVENTION HELP NUMBERS AGAIN:

If you are in crisis and feel like you may harm yourself, call 911 for immediate life-saving assistance. You may also contact one of the following resources for talk or text support:

1) National Hopeline Network 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433)

If you or someone you know are depressed and considering suicide, call the National Hopeline Network at 1.800.SUICIDE (1.800.784.2433). Your call is free and confidential. Or chat live with a crisis volunteer at http://hopeline.com/.

2) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1.800.273.TALK (8255)

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to talk with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area. Available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

3) Crisis Text Line Number 741741

If you're in crisis and prefer to text rather than call, then here's a confidential crisis text line staffed nationally by trained counselors in suicide prevention. Text "HOME" to 741741 from anywhere in the United States.

blue16, again, I am concerned about you. Ultimately, only YOU can save you, but I trust that you will take the steps necessary to stay with us in this world. We need you here with us. The world is a better place with you in it.

Kindest regards,

FlourishAnyway

blue16 on October 11, 2018:

My dad commit suicide when I was 5 and then my mom married this horrible man. I feel like I won't ever be myself again. I cut to help the pain but its just getting worse. Whenever I try to get help my mom rolls her eyes and doesn't even care but when my brother asks for help she immediately takes him to a therapist and gets him meds and a psychiatrist. Ever since my mom was diagnosed with cancer it seems I don't even know who she is anymore. If I can't get help what do I do?

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 08, 2018:

Me - Ghost is #84 on the song list. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. Be well.

Me on October 08, 2018:

Ghost by badflower

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 06, 2018:

stevensondr2 - Thank you for the song suggestions. Be well.

stevensondr2 on October 04, 2018:

Two songs that are definitely missing from this list are Fingertips by Tapping the Vein & A Quitter by Rasputina. I have been looking for something similar to those two.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 04, 2018:

Randy - That was a very powerful comment and personal account. Please do what you need to do to stay strong and stay with us HERE on earth. You are good enough, and we need you.

Thank you for your service and the bravery exhibited in telling your story here. The more that servicemen and servicewomen such as yourself and Jason Kander (Kansas City mayor candidate who dropped out of race, citing PTSD and suicidal thoughts) come forward and talk honestly about the struggle, the more lives will be saved. I wish you all the best, FlourishAnyway

Randy on October 04, 2018:

22. That is the number of u.s. service men and women who take their own lives on a daily basis. I have been very close to being part of this staggering statistic. The loneliness thar comes from either surviors guilt or just not feeling like you fit into this huge world is a big reason for this. Me personally it was the feeling of not being good enough for anything else. At thr time of my attempt i was stagnet in life and everything i touched seemed to crumble to the ground. I still struggle with all of this on the daily. Music ans wrighting are what keeps me above the darkness even if its just above

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 20, 2018:

Lisa shyone - Thanks for giving me a heads up about this band. I did actually listen to the song as well as take a look at the lyrics. Initially, I didn't put it on the playlist because the lyrics seemed not to clearly enough advocate anti-suicide. However, I just read an article in Forbes as well as some additional on-line comments that people are clearly perceiving it as having an anti-suicide message, so thank you for persisting. I will add it, friend. It is a catchy song and again thank you for reading. All the best, FlourishAnyway

Lisa shyone on September 19, 2018:

FlourishAnyway, It's Lisa . . .again. I'm wondering if you really heard the song I suggested for you to add. This song is going viral in a good way. I believe your followers should be aware of this powerful song (if they're not already). Just reading some of the heart full, genuine comments tells it all. Listen again, this song belongs on your list. For all the dedicated followers of this post who might be interested and this is not an advertisement, the song is Ghost and the unknown band is Badflower. Enjoy!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 19, 2018:

Rafaella Murad - Thank you for those two song suggestions. I've added them both. Be well and be happy. Wishing you all the best. - FlourishAnyway

Rafaella Murad on September 19, 2018:

i’d add when it rains - paramore and lullabies - all time low!!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 06, 2018:

Jason, I'm willing to consider it. Can you provide me the title and the name you sing under plus a link to the song on YouTube when available? Feel free to include other information in the Comments Section here as people do read them (e.g., why you wrote the song).

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 05, 2018:

Shyron - Thanks for the song suggestion. I placed this song on the playlist about songs that tell a story. Hope you are doing well.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 05, 2018:

Shannon - There are so many people who are hurting deeply. If they are Googling songs about suicide and suicide prevention, then I am happy that they have connected to this article that gives them not only the songs they seek but also crisis-related resources that they may need, either now or in a pinch. September is National Suicide Prevention Month and it's the least I can do to create awareness.

Shyron E Shenko from Texas on September 04, 2018:

The only song I can think of that is not here is the 'Ode to Billy Jo'. I am sure that I will think of several others .

Blessings my dear friend

Shannon Henry from Texas on September 04, 2018:

OMG! These questions and answers are heartbreaking, especially since so many are teens. Bless you for being a means of support!!!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 21, 2018:

Dylon - Thanks for the song suggestion.

Dylon on August 20, 2018:

Child Psychology by Black Box Recorder

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 14, 2018:

karsten - Thank you for the suggestion. I've added the song at #80.

karsten on August 14, 2018:

seasons in the sun is missing

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 03, 2018:

Roadiepat - "Fade to Black" is indeed remarkable for its guitar solo. I was quite young, but I recall when it was first released. I appreciate your taking the time to make song suggestions. With death by suicide being so prevalent today and having known so many people who have died this way, my reason for not including them is that I wanted to encourage people to decide not to make such a deadly, irreversible choice. I appreciate you.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 03, 2018:

Joe - Thank you for the song suggestion, which I have added.

Roadiepat on August 02, 2018:

Band Pantera. Song suicide note part 1 & 2. Power ballad (Pt. I), metalcore (Pt.II)

Fade to Black" is a song and the first power ballad by American heavy metal band Metallica, released as the first promotional single from its second studio album, Ride the Lightning. The song was ranked as having the 24th best guitar solo ever by Guitar World readers

Joe on August 02, 2018:

Here's another song for your playlist: "Forest For The Trees" by Huey Lewis and The News.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 29, 2018:

Laura J Miller - This song is beautiful, and I am adding it to both this playlist and my playlist on Missing Someone You Love. My deepest condolences go out to both of you on your losses. I believe others with find comfort in this song. Peace to you both, FlourishAnyway

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 29, 2018:

Scaredy cat - Thank you for taking the time to leave me a comment. I'm adding "You're Not Innocent" to my playlist on Haters, Bullies, and Other Mean, Jealous People because the song is a good reminder of the consequences of bullying. All the best to you, Flourish.

Scardy cat on July 28, 2018:

Dear FlourishAnyway heard of song called You're Not Innocent by Codi Kaye? or Her last words by Courtney Parker? If yes sorry for bothering if not you should give it a try

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 26, 2018:

Lisa - That song is heartbreaking. I appreciate your stopping by.

Lisa shyone on July 25, 2018:

Dear FlourishAnyway I'm a music browser, always looking for unique clever lyric driven songs with a combined melody to match. Every once in a great while I'll stumble across a real unknown diamond in the rough. I would like to share that find with you. The Band is called Badflower the song is Ghost. Enjoy! - Lisa

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 24, 2018:

Peter - I appreciate the suggestion and have added the song to the list.

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 24, 2018:

Unknown - Thanks for the heads up.

Péter on July 24, 2018:

I suggest "Easy Way Out" by Low Roar. Great list, thank you.

- on July 23, 2018:

Friend, please is on the list twice

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 21, 2018:

Unnanmed - Thank you for the song suggestion.

Unnamed on July 12, 2018:

Gloomy Sunday?

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 07, 2018:

Joshua - Thanks for the song suggestion. I'll add it to the playlist. Have a good weekend!

FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 06, 2018:

Guy - Thank you for the song suggestions. I appreciate your reading and chipping in. I added "Asleep" to the playlist but didn't add "Adam's Song" because it of the message overall.

Joshua on July 06, 2018:

Listen to deaf havana - Boston square?

Discussing suicide of an old friend, honest opinions