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Second Chances: The Relationship Do-Over
Never say "never" when it comes to second chances at love. You might believe love has fizzled. You might have gone your separate ways, putting time and distance and perhaps even other lovers between you.
But if you still have positive or longing memories about your ex, it's possible that love could reignite between you just when you thought the flame had nearly burned out. I've known people who divorced, married other partners for brief stints, then remarried each other. Stranger things have happened. It's amazing what forgiveness and second chances can do.
If you're thinking of getting back together with a past love, make a Reunited Love Playlist. We've got a long list of pop, rock, and country songs to get you started.
1. "Whatever It Takes" by Lifehouse
Although we can only guess what the man in this 2007 song did to disappoint his sweetheart, his apology is sincere and contrite. Committed to making their relationship his first priority, he asks for another chance:
I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know that I've let you down.
And if you give me a chance
Believe that I can change
I'll keep us together whatever it takes.
2. "Let's Stay Together" by Al Green
The narrator in this classic 1972 song explains to his lover that she makes him feel brand new. Are they at a fork in the road in their relationship? He seeks to spend his life loving her, good times and bad, happy and sad. While other people get caught in a repeated cycle of breakups and makeups he just wants to tough it out together.
Tell us your story of reunited love in the comments section below!
3. "Picture" by Kid Rock (featuring Sheryl Crow)
The estranged couple in this country-crossover song from 2002 have cheated on one another. Evidently they didn't mean it, however, because thoughts about getting back together consume them. A photograph of happier times reminds them that they are better together than apart.
4. "Austin" by Blake Shelton
The woman in this touching 2001 country song left her lover without saying goodbye then waited a whole year before calling him. Although she left no forwarding information, the man assumed his honey went back to Austin because she had repeatedly talked about the city.
When she finally called his number, she heard an outgoing message on his answering machine that ended with, "And P.S. If this is Austin I still love you." It's a melt-your-heart beautiful song that shows that forgiveness and love can lead you back to where you were always supposed to be.
5. "Reunited by Peaches & Herb
Regret and longing are a recipe for reuniting with a sweetheart you still love deeply. In this 1978 ballad, a couple had a quarrel after he strayed. The breakup made them both realize that they needed one another and were willing to put their relationship above all else.
6. "Baby Come Back" by Player
This 1977 hit is a classic "please let's just work it out" song. The narrator spends all his time and money trying to forget the woman whom he is no longer dating.
He tries in vain to put on a brave face and wear a smile while his heart aches for her. The heartbroken man begs his ex for one more chance:
Baby come back, any kind of fool could see
There was something in everything about you.
Baby come back, you can blame it all on me
I was wrong, and I just can't live without you.
7. "Hard To Say I'm Sorry" by Chicago
Even lovers may need to take a break from one another, particularly when one of them has made a mistake that violates the other's trust. So says this 1982 song about one lover who is desperately trying to make up for past transgressions.
He promises to make it up to her and do right. Would you take him back?
8. "Change My Mind" by One Direction
In this 2012 song, a couple has broken up, but they're spending time together at a party and there's still chemistry between them. As everyone else leaves, they find themselves laughing, dancing, taking photos, and wondering whether they should press rewind on their broken relationship.
9. "Un-break My Heart" by Toni Braxton
Released in 1996, this Grammy Award-winning song is a soul-searing request from a heartbroken woman to her former sweetheart. She begs him to come back into her life.
According to her, rekindling their love affair can undo the tears, pain and loneliness that set in when he left her. Does she seem too desperate, or is it just me?
10. "Love Won't Run" Steve Holy
The narrator in this touching 2011 country ballad senses that his beloved is about to tell him painful news that would tear apart most couples. He recognizes that she is scared about confessing what she's done.
He reassures her, however, that their love is stronger than any mistake she may have made. Urging her to lay it all on the line, he promises to stand beside her and help repair their relationship:
I won’t run, and I won’t hide.
I won’t turn away. I just wanna make things right.
Baby, I’m right here, and I ain't going anywhere.
11. "Let's Just Fall In Love Again" by Jason Castro
Wouldn't it be nice if lovers in turmoil could ask for a relationship do-over, going back to the very beginning of their courtship? That's what this 2010 is about: falling in love all over again, right from the moment they met. Imagine the things that you'd do differently knowing what you know now.
12. "Come A Little Closer" by Dierks Bentley
This sizzling country ballad from 2005 centers on an estranged couple. The man wants his former sweetheart to step a little closer — to bridge the distance that divides them — so they can touch. He hopes that there is still a chance that they might reunite and figures that mutual forgiveness might be found by "strippin' it down back to the basics" of sweet surrender.
13. "Pillow Talk" by Zayn Malik
This hot 2016 song emphasizes that every couple has arguments that divide them. However, their shared physical and emotional intimacy can reunite them. The bed they share represents the microcosm of their relationship: both pure and raw, paradise and a war zone.
14. "Let's Be Us Again" by Lonestar
In this 2004 country song, the narrator messed up and said some things he now regrets. He implores his ex to please forgive him and take him back. He'll do anything if they could reconcile.
15. "I Won't Give Up" by Jason Mraz
The narrator in this 2012 hit wants his partner to know that he'll give her the space she needs and will wait patiently while she soul searches. He won't give up on her or walk away because their differences have a lot to teach them. Sounds like he wants to be in it for the long haul, but does she?
16. "Glass" by Thompson Square
In trying to stay together, a couple must attempt to see through each other's flaws and pick up the pieces when their relationship threatens to shatter. This 2011 song highlights the emotional baggage that each person acquires along their life journey, making them fragile and sometimes sharp and edgy.
In reuniting, a partner must develop a deeper understanding of their lover's human vulnerability and imperfections:
I'll let you look inside me, through the stains and through the cracks,
And in the darkness of this moment,
You see the good and bad.
17. "Crazy Girl" by Eli Young Band
The narrator in this 2011 song reminds his partner that he's committed to staying with her. She feels insecure in the relationship after a big fight and assumes their relationship is over because he literally walks away.
However, the narrator explains that arguing is just part of being a couple:
Crazy girl, don't you know that I love you?
And I wouldn't dream of goin' nowhere
Silly woman, come here, let me hold you
Have I told you lately?
I love you like crazy, girl
18. "It's Not Over" by Daughtry
The man in this 2006 rock hit just wants to start over with his ex. The breakup has taken everything away from him. Feeling depressed, he's having trouble finding positive meaning in life without his partner. If given the opportunity for a relationship do-over, he swears he'll do right by her this time.
19. "The Man I Want To Be" by Chris Young
When all else has failed, the brokenhearted fellow in this 2009 song asks for heavenly intervention in reuniting him with his ex and making him a better man. It'll take a miracle to reunite them, but he is committed to changing his ways:
I've spent my whole life
Gettin' it all wrong
And I sure could use your help
'Cause from now on
I want to be a good man
A do like I should man
I want to be the kind of man
The mirror likes to see.
20. "Never Gonna Let You Go" by Serio Mendes
If you realize that you've made a mistake by letting the love of your life go, then you need to fix it if you can, right? This 1983 ballad is about the regret of letting an ex go and the goal of reconciliation.
The second time around, the narrator promises not to break his partner's heart or take her for granted. He swears that this time it's a forever thing, and their love will be much sweeter than before.
Even More Songs About Reunited Love and Getting Back Together
21. I Surrender
22. Get Back
23. Not A Day Goes By
24. Back To December
25. We Belong Together
26. Up Where We Belong
Joe Cocker and Jennifer Warnes
27. Fall Again
28. Can't We Talk It Over in Bed
29. Always on My Mind
30. Old Flame
31. If I Could Turn Back the Hands of Time
32. Open Arms
33. I Remember
34. Escape (The Pina Colada Song)
35. In Your Eyes
36. All Cried Out
37. If I Could Turn Back Time
38. Right Here Waiting
39. Don't Cry
Guns N' Roses
40. Second Chance
41. Still The One
42. Together Again
43. Love Will Keep Us Together
Captain and Tenile
44. Breakin' Up Is Hard To Do by
45. I Want You Back
The Jackson 5
46. Before You Walk Out of My Life
47. I Can't Help Myself
Pure Prairie League
50. Over You
51. P.S. (I'm Still Not Over You)
52. Don't Give Up On Me
53. I Lost It
54. I Can't Sleep
56. We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together Again
57. After All
Peter Cetera (featuring Cher)
58. Come Back To Me
59. Good Old Days (Are Here Again)
Buck Owens & Susan Raye
60. I May Hate Myself In the Morning
Lee Ann Womack
61. Are You Lonesome Tonight?
62. Feels Like Home
63. If Ever You're in My Arms Again
64. I Want Us Back
65. Want You Back
66. Angels Cry
Mariah Carey (featuring Ne-Yo)
The Chainsmokers (featuring Halsey)
68. Life After You
69. Working My Way Back to You
The Four Seasons
71. The Reason
72. Walking After You
73. Back for Good
74. We Were in Love
75. I Go Crazy
76. Stuck on You
77. If You're Gone
79. Bringing Back the Sunshine
80. Greatest Love Story
81. Stand Up and Run
82. Hello Again
83. Come Home
OneRepublic (featuring Sara Bareilles)
84. On Bended Knee
Boyz II Men
85. Meet Me in the Middle
86. Lego House
87. I Hate This
88. Back in My Arms Again
89. Whisper You Love Me Boy
90. Make It Real
91. Love of My Life
92. Love Me Like You
93. How You Get The Girl
94. I Wish You Would
95. Want U Back
96. Love Me Again
97. Come Back… Be Here
98. I’ll Come Running Back To You
Boyz II Men
99. Accidental Babies
100. Come Back to Me
Art School Girlfriend
101. Come Back to Me
Urban Cone (featuring Tove Lo)
102. Come Back to Me
103. Looks Like We Made It
105. Come Back Down
106. Come Back To Me
Keys & Copper
107. Right Back Where We Started from
Toni Braxton & Babyface
109. The Flame
110. Back Together
Roberta Flack (featuring Donny Hathaway)
111. The Scientist
113. Do I Wanna Know?
114. Lover Come Back
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
Question: I connected with my first love from 6th grade, and in exchanging Facebook messages, we have realized how deep our feelings were. After 28 years, all of the old feelings are still there although we are both married. We're friends now but have agreed to go on dating and resume the old love once we both become single. Do you think it is called cheating if we secretly communicate with each other?
Answer: Both of you are already in committed relationships that could last decades longer. Your time together may never come according to your plan. Your spouse, for example, could outlive you. Additionally, if you were to carry on with communicating via FaceBook, the relationship will undoubtedly progress to an in-person physical affair. I imagine you're close to that already if you're planning a future together. Remember that there is both emotional cheating and physical cheating.
You must, therefore, evaluate whether you want to remain in your respective marriages for your own happiness and the ultimate happiness of your spouses. They deserve faithful partners, the truth, and the option to find another partner who will be true to them. Right now it feels like magic with this person from your youth. The secrecy adds to your shared adventure. You aren't experiencing bills, medical problems, and morning breath with them like you are with your spouse. It's not the real world yet.
Break the secrecy by telling your spouse about your reconnection and your attraction to your old flame. Your spouse will obviously be really upset but you could be surprised by their response. (Perhaps they're out of love with you and want out, for example?) Consider marriage counseling to determine where you head from here.
To answer your question bluntly about secret communication ... yes, secretly declaring love to a person from your past and planning a future with them is emotional cheating and could lead to physical cheating. Bring the relationship into the light and make a choice.
Question: My fiancé and I dated in high school but didn’t realize how deep our feelings were. We met up again 35 years later, and all of the old feelings were still there. Now we are getting married, and I’m looking for a song to dance to for our first dance to represent that and tell our story. We found each other’s missing piece and went through hell to get here. We are getting married in 2020. Do you have any suggestions?
Answer: Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. A beautiful and appropriate song would be Vanessa Williams' R&B 1991 song, "Save the Best for Last." The YouTube link is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EdmHSTwmWY.
Question: I'm in love with my boyfriend, but another boy claims to love me more than my boyfriend does. This gets my boyfriend mad at me, and he says we are done. I don't want to lose him. What can I do to win his love again?
Answer: You indicate that another boy interferes with your relationship. Simply tell him "no," and if he truly respects you and cares for you, then he will leave you alone.
As far as loving your boyfriend who seems to blame you for attracting the attention of another male, I question whether it's actually love or instead something inferior. Love is not as angry or possessive as this. Rather than try to win his love back, ask yourself whether this relationship is in your best interest.
Question: My first girlfriend broke up with me because she thought that our relationship wasn't going to work out. Now, several years later, she's trying to get back with me. However, she has a boyfriend. What do I do to win her back?
Answer: Are you sure this relationship is what is best for you? I'm concerned that it may not be very healthy from a mental health standpoint.
First, she already rejected you once by giving up on you when you were first together instead of trying to work it out. Granted, people can make mistakes and come to realize what they lost. However, you must ask yourself what changed between then and now. Try to recall your relationship objectively. Was it mutually rewarding? Did it validate you as a person, or were there toxic elements?
Second, she is currently dating another guy, and you indicate that she's trying to get back with you. There's a saying, "If they cheat WITH you, they'll cheat ON you."
Remember that there's physical cheating and emotional cheating, so just because you haven't had physical relations recently doesn't mean she hasn't violated the trust of her current partner. If she's truly serious about rekindling your romance, she would break up with her current boyfriend to pursue a possible relationship with you. She'd at least be candid with him that there's some unfinished business with you and acknowledge that she's been talking with you. (Why hasn't she broken up with him already if she's that interested in you? What would the trust be like in your relationship with her if you were to get back together? Very shaky, I'm guessing.)
Third, if she is trying to get back with you, then why do YOU need to do anything to win her back? Seems like she's already plenty motivated. You might want to set some ground rules that you'll only date her when she becomes single -- free and clear. You don't want to sneak around with someone else's girlfriend, do you? Don't you deserve to date someone out in the open rather than share someone else's lover?
First romances often have a very sentimental quality to them in our long-term memories, especially if they were also the first sexual relationship. Don't confuse nostalgia or sexual chemistry for true love, however. Even people who are of middle age do so.
Question: How do I win back the love of my life? She was amazing, and now she won't talk to me.
Answer: Something has obviously changed in your relationship to prompt her behavior towards you. Please do an honest assessment of what that is because she seems to hold you accountable. If you have betrayed her in some way (e.g., cheating, breaking a promise, disregarding her repeated requests) then you likely already know what you've done to make her go "no contact."
If this is the case, be honest with yourself about what you did to hurt her by owning what you did and why. Don't make excuses, blame her, say "both of us are responsible," etc. Send her a dozen roses with a brief request to talk it over in person, via phone, FaceTime, or however she'll communicate with you. Tell her what you did, how that must have made her feel (e.g., disappointed, angry, sad, rejected, etc.), say that you accept responsibility and are wrong for violating her trust. Then ask if she will accept your apology. This doesn't mean you're back together. Tell her that you respect her as a person and miss her being part of your life. Take it slow, if she'll let the relationship progress on any level. And totally don't do whatever it is again.
If, on the other hand, you utterly don't know why she is treating you this way, that's more perplexing. I'd say you deserve to know if you had a legitimate relationship. Text, email, or send her a card to tell her that you're confused that she won't talk to you and can she please just have one honest conversation about why she's upset. This will at least permit you to understand what happened. Say that you just want to clear the dust because there seems to be a lot of misunderstanding between you, and you care about her too much to have the relationship end on a sour note if it must end. Offer to discuss via phone, FaceTime, over coffee or pizza, etc., her choice. Let her vent. Hear her out. Obviously, there's some misunderstanding or miscommunication. Now's your chance to clear up what was said and done, what was meant instead, and to establish clarity.
If it turns out that you two want different things from one another and relationships, then it's good to know that too, but she shouldn't be ignoring you. Agree on how to resolve misinformation moving forward if your relationship continues. If for whatever reason it's completely over, you also need to respect that as well.
Good luck in working this out or at least learning from the experience.
Question: My ex-husband from 29 years ago wants to meet up. Should I meet him?
Answer: That's a loaded question. Apparently, he hasn't shared with you his exact purpose for wanting this meetup, and you believe it could be for the purpose of rekindling your relationship.
However, you did divorce him for good reasons, I assume, and you've been apart for almost three decades. Thus, he is largely the same person you divorced many years ago, and you may or may not have anything in common anymore. Proceed with care by considering a number of factors:
1) the length and quality of your marriage - Have you ever regretted divorcing him? Would you want to possibly rekindle the romance with him if that is his purpose? Was there ANY abuse in the prior relationship? If so, consider your safety and well-being and leave the past behind you.
2) the reason for the divorce and whether it was amicable - If the divorce was bitter, why would either of you want to reconnect? If it was amicable, I assume you can just ask him what's up with his request, so you know his intentions after all this time.
3) whether you share children
4) whether either or both of you are currently in relationships - If you have a partner, what does your partner think of your ex's request? If your ex has a partner, does that person know?
Your ex's purpose for requesting a meeting with you could be any of the following:
1) simple curiosity/wanting to know how your life turned out
2) wanting to maybe get back together again
3) introducing you to someone
4) wanting something from you (money, forgiveness, etc.)
5) letting you know he's ill or dying.
You don't really know for sure, right?
Take the following example: I knew someone whose ex made such a request, and his purpose was threefold: to apologize for cheating on her when they were together, to beg her to stop dating the man she was living with -- a no good loser by all accounts -- and to let her know he was dying of cancer. She refused to see him, so he sent word through someone else. Again, my point is you just don't know what his intent is unless he states it clearly, so be ready for any possibility.
Just because the two of you were young and unable to make it work then doesn't mean that you can't have a do-over, with decades of life lessons learned.
Whatever your choice, practice good emotional self-care. Never be guilted into doing something you don't want to do, no matter your past relationship. You can simply decline if it's not in your best interest or wait to decide while you interact via phone, text, FaceTime, and other social media. If and when you do meet in person, you may want to do so for lunch. Expectations are lower that way.
Question: My girlfriend and I broke up, possibly because of the distance between us. She lives in New York and I live in Los Angeles. I would really love to make it work. What do I do?
Answer: Long distance dating is extremely challenging. My husband and I dated long distance for four years before we married. It wasn't easy, but we've been married now for almost 25 years.
You should be able to say WHY you and your girlfriend broke up. Was it, in fact, related to distance or instead issues of incompatibility -- annoying habits, differences in personality, varying life priorities, not enough in common, etc.? Without this answer, how can you find closure, fix the problem, or be a better partner in the future? Maybe there's even someone else in her life. A visit and heart-to-heart conversation could get everything out on the table and at least resolve your unanswered questions. Or meet in a "neutral"/half-way spot and vacation together one weekend. If she won't do that, try either a planned visit to her place or if you must, a FaceTime conversation. Roses help.
Ultimately, for your relationship to succeed long-term, it will eventually come down to one of you moving. Is that a sacrifice you are willing to make? Is she? She may not see any discernable future with you, given that you are on different coasts. You may need to draw a map of your future together with a timetable. With careers in full swing and different personal preferences for where to live, my husband and I found that this was the biggest hurdle: Were we willing to sacrifice what we wanted for the other? You need to decide if she's "the one" or just a warm up. Are you both better off finding new partners?
Good luck in your decisions. Let us know how it works out be leaving a follow-up comment in the Comments Section of the "Reunited Love Playlist." We're rooting for your happiness.
Question: I send heart touching love songs to my ex, and she always hears them. However, she just tells me I am stressing her out. Is there a possibility of getting her back?
Answer: I don't know why you broke up, but it seems that your ex has moved on whereas you have not. It's a sweet gesture to send love songs to let her know you still care and would like to reunite.
However, she is telling you that your romantic interest in her is both stressful and unwanted, so take that as a sign to stop. You don't want to be known as stalky, do you?
Grieve your lost relationship. Work on becoming the happiest, best version of yourself that you can be, and move on. Sorry it didn't work out. You poured out your heart and unfortunately it didn't work out the way you wanted it to. That's happened to all of us. There are 7.5 billion people in this world. Find a true love match who returns your feelings.
Question: How can I get back with my fiance if an ex answers the phone?
Answer: If his ex is screening his calls, you may have to let him figure this thing out for himself. Perhaps her answering was a one-off, but if that's their usual practice, it's controlling. Does he enjoy being controlled by another human being? Did he ask her to screen his calls? He may be rebounding back to the ex, or perhaps they were involved before the breakup, and that was a factor that instigated your split. You need to have as much information as possible about why you broke up.
If you're SURE that you want to try to reunite, you need to find a time and place when he is apart from her. Try going to his workplace after he gets off work, for example. Ask him if you can go someplace quiet and talk, just the two of you. You have just one good shot to state your case; any more and you come off as obsessed, desperate, and stalky.
Explain that you tried to call him but his ex answered the phone. If he turns you down for a discussion, that's a good sign he's not ready to reunite. Let him know he can contact you if he wants to talk. If he is open to talking after work, however, then go somewhere quiet. Make your case clearly and convincingly why you belong together and how things are different now compared with when you broke off your engagement. Wear whatever makes his heart skip a beat, and make sure you're looking your best. Be warned, however, that it's always harder to win someone back when their bed is currently occupied, especially when it's occupied by someone they have feelings for.
If you don't like this idea, you can instead contact him via instant message on social media or leave him a voice mail at work if he works in an office setting.
Question: I have been married for more than 20 years. My husband has been in prison for 4 years. I have been seeing someone for a year or so and I have feelings for him. My husband knows about him and now he's pleading his case. I don't want to go back into a marriage where he has to prove to me he can be better when I have someone that is already showing me. Here’s the kicker: the husband is getting out soon and a decision needs to be made. I'm truly a nervous wreck. What should I do?
Answer: You seem to be searching for permission to leave him. Only you can grant that to yourself. I do find it curious that he was aware of the man you are seeing for a while but only recently sought to plead his case. Choose the better man, whoever makes you truly happy.
Question: For two years, my girlfriend tells me that she’d rather be with someone else when we get into a serious argument over text or by phone. After every fight, I come and find her to apologize and I see in her eye that she also doesn’t want to lose me. Recently, however, the behavior has been getting more extreme. What can I do so that she’d talk to me instead of saying she wants to break up?
Answer: This pattern of toxic relationship behavior isn’t healthy for either of you. I’m concerned that it’s been going on for two years, has increased in severity, it’s consistently your role to apologize, and she’s not getting what she has repeatedly said she wants (a break-up). Rather than waiting until conflict occurs to discuss the health of your relationship, discuss this problematic cycle of behavior during a moment when the two of you are getting along well. Be open and honest and LISTEN to what she wants instead of making assumptions. Ask what she wants out of the relationship, whether she wants to break up, and if not, why she claims she does? I suspect there may be some mental health issues involved, but that still doesn’t mean you two belong together. If you truly care about her, you’ll honor her wishes.
Question: My boyfriend and I broke up twice because he wanted me to change. I had been very depressed with myself but now live a happy life. Without him, something feels like it is missing, but I am afraid he has moved on. I want him back. Should I ask him to come back to me?
Answer: You felt poorly about yourself when you were with him, and now that he’s not in your life, you miss him but are otherwise happy. With breaking up twice, the relationship wasn’t all that stable. It would likely end up the same way. You’d also be at risk for falling back into the old behavioral patterns that led to your depression. Personally, I’d move forward instead of looking back.
Question: I'm looking for a song about a woman whose father left her and her mother when she was young and now that she is successful he wants to be part of her life but doesn't want her money. Any answers, please?
Answer: Try Kelly Clarkson's "Piece by Piece" (2015) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LqCqYP7hDWI. It's about a woman's memory of her father abandoning his family and her moving on from the hurt. Now that she is grown, she has a good man in her life who does the right thing by her. He doesn't walk away, he takes care of her, doesn't ask for money, etc. Although it doesn't fit your description exactly in that the father himself isn't redeemed, it seems to be a close fit.
Question: My ex-husband and I divorced thirteen years ago. He was an alcoholic, a horrible father, and had nothing to do with his kids. His kids are grown now, and have forgiven him. Even though remarried, he has never gotten over me. Now that he is rehabilitated, he wants me back. There are still feelings there on both parts, but how do we forget the past and move forward?
Answer: Think carefully about a reunited relationship because old feelings, old habits, and old ways of treating one another often go hand-in-hand. If that old way involved addiction and troubled family dynamics, you're asking for major trouble unless you're undergoing intensive couples therapy by a licensed therapist. (And wouldn't that be both impractical and inappropriate considering he has remarried?)
It's critical that you recognize that your ex-husband IS an alcoholic, albeit a recovering one. I recommend that you read or revisit information on co-dependency. No one can forget the past within their relationships. It's an integral part of us. You can learn to forgive and grow and set healthier boundaries, so move forward separately for best results.
Question: I left my wife of 13 years because she wasn't the woman I fell in love with anymore. I see that now. Part of her is still madly in love with me, but she can't trust me and wants to be with someone else. I said I never stopped loving her and I can't imagine being with anybody else. She wants to be friends, and there's no telling what our future holds. There's a possibility we could reunite, but I fear that when she trusts me again, she won't have that love. What's a good song for that?
Answer: I suspect some important information is missing. You say that you left your wife and that now she's very distrustful of you. She wants to be with someone else but remain friends with you. I suspect there is a third party involved. (Perhaps you left her for someone you have since discarded? Perhaps your wife is now seeing someone else?)
I recommend couples therapy if she will agree to it. However, since you asked for a song I'd recommend Air Supply's "Every Woman in the World" (1980) to show her how she means everything to you. Trust will have to be rebuilt slowly. Remember that you aren't the same person you were 13 years ago or even 13 months ago. Part of being married is appreciating the changes one another goes through over the years. You either grow together or grow apart.
Question: We were first loves and high school sweethearts, but then I broke his heart. Looking back, I realize now that I made a mistake. I left because I thought he would never commit. Now we are both single after 32 years and we interact regularly. I would like to try again. Do you think he could ever trust me with his heart again?
Answer: Take the renewed relationship slow. If he truly didn’t forgive you for breaking his heart then he probably would not interact positively with you. Have a conversation about the old days and explain why you broke up with you then. He might understand more than you think. If this is important to you, take a chance and put yourself out there.
Question: I had a boyfriend who betrayed me. Now my former friend is with him. How do I warn her?
Answer: Any attempt to warn your former friend will likely be perceived as manipulation, an attempt to poison her against him. It'll be viewed as you having bitter apples. At this point, she's no longer your friend so would she really welcome advice on ANY topic from you -- let alone regarding him? You don't owe either one of them anything so pay just move forward with your own life.
© 2016 FlourishAnyway
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on May 02, 2020:
Peggy - There's a tendency to glorify the past, especially when our lives are currently less than ideal.
Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on May 01, 2020:
I love watching Hallmark movies where people have reunited again after a hiatus of years. There can be many reasons for that to happen. Your song list is an apt one for many such circumstances.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 21, 2019:
Anon - I wish you luck.
Anon on August 21, 2019:
I have just recently reconnected thru Linkedin with an old flame from 30 years ago.We had dinner and he told me that he named a child after "me". Why would someone name a child after an old flame and then feel the need to tell them after all these years? I always believed we are soulmates and I definitely still feel there is strong connection between us. I believe our song is "Somewhere Down the Road" by Barry Manilow. This song could not be more appropriate. Wish me luck
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on August 12, 2019:
Eliza - Thank you for these fabulous suggestions! It took me a while to get through them, so thank you for your patience, but I have added a great many of them here and to several other playlists. Girl, you are AWESOME! I wrote the playlist of songs that say get away from me or go away just for you (referring to that former boyfriend you have). Have a great week!
Eliza Day on August 05, 2019:
Some other songs:
1. Roy Orbison – Come Back to Me (My Love)
2. Queen – Love Of My Life
3. No Angels – Come Back
4. Samantha Mumba – Always Come Back To Your Love
5. Little Mix – Love Me Like You
6. Taylor Swift – How You Get The Girl
7. Taylor Swift – I Wish You Would
8. Taylor Swift – Come Back… Be Here
9. Cher Lloyd – Want U Back
10. Mariah Carey – Always Be My Baby
11. John Newman – Love Me Again
12. Boyz II Men – I’ll Come Running Back To You
13. Damien Rice – Accidental Babies
14. Gloriana – Get Back That Goodbye
15. Gloriana – Change Your Mind
16. Elton John – Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word
17. Art School Girlfriend – Come Back To Me
18. Urban Cone, Tove Lo – Come Back To Me
19. Keys & Copper – Come Back To Me
20. Lifehouse – Come Back Down
21. The Script – The Man Who Can’t Be Moved
22. Dolly Parton – Come Back To Me
23. Blake Shelton – She Wouldn’t Be Gone
24. Dua Lipa, BLACKPINK – Kiss and Make Up
25. Akon – Lonely
26. Rod Stewart – Baby Come Home
27. Elvis Presley – Are You Lonesome Tonight
28. Janet Jackson – Come Back To Me
29. Barry Manilow – Looks Like We Made It
30. Duncan Sheik – Half-Life
31. Maxine Nightingale – Right Back Where We Started
32. Bryan Adams, Melanie C – When You’re Gone
33. Toni Braxton, Babyface – Reunited
34. Cheap Trick – The Flame
35. Take That – Back for Good
36. Roberta Flack, Donny Hathaway – Back Together
37. The Supremes – Back In My Arms Again
38. Coldplay – The Scientist
39. OneRepublic, Sara Bareilles – Come Home
40. Jerrod Niemann – Come Back To Me
41. Coldplay feat. Tove Lo - Fun
42. Arctic Monkeys – Do I Wanna Know? (personally, my favourite in every way – musically, lyricallt, emotionally etc.)
43. Ella Fitzgerald – Lover Come Back
44. Dallas Green - Lover Come Back (I like it more modern by City and Colour)
Maybe a playlist about opposite - not wanting somebody’s back? Whoaah, I would have so many ideas! :-)
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 24, 2019:
Ted - It sounds like you did the right thing for everyone involved. No contact may be better for you in maintaining healthy boundaries between you and your ex. I hope you are able to work on your own personal growth and healing your heart. I have confidence that when you're ready to move on from your ex you'll find a positive new relationship.
Ted on July 24, 2019:
I’ve gotten back together, at her request only, for an intimate visit. It was difficult to do until I drew the line in the sand and said “This isn’t fair to either of us
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 27, 2019:
fightinglady88 - Your approach is a wise one. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish you all the best.
fightinglady88 on April 26, 2019:
I recently reconnected with a man that I dated 6 1/2 years ago. The first time we were together we got very far in a relationship. In fact, we both agree that we reached a point where marriage was very much in the cards for us even though we never got engaged. 6 1/2 years later we are now trying again, but at this point it's only been two months since we reconnected and we are taking it slow. We are not calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend yet but we are striving to reach that point. until then we are very grateful to be back together with each other and have a second chance with each other.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 18, 2019:
Buddy411 - I suspect he's trying to soften the blow of the breakup by making it seem that he's being "charitable," that this is for your own good because he's holding you back. In reality, the distance between you is probably too difficult on him and he feels the need to find someone else. Yes, this hurts, but don't try to change his mind. It doesn't mean you can't see him from time to time. Pursue other potential relationships. If it's truly meant to be, you'll find one another again and be better for the experience.
Buddy411 on April 17, 2019:
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago because I had moved away for university, we had made it through the first year and we got to see each other every fortnight and it always made the distance worth it. When he broke up with me it was the weekend I wasn't going home and so I was still at university. Its been a month and we met up and it felt like old times but he said he thinks he's holding me back and I've lost my confidence. How do I make him see he's not?
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 10, 2019:
Kayleigh - Thanks for your perspective. I'm sure there are others who would agree with you.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 25, 2019:
HL - That is a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it with us all. May you be happy together for the rest of your lives!
HL on January 24, 2019:
N and I met in highschool and dated for 2 years. We were each other’s first relationships and I knew back then he was “the one”. But he was too young and his parents weren’t okay with us being in such a serious relationship so he broke it off. After that, I got into another serious (but extremely toxic) relationship. We were together for 8 years and because of him I have my oldest son. Around the time I was realizing just how toxic it was and how I completely lost myself, God brought N and I back together. That was almost 4 years ago and we’re now married with another beautiful little boy. He quite literally saved my life...I was at the lowest point I’d ever been and couldn’t see how I was ever going to dig myself out....but he held my hand along the way and was so loving and patient while I found myself again. Now we have all the things I dreamt of but never thought I’d have. He not only saved my life, but because of him, my oldest son finally has a father who loves him and puts him first. I thank God every single day.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 23, 2019:
Leland, Thanks for your comment. I like Chicago, too.
Leland Johnson from Midland MI on January 21, 2019:
Flourish: 86 is a special number for me- I graduated highschool in 86 and, invert the number, I was born in 68! This is an impressive list! I have to say Chicago's "Hard for me to say I'm sorry" is my personal fav.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on December 21, 2018:
Zack - That's very sad. At this point, all you can do is be her friend and provide unwavering support. With the loss she is going through with her father, she has to be reassessing her life. (It's a tough time to get divorced in addition to losing a loved one!) Not pressuring her and showing her that your love is patient and unconditional will be of the most benefit. I wish the best thing for you both, buddy.
Zack on December 20, 2018:
I am currently going through a divorce with my wife whom i love with every lart of me! She says she is no longer in love with me and has not romantic feelings towards me anymore...
During all of this her father is also dying of stage 4 liver and brain cancer, i feel she is making an emotional decision and i wish she would wait and see if we cam mend the relationship...i would do anything to keep our marriage together but she refuses to seek counseling or try to work on anything.
Im truly devastated and want to be here to support her during this difficult season with her father. I love her with all my heart and only want to see her happy in life no matter what she does.
Thank you for these truly inspirational songs, i really needed these!
I just keep praying that God will return her love for me into her heart, these songs and everyones stories give me hope!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 12, 2018:
Poppy - What a wonderful story! Sometimes lovers need a time out to get their priorities straight. My husband and I had a similar story many, many years ago! May the best years of your lives be ahead of you!
Poppy from Enoshima, Japan on October 12, 2018:
I broke up with my partner for a bit because I was scared of commitment. Then a few weeks later I asked to get back together and he said yes, that he was waiting for me. We got married a few weeks ago and I’ve never been happier, I love him more every day. I’ll give these songs a listen.
Tom on May 11, 2018:
FlourishAway yes she was the first to see it.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on May 11, 2018:
TOM - I hope you provide this and many more beautiful poems to her for decades to come. Wishing you all the best!
TOM on May 11, 2018:
My story in the form of a poem I wrote shortly after we reconnected.
Hand in hand
With the wind at our back,
We were young and in love
With a life to unpack.
Between day and night.
We made our dreams,
Our story we’d write.
A summer of love,
One to transcend.
But a long goodbye
Was the start to the end.
We lived our lives for 36 years.
Never to see. Never to hear.
We lived our lives for 36 years.
An occasional thought, “I wonder where?”
True flames don’t die.
Add wind to a spark
A fire you’ll get,
To light up that dark.
The love of my life
Came back as that flame.
She lit up my life.
No darkness remains.
We’ll start once again
And go back to that time,
The wind at our back
Her hand in mine.
I won’t let her go
After 36 years.
I’ll hold her tight
Through laughter & tears.
To make up lost time.
She’ll always be mine.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on May 05, 2018:
Sarah - Thanks for sharing your story! It encourages others by letting them know that sometimes there is a "happily ever after." All the best to you both on a happy life together.
Sarah on May 05, 2018:
I was friends with this girl since kindergarten, okay? We start dating around eighth grade, as things are going really well. We competed against each other in this martial arts competition, though. Whoever won got entry into a prep school we were both aiming for. She won, and even though I was happy for her, she told me we were never friends, and that she just used me to win the contest.
I didn't see her again until my senior year, where we were once again competing in a martial arts competition. I beat her, but then one of my new friends helped me to realize that there was literally no way she could of been using me from the start. Not only is eight years an ungodly amount of time to fake a friendship, especially one where you spend over half of each day together, but we found out about the contest together, and signed up together as well! After we became friends.
A few months later, this girl i'm friends with invited me to investigate one of those supposedly haunted houses with her, her best friend, and a girl I didn't know. I agreed, and when I showed up, the last girl was none other than my childhood bestie/middle-school girlfriend.
The house wasn't actually haunted, but since it was old and abandoned, at one point the wood gave way under my ex, and I saved her from falling two stories down. I realized how much I needed her, and she apologized, so we got back together after four years. We're now married with three children!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 28, 2018:
Jim - Gosh, a week into the relationship and she needs a break to fix her problems? It sounds like she may have some serious issues to contend with or some unresolved feeling from a past relationship. This is more about her than you so let her concentrate on herself and just wish her well. Perhaps send her a card of support but concentrate on being a whole and happy person yourself. That's just my two cents. All you can do is "you."
Jim on April 28, 2018:
I’m currently waiting on my girl to come back. She said she wanted a break, then just stopped talking to me, and is avoiding me like the plague. I don’t even know if I did anything wrong, or what I did to deserve it. The most she told me is that she needs time to ‘fix her problems’, but I’m getting tired of waiting. We were literally a week into the relationship. Im sorry for bothering you, I’m sure you won’t even care about my life, or what is going on in it, but I just wanted to put this out there...
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 12, 2018:
kel - As a fractured couple with children between you, you have a decision to make regarding whether you can realistically coexist under the same roof when your relationship has changed in such a way. The immigration issue is a big one if it requires her participation in making you a Canadian citizen. People do all kinds of things in the name of changing their citizenship.
That aside, it seems like she has fallen out of love with you. This often happens slowly as a result of a lack of open and honest communication and affection. If you've poured your heart out and she still isn't feeling it, then you have to take her at her word. In the meantime, you both can concentrate on positively parenting your children together. You can also focus on becoming a better person and thus a better potential partner to her or someone else. Investment in making yourself a more connected, empathic, and loving person is never wasted. Age 31 is very young to say you're done looking for love. Best of luck to you.
kel on April 11, 2018:
me and my beautiful partner been together 10 years and have 4 children together 3 boys 1 baby girl, recently we had a small disagreement that sent us from not talking to one another for a week. untill after she was out and about came in me laying on the floor in the living room watching tv asked if we can talk. which we did and at the end of it said that its something she wants to tell me but didnt want to hurt me with what she was thinking about.. in a nutshell she asked if we should just be friends with me still under the same roof to take care of my kids and work.. (im living in Canada and is currently working on my citizenship). in that week i learned things about myself and me not having a male role model to guide me i learned things on my own, im 31 she is 29 we talked more withing the last couple days after she told me how she was feeling and did say she loved me but wasnt in love with me anymore! that crushed me, at the same time it was my fault for not being more affectionate and caring and our fault for not doing more as far as communication go's, the simple things, with involving just talking and cuddles. she dreaded me from touching her at all and havent kissed her in a week. with that being said i asked was it anyone else she said no but there is someone who pays attention to her and flirts with her and she does the same she told me at her job site. also told me what ever i do to try in win her over wont work im a better man now and is and been willing to do more but im not getting the same back. what should i do? should i continue to make it work on my end to show i've learned or it too late? there is no one after her for me, and i havent cheated on her which she told i was when i go out with friends. ugh idk what to do or how to feel
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on February 20, 2018:
Rene - What a story! Thank you for sharing it with us. I'm sure that it gives hope to everyone who married the wrong person and is miserable in their relationship, still stuck on that person in their past. Best of luck to you both!
Rene on February 20, 2018:
I dated my highschool sweetheart for 9 years in highschool and a little while after. There were a few on and off periods. When we were 24 (her) and 26 (me) I called it off, so I thought, for good. I went off and dated three different people in the 8 years we were apart. Her, being the sweetheart she always was, met a guy and got married. Knowing the type of girl she is I knew that if she got married that it was for good. So I gave up hope and came to the heart wrenching realization that the best thing to ever happen to me was gone for good because of the mind of a stupid and young 26 year old me.
After splitting up with my last of the 3 girlfriends I had honestly given up on this love thing. I had tried to make good on all of the wrongs that I had done while with (let’s call my sweetheart E)
I worked relentlessly to correct the faults in myself on the girls I was with after her. Only to have my efforts knocked down as karma looked me in the eye and smiled.
2 weeks ago I got a message from her best friend J. J told me that E had left her husband and was getting divorced. She went on to say that I was part of the reason she was leaving him. Turns out that the entire time I was changing myself for the wrong I did by her, she was thinking about me and the good side (though I thought there was t much of a good side) of me.
A couple days later E called me, she still remembered my number. We are currently back together and I have no intention of letting her down again. i waited through 9 years of dating and 8 years apart. This time I’m not wasting another minute. I’m going to buy the ring and have it ready for the second her divorce is finalized... I may not even wait till it’s done! I won’t let her go again.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 15, 2018:
Lonnie - Congratulations to you both. Thanks for sharing that story of reunited love. I'm sure that gives other people hope. All the best, Flourish
Lonnie on January 14, 2018:
So me and my ex dated for a year and broke up. I told her I was sorry and asked forgiveness but she didn’t want to hear it. She ended up marrying someone else. She was married for a couple years and sepperated. She then reached out to me 4 yrs after we broke up. We have now been back together for a year
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on November 19, 2017:
Sherry - What a wonderful story of reunited love! So happy for your family that you were able to come together finally and make it work. Thank you for sharing your story.
Sherry on November 18, 2017:
My husband and I dated 26 years ago. We had a son together(my only child). My husband wasn't ready to commit. We were so brilliant together back then. We ended the relationship and moved on. 17 years after we split our son insisted I find his father. We hadn't seen each other or had any contact in 17 years. I found him for the sake of our son. Our meeting again was God sent. All of us connected as a unit that can never be broken. We are married and have been happy now for over 8 years. Some things are just meant to be.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on November 14, 2017:
40 years - Wow! What a story! Thank you for sharing it! Many happy years ahead await ...
40 years and finally together on November 13, 2017:
He still says, “You were fourteen and it was “just a crush.” I say, “I knew! I always knew! I still know. It’s you and it’s always been you. You are the one!! You are my true love. It’s you. It’s always been you.
It was 1976. I was 14 and he was 19. I can see him in my mind as if it’s happening right now, right before my eyes. It was love at first site. In February of 1976, when I first walked into the bowling alley and he was working at the cash register. He had long curly hair encircling his perfect face, tall and thin with perfect posture. There he stood, dark eyes and wavy brown hair with a twisty curl that hung to the right of his forehead. I was mesmerized. How do I explain it? I can’t! It’s a feeling that I got and that I still get every time I see him. It doesn’t matter if I awaken in his arms or we meet up a few days later, it’s an indescribable feeling that overwhelms me, takes my breath away, makes my whole body tingle. A feeling that words barely begin to describe. It’s love true love. The kind of feeling that will cause you to do whatever pleases him, whatever makes him smile, whatever makes him happy. The fear of hurting him makes my heart ache. It’s like, I say to myself... I can never punish you. I can never hurt you. What can I do to make you happy? What can I do to make you want to be with me? I will fix everything for you. I will make you happy. In fact, making you happy it’s more important than anything else. It’s more important than my own happiness.
We’ve been reunited for 16 months and I am still thrilled to hear his voice or see his name pop up on my cell phone with a text.
My mom said, I was too young for him. She was wrong. We've missed so much. We have children that should have been ours. We have only been robbed of time and memories.
We are blessed to be together and I can’t allow myself to think beyond that.
When you know...you know!!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on October 06, 2017:
Lauren - Sorry to hear about your on again/off again romance. It sounds like Owen cannot be trusted much. Thanks for sharing.
Lauren Loker on October 05, 2017:
So my ex Owen and me thought it was love and we were a on off relationship.I found today which is my birthday that maybe I should move on because at lunch today we got together and then as soon as I got home he called and said" hey Lauren my parents are making me break up with you because of me getting a miner" and he has got a miner before so I seriously doubt that his parents are making him.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 10, 2017:
Tanya - Thanks for sharing your story. I really hope you find a way to work it out, whether it's a long distance relationship or involves one or both of you moving to a new location. Thanks for the suggestion of the Peabo Bryson song which I used to replace the duplicate Cher/Peter Cetera song. Guess I really liked that one. Welcome to HubPages!
EMTgoneNUTZ on July 10, 2017:
I'm new here, so first of all-Hello. :-) I found you by searching for songs about rekindling an old flame from years past. Excellent hub! I've bookmarked you for future reading!
Also, I have a song for you to add, as well as one that I noticed you've duplicated in your list-that being 'After All' by Peter Cetera & Cher. I probably only noticed it because that's the song I walked down the aisle to at my wedding in 2001 (we were an on again/off again couple for nearly 9 years...ended up divorcing after just 2yrs of marriage. Ugh.). The song that I think would be a good one to add is one of my favorites: 'If Ever You're In My Arms Again' by Peabo Bryson. I've been listening to it almost nonstop for weeks, as it's looking/feeling like an old flame from when I was just 15yrs old (I'm now 43) and I are working our way back to each other's arms. It's a REALLY scary thought for me as I've been single for 10.5yrs & up until now have had ZERO intention or desire to get romantically involved ever again, however, I have said at times (before even having ANY clue he felt the same way) to a couple people that if I ever were to entertain the idea again it would be with this man. Sure enough it seems we're both on the same page. BUT (there's always a but, isn't there? Lol) there is one issue that's weighing heavily on both our minds & is keeping us both from letting our guards down completely....we live 2500 miles apart-he is in Cali & I am in Mich, & while he does WANT to move back here, he has a young son there he simply can't move away from, which I completely understand. And my 3 (grown) sons are here as will be my future grandbabies that I cannot be that far away from either....so yea, we're kinda stuck in an almost impossible position as far as any relationship might be concerned so both trying to stop ourselves from falling too hard too fast right now. Hence why I'm making a sappy playlist of these such songs, LOL!
Anyway-thank you for this great list! :-)
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on July 06, 2017:
Tynese - Thank you for sharing your story about reuniting with your first love! Best of luck to you youngsters.
Tynese on July 05, 2017:
My first boyfriend and I reunited after 30+ we both married others had families but connected like we never lost communication .its almost like we're kids again it may be true if u love someone set them free if it's in Gods will it will be.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on June 15, 2017:
Juan Rodriquez - Thank you for sharing your story. I hope the best thing happens for you both. I hope that you continue to lead a clean and sober life and that she can find her way. Best of luck in your journey.
juan rodriguez on June 15, 2017:
Interesting enough, my ex and I broke up 8 years ago. There's been a lot of bad that happened but it's strange how the heart forgives. Right now she is on her way to prison for a year and I'm the only person who has put in the time and effort to show her support. And we are definitely falling in love again. Though we were drug addicts in the past I've been sober for over 7 years and she is learning to live sober. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on June 06, 2017:
JiErQuMa - Have you considered reaching out to her and telling her how you feel?
JiErQuMa on June 05, 2017:
I'm still waiting for my girl to come back, It's been six months and I'm still waiting.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on May 07, 2017:
Christina - Thank you for sharing your personal story of reunited love. We wish you the best as you move forward happily ever after together.
Christina on May 06, 2017:
I was in love with a man all through my high school years. It was on again off again and well he was the bad boy who just wasn't growing up but I loved him. Towards the end I was bigger then the whole situation and moved away and went to college and we remained friends. I always had him in my thoughts but met someone in college and moved on and we moved back to my home town. They became friends who would have thought. I eventually got married and well my exbf was suppose to be in the wedding and yet still he had not grown up and we kicked him out. All the while I was glad because I wouldn't have been saying I do to my husband I would have been looking at my exbf a groomsmen. Now we have always been friends but I just had that feeling I couldn't let go of. My marriage failed not on my part but because my husband couldn't be faithful. He even went running to my exbf and my exbf at this point I knew had finally grown. He said man...Ive been friends with her for way longer then you and I know her probably better then you and whatever you say she had to of had a good reason to end it so i don't want to here your pitty story. I later had saw my exbf and he told me of my ex husband I laughed as my unfaithful husband was just that and I am a very strong woman and don't deserve it. I even told my exbf I walked away from you which was the hardest choice in my life...walking away from my unfaithful husband was easy. We were friends we always talked and kept in touch. ANYHOW 2 years ago my exbf asked me out and we have been together since and getting married in august! He said I don't know why I never saw you the way you saw me but when I saw you that one day it was like it was the first time I ever saw you. I said well honestly I had to find myself and be happy with myself and you had to grow up and it took you a while but Im glad you finally did cause i have always and will always love you.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on April 04, 2017:
SC - My heart goes out to you, particularly given that you have 3 3/4 kids together. I urge you to talk with a therapist or counselor, either together or apart. If he won't go, then you can pursue counseling for yourself as it provides an opportunity to gain understanding and personal insight as well as make wise choices regarding where to go from here. You're at a very vulnerable time in your life with your delivery so close at hand, and I recommend seeking such support and understanding.
SC on April 04, 2017:
Thank you for giving me back some hope. My husband of 10 years just told me about 2 months ago he is no longer in love with me. He has met someone new and doesn't know what he wants to do about it. She is unavailable but he is still trying to pursue her I believe. We have 3 kids together and 1 due May 22. I have been unable to function as he is my 1st everything and this came out of nowhere. So thank you for giving me back some hope in my darkness and when I felt like giving up.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on March 21, 2017:
Lisa - Thanks for sharing your story of long lost and FOUND love. May you both find happiness.
Lisa on March 21, 2017:
My first love and I broke up 31 years ago. I married another guy and had 2 children. He had never married. I am in process of getting divorced and I have rekindled a love with my first love. It's better than it was 31 years ago. I was never happily married and thought of my first love all of the time. He has been waiting for me. We are together and stronger and more in love than ever. I WILL marry my first love.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on February 22, 2017:
F - That would be "Other." Thanks.
F on February 22, 2017:
How is "No - I wanted to get back together but they didn't want to" not an option? I feel like that's the case for a lot of people. Like most people go through that at least once. Especially in our younger years
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on January 30, 2017:
Chad - Sometimes life has a way of coming back full circle. Thank you for your inspiring love story. I wish you both the best in love and happiness.
chad on January 29, 2017:
18 years ago, I had a beautiful girlfriend and we loved each other dearly. I was in the military and had to serve a tour overseas. I made a choice to disappear from her life rather than ask her to give up everything (family, job, house etc) to follow me wherever the military sent me. Now Im retired, divorced and we both have kids. I reached out to her to if nothing more say hello and see if we could be friends. The feelings that we had then were still there and once we started talking it was like we picked up right where we left off. I never believed that second chances could happen (at least for me anyway), but its happening and our love for one another is growing everyday and I know that I have found my soulmate because we both truly belief that the way we feel about each other that we were truly meant to be together. I am truly blessed to have this beautiful woman in my life and I will never let go. I have truly met the ONE and I never thought I could feel this way ever!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on November 10, 2016:
Christina - A beautiful story. Much success and forever love to you both. Thank you for sharing your story of reunited love.
Christina Horrell on November 10, 2016:
I fell in love with this beautiful brown eyed long curly brown haired girl when we were teenagers and have always been drawn back to each other the last 20 years, 8 years ago it became more than our usual back and forth and we spent 5 years together before I pissed away my dream in 2013. Well last new years eve I realized my life wasn't right without her, after all the pain I caused her it took time and being cautious with trusting me but we are finally on our way to making our dreams come true
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 17, 2016:
Frank, Thank you for stopping by. I appreciate your visit. Have a terrific weekend.
Frank Atanacio on September 17, 2016:
wow flourish thank you for the memories.. still loving these types of hubs :)
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 13, 2016:
Larry - Covered. Thanks for stopping by!
Larry Rankin from Oklahoma on September 12, 2016:
Songs that come to mind which I saw on the list:,reunited and I put your picture away.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 05, 2016:
BlossomSB - Thank you for the kind comment. I'm glad you enjoyed the images. I work hard on them but the editors like to snip 'em out. Frustrating! Have a great week!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 05, 2016:
Heidi - That's what I immediately went to as well. I think it shows my age, but it's a classic for a reason. Totally awesome! Hope you have a fabulous week ahead. Can't believe it's September already.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 05, 2016:
MsDora - Those are lovely words to summarize a reunited partnership. Thank you for stopping by. Have a beautiful week.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 05, 2016:
Devika - I like your perspective. Thanks for taking a look. I hope you are doing well.
Bronwen Scott-Branagan from Victoria, Australia on September 05, 2016:
Wow! You've done a lot of research for this - and with all those interesting images, too - an interesting hub.
Heidi Thorne from Chicago Area on September 05, 2016:
As soon as I saw this hub's title in my alerts, I immediately thought of Peaches & Herb's "Reunited." Glad to see you included that 70s classic. Hope you're having a relaxing, labor-less Labor Day Weekend! Cheers!
Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on September 05, 2016:
After all the stories and the lyrics, I choose to remember: "better together than apart." Fantastic!
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on September 04, 2016:
I don't look back. I move forward. I like your hub.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 04, 2016:
Al - Thank you for your lovely endorsement. May you have a terrific week ahead!
Al Wordlaw from Chicago on September 04, 2016:
This is a great lineup of songs about getting back together. Great job Flourish.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 04, 2016:
Linda - Thanks for the enthusiastic feedback! I appreciate you! Have a great week ahead!
Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on September 04, 2016:
Your music hubs are so awesome!! So much country!! I voted for 'once I am done, I am done."
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 04, 2016:
FaithReaper - Those two songs might be my favorites as well. I wanted to put "Baby Come Back" in the first slot, but the video was not the best quality. An old boyfriend used to jokingly sing that to me because he knew we were on the outs. And the song "Austin" makes me wonder what the backstory was. Your relationship is such a model for others, marrying your high school sweetheart and being happy after all these years. I'm glad you know nothing about the getting back together thing. May you forever stay that way!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 04, 2016:
Linda - Thank you for your kind endorsement. I liked her quote as well. Sometimes I wonder why people obsess over one person when there are so many options in the world -- 7 billion and counting. If it was meant to be the person will come back. Mine did and I married him!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 04, 2016:
Bill - Your mind is in novel writing, my talented and very productive friend! Keep up that writing!
Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on September 04, 2016:
I saw the title and I couldn't think of any. LOL I'm not sure what that says about me, but I loved the list...especially the one by Jason Mraz. :)
Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on September 03, 2016:
This is yet another informative and interesting mix of music, quotations and facts. The effort that you put into your playlist hubs always produces a great result. I love the quote by J.K. Rowling.
Faith Reaper from southern USA on September 03, 2016:
Another fantastic list here! Well, I can't say I've ever had a redo because I'm still with the original LOL ...that would be a difficult thing in my mind because for one to "break up", it had to have been pretty bad. But I've never been in that situation, so I really can't say.
I love your descriptions of what the songs entail, as they are what really makes these hubs ...your writing.
I love that Austin one by Blake Shelton for one of the more recent ones and Baby Come Back, but so many are great blasts from the past.
Well done once again!
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 03, 2016:
Shyron - Thank you for always being such a loyal reader. I appreciate you! I've added your song to the list! Have a terrific holiday weekend, dear friend.
FlourishAnyway (author) from USA on September 03, 2016:
Kyriaki - Thank you for being such a loyal reader! I enjoy thinking up themes then researching songs to fit the theme. I get to rediscover a lot of songs that have been pushed to the back of my memory. Have a wonderful weekend!
Kyriaki Chatzi on September 03, 2016:
Hi, Flourish. I will be honest. It's a delight to see you post new articles because I look forward to hearing your music suggestions! Another great piece!! Congratulations!
Shyron E Shenko from Texas on September 03, 2016:
You don't know how much I look forward to these and hearing the wonderful songs and to be able to add to this list if I can. I looked for one of my favorites and it was not here, Susan Raye & Buck Owens
'Good Old Days'
"Good Old Days Are Here Again"
The good old days are here again,
My baby's coming home
She'll soon be back within my arms
Yes, back where she belongs.
The lonely nights are gone for good,
Like castles in the air
The good old days are here again
God answered all my prayers.
The train is stoppin' at the station
I can hardly stand this waitin' here she comes
Watch her as she runs to meet me
Trembling lips that strain to greet me.
God she's warm.
The lonely nights are gone for good,
Like castles in the air
The good old days are here again
God answered all my prayers.
The lonely nights are gone...
Blessings my friend