105 Songs About Domestic Violence and Child Abuse

Updated on April 20, 2019
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Spread awareness about domestic violence and child abuse with a playlist of pop, rock, and country songs.  Be part of the solution.
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The Dangerous, Ugly Cycle of Domestic Violence

Chances are that you know someone who abuses his or her partner or children. They could be a relative, coworker, neighbor, someone you go to church with, even your child's teacher or coach.

Perhaps you want to dismiss that as an unlikely possibility or as someone else's problem. However, domestic abuse crosses all socioeconomic, demographic, and religious boundaries. Here's the ugly truth:

  • Every nine seconds in the United States, a woman is beaten.
  • Ten million American children are exposed to domestic violence each year.
  • Long-term impacts of child abuse include higher risks of smoking, drinking, and sexual activity at an early age; illicit substance abuse; criminal activity; teen pregnancy; adult psychopathology and suicide; and even heart and liver disease decades later.
  • Children who grew up in abusive homes are at a three-fold risk of perpetuating the cycle.

Outside of the secrecy of home, the vast majority of abusers are law-abiding citizens without criminal records. However, the trauma that they inflict can last a lifetime.

One way you can help spread awareness about the epidemic of domestic violence and child abuse is through music. Make a playlist of pop, rock, and country songs about this painful, moving topic that impacts so many lives.

You can also be attentive. Lives may depend on you noticing and reporting what you see. (Click here to learn about traits and warning signs of abusers or here regarding what to do if you think someone is abusing a child.)

1. "Concrete Angel" by Martina McBride

This heart wrenching 2002 country song features an abused little girl who packs her own lunch and walks to school in the same dress she wore yesterday. She hides bruises and the awful secret of how they got there.

Although a teacher wonders about the child's home life, no one dares to ask or intervene. Without a lifeline, the sad little girl becomes a cemetery concrete angel, eyes cast skyward. Her spirit flies away to a place where she is finally loved.

2. "Cherry Wine" by Hozier

Conveyed from the perspective of the battered partner, this 2016 pop song highlights the confusion, justification, and self-blame felt in abusive love relationships. The narrator is involved with a woman with an icy stare and a bad temper, and he unfortunately mistakes her outbursts as love:

The way she shows me I'm hers and she is mine
Open hand or closed fist would be fine
The blood is rare and sweet as cherry wine.

3. "Luka" by Suzanne Vega

Abuse victims often provide similar rationales to others for their wounds: "I'm clumsy" or "I walked into the door again." Those are some of the reasons the protagonist gives for her injuries. She is a young girl named Luka, and she addresses a downstairs neighbor in her apartment building who must've heard the abuse late at night. Dutifully trying to protect her abuser(s), Luka tries to convince the neighbor that it's all under control.

The 1987 pop tune became an international hit. This was the same year that lawyer Joel Steinberg and companion Hedda Nussbaum were charged with the beating and subsequent death of an illegally adopted six-year-old child in their care. The case received national attention.

Steinberg ultimately was convicted of manslaughter but is out on parole today. Meanwhile, Nussbaum, a battered person herself, escaped punishment and now lives under an assumed name.

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4. "Never Again" by Nickelback

Children who are trapped in their parents' abusive marriages experience more trauma than their parents understand. In this 2002 rock song, a child describes his drunken father using his mother as a punching bag. He subsequently instructs her to tell the emergency room nurse that she slipped and fell.

When the violence repeats itself, the battered woman pulls a gun on her husband in self-defense. All of their lives are about to change permanently.

5. "Alyssa Lies" by Jason Michael Carroll

Based on a true story of a little girl who was abused, this 2007 country song was so emotionally grueling to write that it took the singer-songwriter two years to complete. It also gave him migraines.

The tune portrays a girl whose school playmate lies to classmates and others about her bruises to protect her abuser. The daughter realizes something is wrong and asks her father why Alyssa lies. Before the father could report the suspicions to authorities, the classmate had been beaten to death by her abuser.

6. "Because of You" by Kelly Clarkson

This 2005 ballad reached the top of the charts and became an international hit. It describes the lasting impact of growing up with psychological abuse. The narrator attributes her overcautious, untrusting tendencies and fear of taking chances to her father. The harsh criticism she endured has left her with a deep sense of shame.

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One-quarter of all adults report having been physically abused as children.
One-quarter of all adults report having been physically abused as children. | Source

7. "Behind the Wall" by Tracy Chapman

Every night the neighbor in this 1987 pop song hears the screaming and loud voices in the adjoining apartment. From experience, she has learned that it's pointless to call the police because nothing will be done.

Not being able to help makes her feel victimized as well:

And when they arrive
They say they can't interfere
With domestic affairs
Between a man and his wife
And as they walk out the door
The tears well up in her eyes.

8. "Kiss with a Fist" by Florence + The Machine

These two so-called lovers need to be separated for their own safety. Neither love nor affection is supposed to physically hurt, but the narrator in this 2008 pop song doesn't understand that.

She and her lover trade escalating hits, punches, slaps, and even broken bones. They confuse their mutual violence for love or something like it. Hey, break it up, go get healthy, and don't date anyone until you do. (Florence Welch alleges this song isn't about domestic violence, but I'm not buying it.)

9. "The Little Girl" by John Michael Montgomery

Even if you aren't religious, this 2000 country song will tug at your heart. It describes the young daughter of an alcoholic father and drug-addicted mother. The child thought she was fending for herself.

Poorly parented, the girl was left alone to watch television all day while her parents battled each other and gave in to the worst of their substance abuse. During the most unbearable moments, she hid in fear behind the family sofa. That's where she crouched when her enraged father turned a gun on both her mother and himself one night, making her an orphan.

In her foster home, she went to Sunday school for the first time and saw a picture of Jesus on the cross. Immediately, she recognized Him as the same man who hid behind the couch with her that fateful night.

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Highly trained advocates are available 24/7 to talk confidentially with anyone experiencing domestic violence, seeking information or resources, or questioning unhealthy aspects of their relationship.

10. "Run for Your Life" by The Beatles

When you think of The Beatles, chances are the first thing that pops into your mind is not the misogynistic death threat in this 1965 rock song. However, let's be honest: Mr. Peace and Love, John Lennon, did hit women and children.

Primarily a Lennon composition, this sinister ditty speaks for itself:

Well, I'd rather see you dead, little girl
Than to be with another man
You better keep your head, little girl
Or you won't know where I am.

11. "Warrior" by Demi Lovato

The narrator in this 2012 pop song recalls experiencing childhood trauma, a criminal act that changed her forever. She regrets that she was forced to grow up too fast and for so long felt broken and bruised. However, now, she wears her pain like a battle scar and describes herself as a warrior and a survivor.

Studies show that one in five girls and one in 20 boys is a victim of child sexual abuse, although these numbers could be higher because such abuse is often not reported.

12. "Hush" by Hellyeah

Frontman Chad Gray and others like him have grown up within an abusive environment that many of us can only imagine. This 2014 heavy metal song is about that hell. It describes what can go on in emotionally and physically unsafe homes: insulting names, beatings to the point that the narrator peed his pants, screams, and strangleholds.

The song was meant to spark conversations about domestic violence. Chad Gray wanted others who had experienced abuse like he did to know that they are not alone. He also had this message about domestic violence:

Life is full of forgiveness, and I’ve had to forgive to live a more settled life. So forgive, lay down your arms, be a better person and take a stand with me.

13. "Gunpowder and Lead" by Miranda Lambert

Don't try this at home. In this sassy 2007 country song, the narrator was beaten by her live-in lover. Now, she's toting a loaded gun and is seeking revenge.

After topping up on liquid courage, she waits by the front door with a loaded shotgun, cigarette hanging from her lips. She's waiting for her abuser to return from his all-too-brief stint in jail.

Ominously, she warns, "His fist is big, but my gun's bigger. He'll find out when I pull the trigger."

14. "Two Beds and a Coffee Machine" by Savage Garden

Trapped in a relationship where she's a human punching bag, the woman in this haunting 1999 pop song often takes her kids and escapes the abuse, even if it's just for a short time. They spend the night in cheap hotels with two beds and a coffee machine.

Unfortunately, with groceries and other bills, she feels the economic pressure to keep returning home. She wonders how they will ever make it through.

15. "What's the Matter Here?" by 10,000 Maniacs

Bystanders are so afraid to get involved, but that's one reason why an estimated five children die every day from child abuse and neglect. Natalie Merchant, who wrote the song, based it on a real family who once lived nearby.

The 1987 rock song profiles a woman who realizes that her neighbors are abusing their young son. She hears the threats of violence and sees their half-naked child run into the yard, looking for a place to hide. Rather than calling authorities, however, she hesitates, struggling with whether to speak up or continue to mind her own business. What would you do?

16. "Church Bells" by Carrie Underwood

This darkly entertaining country song from 2015 tells the story of a poor but beautiful girl, Jenny, who married a millionaire. However, the trouble was this: he was an angry and violent drunk, and all the money in the world couldn't make up for that fact.

Eventually, Jenny grew tired of being on the receiving end of black eyes and bruises, so she slipped a permanent solution into her old man's whiskey. And then they were even.

17. "I'm OK" by Christina Aguilera

According to this 2002 pop song, when you grow up in a home where there is domestic violence, reaching adulthood is like surviving years living in a combat zone. The bruises and marks fade, but the guilt and anguish have left permanent scars. Despite her father's abuse against her mother, the narrator provides reassurance that she's made it out okay.

18. "Love the Way You Lie" by Eminem (featuring Rihanna)

The push and pull of a mutually addictive, brutal relationship—that's what this 2009 song is about. And the artists who sing it should know a thing or two about the topic, as they've each been involved in toxic love affairs.

The international chart-topper depicts the cycle of violent aggression between lovers, the lies that it will never happen again, and the justifications for not walking away from the unhealthy relationship.

1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. - National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV)
1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. - National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) | Source

19. "Rearview Mirror" by Pearl Jam

Home is supposed to be a safe place, but the young man in this 1993 rock song has endured years of beatings, humiliation, and fear there. As he drives away from the horrors of his past, he feels emancipation, and he sees the abusive situation more clearly in his rearview mirror.

20. "Oh, Mother" by Christina Aguilera

This tender pop song from 2006 addresses the narrator's mother who was a victim of spousal abuse for years. Her mother covered up her own cuts and bruises, but when her husband turned his violent rage on the kids, she decided that was it. The narrator thanks her mother for her bravery and reassures her that together they will always pull through.

In the United States, there is a one in three chance that a high school aged girl experiences violence in a dating relationship.
In the United States, there is a one in three chance that a high school aged girl experiences violence in a dating relationship. | Source

Even More Songs About Domestic Violence and Child Abuse

Song
Artist
Year Released
21. Janie's Got a Gun
Aerosmith
1989
22. His Hands
Jennifer Nettles
2014
23. Black and Blue
Mindy McCready
unreleased
24. Pulling Teeth
Green Day
1994
25. Kristy, Are You Doing Okay?
The Offspring
2008
26. Devil in a Midnight Mass
Billy Tallent
2006
27. Independence Day
Martina McBride
1993
28. Levi Stubbs' Tears
Billy Bragg
1986
29. Good Enough
Sarah McLachlin
1993
30. Daughter
Pearl Jam
1993
31. Holy Water
Big & Rich
2004
32. Johnny Get Angry
Joanie Sommers
1962
33. Goodbye Earl
Dixie Chicks
1999
34. Call Me Guilty
Jazmine Sullivan
2008
35. Hell is for Children
Pat Benatar
1980
36. For The Love of a Daughter
Demi Lovato
2010
37. Blown Away
Carrie Underwood
2012
38. Broken Girl
Matthew West
2010
39. Steven
Jake Miller
2013
40. 11th Commandment
Collin Raye
1998
41. Karate
Brad Paisley
2013
42. Girl
Destiny's Child
2005
43. Dear Father
Black Sabbath
2012
44. Nobody Wins
Jodeci
2015
45. Tell Me Why
Taylor Swift
2008
46. Leave
Michael W. Smith
2010
47. He Hit Me (And It Felt Like a Kiss)
The Crystals
1963
48. 30 Minute Break
The Luka State
2014
49. Dear Mr. Jesus
PowerSource
1986
50. Open Wounds
Skillet
2003
51. Bang and Blame
R.E.M.
1994
52. Don't Leave Me Now
Pink Floyd
1979
53. Amy in the White Coat
Bright Eyes
2006
54. Crawling
Linkin Park
2000
55. Ask Me
Amy Grant
1990
56. Do You Know Where Your Children Are?
Michael Jackson
2014
57. Runaway Love
Ludacris (featuring Mary J. Blige)
2006
58. Sleep
Stabbing Westward
1996
59. Candyman
Siouxdie and The Banshees
1986
60. Evening Shade
Dolly Parton
1969
61. A Child Called "It"
Buckcherry
2008
62. Oh, Father
Madonna
1989
63. Don't Let Daddy Kiss Me
Motorhead
1993
64. Nowhere to Stand
k.d. lang and The Reclines
1989
65. Hands Clean
Alanis Morissette
2002
66. Daddy's Little Defect
Sugarcult
2001
67. Flinch
Alanis Morissette
2002
68. I Would Be Stronger Than That
Faith Hill
1993
69. A Man's Home Is His Castle
Faith Hill
1995
70. Black Eyes, Blue Tears
Shania Twain
1997
71. Hotter Than Hell
Dua Lipa
2017
72. Vicious Love
New Found Glory
2014
73. Cold Case Love
Rihanna
2009
74. Hey Men
Men Without Hats
1989
75. In The Night
The Weeknd
2015
76. Russian Roulette
Rihanna
2009
77. Bang Bang
Nancy Sinatra
1966
78. Little Toy Guns
Carrie Underwood
2015
79. Daddy's Girl
Scorpions
1993
80. Yvette
Jason Isbell
2013
81. The Stairs
Reba McEntire
1987
82. Ultraviolence
Lana Del Rey
2014
83. Praying
Kesha
2017
84. Elastic Heart
Sia
2015
85. Please Don't Believe Me
Terry Sue Crawford
2002
86. It Shouldn't Hurt to Be a Child
Hollow Hearts Ft: Calli Kathleen.
2012
87. Daddy, Did You Know?
Lelica
2011
88. Only Women Bleed
Lita Ford
1990
89. Face Down
The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus
2006
90. Delilah
Tom Jones
1968
91. Mother Dear
The Supremes
1965
92. Alive
Pearl Jam
1991
93. Sarah Yellin'
3 Doors Down
2002
94. Justified Black Eye
Tony Sly
2004
95. Revenge
Papa Roach
2000
96. What She Had to
Lonestar
2006
97. I Am, I Feel
Alisha's Attic
1996
98. Woman in the Wall
The Beautiful South
1989
99. Broken Wing
Martina McBride
1997
100. Facade
Disturbed
2008
101. Her Demon
Hollow Hearts Infectious (featuring Calli Kathleen)
2015
102. Father of Mine
Everclear
1998
103. Miss Me More
Kelsea Ballerini
2018
104. Too. Beautiful
He Is We
2018
105. Evidence
Tara MacLean
1996
Know a song about domestic violence or child abuse (that doesn't seem to promote it)? If we left off one of your favorites, make a suggestion in the Comments Section below.
Children who experience abuse and neglect are 9 times more likely to become involved in criminal activity.
Children who experience abuse and neglect are 9 times more likely to become involved in criminal activity. | Source

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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      • FlourishAnyway profile imageAUTHOR

        FlourishAnyway 

        5 hours ago from USA

        Bill Tell- Thank you for this song recommendation which I've added.

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        Bill Tell 

        11 hours ago

        "Evidence" by Tara MacLean should definitely be included in this list. It is a powerful song. "Can you hear the child in tears, Whose paradise was taken from his hands?" and "Can you hear the child in tears,

        Whose innocence was stolen from her hands?" speak for themselves.

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        Robert Sacchi 

        3 weeks ago

        Yes, that seems to fit better.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        3 weeks ago from USA

        Bob - I'm going to add this to the playlist of songs about stalking and obsessive love if it's not already on there. Thanks for the suggestion.

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        Robert Sacchi 

        3 weeks ago

        What about "Delilah" by Tom Jones.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        3 weeks ago from USA

        M - Thank you for this suggestion. I'm adding it. Be well and spread the message that domestic violence and child abuse are unacceptable.

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        3 weeks ago

        A song that I think would really fit in this list is too beautiful by he is we. Check it out

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        FlourishAnyway 

        3 weeks ago from USA

        babs181 - Thank you for that suggestion. It certainly speaks to all the emotional manipulation of domestic violence.

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        babs181 

        4 weeks ago

        Not sure if this has already been mentioned, but Kelsea Ballerini, miss me more is my new anthem

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        FlourishAnyway 

        2 months ago from USA

        poozybear - I'm so sorry you had to deal with this (and will always deal with its legacy). Unfortunately, when it comes to parenting, people can only give to their children what they have. A mentally ill parent like your mother doesn't necessarily have the appropriate emotional resources to share. I hope you are working with a good quality professional therapist to help you work through the impacts. I hope you find peace, emotional and physical safety, and positive, fulfilling relationships so the cycle of abuse is broken. Thank you for sharing. All the best, FlourishAnyway

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        poozybear 

        2 months ago

        I had a mother with NPD who subjected me to emotional abuse, sabotage and gaslighting. The lyrics in the Everclear song that speak to me (and to others who have suffered similar abuse) are:

        I will never be safe

        I will never be sane

        I will always be weird inside

        I will always be lame

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        FlourishAnyway 

        2 months ago from USA

        poozybear - That's a sad child abandonment song. What's saddest is that it was autobiographical for the lead singer of Everclear. I'm sorry that you can relate to it.

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        poozybear 

        2 months ago

        One I've always related to, about child abuse:

        "Father of Mine" by Everclear

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        FlourishAnyway 

        2 months ago from USA

        Xen - Thank you for your list of song suggestions. I've had a chance to go through them and have added them to the appropriate playlists, including the playlist about perfection and struggling to be perfect; stalkers and obsessive love; and losers and failing. Even the ones that didn't fit may have sparked an idea or two for future playlists. Thank you! I appreciate you!

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        Xen NGU 

        2 months ago

        IDK how fitting these are but I think they do.

        Daddy Jewel

        Numb by Linkin Park

        Perfect by Alanis Morissette

        Skyscraper - Demi Lovato

        Spiderwebs - No Doubt - stalking harassment

        Amy by Green Day - Amy Winehouse's who was abused

        The Kids Aren't Alright by The Offspring

        Wrong Way by Sublime

        Polly by Nirvana - a serial rapist abducts 14 year old girl

        Mother by John Lennon

        I am certain I have more in my collection...my life experiences have given me a sensitivity and I tend tie songs into my personal broad definition of abuse. Even when others do not see the context.... Like songs about toxic relationships and bad break-ups, songs about self abuse..

        Well good list, I had most of those myself but I got a few new ones and was remind of some...like Indepence Day..I totally forgot and I loved that song when I was a kid.

        I hope to hear back on my suggestions if you think they work. I can extrapolate more too.

        Xen

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        FlourishAnyway 

        2 months ago from USA

        Drew - There is tragic underreporting of domestic violence and child abuse across the spectrum, and males (particularly grown men) are certainly among the invisible victims. In my professional and personal life, I have encountered several men who have been battered (albeit there were dozens of women too). We all know someone, whether we realize it or not.

        My intent here in this playlist is to simply raise awareness. The lead photo had to portray someone, and I chose a photo with a female because the statistics indicate that females are the victims of reported abuse at higher rates. This is not to minimize the experience of males.

        You're right that women tend to perpetrate certain types of abuse at slightly higher rates than men. Boys also have higher rates of fatality from child abuse than girls. However, it's important not to make broad inferences that women are chiefly responsible for this epidemic, this cycle of violence. We ALL must own this tragedy.

        I tried to be careful to present information from credible sources such as the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and academic journals, to provide statistics for both males and females, and to use gender-neutral language such as "partner" where appropriate. If I fell short, I hope you'll consider that it was designed as a playlist rather than an article on domestic violence per se.

        Wishing you well. Thank you for your comment.

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        Drew 

        2 months ago

        Thanks for this list but I want to say something but I'm not trying to sound like a jerk I almost did not go through this list when I first came to this because the very first thing I saw was a picture with words in it and it was giving us the statistic of domestic violence victims and it only gave one statistic and that was domestic violence against women. I just think it is 2019 and we know that men are almost victims of domestic violence as much as women and that women are fully capable of doing just as much damage if not more so than men we also know that children that are abused have a 50/50 chance of either becoming another abuser or they are the complete opposite end of the spectrum. Child abuse statistics show that young boys are abused at a much higher rate than girls and that the abuse done to young boys results in death much more frquently than what is done to girls. We also have learned that most child abuse is committed by the mother like 70-something percent it's outrageous. I think all this shows some type of causation here. When women abuse their children they start the cycle and are largely responsible for creating the animal that grows up and becomes an abuser of women so it's so much more complicated than just saying men just beat women it's nothing like that it's never been like that we just didn't acknowledge it or realize it until recently. Perfect example of this up until just a few years ago in the United States the very definition of rape was gender-biased it was specific to women being a victim which sent a message that if you were a man you couldn't be raped or sexually assaulted but if you include prison rapes and you should because it doesn't matter where it happens rape is rape men are victims of sexual assaults more than women I think things like this that draw attention to the subject are wonderful but seeing its 2019 we need to get our act together and quit being gender-biased about this stuff because we're not that dumb anymore this is not 1945

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        FlourishAnyway 

        2 months ago from USA

        Kate - This is awful and I'm sorry that both of you have had to endure this abusive behavior. She can't possibly be well enough to work or exist in any manner outside the home. It does sound like you have a plan, although I hate that you both have to wait that long for it to come to fruition. Please consider calling the resources listed above in the article. You don't have to move as far away as Germany, just to another state and cut contact with her. Most of all, take care of yourself.

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        Kate 

        2 months ago

        Candle Queen fairly accurately depicts my mom's attitude and life path. Everything, from a dropped plate of food, to a stubbed toe is deserving of a full on crying meltdown. We are expected to say nothing, even give her emotional support, or else we're "abusing her". We're also expected to do everything for her (she doesn't view it that way).

        She gets upset about the most arbitrary and harmful ( to us) things. Example: she gets upset every time my underweight 6'2" teen brother (he looks like a stick) tries to eat. She won't make food, she won't allow him to make food, she wont buy anything (like carrots or apples) that don't require prep, and she won't allow him to go out to eat. I try to slip him as much food as I can manage when I come home from college (where I do my own shopping). Its a similar situation with laundry.

        If you don't think it is abuse, I just started having roommates this past term. They keep observing weird behavior from me. I keep expecting them to verbally attack me for minor infractions. I apologize more than most people. I keep trying to clean for them when they start cleaning, I have to stave off a panic attack every time someone comes into the kitchen while I am cooking, weird crap like that.

        I am graduating from college in 6 months. My brother leaves for college in 9. She has about a year to figure her stuff out before I get enough money to live in an apartment. At that point, I will be letting my brother crash at my apartment during the summers, and once I have enough language skills and money saved up, I am moving to Germany (I live in the US).

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        FlourishAnyway 

        3 months ago from USA

        I - Thanks for the suggestion.

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        3 months ago

        Maybe Superheroes by the Script?

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        FlourishAnyway 

        4 months ago from USA

        Katie - Thank you for the song suggestion which I am adding. Please take good care of yourself. If you are in crisis, please contact 911, the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). I'm sorry this topic resonates with you.

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        Katie 

        4 months ago

        Back again with another song suggestion: Her Demon by Hollow Hearts & Infectious ft: Calli Kathleen.

        This one really hits home with me.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        5 months ago from USA

        Bill - Thank you for the suggestion. I added it for our metal fans. Have a good week.

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        Bill 

        5 months ago

        Facade by Disturbed is another one, for those who like heavier music.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        6 months ago from USA

        I'mTryingtoSurvive - This hurts my heart to know that it's going on in your home. You are absolutely not to blame for this, not one iota. Please tell a responsible adult, whether that is your mother, another relative, trusted teacher or school counselor. You can also contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or RAINN's National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-HOPE(4673) or chat online at https://hotline.rainn.org/online/. My kindest thoughts are with you dear one.

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        I'mTryingtoSurvive 

        6 months ago

        My stepdad is sexually and verbally abuse and I hate the thought of someone else going through what I have to go through. I feel like some people just don't realize how often it actually happens

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        FlourishAnyway 

        6 months ago from USA

        Asbjørn Søllested - Thank you for the song suggestion which I have added at 95. Have a great week. Be happy and well.

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        Asbjørn Søllested 

        6 months ago

        Revenge by Papa roach?

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        FlourishAnyway 

        10 months ago from USA

        StayCSarcastic - Thank you for the song suggestion. I have added it to the playlist. Be well and have a good week.

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        StayCSarcastic 

        10 months ago

        Justified Black Eye - Tony Sly (Acoustic Version)

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        FlourishAnyway 

        10 months ago from USA

        Harleen - Thank you for those additions. I appreciate you. Have a good weekend.

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        Harleen 

        10 months ago

        Here’s two more: “Alive” by Pearl Jam and “Sarah Yellin’” by 3 Doors Down

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        FlourishAnyway 

        10 months ago from USA

        Cynthia - That's so sad. How in the world does one ever gain that trust when so many boundaries have been violated? Thanks for sharing your experience working with survivors.

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        Cynthia 

        10 months ago from Vancouver Island, Canada

        Good job, as always, in researching the music that goes with emotionally-wrenching life events. "Luka" really stood out for me-- I was working in domestic abuse at the time, in a shelter with children who had been to hell and back, seeing their mothers beaten, being neglected and abused themselves. One of the saddest stories I ever heard was from a young woman who was abused by her father-- physically, emotionally, sexually-- and no one ever intervened. She trusted no one.

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        Robert Sacchi 

        10 months ago

        Yes, definitely. http://www.autism-society.org/

        Heather, does your cousin live near you?

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        FlourishAnyway 

        10 months ago from USA

        Robert - Heather might also consider local, regional, and national Autism organizations such as the Autism Society of America. Or contact an attorney.

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        Robert Sacchi 

        10 months ago

        Heather, that's horrible. Are other family members aware of the situation?

        Have you contacted your local ARC chapter

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        FlourishAnyway 

        10 months ago from USA

        Heather - Don't give up. Start writing letters and send them certified mail, marked "URGENT." Keep a copy. Send a copy to the Governor if you must.

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        Heather 

        10 months ago

        my 4 year old cousin who's autistic and cant speak is starved beaten and neglected. Ive told all the so called right people and all they say are "sorry about that": Someone needs to do something before its to late.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        11 months ago from USA

        Dear Janey - Your personal story is so important for others to read. Someone who is close to me has experienced and still experiences threats of violence to herself and her children from her mentally ill husband (whom she is divorcing). I include her story here: https://hubpages.com/problems/Divorce-and-Intimate...

        Continue to be strong and vigilant and know that you are not alone. Thank you for sharing your story so that others can realize they are not alone either! All the best to you.

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        Janey Finnie 

        11 months ago

        Hi I was a victim of Domestic violence for 13 years I have now been away from him for two years I had to get a restraining order against him for three years but he still manages to abuse me the police have being looking for him for 3 weeks. The state I still have to live in is bad but it's not hell living with him was hell but every time I walk into my hallway I cry because of all the locked and bolts all the way up my door I'm embarrassed to have anyone over because then they'll think I'm paranoid but the police done a risk check on my ex partner and because the scores he hit were high there just trying to keep me safe till they find him but I urge anyone who's being abused both mentally and physically there's lots of help out there and the abuser never needs to no about the help you're giving even if they phone you and your abuser is sitting with you they're highly trained like I had a safe word like if I said I'm already with a good phone provider they would know my abuser was with me so they would just say thanks for your time goodbye, that really helped me and. I'm not saying it's easy because it's not but it's so worth it I've had times when I've wanted to go back with my ex but didn't understand why that was intill I was told to google toxic bonds then it made sense I wasn't missing my ex my body and hormones were getting messed up because the toxins the body releases after the abuse it's very interesting infact I think teenagers should be taught at school what happens in abusive relationship because a lot of young people confuse the chemicals that you're body releases you think that you love the person GOOGLE TOXIC BONDS then you'll all no what I'm meaning I started going with my abuser when I had just turned 16 then I was pregnant within weeks but if I had known about toxic bonds I wouldn't have stayed with him but I had to walk my path and it's only made me a stronger person thanks very much Flourish the playlist helped me sending my prayers love and hugs to everyone may love and light BLESS USE ALL.

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        Robert Sacchi 

        13 months ago

        You're welcome.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        13 months ago from USA

        Bob - Thanks for the song suggestion. I've added it to both this playlist and the following playlist about stalkers, creepers, and obsessive love: https://hubpages.com/genres/50-Songs-About-Stalker...

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        Robert Sacchi 

        13 months ago

        Would Delilah fall into this category?

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        FlourishAnyway 

        13 months ago from USA

        Aaron - Thanks for that song suggestion. I've added it to the list at #89. Have a good weekend.

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        Aaron 

        13 months ago

        Ummm face down by red jumpsuit aparatus

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        Robert Sacchi 

        13 months ago

        You're welcome,

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        FlourishAnyway 

        13 months ago from USA

        Bob - Thanks for your kind comment.

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        Robert Sacchi 

        13 months ago

        These are powerful songs. Many of them made a definite impact. You did well by posting this article.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        14 months ago from USA

        Katie - Thank you for these suggestions. I have added them. I wish you all the best. - Flourish

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        Katie 

        14 months ago

        "Please don't believe me" by Terry Sue Crawford or Alan O'Day.

        "It shouldn't hurt to be a child" by Hollow Hearts Ft: Calli Kathleen.

        Just a few more.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        14 months ago from USA

        imscared - Adding this song. Thank you for the suggestion. Be safe.

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        imscared 

        14 months ago

        Elastic Heart by Sia definitely works for this situation

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        FlourishAnyway 

        14 months ago from USA

        hatingmydad - PLEASE reach out to the domestic violence hotline listed in this article 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) so that you'll reach someone caring, trained, and able to talk to you one-on-one. You do not deserve to be abused, and there are people who care. Abuse can have immediate impacts upon a person's safety, plus long-term impacts upon a person's self-esteem and how well they are able to function in the world. Please call that number.

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        hatingmydad 

        14 months ago

        Im abused daily. I don't know who to talk to and I don't like my dad. I dont know what to do. But I know i wanna stay here at home. idk what to do.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        17 months ago from USA

        Tracy Pierce - Although not intended about domestic violence or child abuse, this song is definitely appropriate for the topic. Thank you for the suggestion! I've added it as #83.

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        Tracy Pierce 

        17 months ago

        Praying by Keisha

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Catherine - I'm so sorry to hear that you were a victim a child abuse. I think if more people stood up and self-identified, then other victims wouldn't feel so isolated and alone. Thank you for sharing.

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        Catherine Giordano 

        18 months ago from Orlando Florida

        What I love about your playlists is that you so often call attention to important issues. Child abuse and spousal (mainly wife) abuse are such important issues. Thanks for shining a spotlight on this. I read the intros, but I couldn't bear to listen to the songs. I was a victim of child abuse and I still suffer the effects of it.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Anna - If you're talking about HP, I just publish and they pick it up or don't. Then every two weeks you can submit them to one of the niche sites using the buttons at the top of your hub. Hope that helps.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Shyron - Thank you so much for your kind words of support. I hope it raises the awareness I imagined. Thinking of you. Have a good week.

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        Shyron E Shenko 

        18 months ago from Texas

        I tried to search my memory for a song(s) about abuse and came up empty. This is a great hub and it should help people get help if they are being abused.

        Blessings my friend.

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        Anna Haun 

        18 months ago from USA

        Thanks. Where is everyone submitting articles? I've worked all day trying to submit articles.I submitted to search engines today.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Anna - Thank you. You are brave. I wish you peace.

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        Anna Haun 

        18 months ago from USA

        Thank you. If you ever do a follow-up story about the victims of abuse, you can interview me. I don't write on the topic, the closet I came to that subject was human trafficking.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Anna - I'm sorry you lived with abuse for so long but hope that you are safe and well now. Thank you for visiting and sharing your story.

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        Anna Haun 

        18 months ago from USA

        I've experienced physical abuse from my other half for eight long years until his passing and it's a cycle hard to get away from. Your article is wonderfully written, I enjoyed it very much.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Jennifer Mansfield - So sad that there are so many songs about this topic. I appreciate your suggestion and have added it at #81. Be well and happy.

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        Jennifer Mansfield 

        18 months ago

        The Stairs Reba 1987

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        Tamara Yancosky Moore 

        18 months ago from Uninhabited Regions

        You are welcome:-) Have a wonderful week, too!

      • FlourishAnyway profile imageAUTHOR

        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Tamara, Thank you for your kind comment. Have a wonderful week!

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        Tamara Yancosky Moore 

        18 months ago from Uninhabited Regions

        Flourish,

        Not only do I like these songs that you have taken the time to post in concern for those who suffer these tragedies, but you are so kind to put the number of a resource in which to call for help.

        Your songs are fun, but also they help us, too!

        Tamara xxx

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Paula - I completely understand. Thanks for sharing a bit of your story.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Dianna - I hope that it prompts victims to seek help and realize they are not alone. Thank you for weighing in.

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        Paula 

        18 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

        F.A. I stopped by to just say, "Hello" & to apologize. I simply can't read this one, but I'm certain it is as excellent as all your work is.

        Even after (or perhaps "because of) decades of work, so closely associated with this shameful & egregious social sickness, I've taken as much of a permanent hiatus as possible, without being unconscious.

        No matter how lengthy, how "clinical" or whatever small successes, it is personally unavoidable that I STILL experience severely visceral reaction.

        Just know I do love your song articles. Paula

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        Dianna Mendez 

        18 months ago

        I didn't realize there were so many songs touching this subject. I pray they awaken people to the truth of such unfortunate crimes.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        42 - I almost deleted your comment simply because of your "name," however your song suggestion is a good one. I'm adding it.

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        childbeater42 

        18 months ago

        what about Yvette by Jason Isbell!?

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Devika - Thank you for your support and encouragement.

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        DDE 

        18 months ago

        Such songs do have a great connection with victims. You created a beautiful and meaningful hub!

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Linda - Sometimes songs can connect people to helpful resources. That's what I hope to do for those who need them. They need to realize that not only are they not alone but also that there's help. Thanks for stopping by. Have a good weekend.

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        Linda Crampton 

        18 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

        This is an important article, Flourish. I hope many people read it. It's not pleasant to think of the pain and suffering that you describe, but it's something that we all need to be aware of. Thank you for creating the article.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Larry - Thanks for your support. I agree that we need to become more aware of its prevalence. The victims walk among us every day and we aren't even aware of the pain they've endured or are enduring. I hope you are doing well.

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        Larry Rankin 

        18 months ago from Oklahoma

        Luka, Goodbye Earl, Janie's got a gun, never realized there were so many good songs about this despicable act.

        Great list.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Dora - I agree that it's a serious problem and hope this creates awareness around this epidemic.

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        Dora Weithers 

        18 months ago from The Caribbean

        These crimes are no laughing matter, and even in your list it is the girl or woman who gets the blows. Hopefully these lyrics reach the hearts and minds of these who seem unreachable otherwise.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Nell - Thank you for offering up that song. I have added it as #79. The more we shine light on the problem, the more we can bring hope to ending it.

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        Nell Rose 

        18 months ago from England

        Powerful songs and meaning, there is another one that I always find so strong, its Scorpions Daddys Girl. Powerful, scary and too many people out there doing it. Good to see songs talking about this kind of thing.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Jo - Thanks for stopping by regardless. Trying to let people know they are not alone and raise awareness for those not directly impacted. Have a good week, sweet lady.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Linda - I think musicians and songwriters sing and write about what they know, and unfortunately, domestic abuse all too often is part of that reality. Thanks for weighing in.

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        Jo Miller 

        18 months ago from Tennessee

        When I saw the title of this article I knew it would be brutal. Tough to get through. Don't think I want to listen to any of these songs for a bit.

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        Linda Correa 

        18 months ago

        Wow , I was clueless that there were so many songs about domestic abuse. So sad that society has to portray the real statistics in music. Wondering what that says about our culture

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Rasma - There are so many walking wounded people who have been abused in their homes. Another reason to be kind to others, as we never know what one is dealing with in other aspects of their life. Thanks for reading.

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        Gypsy Rose Lee 

        18 months ago from Riga, Latvia

        WOW I didn't realize there were so many songs on such a tragic subject. Thanks for sharing as always. I will have to check come of these out as I don't know practically any of them.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Martie - It's so sad to think about how often we clobber one another with our words as well as our fists in our own homes. If you cannot feel safe there, where can you feel safe? My family doctor now routinely asks all patients, "Do you feel safe at home?"

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        Martie Coetser 

        18 months ago from South Africa

        Those statistics are horrifying! And so many sad songs about domestic violence! Nowadays, extremely aware of all the violence in this world, Jesus' advice about being sad when a baby is born and happy when someone dies makes sense to me.

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Shyron - That’s a perfect way to commemorate National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I look forward to reading it.

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        Shyron E Shenko 

        18 months ago from Texas

        I just found a poem that I wrote for my dear friend Trudy who was an abused child. I thought that I published it but I am not sure...so I will publish it in the very near future..

        Blessings my friend

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        FlourishAnyway 

        18 months ago from USA

        Larry - So often women who stay with men who abuse them are economically trapped. Suze Orman provides wonderful advice to every woman about having a freedom fund in case you ever need to escape. People never think it will be them, but there are a lot of people who have been surprised. I agree with you that the violence needs to stop. I'm a believer that there are many more kind people than bad ones. We just have to highlight the good and stand up for what is right when we see bad things happening. Have a wonderful week and spread kindness to all you know.

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