91 Songs About Crushes and Crushing on Someone

I'm concerned that you're getting ahead of yourself. First, you know that he's dating someone else, so honor that. If he truly didn't like her or want to be with her, he'd break up with her. Give him the space to figure that out for himself instead of being the cause of it. You wouldn't want anyone creating trouble in your dating relationship, would you?

Second, since you say he has no clue how you feel, going from that to professing undying love is like going from zero to 100. Slow down. Work on a friendship with him instead while he works out his relationship issues. There's nothing wrong with letting him know that IF he ever becomes single, then you'd be interested. Or, you might say that he's your kind of guy, his girlfriend is very lucky, and ask him where you would meet someone like him? It gets the point across well enough.

If he likes you as well as you claim he does, then you'll end up together. While he figures it out, however, don't stop looking elsewhere.

Think about it this way. I know people who went to high school 40 years ago who had a crush on a classmate but never took the chance to express themselves or ask the person out. You don't want to be one of them, do you?

Since you're both in your last year in school, you need to take the chance while you have it. You don't have to express undying love for her, just ask her out. Just because you may be an unlikely couple doesn't mean you're beneath her.

If it turns out that indeed she does not share your romantic interest, at least you have her out of your system. You won't be left wondering, "What if?" for the next umpteen decades. Sure, rejection hurts but we've all experienced it and we get over it. Not knowing is so much worse.

Just because you're a tomboy does NOT mean you're doomed to loneliness. Just because you're a tomboy does NOT mean no guy will find you attractive. So you had a crush on a guy who preferred girly girls. If you had known that about him up front, you might not have wasted your time thinking so much about him. Don't draw large conclusions about yourself based on just one (or a few) examples -- especially negative conclusions.

There are plenty of dateable guys out there, and you'll find those who are interested. Concentrate on making yourself the happiest, healthiest person you can be, and stop beating yourself up. My daughter is in her late teens and has always been a tomboy -- avid tree climber, soccer player, cross country runner, kayaker, hiker, and she attended a four-year engineering program in high school that immersed her in robotics and building things with power tools. She's never worn much makeup and prefers casual clothes. In spite of all this or (BECAUSE of it!) she's never had a problem having either male friends or dates. Think about how much more you have to talk about with guys when you focus on things you love that they happen to be interested in as well.

Just don't let this kill your confidence. Self-confidence attracts, so work on becoming the happiest, most interesting person possible and accepting yourself the way you are. Do that, and you'll shine from the inside, no makeup required.

Don't feel ashamed about expressing your feelings to a schoolmate you've known for years. After suffering in silence for years, you took a chance, and although you didn't get the response you immediately wanted, you should be proud of being genuine and just putting your emotions out there. (You didn't indicate you much time has passed since your confession.)

Regardless, he claimed that he likes someone else. He seems to be giving you mixed messages, however, with the hand touching. Perhaps he changed his mind about liking that other person, had a girlfriend at the time you confessed your feelings for him, wasn't sure about how he felt about you and now is, or he just froze and didn't know how to respond. It's obvious that he values maintaining some kind of relationship with you because he does try to approach you and sits near you.

Can you get up the nerve to tell him you're confused by his behavior and ask him why he blushes and turns around when he looks at you (describe his exact behavior nonjudgmentally)? Can you get up the nerve to just ask him why he starts touching your hand when he sits near you -- especially if he likes someone else? Simply asking him will be the best way to get to the bottom of this.

Turning red in the face, blushing, or flushing is a general sign of embarrassment, stress, or feeling overly warm. He probably feels anxious and fearful of rejection or being negatively evaluated by you. As a result, he wears the emotion on his face.

Friendships start when people notice that they have things in common -- ideas, experiences, hobbies, interests, or other friends AND they expect to interact with one another regularly. Thus, you'll need an opportunity to share similarities and develop interpersonal trust through regular contact. That can be via classes, friendship groups, clubs or organizations you both belong to, etc.

The best chance of doing so is if you have a mutual friend who can include you in the friend group that he hangs out in. You'll have a chance to talk with him and then see if you share common ideas, a sense of humor, interests, etc.

Be genuine, but befriend a friend of his and you'll find yourself included in the group eventually. If that is absolutely not possible, join a club he's in, take a class he's in or learn about a hobby he's interested in (as long as you're genuinely interested). Start to sit near him if you're already in a class he's in, attend his games if he's in sports (especially if you have other friends on the team who can introduce you?), etc. Show some interest so you'll have something specific to talk to him about. (People love talking about themselves.)

When I was a teenager, a guy who was crushing on me decided to become best friends with my next door neighbor to get closer to me. They played basketball for hours on my family's basketball hoop. Sometimes I'd go out and talk to him. We ended up dating long-term.

You absolutely need to tell him. Do not delay. Since you have limited time and you will be apart for awhile, why not buy a parting gift that he can remember you by? It doesn't have to be big or expensive, just memorable, and preferably something he'll keep with him and remind him of you (i.e., not something generic). When you've made your selection, contact him, and either ask him to lunch or tell him you need to see him before he goes away. Present your gift there.

Practice what you're going to say. Make sure he has your contact information and a photo. Better yet, take a parting selfie if it feels right. Set aside your fear and just GO FOR IT. People regret opportunities they don't take. If you'd like, you can pour your heart out in a card as well in case you don't nail it verbally. I'm rooting for you.

You've got this.

First, have you confirmed that this guy is single? Second, he may have been texting with you for old time's sake rather than because he feels some sexual attraction to you now. People change a lot in forty years, and sometimes it's tough to separate the memory of what once was from the reality of now.

Make sure you're dealing with him as two adults now. Also, ensure you're honest with both him and yourself about your feelings and who you are as well as what you want in life. Take it slow and get to know him NOW. I suspect he has a much more complicated life than he is revealing and may want different things than you do. That's okay.

Don't rely on texting as the basis for a relationship, as it can never replace good old-fashioned conversation and face to face romance. See if he'll meet you casually over lunch or drinks and take it slow, getting to know him before you rush into confessions of how you feel.

Revealing your feelings for someone in a way that won't overwhelm them and thus embarrass either one of you or ruin your friendship is usually a matter of timing and degree. (Bad timing, for example, might be if they're in love with someone else.)

Rather than pour out a total confession of your undying love, use flirting to assess whether the interest is mutual. Take flirting slow and gauge their reactions. My article "How to Get Noticed: The Sexy Science of Flirting" http://hub.me/afUpB describes the importance of 1) what you wear, 2) smiling, 3) eye contact, 4) strategic use of interpersonal space, and 5) touch. These are the five critical factors in getting noticed as a potential dating partner.

When you flirt, pay attention to whether your love interest returns your gestures with flirting of their own or if they seem disinterested, confused, and pull away. The more they flirt back, the more you can amp up your charm.

If all signs are go, you can also try various compliments (including compliments about their attractiveness) and attempt to get more alone time with them. If things still look positive for you, you may then start to unfold revelations about how you feel. You can start by saying that you "enjoy" or "appreciate" them (adding specifically what you like ... e.g., they're smart, funny, attractive, we understand one another) and you would like to spend more time with them. They could ask what that means, so be ready to explain a bit. You might ask how they feel about you. This should tell you whether your relationship is staying in the friend zone or venturing further.

Have a goal in mind (e.g., a movie or play together, a joint trip to the park) and suggest that any time they'd like to go/take you, then you'd be interested. If you've read your cues right, you haven't dumped on them all at once, and you'll be able to experiment with dating.

Flirting when one or both parties are taken can be fun and harmless when there's no follow through, and both parties are being honest about where their situation is heading. However, I'm concerned that he knows you like him, he's emotionally unavailable, and he may be toying with you. Only you know how far the flirting has gone.

You are attracted to someone whom you know is taken, but keep in mind that he is the one with the relationship commitment with the girlfriend. Has his flirting with you crossed a line between fun and emotionally betraying his girlfriend? If so, is this guy someone you would want to date? How would you feel if you were his in his girlfriend's shoes?

At some point, you're going to get tired of this flirting that is just empty teasing and toying. You may even want to tell him you're tired of just flirting with him and that if he were ever single, you'd date him, but right now he's acting like a player.

Assuming there's already been a display of mutual interest through flirting, here are some creative ideas if you don't want to jump right to a candid conversation:

1. Make a collage about your relationship. Some hearts will clue your friend in that this is more than just friendship for you.

2. Make a "story of us" video of your relationship using the best moments. Divide the video into "chapters" like a book, and at the end,

signify "Next chapter?" That's a great segue for having a conversation about where you want this relationship to go.

3. Write a poem if that's your talent. It can be funny or serious.

4. Express your feelings in a letter.

5. Play "Would You Rather" (or 20 Questions) either via texting or in person. Along with silly questions slip in a question or so about would you rather hold hands/kiss/date you or (name an alternative person). This will naturally lead you down a conversation path.

6. Make a playlist of flirty songs. Send them to your crush either as a playlist or text your crush a song every couple of days and tell them why it reminded you of them.

7. If you share an inside joke or interest, buy matching t-shirts or other items.

8. Play a game of "Tell Me Something Awkward." It can be an embarrassing story, something you can never do correctly (like tell right from left), a strange habit, or a crush on a best friend! Since both people take turns admitting awkward things, you never know ... your crush may admit they like you first!

Chances are you came on too strong, confessing way too much too soon, or he just doesn't feel the same. For an apology, less is more. For example, "Bill, I didn't mean to make you feel embarrassed or create an awkward situation. I realize I said too much, and I'm sorry I put you on the spot. Will you forgive me?" Although the conversation is best to have in person, if he's avoiding you, send it via mail, email, or text. Once you've had the conversation, stop bringing it up and stop your the behavior that embarrassed him. You're friendzoned.

Your new best friend may be using the term "partner" because he already has one, so I recommend slowing it down just a bit and finding out more about him before sharing your feelings of sexual attraction. Why not ask if he wants to hang out on a weekend or one evening? That'll give you a more relaxed environment to find out more about him, including his love life -- who he's dating (if anyone), how serious the relationship is, how long he's been out, etc.

Naturally, you, in turn, can share similar information -- your dating history, what type of guy you find attractive, how long you've been out, etc. Because of his frequent reference to the word "partner" I would make it more of a bonding experience in which you compare experiences and get to know one another. Even if he's madly in love with this other guy, maybe it's not all bad. With you being new to the school, perhaps they can introduce you to other gay young men who are potential love interests.

Your friend was probably trying to move things forward. Since you don't know how he feels about you, a couple of your options now are:

1) wait for him to say something to you about it

2) initiate conversation with him and/or a little flirting and see how he responds

3) get a mutual friend to include you in a group activity, so you can get to know him better

4) find out his contact information on social media and see if he's receptive to talking over text, social media, etc.

Hope this helps.

The worst thing to do is refuse to talk about it, pretend it's not a problem, and allowing jealous competition over a crush to fester underground. Instead, talk openly with your friend about your mutual interest in the same crush and come to an agreement. It could be that one of you agrees to stand down, or you both agree to simultaneously go for it (especially if neither stands much of a chance). You could both drop the crush in the interest of the friendship, or let the crush decide who they like better (if either). Be open about your feelings. There will be other types of conflict, and this crush is likely one among many. How you handle this situation is essential in molding your friendship.

That's the challenge of sending and receiving unsigned love notes. The receiver has to guess who the sender is; however, their guess may be very wrong! There's also no way to respond if you don't know who sent it.

The best course of action is to either wait until the next letter or jumpstart the process by trying to determine who sent the note so that the person will reveal himself or herself more quickly. Talk to friends, sharing that you received a note and you are trying to discover who sent it. See if they know who might have a crush on you. Out of privacy and respect for the sender, don't let others read it.

Sooner or later, the sender will step forward. You're going to have to be patient on this one. Have fun with it!

Since he seems to be playing shy, why don't you go a little bolder with the following approach? When it's just you and him, tell him that you heard he didn't have a girlfriend and didn't like ANYBODY. Tell him that's hard to believe because there are a lot of girls in this world and he's a great guy, and if -- just IF he were going to crush on someone what qualities would she have? (e.g., smart, pretty, sincere, etc.) After he's done, say that you have those qualities (name them) and you thought we had good chemistry. I was hoping you liked me. I just had to ask. Thanks for clearing it up! That should make him come clean in a big way if he's going to ever confess.

A couple of ideas include the following:

1) Be bold and go up and introduce yourself.

2) Get a mutual friend or acquaintance to introduce you, whether in person or online.

3) Join a club or group that he's a part of, or if you're already in a class, group, or club, make sure you're sitting next to him or working on the same team or project he is.

4) If you know his schedule, make sure you're where he tends to go so you can conveniently run into him and make small talk.

Hope these ideas help.

It sounds like your crush has an equal and opposite crush on you. The young man is giving you his jacket to wear. They don't do that unless they care. He's flirting, and you say he's your best friend, so wait for a quiet time alone with him and tell him you have a confession to make. People love confessions. You can say, "I miss you" or "I'm not over you" or "I still have feelings for you" or "I wish we never broke up." Whatever feels right. Sometimes in life, you need to go for it, and this is one of them. All signs are there. And don't do this via text or FaceTime! It MUST be done in person!

You don't know enough about him to truly love him, however, you're crushing pretty hard on someone you realize doesn't share your feelings. (Hey, we've all been there, so don't feel bad.)

Rather than confess to him your deep feelings, listen to that inner voice that is saying "hold on here!"

Work on controlling what you can by making YOU the happiest, best version of yourself. This may or may not prompt him to notice (and that is okay if he doesn't!), but there are two benefits: 1) you become a happier, more confident, better person for your good, and 2) you'll begin to see that other guys take notice of your self-confidence.

If you want to also work on trying to become just friends with him, then that's fine. However, I wouldn't make it my focus. You already know he doesn't return your feelings.

She has put her feelings out there in a clear way with both the poetry and song, realizing that the trip has a clear end. If you feel the same, time is short so what's stopping you? Express yourself. To hold your feelings in means rejection for her.

Since you prefer not to confess your attraction, use flirting as a fun first step to assess whether the interest between you and your crush is mutual. Take flirting slow and watch how your crush responds. Flirting will telegraph your initial interest while avoiding some of the awkwardness of rejection if it’s not mutual. (Know, however, that if the flirting progresses and you seek to take it to the next level, eventually you will need to acknowledge having some feelings for your crush.)

Here are a couple of tips. Amp up your physical appearance and what you wear. This will improve your confidence around your crush and get their attention. The color red attracts special notice when worn by either men or women. Smile and make steady eye contact. Offer your crush sincere compliments. As you talk with your crush, try to subtly move a little closer, more into their personal space -- if you sense that they are comfortable. Use appropriate levels of touch if you sense that it is welcome. For example, when sitting next to them, graze their arm or leg with yours in a non-obvious manner. Pretend to pick a hair or lint off their shoulder or touch their hand lightly.

Reading your crush’s signals are very important. When you flirt, pay attention to whether your crush seems disinterested, confused, or pulls away or if instead, they return your flirtations with flirty gestures of their own. The more they flirt back, the more you can turn up your charm.

If you want to know more, my article "How to Get Noticed: The Sexy Science of Flirting" https://pairedlife.com/dating/Get-Noticed-The-Scie... describes the importance of five critical factors in getting noticed as a potential dating partner: 1) what you wear, 2) smiling, 3) eye contact, 4) strategic use of interpersonal space, and 5) touch.

You’ve made your feelings clear to someone who currently has a girlfriend, and he has chosen to honor his commitment to his girlfriend. You should respect that and turn your attention elsewhere.

Work on being a happy, healthy and positive person. You may be surprised to find how good things will come your way when you work on you. You cannot force him to love you. However, you might be surprised that there’s someone else out there who probably thinks you’re pretty terrific. You may not have noticed him because you were way too wrapped up in your crush. Give someone other than your crush a chance to discover and appreciate you.

Your crush probably got this wrong information through a prior miscommunication with you, so it's important that he understands the truth. You should correct his misinformation ASAP if it's important to you. Going through another person would make your crush question what is true, so set the record straight personally and see how he responds.

Here are two options. Next time he mentions your attraction to his brother, ask him why he believes you like his brother because it's him (the crush) you like. Don't skip a beat when you say it -- do it in all one sentence. That approach is to-the-point, surprising, and prompts a response from him.

Another option is to say that you'd like to clear up a simple misunderstanding and ask whether he has a minute to hear you out. When he says "sure," ask whether he remembers the original conversation you had where he came to the conclusion that you liked his brother (describe it). Then lay out the truth that you never liked his brother; you like him instead.

Either way, be ready for questions. The conversation is best had in person, but if you must, you can FaceTime or even text. Texting is certainly the safe way, but it loses its appeal in being able to gauge his reactions.

Your challenge is to get her to see you as someone who is date-worthy. You didn't include enough information about why she may think you're joking. Does she think one of you is out of the other's league? Are you friends who joke around frequently?

Try to talk with her more about what she likes, her feelings, opinions, ideas, what she wants in life, and share the same information about yourself. Hang out together so you can develop some common experiences and see if there's a mutual spark there. Find out what she's looking for in a boyfriend. After a while of getting to know one another better, check back with her to see if she's interested in going out.

Before you embark on a new love relationship, it's important to be free of past emotional baggage so you don't doom the new relationship to failure. That requires an open and honest conversation.

There must be reasons you have questions about your love interest's ability to move on from his ex. For example, does he reminisce about his ex too much? Does he still communicate with her in person, via phone, social media, etc.? Does he still display photos and memorabilia from their relationship?

Find a quiet time and place when you're not in conflict and tell him you need to talk to him about something important, and you need him to be candid. Describe the signs you see (why you fear he hasn't moved on). Inquire why they broke up, how long they were together, and who broke up with whom. Ask him if he's over her and ready for a new relationship and explain why this is important to you.

It's normal to sometimes take awhile to get over a relationship before you begin a new one, especially if someone has cheated on you or betrayed your trust in some way.

Since you've already been flirting with one another and you know she is both bisexual and available, then you can gauge her interest in you by asking her out on "friend dates." Instead of going out with the rest of the group, try to make it just you two, doing something fun together where you can talk, make your own memories, and flirt some more.

Do this a couple times and you'll likely have the opportunity to hold hands and get physically closer. That will tell you if she's receptive to you as a romantic partner.

During these friend dates, you can also:

1) tell her that you like it when it's just you two

2) compliment her and share with her what you enjoy about her

3) ask more about her love life and what she wants in life

4) find out how she feels about dating you, and

5) if it's going well, invite her on a romantic date instead of a "friend" date.

Don't shy away from opportunities because they are awkward. Life is awkward. If she's flirting with you, she may be feeling exactly the same things you are.

But even if you get rejected, it's not the end of the world. Really. Life does go on. You don't want to be wondering "what if" 10 or 20 years down the road, do you?

Having a crush on someone from a distance is okay. That doesn't mean you have to act on it. The facts are this: You know he has a girlfriend already, so if he's looking elsewhere to cheat on her that makes him quite a cheating skunk. You don't want that, do you?

Also, you aren't friends, and with both of you going to different schools there are probably not a lot of opportunities to start a friendship with him right now.

Even more than those points--and this is based on my personal experience when I was a teen--I'd be concerned if there's more than a two-year age/grade gap. Sometimes even two years is too much. The differences in what middle schoolers and high schoolers expect of a girlfriend or boyfriend are dramatically different. How they interact, what they talk about and care about, and what they've experienced already in life and in dating can be SO different. Don't underestimate that. It's a time of rapid change and maturity.

Stick to guys your age/grade or one year older who you have some commonality with (e.g., you're already friends or acquaintances, classmates, teammates, live in the same neighborhood, know one another from church or other groups). These people are more accessible.

In the meantime, it's fine to dream about him occasionally. Dreaming doesn't hurt anyone. Just don't obsess over someone who is taken, inaccessible, and maybe not the best choice for you.

The hard part, confessing your feelings for one another, is over, and the good thing is it's mutual. That's wonderful! Now there's some awkwardness about what's next.

I don't know why you wouldn't want to discuss it. Yes, it's awkward, but it's much less stressful in the long run to just get things out in the open. You could ask about going to see a movie or doing something else together, and when they agree, inquire playfully whether this is a friend date or a real date?

Or, you could start holding their hand and making other lovey moves that a girlfriend or boyfriend would make. Start treating them like a boyfriend or girlfriend and see if it is reciprocated. For example, send them small gifts or flirty texts, spend more time alone, or make a playlist for them or a card. Unless they've had a change of heart, this will get things rolling.

A church or other established group is a great place to meet a like-minded person. You both likely share similar values and are there for the same purpose. So that's a great first step.

It's okay to be introverted, but don't let it hold you back from going after your goals in life, okay? First, work on making eye contact with him and smiling. Initially, it may be from a distance, but try to maintain your gaze and not look down or away. Think "confidence" and "positivity" rather than shame or embarrassment. (Silently to yourself, you should be telling yourself how fabulous God made you. Fill your mind with affirmations to calm your anxiety!)

Secondly, do you have a church friend who is more outgoing than you -- someone you can trust with your feelings? If so, confide in them about your crush so that your friend can support you in getting up the nerve to sit near your crush and talk with him. Your friend can serve as your sidekick and help facilitate conversation, fill in awkward gaps, and even introduce the two of you. You may even want to set goals for yourself as motivation. As for the nervousness, just remember to breathe deeply rather than shallowly. Everyone gets nervous. In talking to your crush, remember that questions are always reliable as people love to talk about themselves. You might also compliment him on something if it's genuine.

Third, churches typically have various subgroups (e.g., committees, Bible studies, youth groups, choirs, field trips, plays, etc.). He's probably a member of one or more of these smaller groups. This is your chance to get to know him better by becoming a member of that same subgroup. Work on letting a friendship blossom first rather than romance.

I hope these ideas help you to get a little closer to your crush.

You have a right to be confused because he's sending mixed signals, but I'd bet he's a bit confused as well. After all, you did say you "might" miss him.

Perhaps any (or none!) of the following are true:

1) he likes both of you

2) you weren't meant to see his interaction with the other girl,

3) he likes you but he's trying to make you a little jealous

4) maybe he's a very sociable or "touchy" person and the other co-worker is just a good friend (although I'd suggest it's not appropriate to massage another person's shoulders in the workplace).

The next time he flirts with you ask a question back to him as your answer. For example, if he says, "Are you going to miss me?" you can ask, "If I said 'yes,' what would that mean to you?" Hopefully, this will encourage him to be more forthright about how he feels about you. If you're not comfortable doing that, when he chats you up next time and you have to cut the conversation short, say that you hate to go but you'd love to talk more with him, maybe over lunch sometime. That's dropping a big hint. If he doesn't get it, do it again or ask him to lunch. Also, you can always ask what his relationship is with the coworker. Don't let this guy give you mixed signals if you like him. Call him on it but also be honest about how you feel.

Wishing you the best. It sounds like you're both just anxious and testing the waters.

Relationships are all about chemistry, and physical appearance is only one ingredient. Don't overthink that just because he liked one type of girl in the past that that's the only type of girl he'd be attracted to.

When you initially agreed to this relationship, you probably didn't expect to develop an emotional attachment to the person you were sleeping with. You simply wanted to use one another for convenient, no-strings-attached sex. (Sex, however, is an intimate act that always has some strings attached.) While it's not impossible for a friends with benefits relationship to transition into a love relationship, communication regarding changing expectations and feelings is essential.

You've become emotionally attached, and it seems like he has become either bored or wary of your attachment. It's clear that you've exchanged benefits -- the car for sex -- but are you sure there's any friendship left? From what you describe, there's little emotionality between the two of you. He sounds more like a f*ck-buddy, to be honest. You deserve someone who will cherish and respect you. Put a halt to the sexual part of the relationship and see if he's still interested in the friendship. That'll tell you everything you need to know. Better verbal communication is needed to supplement the physical communication that's been going on.

You ask a good question. I recall when my daughter was beginning high school, running on the cross country team. A cute guy would slow down while running so he could talk to her, and she didn't know why he was doing that so she would run faster to get away from him. I had to explain to her that he was trying to flirt. Now we laugh about it, but she was puzzled at the time.

Your guy is probably interested but may not know where to take it next. Here are some signs that a guy is interested in you:

1) he looks at you a lot, making direct eye contact

2) he smiles "to the eyes" when he sees you (a real smile instead of a fake grin)

3) he generally faces you and often leans in to listen to you or sits close, giving you his full attention (instead of his phone)

4) he finds excuses to touch you (e.g., sitting thigh to thigh, touching your hand) and he doesn't flinch when you touch him

5) he has inside jokes with you, tries to impress you, constantly seeks your attention, suddenly seems to be around a lot more than previously

6) other people seem to get that he likes you (like his friends and yours)

7) he unwittingly "mirrors" your behaviors -- if you lean up against the wall, so does he

8) he compliments you a lot, noticing things that others don't or that he previously did not

9) he initiates conversation and is reluctant to end it

10) he doesn't seem to notice other girls

11) when you're talking, he often shows he's curious by raising his eyebrows and tilting his head

I'd suggest additional group outings with friends. Watch the signs above and maybe have a female friend look for the signs, too. That should tell you what you need to know!

I assume there was flirtation involved in your talking for several days. During that several days he had a moral obligation to mention that he had a girlfriend. Instead he behaved like a player. It’s a basic violation of relationship trust on his part.

What he did was cheat on his girlfriend, and he made you his unwitting accomplice to it. That was not your fault. Now that you know he has a girlfriend, however, you have a choice as to whether to continue to be someone’s secret side chick (you’re better than that!) or to tell him that you like him but he can come back only when he’s single. You deserve the full love and attention of a guy rather than sloppy seconds.

People teach others how they want to be treated. Let him know that now that you are aware he has a girlfriend you feel betrayed that he wasn’t being honest and open with you.

Also, always be sure to check relationship status on Facebook and other social media platforms. You might have already done that. If his status falsely indicated he was unattached, then challenge him as to why it wasn’t current.

Good luck to you. Even if this doesn’t work out for you, there are good, honest guys out there so don’t despair!