91 Songs About Crushes and Crushing on Someone

Updated on November 22, 2018
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FlourishAnyway believes there is a playlist for just about any situation and is on a mission to unite and entertain the world through song.

If you have a crush on someone, why not make a playlist of pop, rock, R&B and country songs about crushes?  Enjoy it for yourself or make your move by sharing it with them.
If you have a crush on someone, why not make a playlist of pop, rock, R&B and country songs about crushes? Enjoy it for yourself or make your move by sharing it with them. | Source

Crushes: You're More Obvious Than You Believe

Crushes aren't just for teens. Adults get them too.

If your crush is on a coworker, neighbor, classmate, or friend, you probably daydream about taking the relationship to the next level. You earnestly believe your crush is your little secret. However, here's a news flash: the signs you're giving out are like a blinking neon light.

While you pine away and plan your next move, here's a playlist of pop, rock, country, and R&B songs about crushing on someone. Enjoy them as you think about your beloved. If you dare, you could even create a customized songlist and send it to your crush to let them know how you feel. Let us know how it turns out!

1. "Treat You Better" by Shawn Mendes

Oh, wow. He says he'll stop time for her.

The narrator in this 2016 pop hit currently sits squarely in the Friend Zone. However, he's looking for a sign from his crush that she wants to take it to the next level. One little problem: she's another dude's girlfriend. But don't fret because this is not a man who is easily dissuaded. Just give him a sign, girl, and don't take too long.

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2. "You Belong with Me" by Taylor Swift

A crush can sure make you feel like a teenager, even if you aren't. In this 2009 country song, the only obstacle standing between the teenage narrator and her best male friend is his girlfriend.

Citing common interests in music and a shared sense of personal style and music, Taylor Swift's narrator makes it her mission to convince her love interest that what he's been waiting has been here all along.

3. "Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover" by Sophie B. Hawkins

This 1992 rock song is 50 shades of awesome and sounds like a great pick up line. The narrator takes a look at that tall drink of water she's been crushing on and paints a dirty little picture of what she'd like to do to him:

Damn, I wish I was your lover
I'll rock you till the daylight comes
Make sure you are smilin' and warm
I am everything, tonight I'll be your mother
I will do such things to ease your pain
Free your mind and you won't feel ashamed, oh, oh
Open up on the inside, gonna fill you up, gonna make you cry.

4. "Crush" by David Archuleta

The guy in this 2008 pop song has just realized that he's crushing bad. His thoughts are dominated by his sweetie, he's mesmerized by her, and he feels so tingly he thinks it could be love or something like it. He needs to know whether he's alone in this little love affair or if just maybe she feels the same way.

12 Signs That Someone Has a Crush on You

 
 
 
They typically start the conversation.
They listen intently to you.
They always seem to be nearby.
None of your love interests are good enough for you, in their opinion.
You look over and they are frequently staring at you.
They offer you compliments and small gifts.
They change the subject when you talk about other dating partners.
They joke about dating or crazy what ifs. They talk in future tense about the two of you.
They smile at you a LOT, often with a big goofy grin.
They find excuses to touch you or be alone together.
They remember details about you that others don't.
Others tell you that the person likes you.

5. "Stuck Like Glue" by Sugarland

My teenage daughter described a cute crush story in which she and her best friend (a guy) sat listening to this 2010 country song on repeat. The fella had one earbud in his ear and she had the other in hers. Together they belted out the lyrics to one another. But alas, they date other people.

6. "Into You" by Ariana Grande

The narrator in this 2016 pop song is waiting for her crush to make a move. She wants a little less conversation and a little more action. Everybody's watching. Don't choke, Mr.!

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7. "Girlfriend" by Avril Lavigne

The confident girl in this sassy pop song from 2007 spells it right out. She doesn't like her crush's girlfriend, and time has come for him to find a new one. He deserves better, and she'll give him what he needs.

The narrator then issues him orders. If only it were this easy:

So come over here
And tell me what I wanna hear
Better yet, make your girlfriend disappear
I don't wanna hear you say her name ever again (and again and again).

8. "Crush" by Mandy Moore

In this 2001 pop song, the female narrator is crushing hard on a guy who shares her feelings—but for another girl, not her. Unfortunately, she can't find her backbone yet to let him in on the secret. Therefore, she may be staying in the Friend Zone forever.

9. “Check Yes Or No” by George Strait

If you grew up in a time before cell phones, you probably remember passing those oragami-folded love notes in class. Often, they required check-box answers.

The narrator in this 1995 country song waxes nostalgic about the sweet love notes that he and his wife once passed in elementary school:

Do you love me? Do you want to be my friend?
And if you do, well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand
If you want to
I think this is how love goes
Check yes or no.

You never know when a crush can turn in to something more.
You never know when a crush can turn in to something more. | Source

10. "Crush" by Yuna (featuring Usher)

There's a mutual crush forming in this 2016 R&B song. Hearts beat a little faster, and the guy tells this lady friend that she's just wasting time with all those other boys.

11. "Clumsy" by Fergie

Most people lose their wits about them when they have a crush. They smile a lot, stare too much, can't find anything to say, and fumble around like they have no thumbs.

This 2007 pop song will remind you of the funny things crushes have said or done. For example, a guy who once had a crush on me turned around after talking to me and walked smack into a telephone pole.

12. "Call Your Girlfriend" by Robyn

Sweedish singer Robyn issues step-by-step instructions to her intended new flame in this very danceable 2010 pop song. You have to admire a woman who knows what she wants, right?

Call your girlfriend
It's time you had the talk
Give your reasons
Say it's not her fault
But you just met somebody new

13. "Beautiful Soul" by Jesse McCartney

The fella in this 2004 pop song claims he just wants his crush and her beautiful soul, but he's also doubting himself a little. He wonders if she's out of his league.

Okay, let's be honest here. In real life, Beauty picks Brad Pitt over the Beast, and Prince Charming picks one of his socialite types rather than Cinderella, the house wench. But it's nice to dream, isn't it?

14. "Girl Crush" by Little Big Town

Hold on. Don't you get all judgmental on me.

If there's one thing this 2014 country ballad is NOT it's typical. The Grammy Award-winning song caused quite a controvery because some fans assumed it was about a lesbian couple.

However, the narrator who is crushing on a girl doesn't want to shag her. She wants everything the other girl has—her long blonde hair, perfume, her lips, and her touch—because they attract the man that she loves. He is the real object of her desire.

15. "I Wanna Be Your Lover” by Prince

Way back in 1979, this chart topper was Prince's first American hit single. It's about a man who yearns to be with his crush and tries to convince her how much better he can treat her than the other men she is accustomed to dating. The narrator doesn't have much money, but he promises to turn his lady love on and be everything she needs.

16. "Yeah Boy" by Kelsea Ballerini

This country song from 2015 was named the best crush song by Radio Disney. Okay, so the song leans young.

The protagonist is entranced by her crush's eyes, and every song on the radio reminds her of him. She wishes he'd wisk her away tonight for a ride in his car and some get-to-know-you-better time.

17. "Can't Fight This Feeling" by REO Speedwagon

A tidal wave of love looms large and threatens to overcome the guy in this 1984 pop song. Yet still he's trying to talk himself into sharing his crush for her. (Don't worry, crushes are often too obvious to stay secrets for long.)

She's been his galpal for awhile, but he's looking at her differently these days. The feeling has become so strong that he just can't hold back.

18. "Fallin' For You" by Colbie Callait

Watch out below because this girl is falling hard for the man in her life. In this 2009 pop song, the narrator is dancing with him and holding his hand but feels tentative about revealing her feelings.

19. "Jessie's Girl" by Rick Springfield

The number one rule of friendship is to keep your hands off each others' significant other. However, the lovesick guy in this classic 1981 pop song can't stop thinking about his best friend's girlfriend. The song was based on a friend named Gary and Gary's girlfriend.

20. "Smile" by Uncle Kracker

Love has done a number on the narrator in this 2009 pop song, and he's gushing with compliments about his crush. She's cooler than the flip side of his pillow and makes him forget how to breathe. In her presence, he loses all composure and becomes like a giddy little girl.

Crushes can be complicated when the object of your affection is taken.
Crushes can be complicated when the object of your affection is taken. | Source

Even More Songs About Crushes and Crushing on Someone

Song
Artist
Year Released
21. Hands To Myself
Selena Gomez
2016
22. Bad Case of Loving You
Robert Palmer
1979
23. Crush
Jennifer Paige
1998
24. Baby I
Ariana Grande
2013
25. Love Story
Taylor Swift
2008
26. Thunder
Boys Like Girls
2008
27. I Want to Hold Your Hand
The Beatles
1963
28. Closer
Tegan and Sara
2013
29. Cupid's Chokehold
Gym Class Heroes (featuring Patrick Stump)
2005
30. So Into You
The Atlanta Rhythm Section
1976
31. First Date
blink-182
2001
32. Stacy's Mom
Fountains of Wayne
2003
33. I Second That Emotion
Smokey Robinson
1967
34. Call Me Maybe
Carly Rae Jepson
2012
35. I Wanna Know
Joe
1999
36. Love You Out Loud
Rascal Flatts
2002
37. She Drives Me Crazy
Fine Young Cannibals
1989
38. Me & U
Cassie
2006
39. U Got It Bad
Usher
2001
40. Rush
Paula Abdul
1991
41. Baby, I Love Your Way
Peter Frampton
1975
42. Ain't Even Drinkin'
Tyler Farr
2013
43. Like This
Shawn Mendes
2016
44. There's Your Trouble
Dixie Chicks
1998
45. Why Don't You Make Up Your Mind?
Tame Impala
2011
46. #1 Crush
Garbage
1996
47. I’m On Fire
Bruce Springsteen
1985
48. The Way You Make Me Feel
Michael Jackson
1987
49. You Really Got Me
The Kinks
1964
50. I Can Love You Better
Dixie Chicks
1997
51. I Try to Think About Elvis
Patty Loveless
1994
52. Domino
Jessie J
2011
53. One Thing
One Direction
2012
54. Things I'll Never Say
Avril Lavigne
2002
55. One Time
Justin Bieber
2009
56. Heartbreak Girl
5 Seconds of Summer
2009
57. Teenage Dream
Tyler Ward
2010
58. Boyfriend
Justin Bieber
2012
59. Crazy for You
Madonna
1985
60. Breathe
Faith Hill
1999
61. The Search Is Over
Survivor
1984
62. Don't Cry Joni
Conway Twitty (featuring Joni Lee)
1976
63. Enchanted
Taylor Swift
2010
64. Only the Good Die Young
Billy Joel
1977
65. Hot for Teacher
Van Halen
1984
66. Leave Your Lover for Me
Sam Smith
2014
67. Something to Talk About
Bonnie Raitt
1991
68. Imagination
Shawn Mendes
2015
69. Perfect
Ed Sheeran
2017
70. Secret Love Song
Little Mix (featuring Jason Derulo)
2016
71. Can’t Help Falling in Love
Elvis Presley
1961
72. Wanted
Hunter Hayes
2011
73. Hungry Eyes
Eric Carmen
1987
74. She's Like the Wind
Patrick Swayze (featuring Wendy Fraser)
1987
75. Iris
Goo Goo Dolls
1998
76. Take Your Time
Sam Hunt
2014
77. Cupid
Sam Cooke
1961
78. My Eyes Adored You
Frankie Valli
1975
79. I Wanna Get Next to You
Rose Royce
1976
80. This Time I Know It's for Real
Donna Summer
1989
81. Can't Take My Eyes Off You
Frankie Valli
1967
82. Obvious
Westlife
2004
83. Sober Up
AJR (featuring Rivers Cuomo)
2017
84. Roses
Shawn Mendes
2016
85. Crush
Lila McCann
1999
86. As If
Sara Evans
2007
87. Teardrops on My Guitar
Taylor Swift
2007
88. What I Go To School For
Busted
2002
89. Naturally
Selena Gomez & The Scene
2009
90. Close
Nick Jonas (featuring Tove Lo)
2016
91. One Day
Tate McCrae
2017
Know a song that should be on our Crush Playlist? Leave us a suggestion in the Comment Section below.
Crush, just thinking about you makes my heart explode.
Crush, just thinking about you makes my heart explode. | Source

Questions & Answers

  • I want to tell my crush how much I love him, but I am very awkward and afraid of damaging our friendship. He already has a girlfriend, but he doesn't like her. He likes me instead. He never wants to be with his girlfriend; he only wants to be with me. He means the world to me, but he has no clue how I feel. Should I tell him how I feel?

    I'm concerned that you're getting ahead of yourself. First, you know that he's dating someone else, so honor that. If he truly didn't like her or want to be with her, he'd break up with her. Give him the space to figure that out for himself instead of being the cause of it. You wouldn't want anyone creating trouble in your dating relationship, would you?

    Second, since you say he has no clue how you feel, going from that to professing undying love is like going from zero to 100. Slow down. Work on a friendship with him instead while he works out his relationship issues. There's nothing wrong with letting him know that IF he ever becomes single, then you'd be interested. Or, you might say that he's your kind of guy, his girlfriend is very lucky, and ask him where you would meet someone like him? It gets the point across well enough.

    If he likes you as well as you claim he does, then you'll end up together. While he figures it out, however, don't stop looking elsewhere.

  • I have a crush in my school. She's about my age. I want to tell her that I like her since it's our final year in school. However, I don't have the guts to do so. She's smart, kind, and pretty, and I know she's out of my league. Should I forget about my secret crush or just tell her the truth?

    Think about it this way. I know people who went to high school 40 years ago who had a crush on a classmate but never took the chance to express themselves or ask the person out. You don't want to be one of them, do you?

    Since you're both in your last year in school, you need to take the chance while you have it. You don't have to express undying love for her, just ask her out. Just because you may be an unlikely couple doesn't mean you're beneath her.

    If it turns out that indeed she does not share your romantic interest, at least you have her out of your system. You won't be left wondering, "What if?" for the next umpteen decades. Sure, rejection hurts but we've all experienced it and we get over it. Not knowing is so much worse.

  • I’m a tomboy, and I have a crush on this guy, and he doesn’t like me back. He probably knows how I feel, and he likes another girl. Do you think it’s that boy only like those girly girls with all the makeup and pink clothes? My friends say he just can't see how cool I am. Are they right? What is it?

    Just because you're a tomboy does NOT mean you're doomed to loneliness. Just because you're a tomboy does NOT mean no guy will find you attractive. So you had a crush on a guy who preferred girly girls. If you had known that about him up front, you might not have wasted your time thinking so much about him. Don't draw large conclusions about yourself based on just one (or a few) examples -- especially negative conclusions.

    There are plenty of dateable guys out there, and you'll find those who are interested. Concentrate on making yourself the happiest, healthiest person you can be, and stop beating yourself up. My daughter is in her late teens and has always been a tomboy -- avid tree climber, soccer player, cross country runner, kayaker, hiker, and she attended a four-year engineering program in high school that immersed her in robotics and building things with power tools. She's never worn much makeup and prefers casual clothes. In spite of all this or (BECAUSE of it!) she's never had a problem having either male friends or dates. Think about how much more you have to talk about with guys when you focus on things you love that they happen to be interested in as well.

    Just don't let this kill your confidence. Self-confidence attracts, so work on becoming the happiest, most interesting person possible and accepting yourself the way you are. Do that, and you'll shine from the inside, no makeup required.

  • I have had a crush on someone for years, so I confessed to him in writing. He said he likes someone else, and since then I’m too scared and embarrassed to talk to him. He tries to approach then he turns around and looks at me and turns red. He sits beside me sometimes and starts touching my hand. What does this mean?

    Don't feel ashamed about expressing your feelings to a schoolmate you've known for years. After suffering in silence for years, you took a chance, and although you didn't get the response you immediately wanted, you should be proud of being genuine and just putting your emotions out there. (You didn't indicate you much time has passed since your confession.)

    Regardless, he claimed that he likes someone else. He seems to be giving you mixed messages, however, with the hand touching. Perhaps he changed his mind about liking that other person, had a girlfriend at the time you confessed your feelings for him, wasn't sure about how he felt about you and now is, or he just froze and didn't know how to respond. It's obvious that he values maintaining some kind of relationship with you because he does try to approach you and sits near you.

    Can you get up the nerve to tell him you're confused by his behavior and ask him why he blushes and turns around when he looks at you (describe his exact behavior nonjudgmentally)? Can you get up the nerve to just ask him why he starts touching your hand when he sits near you -- especially if he likes someone else? Simply asking him will be the best way to get to the bottom of this.

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    • FlourishAnyway profile imageAUTHOR

      FlourishAnyway 

      4 days ago from USA

      Beca - The way you describe your friend/crush is sincere and loving. It's the honorable thing to do to follow your parents' wishes at this point in your lives (especially if they feel very strongly). They probably understand your maturity levels and emotions development best.

      As an alternative to dating at this point, perhaps consider requesting permission for one or more of the following if your parents are open:

      1) having a small group of male & female friends over to your house on occasion for pizza, videos, or a small holiday party so your parents can get more comfortable with all of your friends, including your crush.

      2) ask if your friend can have dinner with the family or accompany your family to a concert, movie, or other event

      3) ask if you can go out on a "group date" with a large group of male and female friends that includes your crush. When my daughter was a ninth grader, the parents of one of the guys she went out with consistently sent the guy's little brother along everywhere they went. The kid brother was supposed to be the parents' "spy" but for him, it beat not being able to go.

      There are creative solutions for your dilemma if you work constructively with your parents. In the meantime, continue to be open and honest with your crush about how you feel about him. Whether you express how much you value him and your special relationship via playlists, art, poetry, or conversations, this is a special time in your life. Don't be in too big of a hurry to grow up. It goes by fast! Best of luck to you!

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      Beca 

      5 days ago

      So you want to know about my crush? Alright then...

      He is a year older than me, and we’re in the same school. We met four years ago during math trainings and started talking more. He started hanging out with me and my best friends about two years ago and quickly became one of my closest friends.

      He’s a sweetheart, and loves hugs. We have shared so many moments together. We have so many things in common as well. He has a beautiful soul, and will protect his friends any time. He’s loyal, kind, sweet, funny, and so many other things. And also, to add into the mixture, he’s cute. He has beautiful chocolate eyes and soft auburn hair. He’s tall, about a head over me. He’s the best.

      We spend so much time together some people even think we’re dating. He liked a couple of girls before, and now he likes me. The thing is, we both know we like each other. But we also know that both of our parents don’t want us to have a girlfriend/boyfriend yet. Until we are both allowed to date, we’ll stay as friends. I’m scared he’ll take interest in another girl though, since he’a not tied to anything at the moment. Hope you can give me some advice for that. Thank you! Bye!

      -With love,

      Beca

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 weeks ago from USA

      Crushing - Attraction is not all about looks. It's about trust, personality, shared connections, humor, listening, and so much more. I think you understand that. He obviously likes you as much as you like him.

      Maybe you both should take a chance on one another? It's great when you can find someone you can trust these days. Trust your heart and how someone treats you and makes you feel rather than your eyes.

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      Crushing 

      2 weeks ago

      My crush is rlly funny. He always finds time to talk to me and we're really good friends. He knows about things that happen to me that no one else does, and I trust him and i think he trusts me just as much. I'm not even rlly sure why i like him because hes not the cutest person i can find, but theres just something...

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 weeks ago from USA

      Eva - Thanks for the recommendation. It's a very sweet song. I put it on the playlist. I hadn't heard that one before. Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

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      Eva 

      3 weeks ago

      Listen to one day by Tate mcrae

      It describes crushing perfectly! Mine is cute sweet and respectful

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 weeks ago from USA

      Taylor - During class changes, you can at least make eye contact, smile, and try to say hi or a few words (as much as class changes will permit). Also, try to connect via social media or arrange to run into him after school by joining some of the same clubs/organizations or being in the same locations that he hangs out. Or you could always go old school and write him a note, passing it to him during class change with a smile.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 weeks ago from USA

      Eudora Yao - Aww, this certainly sounds like good news. Thank you for the update! Wishing you all the best in your sweet romance with Mr. Cuddles.

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      Eudora Yao 

      3 weeks ago

      The date with him went perfectly and we’ve been talking ever since, he’s introduced me to his roommates, his friends, and one night I went over without makeup, scared of what I looked like without makeup but he kept saying I looked beautiful and nothing changed :) each time we get to know each other more and every time we fall asleep next to each other, he makes sure I’m not cold and cuddles with me till I fall asleep ☺️ I think it’s going on a positive direction and I hope it keeps going that way and I’m trying hard to not fall fast but it’s gettjng harder every time we hang out now

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      Taylor 

      3 weeks ago

      I have a crush on this one guy that used to like me. I’m not sure how to tell if he likes me back still or how I could tell him that I like him. We only see each other during class switches and when there is a lot of people around. Any suggestions?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 weeks ago from USA

      Nithya - I appreciate your stopping by. Hope you are doing well. Have a great weekend.

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      Nithya Venkat 

      3 weeks ago from Dubai

      A great list of songs, have heard some of them. Hats off to you for putting together this list.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 weeks ago from USA

      Kiera - I'm glad to hear that. Stay positive!

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      Kiera 

      4 weeks ago

      This helps me a lot through ruff times I love it

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 weeks ago from USA

      James - I'm sure you're a better man for staying in that lit class, no matter the motivation! Great story!

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      James C Moore 

      5 weeks ago from The Great Midwest

      This hub made me think of a crush like experience from some years back. I say crush like because it wasn't a crush as your hub describes. However, I was smitten more like a lust at first sight. During my first week at the University of Iowa, classes began on Wednesday. Having studied my schedule, I noticed that if I dropped my literature class, I would still have a full load (thus insuring continued eligibility for my guaranteed student loan) and leave my Fridays class free. So, the plan on Friday was to attend class and promptly get the teacher's signature and say adios to lit class. I go to the English Philosiphy Building and head towards the classroom. But upon reaching the classroom, I saw the teacher and stopped in my tracks. Upon seeing her (the teacher) I immediately changed my mind. I was struck by the vision before my eyes. I stayed in her class and I believe my grade was a "B" for that course.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 weeks ago from USA

      Eudora Yao - Hooray! You're the young woman who ran into romantic Mr. Snuggles who kept saying you were cute, right!? Sounds like a really good start. So glad this is progressing nicely. He sounds like a decent young man, and I hope that there is something genuine there between you. I wish you luck! A big high five from me to you from across the Internet! Feel free to come back and update us later!

      All the best, FlourishAnyway

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      Eudora Yao 

      5 weeks ago

      So I contacted you about the crush I met through a mutual friend at a party and here’s an update! He asked me to dinner :) so I think it’s going well so far :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 weeks ago from USA

      Astrid - Your comment was inadvertently marked as spam so I am just seeing it tonight, but congratulations! This relationship you have with this guy seems like a mutual interest! I think you're making great progress. Even if this doesn't work out, look at it as terrific practice for the future. I'm so proud of you!

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      Astrid 

      6 weeks ago

      Just an update, I feel like things are continuing to get easier for me and I'm starting to raise my propinquity with my crush! We've been messaging most of the days this week (and it is not always me initiating conversation :D) and we've actually hung out twice as well! Today we went to a raid (its an in-game event I guess you could call it); he messaged me late morning asking if I knew if there were any raids going on and there happened to be one that people were gathering for within half an hour of after I received his message. I told him about it and asked if he wanted to go and he said yes and asked me if he could ride with me again. And so we went to it and we got to talk quite a lot again. I actually got to talk about some stuff about me like he asked me about what I want to do after graduation, he told me about how his mom wants him to do a masters but he doesn't really want to. It was so cute, when he saw a nice car (I really know nothing about cars so I don't remember what it was), he started talking about it; I was listening intently and then at some point he stopped himself and was like "I'm sorry if this is boring you, I just really like cars" and I smiled and said something like "No, its okay, I think its really cool that you are into cars." We also somehow ended up talking about how our parents met and at some point this lead to us saying when our birthdays are. Also, he said that a conversation he had with a friend the other day reminded him of something I had said when we hung out on Sunday. Lastly, I had my music playing on shuffle and the theme song of one of my favorite animes came on and he showed curiosity about it (he doesn't know much about anime) so I ended up telling him about it and he seemed to take interest in the plot (I'm thinking possibly later on I can invite him to watch it with me if things continue to go well like this). I still want to do the coffee thing too, I just have not found the right time yet to ask yet. I've honestly never felt this comfortable talking to a guy who I am romantically interested in before and its a great feeling.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 weeks ago from USA

      Astrid - He's definitely interested based on what you're telling me. He flirted with you, paid for your Taco Bell meal, shared information about his family and hometown, and showed vulnerability regarding his Southern accent. (Being a Southerner myself who has lived and traveled extensively around the country, the accent can be an issue, as non-Southerners often assume you're not smart based on a Southern drawl and may make fun of it right to your face. That gets old. Emphasize, for example, that you like it because it's him--flirt back!)

      As far as next steps, if you don't want to wait for the next group hangout, why not text or contact him through social media and get more frequent conversation going? You might also invite him out for coffee or bagels/donuts or something small (think less than lunch) and tell him it's your treat, you'd like to continue to get to know him better OR you just want to hear him say "thank ya" again in person with that awesome Southern accent.

      Be sure to share reciprocal information about yourself, your hometown, your interests, and ask questions as the conversation flows. If you don't like the coffee/bagel idea, how about suggesting something related to Halloween since the season is here (e.g., a haunted house)? That might lend to you hanging onto his arm during the the haunted house whether you actually "need" to or not.

      I'm so pleased your life is progressing like this and wish you the best with this apparently charming young man. My experience is that Southern men can be (but aren't always) much more mannered, so be observant if he goes to open doors for you or pull out your chair. And in case he's a country music fan, definitely be ready for that. Know that it's very offputting for someone to hate country music if you've grown up with it and especially if they don't really know what modern country music is like these days. Some of it could pass for rock or alternative rock.

      I wish you the best of luck! I hope there's a real connection going!

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      Astrid 

      7 weeks ago

      Hi again! So I actually worked up the courage to message my crush and asked him if he wanted to join me and a group of some other Pokemon Go players I know. We went out today and I think things went really well. I didn't get too nervous, and I was able to talk to him comfortably; I mean I think it helped that we were hanging out in a group but it's definitely a start. And I did have some 1 on 1 time with him because we went in the same car (I drove in the morning, but when we did head back to the university to get some stuff and we went in his car when we met back up with the group later). We did talk quite a lot and I did learn a lot about him. He was telling me a lot about his family and his hometown and some various other things about him and he also asked me some things about me.

      Based on what I observed we sort of have similar personalities (like quiet, laid back etc.) And well this one small instance (I mean it could be nothing but I feel like he might have been flirting a little, but I'm not sure), well there was a point where we all stopped at this one place to sit down for a bit and everyone was sort of having their own conversations amongst the group and we were sitting next to each other and well I was looking down at my phone and then he randomly started tapping on my screen and playfully said something like "oh is that a touch screen?" and it kinda didn't register in my head right away and I kinda just said "yeah" before I realized the joke, lol.

      And when we were walking back I casually asked if he wanted to get food on the way back and we picked up some taco bell. I did pull out my wallet intending to pay for myself, but when we got there he asked me what I wanted and said that he would pay for it.

      Also at the drive through there was kind of a long wait and we were talking some more and he asked me if he sounded too southern (he is from the south) when he talks and I told him no, just sometimes (like when he said thank you to the lady at the drive through, it sounded like "thank ya") and then he was telling me about some words that most of the time come out southern, like the word "peaches". I said it, then he said it again and I laughed a little bit and then he got a little defensive asking if he was saying it wrong and then I was like no I can just hear a bit of the twang when you say it and we both laughed.

      So yeah that all happened. Everything about our conversations just felt so natural and not awkward or forced. He also said to let him know when we'd be meeting up again and he thanked me for inviting him. What do you think? I realize it is early on, but do you think there may be something there like there's a chance I may be getting somewhere with this? Any tips on what to try to do next in addition to inviting him to our next hangout?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 weeks ago from USA

      Shannon - Thank you for those two great additions! I get some sweet comments and questions on this one. Reminds me of when I was a teen. Have a great weekend.

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      Shannon Henry 

      8 weeks ago from Texas

      Well, you know me and country music often go hand in hand. Usually, the first songs that come to my mind for your playlists are country. So here's an old school song from the 90s. Remember Lila McCann's "Crush" song? I didn't see it on your list. It's the first one I thought of this time. Oh, and "As If" by Sara Evans may fit your list. I think it does, anyway. This is a fun list, by the way. :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Jenna - It seems like you do have a lot in common, including this young woman. IF you're going to caution him about this young woman, I would be candid instead of tossing little hints. Some people don't get hints at all. Perhaps give him some level of choice in the matter by asking him a question along the lines of, "Can I speak openly and honestly about my reaction to you liking Jane?" or "If I had important information about someone you like, would you want me to speak up, or stay quiet about it?" That way, he has some level of choice. His judgment about this girl will tell you whether he's worthy of continuing to admire.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Acul - Since you know she likes someone else, just ignore the awkwardness and be her friend, just as you are friends with others. Smile, use compliments, make her laugh, ask her questions so that she talks to you about herself. The more familiar one gets with another person, the more that awkwardness tends to go away. Even if you never end up to be more than just friends, we can never have too many friends, right? Great social skills is a lifelong benefit, so practice making people feel comfortable in awkward situations. Good luck to you.

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      jenna  

      2 months ago

      okay so uhhh... i really like this dude in my classes. quite obviously he’s super cute, he has a great personality, and he has my same interests and humor type. my problem is that i don’t know where i stand with him. i don’t know if he considers me a friend or not... i also recently found out that he likes one of my emotionally abusive ex-girlfriends (i’m bisexual) and i give him small hints as to why she’s no good, not just because i’m interested in him, but because think he deserves so much better..

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      Acul 

      2 months ago

      I like a girl in my class but she likes someone else so I started to get her phone number and now I think she feels a little bit awkward around me now.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      destiny - No matter how much you may like him, if he has told you he didn't like you and to stop texting him, it's important to honor that request. If you don't, your behavior could be perceived as stalker-like and that would prevent you from future relationships that might be reciprocal. We've all been rejected, and it hurts. Just work on loving yourself. Some day the right relationship will come along.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Cj - What kind of person has to think that much about a date? As my teen daughter says, "It's not that deep!" Really, it's a couple of hours. You didn't ask him to marry you.

      You either caught him off guard and he didn't know how to turn you down, he's got a very packed social calendar or he's already dating someone he likes but they're not quite committed yet and he doesn't want to mess it up. Or, Cj, if you are also male and he is not out, he may legitimately have something to think about. I could understand that better, but hopefully, he'll be candid with you.

      As far as your request for songs related to this situation, here are a few listed below:

      1) "What Do You Mean?" by Justin Bieber (2015)

      2) "Taking Chances" by Celine Dion (2007)

      3) "Say You Will" by Foreigner (1987)

      4) "Take a Chance on Me" by ABBA (1976)

      5) "Check Yes or No" by George Strait (1995)

      6) "Start of Something Good" by Daughtry (2011)

      7) "Take a Chance on Me" by JLS (2011)

      Hope this helps.

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      destiny 

      2 months ago

      i like this boy that goes to my church he told me he ddint like me an to stop texting him but i never felt this feeling about a boy before

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      Cj 

      2 months ago

      So I asked out this guy, and he didn’t say yes OR no, he said he was going to think about it. Just wondering if there’s is any songs for situations like this? I can’t find find anything lol

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Gabriel - If she recently broke up with someone, there may be trust issues as well as an adjustment (mourning) period. This is normal. She did you BOTH a favor by being candid, so don't assume that she's testing your patience or playing games. It would've been worse to have started dating and then found out she had unresolved feelings for her ex, right? Let her work it out on her own, then start dating when she's ready.

      In the meantime, work on being her friend. Develop a history together even if it's not dating yet.

      Learn more about each other, hang out with her both alone and in groups but no hand holding, etc. Just give her a little space. If she told you she has the same feelings for you, take her at her word. Make it clear to her that you'll be a friend first and you're hanging out as friends. After a couple months check back in with her to see how she's doing emotionally and see if she's ready to go out on a real date.

      I hope this helps.

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      Gabriel 

      2 months ago

      There's this certain girl in my neighborhood, didn't have enough courage to ask her out but I did eventually. She told me she's got the same feelings for me but can't dive into another relationship as she recently just broke up. Now she's asking if I could wait a little while. I don't know if she's putting my patience up for a test or she just doesn't want me to feel bad. Now I'm real confused, don't know what to do.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      xxRhiannynxx - If you talk for hours, laugh, hang out and have a blast, then you're obviously worth his time and not all that socially awkward! Give yourself a little more credit for being awesome. You may be that quiet girl who just doesn't fit into the crowd of "cool kids"--who decides they're cool anyhow?--but you have a certain mystique about you. You'd be surprised how many of those cool kids think that they, too, are socially awkward, BTW.

      My recommendations: keep pretty frequent contact with him, even if it's just to check in with him about how he's doing, follow up on the status of something important in his life (a test, starting a new job, etc.). Start with checking in once a week or so, then go more frequent if he gives you more than a courtesy response.

      See if he'll engage more with you over social media or text. Talk on the phone or FaceTime. See if he'll hang on more with you. It's best to hang out one-on-one rather than in a group so you can really get to know one another. Share more about yourself and worry less about impressing him.

      Discover what you have in common -- background, beliefs, preferences, habits. Discuss and debate your differences. Sometimes the best way to do this is by discussing current events! Ask him random questions, sometimes off the wall or funny ones to get him to open up. Be prepared to answer them yourself. Talk about childhood memories that made you who you are, what you want in life, and the big things that matter to you. The important thing is to keep talking. Generate opportunities for interaction on social media and especially in person. Tell him he was fun to hang out with and you want to know him better. That's blunt and honest.

      I know the stakes seem high, somewhere in there is a confident young woman. If he doesn't return your feelings, that's okay. There are plenty of guys out there. View this as social skills practice in getting what you want. Wishing you all the best.

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      xxRhiannynxx 

      2 months ago

      About my crush huh? Well well well. He's a year older than me and he's the type guy I'd think is "out of my league" sadly. Him and I used to go to school together, until he left around a year ago, leaving me with the hope of seeing him again one day. Good news! we still catch up to this day and I'm so happy we do. As stated before, I do tend to think I'm out of his league though now. He's the type of guy to hang out with all the cool kids and get along so well and be so loyal and kind. Me on the other hand, I'm socially awkward and tend to think I'm boring to people even when they say I'm not. But when we're together I feel amazing. We have the best vibes and make each other laugh for hours and have a blast! I don't know how to talk to him though. Sure this may sound clichè when someone's crushing, but "Will I bore him to death?" "Will we have an engaging, fun conversation?" "Will he think there are better and more entertaining people to talk to?" Are the questions that linger in my head when I think about going in to talk to him in person or on social media. I don't like hinting that I have these feelings for him when I obviously prolong our conversations because I feel like they'll soon become shorter and shorter if they become clear. I really just don't want to bother him, but then my heart aches the longer I avoid talking to him because I don't know how to anymore. I'd appreciate some advice or help! Thanks

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Confused Girl - If you have a crush on your ex, consider whether anything has really changed or you're just in love with the idea of who you wished he was. After all, if you didn't talk that much how much do you really know about him other than surface stuff? Do you talk now?

      You must've broken up for a good reason -- probably lack of common interests and an emotional connection. Physical attraction can only take you so so far. If you have a mutual spark in which you share conversation, an attraction, respect for one another, and mutual interests, take it to the next level. If not, go on to the next guy. Your ex isn't the only one out there, and it's common to look back sometimes with a tinge of regret.

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      Confused Girl 

      2 months ago

      So I have a crush on my ex. When we were dating it was awkward due to the fact that we didn’t talk a whole lot. I like him and I don’t know what to do.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Astrid - Good to hear back from you. It's wonderful that your new interest is approachable and you have connections who also know him. Here are a couple ideas to help get closer to him. Think about the goal at this point as being to hang out together or go get coffee, lunch, or ice cream together.

      1) message him more and forget about it being awkward - if all is going well, at some point just say "I'm hungry, do you want to go get lunch?" or "I need caffeine, do you want to go get some Starbucks?" or "Great game! Do you want to go celebrate with some ice cream?"

      2) instant message or inbox him on Facebook, starting with something funny or cute, then ask if he wants to hang out

      3) arrange to be over your friend's apartment (the one who is a neighbor of his) at a time when he's likely to be home. Even if he's not there, leave a brief note on his door or tell his roommate to tell him that you came by.

      Good luck!

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      Astrid 

      2 months ago

      Hey there! You may or may not remember me from way earlier in the year; So anyways, there’s a guy I met about a week ago on campus while playing Pokémon go (he plays as well) and we talked quite a bit and friended each other in the game and also on Facebook. We have different majors and have classes in different buildings so I actually haven’t seen him since then. I did have two brief conversations with him on messenger. I think he’s really cute and I want to get to know him better, but not seeing him much doesn’t exactly help. :/ I could try to message him more, and maybe at some point ask him if he wants to hang out but I don’t know how to without it being weird I guess? My roommate who knows him said that he’s quite approachable and really sweet so I shouldn’t be nervous to talk to him, but my shyness and tendency to overthink sorta gets in my way. He also happens to live in the apartment next to another friend of mine who also has some classes with him. So yeah I guess I’m just stuck on how to try to move forward with this. Any advice?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Veena - Sisters! You can always count on them to embarrass you.

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      Veena 

      2 months ago

      Hi! So i have a a crush on this guy at work. I added him on messenger.Fortunately he accepted me.My sister, whos quite stupid sent a kissing emoji

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      help me - If you like him back, there's nothing wrong with acknowledging it. Take it slow and be happy.

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      help me 

      2 months ago

      somebody likes me slould i tell him no or yes

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      The girl who - Telling him is premature at this point. You were friends for a week then he became distant. Perhaps he moved on or got distracted by someone else. Try to rekindle the friendship and see if the spark is still there.

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      The girl who doesn’t know what to do 

      2 months ago

      I really like this boy and in the beginning of the year he would t stop watching me so I went up and takes to him we were friends for like a week and we would sit together in class and at lunch and then he got really distant and I kinda miss him and do t k ow what to do. Should I tell him or just try and become friends with him again??

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      A - A must be for Awesome! First, it's absolutely okay to be a smart, nerdy, shy girl who is most likely to succeed. I was one! Embrace who you are!

      Second, since you're in your senior year, please don't waste time by just pining away for him, never taking a chance, and always wondering "what if?". Everyone experiences rejection from time to time and it really is okay if that happens. What's worse than rejection is never taking the chance and finding out. You don't have to express undying love for him. Just flirt a little and see how he responds.

      Here are a couple of simple but effective ideas to get you started. Start smiling directly at him, saying hello or good morning (and use his name), tilting your head, and making direct eye contact. Do it consistently. Bring Lifesavers, Tic-Tacs, gum (if allowed) or whatever to class and offer him one. Compliment him and ask him questions about himself such as what he did this past weekend (that's tell you more about if there's another girl in the picture). You can also share information about yourself. Tell him that you go his games or you wanted to come up to him after the game last Friday but you're shy and chickened out. That's being honest, and since he's quiet he'll appreciate that.

      I hope you take a chance. Someone WILL appreciate you for being who you are. Believe me!

      Wishing you all the best.

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      2 months ago

      So I really like this guy in one of my classes. We only met 2 months ago and we barely talk but hes the best guy I've ever met. The only problems are that hes kinda quiet, a year younger than me ( and im a senior so that wont last), and a football player. Everyone kinda thinks I'm just a nerdy girl who studies all day bc I won most likely to succeed but I'm really not like that. I've heard from other people that he might be talking to this other girl. But I'm not sure. I go to all his games and I'm always scared to talk to him after. I've gotten rejected before and since I sit next to him if he rejects me it'll be really awkward. I don't want to make you repeat yourself. You don't have to respond it just feels good to get this off my chest.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      sarah decarlo - There are a number of Questions and Answers at the end of the article which provide a variety of ideas and advice, depending on the situation. Rather than repeating myself here, why not take a look at some of those to get some ideas? Be sure to click on the "see more" at the bottom for the entire list of Questions that readers have posed. In brief, it's already been 4 years. Don't let more time slip away. Even if it's a negative answer, knowing is better than not knowing! Good luck.

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      sarah decarlo 

      3 months ago

      how do i tell my crush i like him??? he barley knows i exist, but he's the entire world to me. help me please. i've had a crush on him for about 4 years and still haven't said anything. im just to afraid of his answer.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      NE41679 - Thank you for that song suggestion! I have added it to the playlist. Have a wonderful week ahead.

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      NE41679 

      3 months ago

      Great list, a lot of notable songs. Check out Westlife's "Obvious", it's one of my go to songs.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      robpeters076 - Thanks again! I had Madonna at #59 but added some of the others. You're great with this!

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      robpeters076 

      3 months ago

      Sorry four more for the road...

      This Time I Know It's For Real - Donna Summer

      Can't Take My Eyes Off Of You - Frankie Valli or Lauren Hill

      Crazy For You - Madonna

      I Need Someone Like You - James Ingram

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      robpeters076 - There are some great additions here. Thank you for the suggestions.

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      robpeters076 

      3 months ago

      Good list! Here are some more crush songs

      Hungry Eyes - Eric Carmen

      She's Like the Wind - Patrick Swayze

      Iris - The Goo Goo Dolls

      Breakhru - Queen

      Take Your Time - Sam Hunt

      Cupid - Sam Cooke or the Spinners

      Tryin to tell ya - Andru Donald

      My Eyes Adored You - Frankie Valli or Justin Kawika

      I wanna get next to you - Rose Royce

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Jake - I'm glad you enjoyed this. I added your suggested song to my playlist about heartbreaks and breakups. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

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      Jake Clawson 

      4 months ago from Kazakhstan

      I am very nostalgic reading your article; great job. My head might as well be Little Karachi (Most my crushes being from Karachi, Pakistan) However, my crush songs are metal and hardcore.

      Check out Story of the Year's "We Are Not Gonna Make It." Off of Black Swan.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Maddy McPatty - You seemed to have learned this bit of information about your crush allegedly accusing you of making him fail his exams from an unreliable source. Unless you hear it from him forget that you heard it. (You could always ask him directly.)

      Now that he knows you like him--think of your former BFF's tattling as doing the hard part for you by letting him know--you need to see whether he returns your interest. If not, that's fine, but don't let rumors concern you.

      Also be alert that people do surround themselves with others who are similar. Thus, be open to the possibility that he may not be worth your trouble. Cute doesn't always mean nice, too.

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      Maddy-McPatty 

      4 months ago

      Hello, i need your help. See i have a crush on this really cute guy since i moved schools (late last year) and my ex bestie found out i liked him (via guessing it because her crush is mines best friend. And my constant staring at him.) A few weeks later she told him. Now my other friend was talking to him in the school libary, and he accused me of making him fail in english and maths. When i did next to nothing! I have nothing to do with him! Some part of me doesn't beleive it. Allthough a few times i find him looking at me. I dont harras him. His friends are the toxic ones here. Not me, what do i do? Im really confused so i came to you.

      Also, sorry for my spelling errors.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 months ago from USA

      Noar rbc - Good for you. I encourage your creativity.

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      Noar rbc 

      5 months ago

      while this list was useful im going to go on my own path and just write my own song and have my friend help with the music

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 months ago from USA

      Cher - Woo hoo! A very big high five! I am DELIGHTED that it all worked out and that you were actually the crush involved. Have fun together!

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      Cher 

      5 months ago

      Hey, it's me again.

      So, I took your advice in confessing to him and under no circumstances shall I watch his confession tomorrow. We talked about that matter in private messaging since I am too shy to open up the video call and he respected that. He panicked slightly and pleaded to come and watch just for support. I told him no, and that I told him that I have to discuss that sort of thing to him (and surprise surprise, confess to him in the middle of the convo). He told me to just say it in chat but I insisted on face-to-face since I was going to confess, he won't see if my facial expression would be sincere and all and I want to express my feelings to him vocally.

      The next day, I wanted to back out since confessing is too overwhelming for me considering this is the first time I have to confess to the guy I love. After classes, he called me (for the first time) and told me to follow him at the back of the school so that we will talk.

      It was really far from how we talk in the PMs cause in reality, we talk awkwardly, like we were meeting each other for the first time but after a few topics, we recovered from the awkwardness and began talking like best friends. He suddenly brings up the topic about the girl he likes and that's where everything happened.

      He starts of describing how amazing she is and how approachable she is and stuff, and I admit I was very jealous and I was sad at the same time, thinking of wow what a wonderful girl she is and told him, "Wow, you will be a very lucky guy if she falls for you after your confession today." and a question hit me, "Did you already confess? How'd it go?"

      He simply blurts out, "Yeah, I'll be really lucky if you'll fall for me."

      I played it off as if I was hearing the wrong thing and laughed and told him to say it again because I didn't hear him correctly and he confessed AGAIN.

      Well, I didn't manage to confess first before him since he beat me through it but here I am, thanking you for your advice as I am having a video call with my pretty sweet boyfriend in the other window lol.

      Thank you so much~!! XOXOX

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 months ago from USA

      Donny - First, because I'm a former corporate HR investigator let me commend you on one big point ... you're colleagues rather than one of you supervising the other, so you have less to worry about in regards to workplace harassment. (It's still worthwhile to check your company's policies to make sure dating a colleague is permitted. Sometimes there are even policies against that.) If so, then a crush totally works in your case until someone says they're not interested. Many people meet their mates at work. (I met my husband at work.) If the relationship doesn't work out, at least she's not in the same department.

      Second, to address your question, you seem very attentive towards her and respectful of her feelings. Realize that she might not have a lot of practice dating. Even being a shy woman, she has taken a risk and accepted your dinner invitation as well as allowed you to buy her dinner when she was doing the night shift. If she was not interested at all, she'd probably make excuses or turn you down cold. You had a good time when you went out. She may not text back because she's shy and doesn't know what to make of the relationship. Instead, how about calling her instead? If she is receptive to chatting via phone, then pick a concert or activity based on mutual interests and invite her to go. Tell her you had fun over dinner and would like to continue to get to know her better outside of work, if she's interested. (For example, sometimes you can find really interesting things on Groupon or similar sites that you've never considered doing until you see them -- sushi making classes, ziplining, archery, paint nights, escape rooms). Make it a memorable adventure together so that it challenges you both to open up. You need shared activities that other coworkers aren't a part of so that you're establishing your own history together. It's best if you're a newbie at the activity, too, so you go through it together.

      Keep trying until she gives you more of an indication regarding how she feels. Good luck!

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      Donny 

      5 months ago

      I have a crush on one of my colleagues at work. We have known each other for almost a year. I started to have feelings for her the past few months and hence began my very subtle attempts at flirting and geting to know her better.

      Thing is i don’t know if she likes me too.

      And I’m not sure if she even knows I’m flirting with her.

      She doesnt initiate conversations in text. But we can talk quite a lot at work.

      She is of the shy type but has a group of friends (guys and girls) whom she regularly goes out with. I thought I didnt have any chance of getting together with her until few days back when I decided to take a leap of faith and asked her out for dinner which she suprisingly agreed too. I was suprised as she always have dinner plans with her friends. Just the two of us, we had a nice evening where we talked a lot about work, family, the past etc.

      I just dont know what to make of it. Do I have a chance? Im scared of ruining a precious friendship.

      I have been dropping many hints past few months; staying back to help her even though we are different departments, buying her dinner when she is doing night shift, caught me staring at her few times and virtually being around her most of the time at work. Though I dont know if she notices it or not

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 months ago from USA

      Cher - You indicate that he is super shy, and I'm betting if that's the case he may not have a lot of practice with crushes, dating, and social skills. That's a nice way of saying he's probably socially awkward to some extent. That means with your outgoing personality and more polished social skills, you'll likely have to cut him some slack and also take the lead on this.

      I suspect since you have hit it off so famously that it is actually you he wants to confess his attraction to. However, his method is awkward at best and it's odd that he insist that you watch him confess his love to someone else if that's the case (and cruel if he suspects you like him). Consider tell him that under no circumstances will you be showing up to spy on him confessing his love to his crush and you need to Facetime (or Skype) him to discuss the matter. Then ask him point blank who is this person because you are attracted to him and you think the feeling is mutual. If it gets awkward (for example, there really is someone else), that's okay. At least you told him. You say you're in love. He needs to know where you stand instead of making you play silly games. It's better to be rejected than always wonder! Take it from me!

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      Cher 

      5 months ago

      I am in love with this guy.

      We met by a friend when we were added in a Messenger groupchat, a groupchat for friends or so she says. He is a really silent kid while I'm an upbeat, energetic kiddo. I had no intentions of falling for him and I just thought of him as a schoolmate of mine (we are not classmates). One day, I happen to touch a topic while talking to my best friend in the groupchat that sparked his interests, it was actually surprising to find out we had the same interests and that was when he actually started to chat in the groupchat.

      Starting from that day, we always chat on that groupchat of ours, with our friends telling us to just PM each other since we are noisy haha.

      He always chats me first in the groupchat, sometimes mentioning me if I don't see it directly. When we chat in PMs, either he chats first or tells me in the groupchat to chat in the PM first for some reason. Even if we are only very close in chats and just look at each other silently in person, I still fell in love with my schoolmate.

      He told me that in two days, he is going to confess to a girl that he recently likes and apparently my friends know it excluding me, the closest friend that is girl (in which he says so), who doesn't know anything about that girl. He told me to go at xxx location if I want to see him confessing. I told him that I'm not going (to keep my heart from shattering btw, I did not tell him that lol) but he insists that I go so I'll go.

      I'm actually shaking since this is the first time I encountered this situation. Does he like me? Do I make the first move and confess? What do I do? This is the first time I fell in love with someone and I don't know what to do.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Grace - You say you text him and he responds but in a delayed fashioned. Your task is to discover whether he's being socially awkward, a player, or he's just super busy or distracted. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to help figure it out.

      Does HE ever initiate contact, or is it always you? Are you sure he's single? Does he have a reputation as a player? Does he leave you on "Read" for a long time before responding? That's probably more likely to be game playing if that's how he does it. When he flirts back is it talk always sexual or does he want to know about YOU, how your day went, who you are as a person, etc.? The more it tends to be sex-charged, the more likely he's using you for self-gratification fantasies. (Sexting is a mistake.)

      I assume you have interactions with him that are in person too rather than just over text. How does he treat you then? Does he pay respectful attention to you, flirt, want to be close to you in person? Rely more on the in-person encounters to gauge how he really feels about you. Does he tend to be shy?

      Texting conceals so much about our intentions and emotions.

      You could also just come right out and ask him what takes him so long to reply to your texts. I'd do it in person and would make a bit of a joke of it. Call his behavior out. It's not respectful. Don't allow yourself to be treated like this. If he wants to flirt, then he can do it a little more on your terms or else explain himself. Relationships -- even those in the early stages -- are two-way streets.

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      Grace 

      6 months ago

      I love this guy, and I've been texting him recently but he takes so long to reply! I don't know if he loves me or not!

      When he does reply it's quite flirty but I just can't work it out. It's always over a day to reply which is why I have my doubts but it's painful and I really need some help!

      Do I try stop myself from loving him or keep talking to him?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 months ago from USA

      Astrid, I'm so sorry that this didn't work out this time. However, the positive side is that you built some confidence, the rejection truly wasn't about you, and at least you're not pining about all summer about someone you can never be with. It's wonderful that he trusted you enough as a friend to be candid about his sexual identity. That had to be really hard for him.

      I hope the net experience was positive and that you've gained a good male friend. Someone as sensitive and caring as you will find someone, probably when you least expect it.

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      Astrid 

      7 months ago

      Hey there again! I know its been a while, but yeah I finally told him (not directly, but it will make sense in a minute)... We had a masquerade dance last weekend and I went; he was also there as well as some of our other friends. I wasn't planning on telling him that night, but eventually I got the courage to request a slow song a few songs later when it came on, I asked him if he wanted to dance with me. He's an amazing dancer (he's been doing choreography for our theater productions and he's been dancing since he was a kid), and it felt amazing to dance with him. Also as the song was ending he told me that he wanted to talk to me, and he also told me to go get my phone because he wanted to take a picture of me on one of the spiral staircases. So I went back to our table and grabbed my phone and then we walked over to the staircase and he took a very nice picture of me and told me I was pretty. we then went up the stairs to the balcony/landing that went around the square room and well this is what happened... He told me that he really values me as a friend and doesn't want to lose me as one, and then he told me something about himself that he said he does not really tell anyone, especially anyone from our hometown (we're both from the same city) (you can probably guess what it is, I'm just omitting it out of respect for him). He was so sweet about the whole thing, he was even apologizing, but I told him that he didn't have to because its part of who he is and that is nothing to apologize for. Despite the slight disappointment, I feel so honored that he trusted me enough to tell me. Then we had a nice conversation and he called me gorgeous and said he truly thinks there is someone out there for me. He also still wants to go to coffee with me and he recommended a place that he likes that I've never been to. So yeah I didn't actually tell him directly, but I think it was just really obvious when I asked him to dance (I truly tried to stay calm, but I was really nervous so I stuttered a little).

      Also the people running the campus event were taking Polaroids and he asked me if I wanted to take one with him before we left which was really nice and he asked me if I wanted to keep it (so yeah I did :))

      Anyways, I just thought I would tell you what happened since you kind of helped me through this. I guess I just have a lot of mixed emotions, and I really really liked him and I know my feelings are not going to fade right away, but knowing myself well enough I will get through it and move on after some time passes. I'm just glad that we're still friends and that it went smoothly compared to the terrible scenarios my anxiety cooked up in my brain, lol.. So once again, thank you. :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      Somebody - Instead of just looking at one another, try smiling or try to sit closer. you don't have to force it but that igot be a step in the right direction. Good luck!

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      Nobody 

      9 months ago

      I really like this kid at my church and he looks over at me often . We avoid talking to each other bc I think we are both too nervous. I really think he could be a special part of my life .

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      Astrid, it sounds like there are signs of mutual interest there. Maintain his gaze a lot with a smile and see if he reciprocates. Try the head tilt. Intentionally touch him (pick a pretend hair or piece of lint off him). If he responds to these and continues to give you the vibe that he likes you, you might just come out and say that you asked him out the first time (to the play), and now it's his turn. If he doesn't take that hint, move on.

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      Astrid 

      9 months ago

      Hi again! So I've been attempting to subtly flirt with the guy I like. It's going okay I think? And well a few small things happened and I would like a second opinion on it. So I was working on a group project with him and one of our other friends, we met in a study room in the library (it's a small room with a table, a computer in the corner and a whiteboard on the wall). The guy I like was using the computer and was also writing down things we found on the board, and me and our other group member were using our laptops. At some point I found something to write on the board, he looked busy reading something so I said I would write it down. There was a marker in the basket on the tablet was going to grab it but he suddenly turned around from the computer and handed me the marker he was using. And I'm know for a fact that I didn't imagine it, our hands touched... also when we were done researching, our other group member was in charge of the PowerPoint so she was typing everything. My crush and I started practinf chemistry problems on the board and despite there being two markers we were just passing the marker back and forth... I realize maybe I'm making a big deal of nothing but I'm pretty sure I felt something there...

      The other thing that happened, just the other night at rehearsal for the opera I'm in, he's helping with costumes and choreography, he and the main costumer called me back to try some things on. They were still figuring things out so I was basically just putting different things over the shirt I was wearing. He handed me this dress/long shirt and he started putting it on for me. I was able to keep my composure but wow! Then the main costumer cracked a joke saying "isn't she capable of putting it on herself?" And he replied (also in a joking tone) "nooo she isn't!" And we all just kinda laughed and yeah.

      And one more thing, my friend who is also in the cast told me that at the tech call last weekend for the opera, they were looking for things for costumes and my crush came across a dress and asked my friend if she though that I would look good in it. My friend said yes and then my crush said that he thought I would look hot in it

      So those are just a couple of the big things, another small thing: I had to work with him today in lab again and we talked quite a bit, I just asked him how choreography was going and we talked about that and then as its International Women's Day, I noticed he made a Facebook post dedicated to his younger sister in honor of the day and I casually mentioned it that I thought it was a really sweet post and that branched into a little conversation about how close he is with his sister. :)

      So yeah do these seem like potential signs or should I still wait it out? I'm somewhat debating asking him if he wants to get coffee sometime and if I time it right I might just admit my feelings. I don't want to rush anything, and I understand if he doesn't feel the same way then that's just how it is and I'll get over it eventually, it's just I don't want to drag this to the very end of the semester (there's only like 2 months left..). Sorry this turned into an essay, but I really appreciate your input and advice. Thanks so much! :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      Courtney - Since it's a workplace situation, the former corporate HR representative in me says tread carefully. This doesn't mean you have to abandon all hope; it just means you need to be smart about it. Thus, you might want to try to grow your friendship first to discover whether she's already attached and likes girls. Try taking your friendship to events outside of work so that you can learn more about one another. This shouldn't be too difficult since you are already friends and spend time together at work. You may discover important information about how she feels about you. Many people have met spouses and significant others at work while others have unfortunately created uncomfortable situations for themselves and others that impact their career. It's therefore important to be aware of relevant company policies and risks regarding dating a fellow employee. Take a look at the following article, particularly the tips at the bottom of the article: https://hubpages.com/business/Can-You-Find-Love-an... Best of luck to you! Let us know how it goes.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      Astrid - Keep us posted. Even if this doesn't work out, that's totally okay. Look at it as practice! I bet you're more awesome than you give yourself credit for. Best of luck.

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      Courtney 

      9 months ago

      I am a 29-year-old female. Up until recently, I've had crushes only on men. However, there is a female coworker who I have grown attached to in the 10 months I've been in my department. She has a very warm, approachable personality, she always compliments my efforts at work, she notices little things I say and do and she's always been very supportive of me from day one. I realized I have a crush on her 3 months ago and the feeling is still going strong. She makes my day better with a smile aimed my way, or a conversation during lunch break. We've grown closer as friends, but I don't want to tell her how I feel because I don't want to ruin the friendship we have, I don't know if she likes girls too and we're coworkers, which complicates things a little bit. However, I wish she knew how amazing she is in my eyes.

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      Astrid 

      9 months ago

      Thank you so much for responding to my comment! I appreciate the advice you've given and I will do my best to put it into action... I'm quite introverted and a little shy, I also don't have much (like barely any) experience with relationships and flirting, so this is sort of difficult for me. (I had to have a lot of encouragement from my best friend to actually work up the courage to ask him to the play I mentioned that we saw last weekend). We were both out of town last week for a science conference and ended up being lab partners for the chemistry lab we missed. We came in on our own time yesterday so I did get to spend a bit of time with him and have casual small talk while doing the lab, so that was nice. :) We're going to see each other again during our actual lab period tomorrow so that will be another opportunity. Thank you so much for the encouragement! :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      Astrid - So you're a college student who has made the first move, however, you don't know whether your crush returns your feelings beyond friendship. Good for you in expressing your interest, regardless of where this adventure takes you.

      Here are my ideas since you asked. Consider some fun flirting and see whether he returns your interest. Smiling, eye contact, use of interpersonal touch and body space, and even the colors you wear all matter when it comes to interpersonal attraction and flirting. Tips and explanations are shared here: https://hubpages.com/dating/Get-Noticed-The-Scienc... You might also try compliments, finding a common task to work on together, and spending more time alone with him, when possible. Get him talking about himself so that not only can you do the same but also you might have a chance to learn more about his personal/love life. (I assume you already know he's straight and has no girlfriend.)

      Since you both have common interests, consider more opportunities to go to events together. Either repeat what you've done before with asking him out or put the responsibility on him to ask you. Ask what fun things he has scheduled or whether he's been to a given event, restaurant, movie, or location. Work it into the conversation. If he's already been, then ask what he thought. If he hasn't been yet, tell him that anytime he'd like to go, you'd be interested.

      You only have so much time left in the semester and you don't want to pine away for him over the summer. You're worried about getting rejected, but what's worse that rejection is never knowing. I'm rooting for you, Astrid!

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      Astrid 

      9 months ago

      I like someone, I have no idea if he likes me back though... We've been friends for a little over a year and I just recently started to realize my feelings. We both have the same major and we both love participating in theater. He can be a bit dramatic and kinda gets on people's nerves sometimes, but he is also really sweet and has always been especially kind to me. I already kinda took a first step, a co-worker invited me to play she was in and I bought two tickets from her and asked him if he wanted to go, he agreed and we both really enjoyed the play. I had the intention to ask if he wanted to get food afterwards, but I chickened out (this was actually 2 days ago). I guess I'm just not sure what to do next... I don't want to be super obvious about my crush on him, but at some point I hope he figures out or at least gets a hint... Do you have any input?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      Sofia Erman - Thanks for your comment.

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      Sofia Erman 

      9 months ago

      There is this boy and I was just dreaming about him but we are just really good friends. But I do 't know what the dream was for though. I do think about him sometimes

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      thatperson - The only way you'll know if there's a match is if you start talking to her. If you're too shy to make a move, perhaps your friend can arrange for the three of you to hang out. That might make things easier. Just an idea. Good luck.

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      thatperson 

      9 months ago

      i sent my crush a valentine. We are both girls so I didn't know what she would do. She told my friend she likes girls and wants to know who I am. I don't know what to do because we never talk and I'm really awkward.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      10 months ago from USA

      That Girl - Glad you enjoyed these.

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      That Girl 

      10 months ago

      This was helpful- never heard any of these before!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      10 months ago from USA

      classof2018 - So how about when the time is right ask him if he recalls kissing you (yep), then ask was it like kissing his sister (hopefully not)? Then see where the conversation leads. I hope it works out for you!

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      classof2018 

      10 months ago

      Ive been falling so hard for this guy and we kissed.. it was magical but now I dont know how he feels anymore and all i wanna do is call him mine..

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      FlourishAnyway 

      10 months ago from USA

      noname - I'm so sorry. It's been a long time, but I've been in your shoes and many others have, too. Try to concentrate on making yourself the happiest, most awesome, attractive person possible. It may attract her or someone you who isn't yet on your radar. Good luck!

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      noname 

      10 months ago

      i like her so so so much. but shes with someone else and it breaks my heart. im so jealous. ive been thinking about her almost nonstop nov2017

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      R K GUPTA 

      12 months ago from New Delhi

      Great collection. If someone loves anyone, it is great thing. Real love is rare.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      12 months ago from USA

      doglover - Thanks for the suggestion. I’ve added it as #71. Happy Holidays!

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      doglover 

      12 months ago

      i cant help falling in love with you

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      FlourishAnyway 

      12 months ago from USA

      Hazle - You could ask him and save yourself a lot of stress.

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      Hazle 

      12 months ago

      I have this crush on one of my closest friends and he use 2 like my friend...he "says" he got over her and has a new crush and he likes her more but he won't tell me who...he always says things That seems like it me but I dont want 2 get my hopes up

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      FlourishAnyway 

      12 months ago from USA

      Anna - Best of luck. I hope he sees the truth, and I hope you find out why your frenemy did that. Jealousy?

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      Anna 

      12 months ago

      A few weeks ago, my ex best friend told the guy I liked that I called him a b#@%&. Now he won't talk to me. We have to find partners to sing with for a talent show. And just because of some of these songs, I'm going to ask him to sing with me. (I never called him a b##%)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      12 months ago from USA

      Hi, Haylei, Thank you for that suggestion! It is now #70. Have a great day.

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