100 Songs About Crushes and Crushing on Someone

Updated on May 9, 2019
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If you have a crush on someone, why not make a playlist of pop, rock, R&B and country songs about crushes?  Enjoy it for yourself or make your move by sharing it with them.
If you have a crush on someone, why not make a playlist of pop, rock, R&B and country songs about crushes? Enjoy it for yourself or make your move by sharing it with them. | Source

Crushes: You're More Obvious Than You Believe

Crushes aren't just for teens. Adults get them too.

If your crush is on a coworker, neighbor, classmate, or friend, you probably daydream about taking the relationship to the next level. You earnestly believe your crush is your little secret. However, here's a news flash: the signs you're giving out are like a blinking neon light.

While you pine away and plan your next move, here's a playlist of pop, rock, country, and R&B songs about crushing on someone. Enjoy them as you think about your beloved. If you dare, you could even create a customized songlist and send it to your crush to let them know how you feel. Let us know how it turns out!

1. "Treat You Better" by Shawn Mendes

Oh, wow. He says he'll stop time for her.

The narrator in this 2016 pop hit currently sits squarely in the Friend Zone. However, he's looking for a sign from his crush that she wants to take it to the next level. One little problem: she's another dude's girlfriend. But don't fret because this is not a man who is easily dissuaded. Just give him a sign, girl, and don't take too long.

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2. "You Belong with Me" by Taylor Swift

A crush can sure make you feel like a teenager, even if you aren't. In this 2009 country song, the only obstacle standing between the teenage narrator and her best male friend is his girlfriend.

Citing common interests in music and a shared sense of personal style and music, Taylor Swift's narrator makes it her mission to convince her love interest that what he's been waiting has been here all along.

3. "Damn I Wish I Was Your Lover" by Sophie B. Hawkins

This 1992 rock song is 50 shades of awesome and sounds like a great pick up line. The narrator takes a look at that tall drink of water she's been crushing on and paints a dirty little picture of what she'd like to do to him:

Damn, I wish I was your lover
I'll rock you till the daylight comes
Make sure you are smilin' and warm
I am everything, tonight I'll be your mother
I will do such things to ease your pain
Free your mind and you won't feel ashamed, oh, oh
Open up on the inside, gonna fill you up, gonna make you cry.

4. "Crush" by David Archuleta

The guy in this 2008 pop song has just realized that he's crushing bad. His thoughts are dominated by his sweetie, he's mesmerized by her, and he feels so tingly he thinks it could be love or something like it. He needs to know whether he's alone in this little love affair or if just maybe she feels the same way.

12 Signs That Someone Has a Crush on You

 
 
 
They typically start the conversation.
They listen intently to you.
They always seem to be nearby.
None of your love interests are good enough for you, in their opinion.
You look over and they are frequently staring at you.
They offer you compliments and small gifts.
They change the subject when you talk about other dating partners.
They joke about dating or crazy what ifs. They talk in future tense about the two of you.
They smile at you a LOT, often with a big goofy grin.
They find excuses to touch you or be alone together.
They remember details about you that others don't.
Others tell you that the person likes you.

5. "Stuck Like Glue" by Sugarland

My teenage daughter described a cute crush story in which she and her best friend (a guy) sat listening to this 2010 country song on repeat. The fella had one earbud in his ear and she had the other in hers. Together they belted out the lyrics to one another. But alas, they date other people.

6. "Into You" by Ariana Grande

The narrator in this 2016 pop song is waiting for her crush to make a move. She wants a little less conversation and a little more action. Everybody's watching. Don't choke, Mr.!

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7. "Girlfriend" by Avril Lavigne

The confident girl in this sassy pop song from 2007 spells it right out. She doesn't like her crush's girlfriend, and time has come for him to find a new one. He deserves better, and she'll give him what he needs.

The narrator then issues him orders. If only it were this easy:

So come over here
And tell me what I wanna hear
Better yet, make your girlfriend disappear
I don't wanna hear you say her name ever again (and again and again).

8. "Crush" by Mandy Moore

In this 2001 pop song, the female narrator is crushing hard on a guy who shares her feelings—but for another girl, not her. Unfortunately, she can't find her backbone yet to let him in on the secret. Therefore, she may be staying in the Friend Zone forever.

9. “Check Yes Or No” by George Strait

If you grew up in a time before cell phones, you probably remember passing those oragami-folded love notes in class. Often, they required check-box answers.

The narrator in this 1995 country song waxes nostalgic about the sweet love notes that he and his wife once passed in elementary school:

Do you love me? Do you want to be my friend?
And if you do, well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand
If you want to
I think this is how love goes
Check yes or no.

You never know when a crush can turn in to something more.
You never know when a crush can turn in to something more. | Source

10. "Crush" by Yuna (featuring Usher)

There's a mutual crush forming in this 2016 R&B song. Hearts beat a little faster, and the guy tells this lady friend that she's just wasting time with all those other boys.

11. "Clumsy" by Fergie

Most people lose their wits about them when they have a crush. They smile a lot, stare too much, can't find anything to say, and fumble around like they have no thumbs.

This 2007 pop song will remind you of the funny things crushes have said or done. For example, a guy who once had a crush on me turned around after talking to me and walked smack into a telephone pole.

12. "Call Your Girlfriend" by Robyn

Sweedish singer Robyn issues step-by-step instructions to her intended new flame in this very danceable 2010 pop song. You have to admire a woman who knows what she wants, right?

Call your girlfriend
It's time you had the talk
Give your reasons
Say it's not her fault
But you just met somebody new

13. "Beautiful Soul" by Jesse McCartney

The fella in this 2004 pop song claims he just wants his crush and her beautiful soul, but he's also doubting himself a little. He wonders if she's out of his league.

Okay, let's be honest here. In real life, Beauty picks Brad Pitt over the Beast, and Prince Charming picks one of his socialite types rather than Cinderella, the house wench. But it's nice to dream, isn't it?

14. "Girl Crush" by Little Big Town

Hold on. Don't you get all judgmental on me.

If there's one thing this 2014 country ballad is NOT it's typical. The Grammy Award-winning song caused quite a controvery because some fans assumed it was about a lesbian couple.

However, the narrator who is crushing on a girl doesn't want to shag her. She wants everything the other girl has—her long blonde hair, perfume, her lips, and her touch—because they attract the man that she loves. He is the real object of her desire.

15. "I Wanna Be Your Lover” by Prince

Way back in 1979, this chart topper was Prince's first American hit single. It's about a man who yearns to be with his crush and tries to convince her how much better he can treat her than the other men she is accustomed to dating. The narrator doesn't have much money, but he promises to turn his lady love on and be everything she needs.

16. "Yeah Boy" by Kelsea Ballerini

This country song from 2015 was named the best crush song by Radio Disney. Okay, so the song leans young.

The protagonist is entranced by her crush's eyes, and every song on the radio reminds her of him. She wishes he'd wisk her away tonight for a ride in his car and some get-to-know-you-better time.

17. "Can't Fight This Feeling" by REO Speedwagon

A tidal wave of love looms large and threatens to overcome the guy in this 1984 pop song. Yet still he's trying to talk himself into sharing his crush for her. (Don't worry, crushes are often too obvious to stay secrets for long.)

She's been his galpal for awhile, but he's looking at her differently these days. The feeling has become so strong that he just can't hold back.

18. "Fallin' For You" by Colbie Callait

Watch out below because this girl is falling hard for the man in her life. In this 2009 pop song, the narrator is dancing with him and holding his hand but feels tentative about revealing her feelings.

19. "Jessie's Girl" by Rick Springfield

The number one rule of friendship is to keep your hands off each others' significant other. However, the lovesick guy in this classic 1981 pop song can't stop thinking about his best friend's girlfriend. The song was based on a friend named Gary and Gary's girlfriend.

20. "Smile" by Uncle Kracker

Love has done a number on the narrator in this 2009 pop song, and he's gushing with compliments about his crush. She's cooler than the flip side of his pillow and makes him forget how to breathe. In her presence, he loses all composure and becomes like a giddy little girl.

Crushes can be complicated when the object of your affection is taken.
Crushes can be complicated when the object of your affection is taken. | Source

Even More Songs About Crushes and Crushing on Someone

Song
Artist
Year Released
21. Hands To Myself
Selena Gomez
2016
22. Bad Case of Loving You
Robert Palmer
1979
23. Crush
Jennifer Paige
1998
24. Baby I
Ariana Grande
2013
25. Love Story
Taylor Swift
2008
26. Thunder
Boys Like Girls
2008
27. I Want to Hold Your Hand
The Beatles
1963
28. Closer
Tegan and Sara
2013
29. Cupid's Chokehold
Gym Class Heroes (featuring Patrick Stump)
2005
30. So Into You
The Atlanta Rhythm Section
1976
31. First Date
blink-182
2001
32. Stacy's Mom
Fountains of Wayne
2003
33. I Second That Emotion
Smokey Robinson
1967
34. Call Me Maybe
Carly Rae Jepson
2012
35. I Wanna Know
Joe
1999
36. Love You Out Loud
Rascal Flatts
2002
37. She Drives Me Crazy
Fine Young Cannibals
1989
38. Me & U
Cassie
2006
39. U Got It Bad
Usher
2001
40. Rush
Paula Abdul
1991
41. Baby, I Love Your Way
Peter Frampton
1975
42. Ain't Even Drinkin'
Tyler Farr
2013
43. Like This
Shawn Mendes
2016
44. There's Your Trouble
Dixie Chicks
1998
45. Why Don't You Make Up Your Mind?
Tame Impala
2011
46. #1 Crush
Garbage
1996
47. I’m On Fire
Bruce Springsteen
1985
48. The Way You Make Me Feel
Michael Jackson
1987
49. You Really Got Me
The Kinks
1964
50. I Can Love You Better
Dixie Chicks
1997
51. I Try to Think About Elvis
Patty Loveless
1994
52. Domino
Jessie J
2011
53. One Thing
One Direction
2012
54. Things I'll Never Say
Avril Lavigne
2002
55. One Time
Justin Bieber
2009
56. Heartbreak Girl
5 Seconds of Summer
2009
57. Teenage Dream
Tyler Ward
2010
58. Boyfriend
Justin Bieber
2012
59. Crazy for You
Madonna
1985
60. Breathe
Faith Hill
1999
61. The Search Is Over
Survivor
1984
62. Don't Cry Joni
Conway Twitty (featuring Joni Lee)
1976
63. Enchanted
Taylor Swift
2010
64. Only the Good Die Young
Billy Joel
1977
65. Hot for Teacher
Van Halen
1984
66. Leave Your Lover for Me
Sam Smith
2014
67. Something to Talk About
Bonnie Raitt
1991
68. Imagination
Shawn Mendes
2015
69. Perfect
Ed Sheeran
2017
70. Secret Love Song
Little Mix (featuring Jason Derulo)
2016
71. Can’t Help Falling in Love
Elvis Presley
1961
72. Wanted
Hunter Hayes
2011
73. Hungry Eyes
Eric Carmen
1987
74. She's Like the Wind
Patrick Swayze (featuring Wendy Fraser)
1987
75. Iris
Goo Goo Dolls
1998
76. Take Your Time
Sam Hunt
2014
77. Cupid
Sam Cooke
1961
78. My Eyes Adored You
Frankie Valli
1975
79. I Wanna Get Next to You
Rose Royce
1976
80. This Time I Know It's for Real
Donna Summer
1989
81. Can't Take My Eyes Off You
Frankie Valli
1967
82. Obvious
Westlife
2004
83. Sober Up
AJR (featuring Rivers Cuomo)
2017
84. Roses
Shawn Mendes
2016
85. Crush
Lila McCann
1999
86. As If
Sara Evans
2007
87. Teardrops on My Guitar
Taylor Swift
2007
88. What I Go To School For
Busted
2002
89. Naturally
Selena Gomez & The Scene
2009
90. Close
Nick Jonas (featuring Tove Lo)
2016
91. One Day
Tate McCrae
2017
92. Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic
The Police
1981
93. Alone
Heart
1987
94. Thirteen
Big Star
1972
95. Rumor
Lee Brice
2017
96. Dibs
Kelsea Ballerini
2015
97. Girls Like You
Maroon 5
2018
98. Singles You Up
Jordan Davis
2018
99. Black Butterflies & Déjà Vu
The Maine
2017
100. Hello
Martin Solveig (featuring Dragonette)
2011
Know a song that should be on our Crush Playlist? Leave us a suggestion in the Comment Section below.
Crush, just thinking about you makes my heart explode.
Crush, just thinking about you makes my heart explode. | Source

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Questions & Answers

  • I want to tell my crush how much I love him, but I am very awkward and afraid of damaging our friendship. He already has a girlfriend, but he doesn't like her. He likes me instead. He never wants to be with his girlfriend; he only wants to be with me. He means the world to me, but he has no clue how I feel. Should I tell him how I feel?

    I'm concerned that you're getting ahead of yourself. First, you know that he's dating someone else, so honor that. If he truly didn't like her or want to be with her, he'd break up with her. Give him the space to figure that out for himself instead of being the cause of it. You wouldn't want anyone creating trouble in your dating relationship, would you?

    Second, since you say he has no clue how you feel, going from that to professing undying love is like going from zero to 100. Slow down. Work on a friendship with him instead while he works out his relationship issues. There's nothing wrong with letting him know that IF he ever becomes single, then you'd be interested. Or, you might say that he's your kind of guy, his girlfriend is very lucky, and ask him where you would meet someone like him? It gets the point across well enough.

    If he likes you as well as you claim he does, then you'll end up together. While he figures it out, however, don't stop looking elsewhere.

  • I have a crush in my school. She's about my age. I want to tell her that I like her since it's our final year in school. However, I don't have the guts to do so. She's smart, kind, and pretty, and I know she's out of my league. Should I forget about my secret crush or just tell her the truth?

    Think about it this way. I know people who went to high school 40 years ago who had a crush on a classmate but never took the chance to express themselves or ask the person out. You don't want to be one of them, do you?

    Since you're both in your last year in school, you need to take the chance while you have it. You don't have to express undying love for her, just ask her out. Just because you may be an unlikely couple doesn't mean you're beneath her.

    If it turns out that indeed she does not share your romantic interest, at least you have her out of your system. You won't be left wondering, "What if?" for the next umpteen decades. Sure, rejection hurts but we've all experienced it and we get over it. Not knowing is so much worse.

  • What should I do if I don't feel the same way about the person who has a crush on me?

    We've all felt (or will at some point) a one-way romantic connection. It hurts not to have your crush like you back, but if you're in the crush's shoes, there are a couple of things you can do to ensure that it goes as well as possible. Out of respect and empathy for the other person,

    1) be direct, firm, and sincere -- tell them that you're sorry, but you don't feel the same way

    2) be discreet -- make this a private conversation rather than allowing it to be gossip among friends; you don't want to shame them for expressing their admiration of you

    3) handle the rejection quickly -- instead of letting their one-way crush for you go on and on (in the hope that maybe the problem will go away), face the situation and be done

    4) don't ignore them or treat them differently afterward.

    Think about how you would want to be treated.

  • What do you do if your crush has a girlfriend and he knows you like him, but he won’t date you?

    You’ve made your feelings clear to someone who currently has a girlfriend, and he has chosen to honor his commitment to his girlfriend. You should respect that and turn your attention elsewhere.

    Work on being a happy, healthy and positive person. You may be surprised to find how good things will come your way when you work on you. You cannot force him to love you. However, you might be surprised that there’s someone else out there who probably thinks you’re pretty terrific. You may not have noticed him because you were way too wrapped up in your crush. Give someone other than your crush a chance to discover and appreciate you.

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    • FlourishAnyway profile imageAUTHOR

      FlourishAnyway 

      22 hours ago from USA

      SMN - Sometimes opposites attract, and I think that's what's working in this case. Because of his shyness, you'll have to be the one to lead the discussion of your feelings for one another.

      Tell him straight up you need to talk to him about something that's making you feel a little awkward and nervous. He'll relate to that with being shy.

      Describe how much you've enjoyed talking with him and how much you trust him with your feelings. Talk about being different in introversion/extraversion but feeling a real spark and connection when you're together. Then say you have a confession to make: you don't know if he feels the same about you, but you've begun to have feelings for him as something deeper than just a friend. (If he acts a little confused spell it out: romantic feelings.)

      Read his cues and listen well. You may have to ask him straight up how he feels or suggest that you exchange contact information over the summer or get together outside of school to see if you still have this spark. I hope this recommended plan of action helps. Plan B is write a letter; this gives an introverted person time and space to respond.

      Either way, don't let school end without saying something! Good luck!

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      SMN 

      28 hours ago

      So there's this guy that I've had a crush on for a while. He's really sweet, funny, and he always knows how to cheer me up. We've been friends for a couple of months. We see each other everyday in the morning, during lunch, in our theater class, and we ride the bus together. The thing is, this guy is super shy. Like he barely talks when he is around a group of people. He talks a lot with me about small stuff, big stuff, and pretty much anything we can talk about. He really opens up whenever he is around me, and I'm pretty sure that's a good sign. And he always wants to make sure I'm okay and happy. Like the other day he asked my friend if I was feeling better (I had a rough day) just to see if I was really okay. The thing is, I'm incredibly extroverted. More than the average person. And I've never liked someone who is as introverted as this guy is.I want him to know how I feel, but I'm TERRIFIED of messing up our friendship or getting rejected. I feel like he would never like me since we are so different. I just need some advice because I really like him and the school year is about to end. And unless I tell him soon, I might not get the chance to over the summer. Please help!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 days ago from USA

      M - Talk first with your friend about everything you've said here to see if he likes her too. It would be best if you two could agree for the sake of your friendship that you're not going to allow a girl to come between you. Ideally, he isn't attracted to her and can support you in making your feelings known to her. Ultimately, however, you can't make someone be attracted toyou. Have the necessary conversations but be prepared for the responses.

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      2 days ago

      There's this girl that I like. We have hung out a couple of times and I´ve felt that there is something between us, but in the last few weeks it feels like she's into one of my closest friends. She's always close to him if he's around, and laugh at his jokes even when they're not funny at all. I know that this girl is way out of my league and that my friend is better looking than me but I don't know what to do. Ive been crushing on this girl for a while now and he knows that. I first thought I had a chance at being with her when we bumped into each other when we were both skiing, and we hung out for the rest of the week. I learned a lot about her and feels that I might have a chance. But when be both got back she wasn't the same, she was a bit more restrained. I have no idea what to do and I'm having a breakdown if I should tell her or not, what should I do?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 days ago from USA

      Khushi - Let their part of the love triangle resolve first. If your female friend truly doesn't like him, ask her to be very blunt with him and just say so rather than beating around the bush that there are other girls who are better for him. As he is recovering from the hurt of rejection, you can let him know that YOU see a lot of wonderful qualities in him and have been attracted to him for awhile. Give it a shot! Looks aren't everything, and I bet you're not giving yourself enough credit.

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      Khushi 

      6 days ago

      I'm in love with this guy who once used to like me too. We talk a lot and we're kind of pretty close. I really really love him and I want to tell him exactly how I feel but I'm too scared of rejection and loosing him to someone else. AND, he's crushing over one of my best friends... and it gets worse: he tells me everything about her (her smile, the way she talks etc.) and asks ME for tips to get her. And it practically kills me. And the other girl knows about me liking him and even she once told him that there's other girls who are better for him but he just won't listen.

      I'm not even close to how pretty my friend is, and i don't want a guy to get between us... but it's just too hard... I don't even know what I should do... shall i tell him?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      8 days ago from USA

      Sadie, I don't know how old you and this young man are, but he was probably looking very forward to seeing you again. When he didn't get the opportunity to dance with you, he was very sad. Let this be a lesson NOT to use friends as go-betweens in communicating between you. Instead, communicate directly for clarity and to avoid wasting precious time. Ahead of the next dance, write a note to him expressing your feelings for him. Go to him DIRECTLY and give it to him and watch as he reads it. Ask him DIRECTLY to dance and deal with one another that way.

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      SadieTorgesen 

      9 days ago

      I have liked this guy for a few months now. We don’t really get to see each other often though. We usually see each other at a dance once a month. Usually at the dance I am the person sending my friends to tell him something, but this time, the whole time his friends were trying to get my attention and telling me that he wanted to dance with me. I meant to ask him to dance but I never got the chance to, we ended up not dancing with each other, and he cried about it. I honestly don’t know why he would be so sad about us not dancing, and why all of the sudden his friends were wanting my attention so bad.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      13 days ago from USA

      Mia - It would really complicate your relationship with your friend. It's probably best to look elsewhere. Maybe he can help you connect with another decent guy.

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      Mia 

      2 weeks ago

      i have a big crush on a boy named Mateo it is my Bffs brother i asked him out but my friend told him to say no or she will tell their mom he told me he would think about it before his sister told him to say no but his friends said it was going to be a YES :(

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 weeks ago from USA

      ab - Yes, he shows all the signs of liking you, and his down talking other guys is an attempt to get your attention. Since you met him online, it's really important to have your safety as THE top priority. Never send or receive compromising photos, even on Snapchat, as they can be screenshot, shared, and used to make your life a living hell. Be careful about giving out other important personal information, too, such as your home address.

      This sounds like a blossoming relationship wherein you might have a genuine connection. If he cares about you, then he won't mind doing what is needed to keep you safe. Share his contact information (photo, full name, phone, social media contact information, etc.) with people you trust, and ONLY meet him in person in a public location and within a group context (i.e., with other friends). If you are under 18, make sure your parents know about him. Bottom line: pursue the relationship but always keep personal safety at the top of your list.

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      ab:) 

      2 weeks ago

      There is this boy...his name is carter. I like him. He sticks out from the other guys. I can joke with him about things like I can't do with most people. We have an inside joke. And he has a nickname for me and I have one for him. We talk about things and its like we help each other out. I first had him on my snap chat but I was scared that he lived far away, most guys I meet and like do. But as I took the chance and gave him my number, I got to know that he actually lives a couple minutes from me. We talked about other guys and he NEVER had anything good to say about them. I don't want to ruin what we have, but what of by chance he likes me and I don't take the chance with him. I've seen that happen to so many people and they are still miserable to this day. And sometimes just going with the flow doesn't help.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 weeks ago from USA

      Alexis - I sounds like he has a crush and is just acting awkward. If you like him too, let him know!

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      Alexis 

      2 weeks ago

      So I like this guy and he knows and everybody says he acts weird but just around me and a few people say he likes me.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 weeks ago from USA

      Teagan - You have it within you.

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      Teagan 

      3 weeks ago

      There’s a boy at school (my crush) send help I don’t know what to tell him I want to tell him but...

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 weeks ago from USA

      School - I wish you would change your mind about school. Education is one thing no one can take away from you. It's cool to know things and be able to do things no one else can. You just have to find your passion. About the boy, concentrate on making yourself happy. There may be other guys who think you are amazing but you're so busy pining away for this one that you don't give them a chance.

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      School Sux 

      4 weeks ago

      There is this boy that I like at my school but he has a girlfriend. Even though I know nothing is ever going to happen, I can't stop thinking about him and it's driving me insane

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 weeks ago from USA

      Hailey - It's your senior year, so you already realize you have to move fast. You don't want to be 10, 20 or 30 years down the road wondering "what if"? He's exhibiting all the usual signs of crushing on you, and you don't know what the status of his relationship is currently. He could be newly single or waiting for a reason to break up with her. Find a quiet time alone with him when your conversation will not be interrupted. Sit across from him, such as at a table, so that you can look into his eyes and hold your hands out open for him to hold. Tell him you need him to listen to you for just a minute. Describe how you see him casting glances your way, being around you more often, and you like it. Then say that you know that he has a girlfriend and you wish you were her. Pause for his reaction. Ask him if that's a relationship he is happy in. If he basically says no, then tell him if he were single you'd love to go out because you feel a special spark and you only have 3 months left before graduation. Tell him you don't want to look back at this relationship years from now and wonder "what if"? Yes, this is forward, but girl, you have 3 months. Go for it.

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      hailey 

      4 weeks ago

      there’s this guy I like a lot and have all year and I’m not sure if he likes me or not but here is what I have seen from him. whenever I look at him, he is already staring at me. my friends and his friends always talk about us together all the time. he has started talking to me way more then usual and he is always wanting to be by me and gets jealous when another guy looks, talks or stands by me. but in the end he has a girlfriend and she is 1 year older then him and has graduated while we are graduating this year. I don’t know if he likes me or not because he has a girlfriend. we are graduating in 3 months and I need advice on what to do because I wanna be with him before we go our own ways to college. so I need help fast!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 weeks ago from USA

      Confused (and happy) - I'm so glad this friendship worked out. Don't be afraid to befriend whomever you want. Don't let the haters and gossips control your life. I'm proud of you both for patching things up. Thanks for the update!

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      Confused (and happy) 

      5 weeks ago

      Hey it's me again, I waited for a whole 2 months and texted a hello to him and believe it or not he replied!! And we're friends again and I told him no one at school has to know about it and He's cool about the whole thing....

      A big thank you

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 weeks ago from USA

      Sadie - Those are definite signs!

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      Sadie 

      5 weeks ago

      So I like this guy a lot. He is a grade above me. For the last few weeks he has been showing signs he may like me. He is always looking at me, and he and his friends keep talking about the two of us, when they don’t think I can hear them. We started texting each other last week and he is always using these emojis at the most random times

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 weeks ago from USA

      Thomas Jorry - Thank you for sharing your own experiences and advice. Sometimes it takes some time to realize that love was there all along. Looks like she took too long, however, as you do not feel the same now.

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      Thomas Jorry 

      5 weeks ago

      I remember when I was in high school I fell in love with my best friend. She told me we must just be friends and she can’t be mine. She said it exactly like this: “I just can’t date you Zzz”. I kept on being her friend and treating her the best I could as a friend. I got over my feelings for her. But now as we are talking she’s the one who keeps on sending me messages and asking me to give her a chance. She is telling me she’s in love with me but I don’t feel anything for her anymore sobi can’t. That’s why I feel like when she says she wanna be a friend nothing more, u simply didn’t impress her enough for her to consider u as her lover. Hint 1: don’t give up too soon. Hint 2: accept her offer of being nothing more but friends. Hint 3: make as happy as you can as a friend. Hint 4: treat her special. Of all those things, she will see you as a special guy, she will appreciate you, she will appreciate the things you do for her, she will think of you in her time of sadness, she will wish you were there to make her happy, she will start missing you, and reflecting on all the time you enjoyed together with her, and she will see how nobody else makes her feel that way, and will start wanting you to stay forever, she will start getting jealous of any girl you hang around with wondering if you treat them the same as you treat her, and soon without her knowing she will feel that nervousness everytime she thinks about you and BOOM, she can’t avoid accepting she feels for you. She wants you. And she loves you. Those are my opinions according to my life experience from events that happened

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 weeks ago from USA

      Mysterious Person - So you asked him out directly and he just didn't answer you, as in he went mute or changed the subject or said he'd get back to you and didn't? I suspect he does indeed like you but is socially awkward or there's something preventing him from going out with you such as he doesn't have a car, isn't allowed to date yet, etc. You can either continue this game or move it forward. Get direct. Go up to him and sit beside him. Smile big and tell him you've noticed that he's been looking your way and wonder what it means, remind him that you had asked him a question that you never got an answer to, and/or tell him that word on the street is that he likes you (and what does he say about that?). I hope that helps.

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      Myterious Person 

      6 weeks ago

      I am a girl and I have a crush on this guy, I have caught him looking or smiling at me several times, and several people tell me that he likes me back. I have asked him out before, but he didn't answer, but he still keeps on smiling at me. What does his mean?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 weeks ago from USA

      XXNa - Unfortunately, she's told you how she feels and she does not share your crush. You need to respect her feelings.

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      XXNa 

      6 weeks ago

      I like this girl so much but she told me she doesn’t wanna hurt me and she think it’s better if we be just friends. What can I do?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 weeks ago from USA

      Cambira Wood - That's good to hear that they used it! What a wonderfully romantic gesture. Thanks for letting me know, and good luck to them!

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      Cambria wood 

      6 weeks ago

      Hey one of these songs landed my bff in a relationship and the song he used is called One Thing by One Direction Thank you

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      FlourishAnyway 

      8 weeks ago from USA

      Sadie - Take it slow and don't be too quick to rush things. People's crushes develop at different speeds, and he may be slower to express emotions. Let him warm up to you.

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      SadieTorgesen 

      2 months ago

      I have a crush on a guy. Hi mom is my sisters softball coach and his 2 sisters are very good friends with my sister. We have been talking a lot the passed two weeks, but we don’t have any classes with each other so we can only text, although we might be able to start seeing each other on the weekends. His mom really wants us to date once we are both 16 which is next year. He hasn’t said anything about liking me, but my friend and my sister keep on saying they think he may like me. What should I do about it? I don’t want to tell him, if that is not how he feels, or risk our relationship.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Lilly Madison - Thanks for telling us about your crush. You should let him know.

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      lilly madison 

      2 months ago

      well my crush is 15 years old have brown hair and blue and is in football basketball and soccer and baseball and he loves to try to beat at our small tire big tire races that we do every saturday (but he never does beat me.) and a lot of other sports and he have been my best friend for 9 years but now I can stop thinking of him like every time I see him or hear about him I start to picture him as my boyfriend and I don know what to do.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      Sandra Snow - If she is a very close friend and they dated for a long time, you should probably check this guy off your list. However, if they only went out a couple of times and she's not exactly your best friend, they are no longer an item so feel free to proceed.

      In that case, develop a friendship and start flirting with him and see if he returns your overtures. People take time to get over broken hearts. Avoid becoming a repeated confidante of how sad he feels without her. If he describes how much he misses her, just say that sorry but you don't think she's coming back. However, when he's ready to start dating again you think he's an awesome guy. Good luck!

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      Sandra Snow 

      2 months ago

      I have feelings for this guy that attends my school. He was dating my friend before so I couldn't say anything about it but no they are not together anymore but I think he still has feelings for her. what can I do?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      2 months ago from USA

      In the middle - You absolutely cannot feel guilty about not liking someone romantically. Sometimes you just don't return a person's feelings for you. This happens even when it's "logical" that you should like them (i.e., they're nice, smart, you have lots of things in common with them, etc.).

      Don't be afraid to speak your emotional truth. He's in charge of his own coping. Take him aside and say something along these lines: "Jim, there's no easy way to say this without hurting you so I'm just going to say it. I'm very flattered by the attention you've expressed towards me and I enjoy you as a friend. However, I don't see us anything more than friends. This is awkward for me and I hope it doesn't ruin our friendship. I do care about you as a person."

      I hope this helps you.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Sadie - You've given him a note already, so give him the time to respond/act. The next move is his. I would hope that especially in a church, the girls wouldn't be bullying you. That would be mean. If you don't hear anything from your fella, don't go through other people. Start having conversations with him, say hello, smile at him, etc. If he seems like he is uncomfortable and doesn't want to give you the time of day, he doesn't share your feelings. But give him the space to respond to your note first. Good luck!

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      SadieTorgesen 

      3 months ago

      I like a guy, and I had my friend give him a note at for me at a dance on Saturday, and then I went to the restroom, and some of the goes to church with were in there at the same time. They asked me if I knew him, and then if I like him, and I said I did. Then they started telling me that the next slow dance I should ask him. Then they started telling me about how sweet he is. The thing is I have absolutely no idea if he likes me, or if they are setting me up for embarrassment. What do you think?

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      Confused 

      3 months ago

      Thanks flourishanyway

      I owe you one

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Confused (not so much now) - I'm glad you've decided to do the right thing. The key is to find the right time with your friend and some privacy. It's okay to ask him, "Do you mind stepping somewhere we can have a private conversation?" right up front. (Who cares if other people are looking at you talking and wondering what the secret conversation is about?) Then just step where you won't be easily eavesdropped upon.

      Although it's always possible he may not forgive you, I'm really hoping he does. It says something good about your character that you want to try to make this right. I'm proud of you.

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      Confused (not so much now) 

      3 months ago

      Great ill tanervously this monday.wish me best of luck!

      Im nervous.OMG what if other guys are around? Idk wt to do

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Poppy - You're right. It's a great time of positive uncertainty when hopeful hearts soar. I get a lot of inquiries from teens through comments and Q&As, and you're right about the innocence of young love. Interestingly, I've noticed that it's now girls who are primarily interested in telling boys they have a crush on them.

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      Poppy 

      3 months ago from Tokyo, Japan

      The first few weeks or days of liking someone are so exciting. It's a universal feeling, I think; that's why there are so many songs about it. Crushes remind me of high school and the innocence of young love. Great list!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Confused - If you think you are confused, imagine how he is feeling! You rejected him in a passive aggressive manner for something he did not do.

      Rather than being subtle and slowly trying to work your way back into his life, the best thing you could do is try to contact him directly and ask for a few minutes of his time. Make it clear that you have something important to share with him and all he has to do is listen for a few minutes if he'll make time for you. Then when you are in front of him, genuinely apologize for believing unfounded rumors over his word. The assurances of our friends should mean more than rumors. Tell him you were wrong and ask for his forgiveness. If he grants you that, see whether he is open to rebuilding trust and your relationship. He didn't deserve the treatment, and you've both been targeted and harmed by these rumors. The difference, however, is that you had a choice.

      In the future, ignore what other people say. They are often bored, envious, or have some motive that is certainly not in your best interest when spreading gossip and innuendo. Also think about your own situation when you hear gossip about someone else. The gossip may or may not be true, but it's seldom helpful.

      You can make this right. Better sooner than later.

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      Confused 

      3 months ago

      I just joined a new school last year and made a friend there (guy).we both were artists but he liked painting and i specialised in sketching.we soon became inseparable.But some rumous started spreading thathe loved me and i confronted him and he denied having to do anything with the rumours.But i started avoiding him after this and we've not spoken from an year.Now i realised that he was telling the truth all along.How do i speak to him.

      P.s.:the rumours didnt die down yet.im 14

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Justice - He's trying to play it cool, especially in front of his friends, but he's coming off as immature and jerk-like. Don't reward his behavior by smiling or flirting back when he calls you "babe" or makes fun of you. If you can, try to take him aside and ask him why he won't call you by your name, whether he even knows your name (make sure he knows it), and why he makes fun of you. Tell him you think he's a swell guy and his behavior hurts your feelings. Then just wait for his response, even if there is a super long pause. He created the awkwardness, not let him fix it. Command respect, young lady. You deserve it.

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      Justice 

      3 months ago

      How do I tell my crush that I like him he laughs calls me babe we are the same age but different grades his friends say that he likes me but I dont know how to tell him I like him how do I tell him?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Shawindi Silva - I appreciate your comment. Have a perfect week!

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      Shawindi Silva 

      3 months ago from Sri lanka

      I'm interested of your kind replies for the above answers and the collection of songs you have taken is perfect and all are my favorite songs.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      Sadie Torgesen - I’m not sure how your friend added something unwanted to your note. That’s a violation of your privacy, and I hope you addressed it with her. Make sure in the future that you deal directly with those you’re trying to establish relationships with rather than deal through intermediaries. I suspect in this case you may have passed a note through someone else, and they read it and inserted some information you weren’t aware of.

      Deal directly with your crush. You have no true way of knowing what your friend inserted in that note, and your crush may be a little confused about the whole situation. Disregard his brother’s taunting. That’s what brothers do. Rather than write another note, give your crush some candy (who doesn't like candy?) for Valentine’s Day, and give it to your crush personally. Tell him “Happy Valentine’s Day” and say you’d like to get to know him better. Say, “Here’s my social media contact information, if you’re interested.” Provide a folded paper of your social media contact information. At this point, you’ve left the all in his court. He can contact you privately and start a conversation with you if indeed he is interested. If he isn’t interested, you’ll hear nothing from him (and you should leave it alone at that point). I hope it works the way you'd like.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      3 months ago from USA

      shadow-03 - Sometimes people flirt with others they shouldn't just as a game, especially when they are "bad influence" types. You're a high school student and the age difference is a little too wide, plus you already KNOW he is a bad influence. Plus, he has a girlfriend and still flirts. If he truly wanted a relationship, then he would have pursued you while he was still single. You're unfortunately just a plaything to him. Pursue boys who are more honorable in their intentions, who have better character, are available, and more your age. As a senior, he just wants to "hit and run" with you. Look elsewhere!

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      shadow-03 

      3 months ago

      ok so like I like my bestfriends brothere he is a bad influence and he is a senior while im a freshman and the thing is idk how he feels about me because all of last year he and i flirted back and forth and now this year he got a girlfriend but he still flirts with me once in awhile what should i do?

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      SadieTorgesen 

      3 months ago

      I have had a really big crush on this guy since the end of July. I gave him a thank you note, and one of my friends added something about me liking him, so last month I explained to him about what my friend did. His brother has been talking about the note and what happened for the passed 6 months.

      He has been sending me mixed signals and I’m not sure what he thinks of me, and I’m too shy to ask him in person. I want to give him a note on valentines but I don’t want his brother talking about even more stuff about me. What should I do? Should I talk to him about my feelings, if so, how do I gain confidence?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Adaleeta - Since you are quite young, why not work on developing a deeper friendship with him first, one based on trust and respect? You can share musical interests, hobbies, school interests, details and family and friends, and other similarities in life and get to know one another a little better. If he seems receptive to your interest in wanting to be better friends, it will become obvious, and eventually, when the time feels right you can tell him he is a special person. That usually works better than setting artificial limits like when you are both a certain age.

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      Adaleeta 

      4 months ago

      I like this guy but I’m way too shy to ask him if he likes me and I plan to tell him when we are both 13. Is that a good plan?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Rickeisha - Take a chance. Send him a special song that describes your feelings and take it slow. Start with a lunch date or something short and see how that goes. There's no time like the present. If either of you wait too long, the opportunity could pass!

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      Rickeisha 

      4 months ago

      I want to tell my crush how I feel about him. I really do have strong feelings for him but im afraid of rejection. WE been friends for sometime now and we both are single. I know for a fact he likes me but I don’t know if he has the same feelings like I do. IM ready take things to another level but im scared what should I do

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Maddy McPaddy - We cannot make others like us in return and we cannot make them be decent people. What you described is clearly disinterest on her part, although she should have simply told you in the first place she wasn't interested. There is game playing going on. Move on from it all. Quit apologizing. Find someone who will treat you well.

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      Maddy-McPatty 

      4 months ago

      Hey it's me again. I just want to say, that i confessed to my new crush that ive liked all of 2018, and i confessed twice. and both times she IGNORED me. and then she didnt talk to me on hangouts, and changed her account. and than we had a sleepover and were playing truth or dare and my other friend said that i needed to confess to her, so i did. and than today i apologised, because i felt the need to. and she replied "cookie" and than after several tries i left the chat cause i was frustrated. and than she re-dmmed me. and than im like "oh so we are playing the game that we pretend nothing happens and we embarrass madison?" she just replied this "." and i said, "sorry, i just needed claification" but i still feel she is trying her hardest NOT to talk about it. What do i do?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Wolf in Distress - Listen to the part of you that says to slow down and just stay friends. He's not honoring your signals that indicate you don't want to move so fast, and it seems his interests may be primarily physical in nature. If you make friendship the basis of your relationship and take it slow, getting to know him well, you'll know better whether this is someone you want to date. The anger thing about being mistreated is either immaturity or a red flag. Watch that because in relationships you can easily be perceived as mistreating the other.

      There is no objective timetable so if you lose him because he wants to rush things that's probably a good thing in the end -- the wasn't worth it. Honor what YOU want.

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      Wolf in Distress 

      4 months ago

      I’m ‘dating’ a boy and I want us to act like friends but I feel he wants to move faster than I’m wanting and I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

      He’s the best. He has brunette hair with light brown eyes and is tall and really cute. He is nice but he will get angry at people who mistreat him. He and I both love the same video game and love the same types of things.

      Part of me thinks we would be better off as friends but part of me wants to pursue a relationship.

      What should I do?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Michelle - If he's following you on two social media accounts he has interest in you. Why not direct message/chat with him about how his holiday was, did he get what he wanted for Christmas, what what he has planned for New Years, what his New Years resolutions are, or something similar, etc.? Make sure to comment on his photos rather than just like them on FB or view them on IG. It's easiest to strike up a conversation by asking questions and letting the other person answer then building on what they say or answering the question for yourself after they do. Wishing you luck!

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      michelle 

      4 months ago

      Hi, I'm really going nuts about telling him how I feel. We're social media friends, he adds and followed me first on facebook and Instagram. He keeps on viewing my stories. But I want to know what he really thinks about me. Cause I'm starting to like him. He's smart and a very great man. How can I know the truth? I'm also not good with starting the conversation first. :(

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 months ago from USA

      Jade is Love - Since you are friends, have a heart to heart conversation with him. At least you will know where he stands. Do it now before you lose your nerve. Two plus years is too long to hide your feelings.

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      Jade is Love 

      4 months ago

      I have a crush on this this man I have been friends with him for 2 and I have years he knows that i like him because my ¨best friend¨ said it out loud and a other guy told my crush I like him but i don,t know if he loves me or not....

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 months ago from USA

      Astrid,

      He sounds like a guy with a real sense of humor on top of everything else you find good about him. It's certainly not too early to 'fess up about how you feel about him. Why wait until after Christmas Break? The holidays have a way of softening people's emotional defenses so they share what's on their minds. (After the start of the new year, people tend to shift their priorities from interpersonal relationships to personal success, so don't wait.)

      Perhaps consider sending him a funny e-card such as the ones on JibJab with a personalized message that shares your feelings. Maybe use the words that the card is funny but one thing that is "no joke" is the way you feel about him (then describe). That should start the conversation at least. Your goals should be to get the information out there in the open between you, to see what he's feeling towards you, and to build an ongoing conversation while you're apart. Sometimes people who are shy or reluctant can be more open about their feelings when it's not face-to-face, and the fact that you are physically separated works to your advantage here.

      Don't be afraid to take a chance. If he doesn't share the same feelings, it's okay. You will have time to readjust without experiencing too much awkwardness regarding your friendship. The next big chance is leading up to Valentine's Day but don't wait! You've liked him for awhile.

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      Astrid 

      5 months ago

      So a couple weeks ago, I was getting out of my car to walk into work. I had to cross the street and after walking on the sidewalk for a bit I hear someone shout while running at me, "Have you heard of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ?!" from behind me and my fight or flight instinct told me to run just because it seriously took me by surprise, but a split second later I realized it was my crush and then he was like "hey wait, it's me!", lol! He really got me good, we both just had a good laugh about it after I got over being shocked and chatted a little bit before I went into work.

      But anyways, besides that incident, we had not really seen each other much or gotten to talk due to the semester ending and finals, but since we both finished our finals yesterday, we did meet for dinner this evening and he introduced me to two of his closest friends (one of them I knew of because we have the same major, but I didn't actually know-know him). They both seemed really nice and cool and we all had a good time talking. I was thinking while I'm home for Christmas break I might try to get him a small gift (I was thinking possibly something souvenir-like from my hometown), it was my friend's idea. Yeah I still don't actually know if he likes me back, like my gut tells me that there could be a chance, I just don't want to jump to conclusions yet... I was thinking that maybe its coming close to the time of just telling him, not directly after the next semester starts but maybe a few weeks in. Do you think it would be too soon? By the way, I seriously appreciate your advice and input. I remember when I first posted on this page about my old crush, not completely knowing if you'd reply or not, so yeah I totally appreciate you. :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 months ago from USA

      Beca - The way you describe your friend/crush is sincere and loving. It's the honorable thing to do to follow your parents' wishes at this point in your lives (especially if they feel very strongly). They probably understand your maturity levels and emotions development best.

      As an alternative to dating at this point, perhaps consider requesting permission for one or more of the following if your parents are open:

      1) having a small group of male & female friends over to your house on occasion for pizza, videos, or a small holiday party so your parents can get more comfortable with all of your friends, including your crush.

      2) ask if your friend can have dinner with the family or accompany your family to a concert, movie, or other event

      3) ask if you can go out on a "group date" with a large group of male and female friends that includes your crush. When my daughter was a ninth grader, the parents of one of the guys she went out with consistently sent the guy's little brother along everywhere they went. The kid brother was supposed to be the parents' "spy" but for him, it beat not being able to go.

      There are creative solutions for your dilemma if you work constructively with your parents. In the meantime, continue to be open and honest with your crush about how you feel about him. Whether you express how much you value him and your special relationship via playlists, art, poetry, or conversations, this is a special time in your life. Don't be in too big of a hurry to grow up. It goes by fast! Best of luck to you!

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      Beca 

      5 months ago

      So you want to know about my crush? Alright then...

      He is a year older than me, and we’re in the same school. We met four years ago during math trainings and started talking more. He started hanging out with me and my best friends about two years ago and quickly became one of my closest friends.

      He’s a sweetheart, and loves hugs. We have shared so many moments together. We have so many things in common as well. He has a beautiful soul, and will protect his friends any time. He’s loyal, kind, sweet, funny, and so many other things. And also, to add into the mixture, he’s cute. He has beautiful chocolate eyes and soft auburn hair. He’s tall, about a head over me. He’s the best.

      We spend so much time together some people even think we’re dating. He liked a couple of girls before, and now he likes me. The thing is, we both know we like each other. But we also know that both of our parents don’t want us to have a girlfriend/boyfriend yet. Until we are both allowed to date, we’ll stay as friends. I’m scared he’ll take interest in another girl though, since he’a not tied to anything at the moment. Hope you can give me some advice for that. Thank you! Bye!

      -With love,

      Beca

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      FlourishAnyway 

      5 months ago from USA

      Crushing - Attraction is not all about looks. It's about trust, personality, shared connections, humor, listening, and so much more. I think you understand that. He obviously likes you as much as you like him.

      Maybe you both should take a chance on one another? It's great when you can find someone you can trust these days. Trust your heart and how someone treats you and makes you feel rather than your eyes.

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      Crushing 

      5 months ago

      My crush is rlly funny. He always finds time to talk to me and we're really good friends. He knows about things that happen to me that no one else does, and I trust him and i think he trusts me just as much. I'm not even rlly sure why i like him because hes not the cutest person i can find, but theres just something...

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Eva - Thanks for the recommendation. It's a very sweet song. I put it on the playlist. I hadn't heard that one before. Have a Happy Thanksgiving!

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      Eva 

      6 months ago

      Listen to one day by Tate mcrae

      It describes crushing perfectly! Mine is cute sweet and respectful

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Taylor - During class changes, you can at least make eye contact, smile, and try to say hi or a few words (as much as class changes will permit). Also, try to connect via social media or arrange to run into him after school by joining some of the same clubs/organizations or being in the same locations that he hangs out. Or you could always go old school and write him a note, passing it to him during class change with a smile.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Eudora Yao - Aww, this certainly sounds like good news. Thank you for the update! Wishing you all the best in your sweet romance with Mr. Cuddles.

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      Eudora Yao 

      6 months ago

      The date with him went perfectly and we’ve been talking ever since, he’s introduced me to his roommates, his friends, and one night I went over without makeup, scared of what I looked like without makeup but he kept saying I looked beautiful and nothing changed :) each time we get to know each other more and every time we fall asleep next to each other, he makes sure I’m not cold and cuddles with me till I fall asleep ☺️ I think it’s going on a positive direction and I hope it keeps going that way and I’m trying hard to not fall fast but it’s gettjng harder every time we hang out now

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      Taylor 

      6 months ago

      I have a crush on this one guy that used to like me. I’m not sure how to tell if he likes me back still or how I could tell him that I like him. We only see each other during class switches and when there is a lot of people around. Any suggestions?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Nithya - I appreciate your stopping by. Hope you are doing well. Have a great weekend.

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      Nithya Venkat 

      6 months ago from Dubai

      A great list of songs, have heard some of them. Hats off to you for putting together this list.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Kiera - I'm glad to hear that. Stay positive!

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      Kiera 

      6 months ago

      This helps me a lot through ruff times I love it

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      James - I'm sure you're a better man for staying in that lit class, no matter the motivation! Great story!

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      James C Moore 

      6 months ago from The Great Midwest

      This hub made me think of a crush like experience from some years back. I say crush like because it wasn't a crush as your hub describes. However, I was smitten more like a lust at first sight. During my first week at the University of Iowa, classes began on Wednesday. Having studied my schedule, I noticed that if I dropped my literature class, I would still have a full load (thus insuring continued eligibility for my guaranteed student loan) and leave my Fridays class free. So, the plan on Friday was to attend class and promptly get the teacher's signature and say adios to lit class. I go to the English Philosiphy Building and head towards the classroom. But upon reaching the classroom, I saw the teacher and stopped in my tracks. Upon seeing her (the teacher) I immediately changed my mind. I was struck by the vision before my eyes. I stayed in her class and I believe my grade was a "B" for that course.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Eudora Yao - Hooray! You're the young woman who ran into romantic Mr. Snuggles who kept saying you were cute, right!? Sounds like a really good start. So glad this is progressing nicely. He sounds like a decent young man, and I hope that there is something genuine there between you. I wish you luck! A big high five from me to you from across the Internet! Feel free to come back and update us later!

      All the best, FlourishAnyway

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      Eudora Yao 

      6 months ago

      So I contacted you about the crush I met through a mutual friend at a party and here’s an update! He asked me to dinner :) so I think it’s going well so far :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      6 months ago from USA

      Astrid - Your comment was inadvertently marked as spam so I am just seeing it tonight, but congratulations! This relationship you have with this guy seems like a mutual interest! I think you're making great progress. Even if this doesn't work out, look at it as terrific practice for the future. I'm so proud of you!

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      Astrid 

      6 months ago

      Just an update, I feel like things are continuing to get easier for me and I'm starting to raise my propinquity with my crush! We've been messaging most of the days this week (and it is not always me initiating conversation :D) and we've actually hung out twice as well! Today we went to a raid (its an in-game event I guess you could call it); he messaged me late morning asking if I knew if there were any raids going on and there happened to be one that people were gathering for within half an hour of after I received his message. I told him about it and asked if he wanted to go and he said yes and asked me if he could ride with me again. And so we went to it and we got to talk quite a lot again. I actually got to talk about some stuff about me like he asked me about what I want to do after graduation, he told me about how his mom wants him to do a masters but he doesn't really want to. It was so cute, when he saw a nice car (I really know nothing about cars so I don't remember what it was), he started talking about it; I was listening intently and then at some point he stopped himself and was like "I'm sorry if this is boring you, I just really like cars" and I smiled and said something like "No, its okay, I think its really cool that you are into cars." We also somehow ended up talking about how our parents met and at some point this lead to us saying when our birthdays are. Also, he said that a conversation he had with a friend the other day reminded him of something I had said when we hung out on Sunday. Lastly, I had my music playing on shuffle and the theme song of one of my favorite animes came on and he showed curiosity about it (he doesn't know much about anime) so I ended up telling him about it and he seemed to take interest in the plot (I'm thinking possibly later on I can invite him to watch it with me if things continue to go well like this). I still want to do the coffee thing too, I just have not found the right time yet to ask yet. I've honestly never felt this comfortable talking to a guy who I am romantically interested in before and its a great feeling.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 months ago from USA

      Astrid - He's definitely interested based on what you're telling me. He flirted with you, paid for your Taco Bell meal, shared information about his family and hometown, and showed vulnerability regarding his Southern accent. (Being a Southerner myself who has lived and traveled extensively around the country, the accent can be an issue, as non-Southerners often assume you're not smart based on a Southern drawl and may make fun of it right to your face. That gets old. Emphasize, for example, that you like it because it's him--flirt back!)

      As far as next steps, if you don't want to wait for the next group hangout, why not text or contact him through social media and get more frequent conversation going? You might also invite him out for coffee or bagels/donuts or something small (think less than lunch) and tell him it's your treat, you'd like to continue to get to know him better OR you just want to hear him say "thank ya" again in person with that awesome Southern accent.

      Be sure to share reciprocal information about yourself, your hometown, your interests, and ask questions as the conversation flows. If you don't like the coffee/bagel idea, how about suggesting something related to Halloween since the season is here (e.g., a haunted house)? That might lend to you hanging onto his arm during the the haunted house whether you actually "need" to or not.

      I'm so pleased your life is progressing like this and wish you the best with this apparently charming young man. My experience is that Southern men can be (but aren't always) much more mannered, so be observant if he goes to open doors for you or pull out your chair. And in case he's a country music fan, definitely be ready for that. Know that it's very offputting for someone to hate country music if you've grown up with it and especially if they don't really know what modern country music is like these days. Some of it could pass for rock or alternative rock.

      I wish you the best of luck! I hope there's a real connection going!

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      Astrid 

      7 months ago

      Hi again! So I actually worked up the courage to message my crush and asked him if he wanted to join me and a group of some other Pokemon Go players I know. We went out today and I think things went really well. I didn't get too nervous, and I was able to talk to him comfortably; I mean I think it helped that we were hanging out in a group but it's definitely a start. And I did have some 1 on 1 time with him because we went in the same car (I drove in the morning, but when we did head back to the university to get some stuff and we went in his car when we met back up with the group later). We did talk quite a lot and I did learn a lot about him. He was telling me a lot about his family and his hometown and some various other things about him and he also asked me some things about me.

      Based on what I observed we sort of have similar personalities (like quiet, laid back etc.) And well this one small instance (I mean it could be nothing but I feel like he might have been flirting a little, but I'm not sure), well there was a point where we all stopped at this one place to sit down for a bit and everyone was sort of having their own conversations amongst the group and we were sitting next to each other and well I was looking down at my phone and then he randomly started tapping on my screen and playfully said something like "oh is that a touch screen?" and it kinda didn't register in my head right away and I kinda just said "yeah" before I realized the joke, lol.

      And when we were walking back I casually asked if he wanted to get food on the way back and we picked up some taco bell. I did pull out my wallet intending to pay for myself, but when we got there he asked me what I wanted and said that he would pay for it.

      Also at the drive through there was kind of a long wait and we were talking some more and he asked me if he sounded too southern (he is from the south) when he talks and I told him no, just sometimes (like when he said thank you to the lady at the drive through, it sounded like "thank ya") and then he was telling me about some words that most of the time come out southern, like the word "peaches". I said it, then he said it again and I laughed a little bit and then he got a little defensive asking if he was saying it wrong and then I was like no I can just hear a bit of the twang when you say it and we both laughed.

      So yeah that all happened. Everything about our conversations just felt so natural and not awkward or forced. He also said to let him know when we'd be meeting up again and he thanked me for inviting him. What do you think? I realize it is early on, but do you think there may be something there like there's a chance I may be getting somewhere with this? Any tips on what to try to do next in addition to inviting him to our next hangout?

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 months ago from USA

      Shannon - Thank you for those two great additions! I get some sweet comments and questions on this one. Reminds me of when I was a teen. Have a great weekend.

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      Shannon Henry 

      7 months ago from Texas

      Well, you know me and country music often go hand in hand. Usually, the first songs that come to my mind for your playlists are country. So here's an old school song from the 90s. Remember Lila McCann's "Crush" song? I didn't see it on your list. It's the first one I thought of this time. Oh, and "As If" by Sara Evans may fit your list. I think it does, anyway. This is a fun list, by the way. :)

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 months ago from USA

      Jenna - It seems like you do have a lot in common, including this young woman. IF you're going to caution him about this young woman, I would be candid instead of tossing little hints. Some people don't get hints at all. Perhaps give him some level of choice in the matter by asking him a question along the lines of, "Can I speak openly and honestly about my reaction to you liking Jane?" or "If I had important information about someone you like, would you want me to speak up, or stay quiet about it?" That way, he has some level of choice. His judgment about this girl will tell you whether he's worthy of continuing to admire.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 months ago from USA

      Acul - Since you know she likes someone else, just ignore the awkwardness and be her friend, just as you are friends with others. Smile, use compliments, make her laugh, ask her questions so that she talks to you about herself. The more familiar one gets with another person, the more that awkwardness tends to go away. Even if you never end up to be more than just friends, we can never have too many friends, right? Great social skills is a lifelong benefit, so practice making people feel comfortable in awkward situations. Good luck to you.

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      jenna  

      7 months ago

      okay so uhhh... i really like this dude in my classes. quite obviously he’s super cute, he has a great personality, and he has my same interests and humor type. my problem is that i don’t know where i stand with him. i don’t know if he considers me a friend or not... i also recently found out that he likes one of my emotionally abusive ex-girlfriends (i’m bisexual) and i give him small hints as to why she’s no good, not just because i’m interested in him, but because think he deserves so much better..

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      Acul 

      7 months ago

      I like a girl in my class but she likes someone else so I started to get her phone number and now I think she feels a little bit awkward around me now.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 months ago from USA

      destiny - No matter how much you may like him, if he has told you he didn't like you and to stop texting him, it's important to honor that request. If you don't, your behavior could be perceived as stalker-like and that would prevent you from future relationships that might be reciprocal. We've all been rejected, and it hurts. Just work on loving yourself. Some day the right relationship will come along.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      7 months ago from USA

      Cj - What kind of person has to think that much about a date? As my teen daughter says, "It's not that deep!" Really, it's a couple of hours. You didn't ask him to marry you.

      You either caught him off guard and he didn't know how to turn you down, he's got a very packed social calendar or he's already dating someone he likes but they're not quite committed yet and he doesn't want to mess it up. Or, Cj, if you are also male and he is not out, he may legitimately have something to think about. I could understand that better, but hopefully, he'll be candid with you.

      As far as your request for songs related to this situation, here are a few listed below:

      1) "What Do You Mean?" by Justin Bieber (2015)

      2) "Taking Chances" by Celine Dion (2007)

      3) "Say You Will" by Foreigner (1987)

      4) "Take a Chance on Me" by ABBA (1976)

      5) "Check Yes or No" by George Strait (1995)

      6) "Start of Something Good" by Daughtry (2011)

      7) "Take a Chance on Me" by JLS (2011)

      Hope this helps.

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