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Leave Your Lover for Me Playlist: 70 Songs About Interlopers and Love Triangles

Updated on August 8, 2017
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Love Triangles: Are They "Wrecktangles?"

Some of the best ideas for playlists are sparked by readers. This is just one example. A reader recently wrote a comment on one of my other playlists expressing his longing for someone else's partner. His anguish at being unable to be with her inspired this playlist.

We've all probably pined for someone we couldn't have. Some folks say you can't help who you love. However, you can control what you do about it.

Let's hope his story ends well, and if you're struggling with a similar situation, then we'll hope yours does, too. While you're still working it out, here is a large selection of pop, rock, and country songs about interlopers and love triangles so that you know you are hardly alone.

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1. "Leave Your Lover" by Sam Smith

In this 2014 pop song, the narrator begs the one he loves to leave her current relationship so that they can be together. It is achingly beautiful and reflects the anguish of wanting someone you can't have:

Pack up and leave everything, don't you see what I can bring
Can't keep this beating heart at bay
Set my midnight terror free, I will give you all of me
Leave your lover, leave him for me.

In·ter·lop·er

[ˈin(t)ərˌlōpər, ˌin(t)ərˈlōpər] - a person who becomes involved in a situation or relationship where they are unwanted, considered not to belong, or an outsider; an intruder

2. "Hard to Handle" by The Black Crowes

The firecracker of a fella in this catchy 1990 rock song thinks he's really smooth. He knows that the woman he has eyes for is already taken:

I know you've got another man
But I can love you better than him.

However, that doesn't stop him. Addressing her as "baby" and "mama," he assures her that he is a man of great experience. Then, he invites her to come home with him where he can light her candle for free. Is this an offer she'll be able to resist?

3. "I Can Treat You Better" by Shawn Mendes

This romantic interloper promises to stop time for her. Enough said, right?

In this 2016 song, a woman is dating a man who isn't right for her, and a male friend who desperately wants to be with her tells her the truth about her troubled love relationship. Her lover is not the gentleman she deserves. She should be with him instead—a man who will never let her down. The interloper is just waiting for his feelings to be returned.

4. "You Belong With Me" by Taylor Swift

The high school girl in this 2008 pop song is crushing hard on a male friend who happens to be someone else's boyfriend. While she waits for him to wake up to the realization that true love rests right in front of him, she conducts a compare and contrast between his two choices.

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5. "I'm the Only One" by Melissa Etheridge

Feeling threatened by her lover's interest in another woman, the narrator in this electrifying 1993 rock song declares that no one will feel the love and passion for her that she does. (Yep, it's a lesbian love triangle.)

She's prepared to do battle with the interloper, knowing that she has more love for the woman they have in common:

But I'm the only one
Who'll walk across the fire for you
I'm the only one
Who'll drown in my desire for you
It's only fear that makes you run
The demons that you're hiding from
When all your promises are gone
I'm the only one.

6. "Does He Love You" by Reba McEntire and Linda Davis

A wife and mistress square off in this 1993 country favorite. The wife begins by telling the mistress that she's known about the affair for awhile. Regretably, her husband now leaves home with a smile, ready to meet up with his clandestine lover.

The mistress expresses sadness that although she is the woman who fulfills his nighttime desires, he must rush home. Each of them wonders aloud whom he loves best. Sharing a man has to be hell.

7. "Jessie's Girl" by Rick Springfield

In this 1981 rock song, Rick Springfield (who was a total hottie in the 1980s) covets the girlfriend of his best friend. Looking in the mirror, he wonders what she doesn't see in him. Jessie must be a helluva catch, or the girl lacks good judgement. Our pining narrator watches the couple talking cute, and thoughts of them getting intimate mess with his mind at night.

8. "Two Princes" by Spin Doctors

A woman is faced with a choice of opposites in this 1991 rock song, both of whom kneel before her and want to marry her. The men couldn't be more different.

One choice is the man her father approves of—wealthy and from a good family. The other is the narrator, a man of simple means and no family connections who loves her without reservation. He promises her that he knows what a prince and lover ought to be. Whom will she choose? Whom would you choose?

"I am NOT that woman who will sit around on the sidelines and wait for you to figure out if you're going to leave her."
"I am NOT that woman who will sit around on the sidelines and wait for you to figure out if you're going to leave her." | Source

9. "Scotty Doesn't Know" by Lustra

Somebody needs to tell poor Scotty.

In this upbeat, risque rock song, Scotty's girlfriend, Fiona, has been telling him she's in church or shopping. Instead, she's doing the nasty with another man, and they both seem to be getting special enjoyment from the fact that they're keeping it secret from him.

10. "Stay" by Sugarland

The question, "Why don't you stay?" takes on different meanings in this heartwrenching country song from 2007 about a mistress addressing a married man.

At the beginning she and her lover are together and she wishes he didn't have to go. The interloper asks why her love isn't good enough for him to leave his current relationship.

Towards the end of the song, she has convinced herself that she is worth more than sloppy seconds. She tells him that next time he wants to leave his wife's bed and come hop into hers, "Why don't you stay?"

11. "Don't Cha" by The Pussycat Dolls (featuring Busta Rhymes)

In this fun pop song from 2005, an ex-girlfriend reminds her former man that her replacement is no competition for her looks and sex appeal.

Although the guy says he won't be leaving his happy home if it's not love, this vixen taunts that no one is as hot, freaky, raw, and fun as her. Will he take all that pent-up sexual energy home to mama or be a bad boy?

12. "One Last Time" by Ariana Grande

There is more than one interloper in this complex love relationship. With this couple, she stepped out of the relationship first, then him. Now he's leaving for another woman and his soon-to-be ex-girlfriend regrets her misdeeds.

The 2014 pop song features the narrator's self-castigation for lying, cheating, and failing him. Although his new lover offers everything she cannot, she nevertheless hopes that forgiveness and their shared history will triumph.

13. "Soon" by Tanya Tucker

This sorrowful 1993 country song reflects the emotional intensity of loving someone who will never be completely yours. When they met, the mistress knew the man was already taken. However, she gave in anyway.

What was supposed to be a summer fling turned into years of bittersweet stolen moments with someone else's husband. As he kept feeding her lies, she kept waiting until finally she realized that soon would be never.

When Three Is a Crowd

Uh, oh!  There is one too many lovers in this relationship.
Uh, oh! There is one too many lovers in this relationship. | Source

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14. "He Don't Love You (Like I Love You)" by Tony Orlando & Dawn

A woman's lover says goodbye to her in this 1975 pop song but not before he tells her that the new man who courts her will never love her as much as he does. Her new boyfriend may be handsome and may say all the right things, but her current lover warns her that he's the leaving kind and will break her heart.

15. "Saving All My Love for You" by Whitney Houston

Stolen moments is all the woman in this 1985 R&B international hit can count on. She is in love with a family man—someone else's. Living alone and waiting for his call, she understands that she takes a distant second to his primary commitment and that they'll never actually be together.

16. "In Another's Eyes" by Trisha Yearwood (featuring Garth Brooks)

In this heartwrenching 1997 song, two people who are cheating on their spouses feel guilty that their better halves believe they'd never do what they're doing. They lie and cheat, but they can only see one another when they look at their spouses' trusting eyes.

17. "Down Low" by R. Kelly (featuring The Isley Brothers)

Ever give in to the request to keep it on the down low? In this 1995 R&B song, a woman has two male lovers, and she's doing her best to balance them. She struggles to keep her side lover a secret, and the interloper promises to go along with the plan. Nobody has to know.

18. "There's Your Trouble" by Dixie Chicks

In this 1998 country song, a woman reveals to someone else's boyfriend why he keeps getting hurt in his love relationships. He's picked the wrong partner and should instead be with her:

There's your trouble, there's your trouble
You keep seeing double with the wrong one
You can't see I love you, you can't see she doesn't
But you just keep holding on
There's your trouble.

19. "Call Your Girlfriend" by Robyn

This man has just met his new girlfriend. Trouble is, he already has one. But that's just a small detail.

The narrator in this 2010 pop song knows what she wants. Upon spotting the man she is attracted to, she directs him to call his girlfriend and break their relationship off. She even dictates how the conversation should go.

20. "Come in out of the Pain" by Doug Stone

For many years he has loved her from the sidelines, and now that her lover has left, this interloper is ready to swoop in and dry her tears, giving her a shoulder to cry on.

The guy in this 1992 country song has been more than patient. Knowing just how to work it, he invites her to come in out of the pain and lay down in her arms. Talk about going from 0 to 60 super fast.

"If he'll cheat with you, then he'll cheat on you."
"If he'll cheat with you, then he'll cheat on you." | Source

Even More Songs About Interlopers and Love Triangles

Song
Artist
Year Released
21. Careless Whisper
George Michael
1984
22. I Can Love You Better
Dixie Chicks
1997
23. Boyfriend
Tegan and Sara
2016
24. If Your Girl Only Knew
Aaliyah
1996
25. I'm the One
Descendants
1996
26. Just So You Know
Jesse McCartney
2006
27. That Should Be Me
Justin Bieber (featuring Rascal Flatts)
2010
28. Na Na Hey Hey Kiss Him Goodbye
Steam
1969
29. She Will Be Loved
Maroon 5
2002
30. Take a Chance on Me
ABBA
1977
31. My Best Friend's Girl
The Cars
1978
32. She Gets What I Deserve
SHeDAISY
2006
33. Back to Black
Amy Winehouse
2006
34. The Other Man
Sloan
2010
35. I Can Love You
Mary J. Blige (featuring Lil Kim)
1997
36. Torn Between Two Lovers
Mary MacGregor
1976
37. Mrs. Jones
Billy Paul
1972
38. It's Sad to Belong
England Dan & John Ford Coley
1977
39.Why Does It Have to Be Wrong or Right
Restless Heart
1986
40. Layla
Derek and the Dominoes
1971
41. I’ll Be the Other Woman
The Soul Children (featuring Betty Wright)
1972
42. The Girl Is Mine
Michael Jackson (featuring Paul McCartney)
1983
43. (If Loving You Is Wrong) I Don't Want to Be Right
Barbara Mandrell
1978
44. So Into You
SWV
1992
45. Have You Ever Loved a Woman
Derek and the Dominoes
1970
46. Girlfriend
Avril Lavigne
2007
47. How Could You Want Him (When You Know You Could Have Me)
Spin Doctors
1991
48. Don't Let Him Take Your Love From Me
The Temptations
1969
49. I Want to Come Over
Melissa Etheridge
1995
50. You Belong to Me
Carly Simon
1978
51. Daytime Friends and NIghttime Lovers
Kenny Rogers
1977
52. Woman to Woman
Shirley Brown
1974
53. The Other Woman
Lana Del Rey
2012
54. The Other Woman
Ray Parker Jr.
1982
55. From a Table Away
Sunny Sweeney
2011
56. That Girl
Jennifer Nettles
2014
57. The Other Woman
Chely Wright
1996
58. Holding Her and Loving You
Earl Thomas Conley
1983
59. The Other Guy
Little River Band
1982
60. What Is It About Men?
Amy Winehouse
2003
61. If That's Your Boyfriend (He Wasn't Last Night)
Meshell Ndegeocello
1993
62. Jezebel
Chely Wright
2001
63. Love Stinks
J. Geils Band
1980
64. Let Me Love You
Mario
2004
65. Blue Ain't Your Color
Keith Urban
2016
66. There's More Where That Came From
Lee Ann Womack
2005
67. You Ain't Woman Enough (To Take My Man)
Loretta Lynn
1966
68. Fist City
Loretta Lynn
1968
69. Ho Hey
The Lumineers
2010
70. Are You Gonna Be My Girl
Jet
2003
Do you know a good song about interlopers (the other man or woman) and love triangles? Leave a suggestion in the Comments Section below!

What's in a Name? Locations with Names Associated with Love Triangles and Being an Interloper

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A markerBattle, United Kingdom -
Battle, UK
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B markerCompetition, Missiouri, USA -
Competition, MO 65470, USA
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C markerHeartbreak Ridge, Virginia, USA -
Heartbreak Ridge, Charlottesville, VA 22903, USA
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D markerLake Desire, Washington, USA -
Lake Desire, Maple Heights-Lake Desire, WA 98058, USA
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E markerLusty Lake, Canada -
Lusty Lake, Kenora, Unorganized, ON P0V, Canada
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F markerNuisance, France -
Nuisance, 36250, France
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G markerPining River, Indonesia -
Pining River, Saipar Dolok Hole, South Tapanuli Regency, North Sumatra, Indonesia
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H markerRival, North Dakota -
Rival, ND 58752, USA
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I markerRomance, Arkansas, USA -
Romance, AR 72136, USA
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J markerTriangle, Virginia, USA -
Triangle, VA, USA
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      FlourishAnyway 2 weeks ago from USA

      Devika - Thank you for your kind compliment.

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      DDE 2 weeks ago

      You shared the best music articles!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Catherine - Vanilla's not so bad, considering all the angst involved with the alternatives. I like that you're a "reformed" wild child. I don't know which is more fun -- making the memories or reliving them in one's older years? It's fun to think back, eh?

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      Catherine Giordano 2 months ago from Orlando Florida

      I took your poll and said my life was vanilla. NOW it is, and I prefer not to remember the unfortunate parts of my past. A great bunch of songs here. I played the videos to listen to a few. The music stirs the memories and makes me feel like a wild child again.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Louise - So glad you enjoyed it. I often discover new music I like and hope others do as well.

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      Louise Powles 2 months ago from Norfolk, England

      I do enjoy reading your musical articles. It's always very interesting! I like a lot of the songs you mentioned.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Larry - Thank you for stopping by. I hope all is well with you. Have a fantastic weekend.

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      Larry Rankin 2 months ago from Oklahoma

      Some great songs on this taboo subject.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Linda - Thank you for your kind comment. I appreciate your reading even though you didn't know the songs.

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      Linda Crampton 2 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      The only song on your list that I know is the ABBA one, but as always, your article is interesting and enjoyable. This is a great series, Flourish.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Debangee - Thank you so much for your kind support. Have a wonderful weekend.

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      DEBANGEE MANDAL 2 months ago from India

      I loved the videos and songs listed by you. You wonderfully put them together in this single hub. Well done!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Tamara - So sorry you were unwillingly involved in those love triangles. There are a lot of nice, stable fellas out there. Vanilla's not a bad choice given all the other choices, eh?

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      Tamara Moore 2 months ago

      Oh my! These songs might come in handy for me, though hopefully not, anymore :-) However, by all means, I needed these very same songs for my last relationship with a Covert Narcissist who got his thrills by Triangulating me with another woman. I like these songs you have listed here, and they ring with such wisdom! I really think I ought to stick to vanilla Ice Cream from now on; a bit plainer, but much safer, and honest. Lol...

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Rasma - Thank you for stopping by. I hope you are well.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 2 months ago from Riga, Latvia

      Well done. Another impressive list of songs.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Audrey - Thank you so much! Have a wonderful holiday!

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      Audrey Hunt 2 months ago from Nashville Tn.

      Another winner my friend! My favorite videos are 14, 15 and 16.

      Love this series. Always refreshing and so well done. Happy 4th!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Linda - Thanks for the kind support. Glad you enjoyed the older songs on the list! Have a happy and safe Fourth to you as well!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      MsDora - I guess it is hard to know how one would truly respond unless you're in the situation. Personal money expert Suze Orman (whom I adore) suggests that women keep a freedom fund that is separate and apart from all other household finances in case they need it so they don't feel held hostage so to speak in a relationship that is intolerable in some way. Sounds like excellent advice. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.

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      Linda Lum 2 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Flourish - Billybuc and I are about the same age, and it shows. "Torn Between Two Lovers" immediately popped into my little mind as well. Great list, as always. Have a wonderful safe holiday my friend!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 months ago from The Caribbean

      This time, I know at least some of the words to numbers 14 and 15. However, I wish more women would adopt the attitude of "I am NOT that woman who will sit around . . ." More lovers would walk the straight and narrow. Thanks for the list.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Heidi - Poor Jessie. He's what legends are made of, but not the way the poor fella wanted. Have a wonderful Fourth!

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      Heidi Thorne 2 months ago from Chicago Area

      I thought of "Jesse's Girl" as soon as I saw the title your post! Hope you're enjoying this holiday weekend. Cheers!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Bill - I enjoyed that one as well. I've been singing that around the house lately and my husband gives me "the look." He's used to it now. There's always a song! Have a Happy Fourth!

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Yep, I dated myself on this one..."Torn Between Two Lovers" was my first choice. Taylor Swift? Way too young for this old man. :)

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Ryan - Thanks for the warm kudos. I like the Spin Doctors, too. I had to reall challenge myself on this playlist!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA

      Nell - No judgment here regardless of what you picked. None of us are saints. Big hug for on the other side of the pond!

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      Ryan Fuller 2 months ago from Louisiana, USA

      I love the song Two Princes by the Spin Doctors. Great list. I think you nailed it with the subject matter and matching the songs to it. Great work.

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      Nell Rose 2 months ago from England

      Great list! I only know a couple of the songs, but I did answer your polls....um! LOL! great hub as always!