Getting Over You Playlist: 84 Songs About Struggling to Forget an Ex

Updated on February 28, 2018
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Rollercoaster of Emotions

Lovers come and go from our lives, but their impact can be felt even years later. We've bared our souls, our bodies, our pasts as well as our hopes for the future to them. And then they end up as sudden strangers or strained acquaintances.

Struggling to accept such a loss and eventually move on can send you on a rollercoaster of emotions. Heartbroken, you may try to deny ever loving the person at all. You may feel confused as you vacillate between attraction and anger. Or you may express sad reminiscence, acceptance of your loss and a desire to find new love.

The more brazen of us may even thank our exes for breaking our hearts because we weren't right for one another anyway. Wherever you are in the struggle to forget an ex-lover, here's a playlist of pop, rock, and country songs to let you know that you're not alone.

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1. "I'm Movin' On" by Rascal Flatts

This is a heart wrenching song. Whatever ghosts and demons the narrator in this 2000 country song has, they helped him wreak havoc on his relationship. He has finally let go of the blame, regret and guilt. Having lost everything that is important to him, he finds strength and hope in moving on.

2. "Shout Out To My Ex" by Little Mix

Take this, former boyfriend! Full of rowdy spirit, this catchy 2016 pop song involves the narrator thanking a former lover of four years for breaking her heart. Without him, she wouldn't be the strong, happy person she is now:

Shout out to my ex, you're really quite the man.
You made my heart break, and that made me who I am.
Here's to my ex. Hey, look at me now.
Well, I'm all the way up; I swear you'll never, you'll never bring me down.

3. "Ain't Worth the Whiskey" by Cole Swindell

The narrator in this 2014 country song has run into an old lover in a bar tonight, and he's not about to let her know that she still gets to him. He's willing to drink to a good country song, a buddy he hasn't seen in years, or a hard work at week.

But he won't be drowning his sorrows in whiskey over lost love. Because she just ain't worth it.

I don't care that you done me wrong
'Cause I've already moved on
I don't care what his name is
Girl it is what it is.
I won't waste a dime
Or the bartender's time
Trying to catch a buzz over the thought of us.

4. "I Hate U I Love U" by Gnash (featuring Olivia O'Brien)

In this pop ballad from 2016, both partners are having trouble putting their broken relationship behind them. While one of them has found a new partner and is making small steps to try to heal, his ex ruminates in her emotional wounds:

I hate you, I love you,
I hate that I love you.
Don't want to but I can't put nobody else above you.

This makes me want to shake her and tell her, "Girl, you stop it right now! Get yourself to the gym and make yourself the hottest ex-girlfriend that boy has ever had."

5. "DONE" by The Band Perry

Don't go looking for the chick in this 2013 country song to shed tears over her ex. She knows that sometimes it's necessary to burn a bridge. (That's my kinda lady!) Tired of put-downs and being strung along, she's decided she is DONE.

I'm through, with you
You're one bridge I'd like to burn
Scatter the ashes, smash the urn
I'm through with you ... .

6. "Since U Been Gone" by Kelly Clarkson

The narrator in this 2004 pop song is so completely over her ex. He blew his once chance with her, and now he is out of sight out of mind. Strong and sassy, she feels like she can breathe for the first time and is finally realizing her potential. (Woo hoo! Go girl!) In other words, "Thanks for breaking up with me. You did me a freaking favor."

7. "Like I Would" by Zayn

Under the influence, the narrator of this 2016 pop song has lost his inhibitions. He calls his former partner to unleash some candor her way.

Although he is still stuck in the past emotionally, his ex-girlfriend has found someone new. However, her new flame can't love her better than he does:

He won't touch you like I do
He won't love you like I would
He don't know your body
He don't do you right
He won't love you like I would
Love you like I would.

"People change and forget to tell each other." - Lillian Hellman, American screenwriter
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8. "Smile" by Lily Allen

The young woman in this 2006 rock song has a serious dark streak. She was left heartbroken and mentally "messed up" by a former lover who now wants her back. However, his tears and regret now make her smile. Can you imagine being her next beau?

9. "Bet You Still Think of Me" by Blake Shelton

If you're guessing that Blake Shelton wrote this 2016 country song with ex-wife Miranda Lambert in mind, he's already acknowledged that. In it, the narrator reflects on a past relationship, wondering where his ex-partner is and what she is doing. She was always the wild and free type. He still thinks of her and imagines it's mutual. (I'm not sure I'd give him the satisfaction of knowing that.)

10. "Somebody That I Used To Know" by Gotye (featuring Kimbra)

One moment you're lovers, and then it's over. Before you know it, the love of your life is just somebody that you used to know. They block you on Facebook. Unfollow you on Instagram. It gets all weird.

The guy in this 2011 pop ballad hung on to his ex's assurance that they could still be friends. But maybe he was too clingy. She changed her number, had her friends retrieve her last remaining stuff. It's left him still grieving. Yep, this one's going to hurt for a long time, especially because he seems like the sensitive type.

11. "I Wish" by Toni Braxton and Babyface

Forget about being all mature about a breakup. In this 2014 song, the narrator makes a number of wishes for her ex-lover and his new partner. She hopes that his current sweetheart:

  • cheats on him and makes him cry
  • gives him a miserable disease
  • spends all his money and
  • has a baby boy (because a girl would mean the world to a woman).

12. "Send My Love (To Your Lover)" by Adele

In this 2015 pop song, Adele informs her ex-lover that all past transgressions are forgiven. She accepts responsibility for her part of the relationship gone wrong in addition to casting blame on him. Instead of feeling jealousy towards her ex's new partner, she wishes the couple well and makes it clear she's only looking forward.

That's very adult of you, Adele.

13. "Should've Gone To Bed" by Plain White T's

Oh, the drunk dial. The guy in this 2013 pop song is fine all day long. But in the evenings, he downs a few drinks, knows he should just sleep it off, but can't resist calling his ex-girlfriend around midnight. The next morning, he can't even recall exactly what he said, but he has a sinking feeling it's not good.

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14. "Don't Wanna Know" by Maroon 5 (featuring Kendrick Lamar)

In this 2016 song, friends of the narrator know better than to bring up his ex-lover's name. All of his thoughts lead back to her. He wonders who she's with, who's loving her, whether she thinks of him, and if she's happy. But then he wrestles with whether he really wants to know the answers.

15. "I Got the Boy" by Jana Kramer

Seeing a high school boyfriend's wedding photo in the local newspaper has sparked old memories for the woman in this 2015 country song. She recalls their teenage dreams and the adventures they shared, then contrasts that with the image of the grown up, newly married man.

I got the first kiss and she'll get the last.
She's got the future and I got the past.
I got the class ring, she got the diamond and wedding band.
I got the boy and she got the man.

16. "When She Was Mine" by Lawson

The heartsick narrator in this song from 2012 believed his life was perfect when he was with his girlfriend, but now he is constantly reminded of what is missing from his life. Although he has tried to wipe her from his memory, he finds that he needs her.

17. "You Suck" by Abigail Breslin

The narrator in this funny 2014 song has an ex-boyfriend who was a player, so now she lets him know that she was she was never all that into him anyway. She doesn't appreciate his lying, he's not as hot as he thinks he is, and she certainly doesn't wish him well. So there.

18. "Forget You" by Cee Lo Green

What do you do when your honey ditches you for someone with more flash and money? In this 2010 pop song, you say "forget you" (the clean version) or "f**k you" (the dirty version).

The narrator's love interest was a gold digger and has left him for someone for a Ferrari and a lot more Benjamins. Sorry, buddy! Next time, pick a girl who isn't quite as shallow.

19. "Love Will Remember" by Selena Gomez

The narrator in this 2013 pop song is so disillusioned. She doesn't understand how mutual promises and expressions of emotion could simply be gone now:

You said you loved me, I said I loved you back
What happened to that? What happened to that?
All your promises and all them plans we had
What happened to that? What happened to that?

20. "Missing You" by John Waite

This narrator in this classic rock song has been left by the woman he loves. He hears others talk about her and struggles with the memories. John Waite originally recorded the the song in 1984 then released it as a duet in 2007 with Alison Krauss, a bluegrass/country artist.

Even More Songs About Trying to Get over an Ex

Year Released
21. Relapse
Carrie Underwood
22. Problem
Ariana Grande (featuring Iggy Azalea)
23. Lips Of An Angel
24. Everybody's Got Somebody But Me
Hunter Hayes
25. Never Say Never
Basement Jaxx
26. 21 Summer
Brothers Osborne
27. Dear John
Taylor Swift
28. Behind These Hazel Eyes
Kelly Clarkson
29. Cool
Gwen Stefani
30. California
Amelia Lily
31. Over You
Seasick Steve
32. Before It's Over
Sixx: A.M.
33. Come On
Lucinda Williams
34. Just Like Me
Betty Who
35. Loud and Clear
Olly Murs
36. How Could You Babe
Tobias Jesso Jr.
37. Mary Lee
Jamie T.
38. Should've Known Better
Richard Marx
39. Brighton Beach
Rod Stewart (featuring Jim Cregan)
40. Better Than You Left Me
Mickey Guyton
41. If the Phone Doesn't Ring, It's Me1
Jimmy Buffett
42. Someone Like You
43. So What
44. Look at You
Big & Rich
45. Emily
Bowling for Soup
46. Home Alone Tonight
Luke Bryan
47. Chainsaw
Nick Jonas
48. Bet U Wish U Had Me Back
49. Black Lake
50. Give Me Back My Hometown
Eric Church
51. Bourbon in Kentucky
Dierks Bentley
52. Stone Cold
Demi Lovato
53. Too Little, Too Late
54. The Other Side Of Him
Toby Keith
55. Thinking of You
Katy Perry
56. This Town
Niall Horan
57. Your Side of Town
Maddie & Tae
58. Love the One You're With
Stephen Stills
59. What Hurts the Most
Rascal Flatts
60. Unbreak My Heart
Toni Braxton
61. Love Yourself
Justin Bieber
62. We Don't Talk Anymore
Charlie Puth
63. Wrecking Ball
Miley Cyrus
64. Cry Me A River
Justin Timberlake
65. Hair
Little Mix
66. Same Old Love
Selena Gomez
67. 50 Ways to Say Goodbye
68. Getting Over You
Keith Anderson
69. I Cry
70. Don't Cry Out Loud
Melissa Manchester
71. Sometimes I Cry
Chris Stapleton
72. If You See Him (If You See Her)
Reba McEntire (featuring Brooks & Dunn)
73. You Don't Know Her Like I Do
Brantley Gilbert
74. Better Man
Little Big Town
75. Happier
Ed Sheeran
76. Every Little Thing
Carly Pearce
77. Words I Couldn't Say
Rascal Flatts
78. Like Nothing Ever Happened
79. What It Takes
80. Ask Me How I Know
Garth Brooks
81. How Not To
Dan + Shay
82. Sober Saturday Night
Chris Young (featuring Vince Gill)
83. Fading Like a Flower
84. Amnesia
5 Seconds of Summer
Do you have a song suggestion for our playlist about trying to move on from an ex? Leave us a comment in the Comment Section below!
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        FlourishAnyway 3 weeks ago from USA

        Kristina - Thanks for the endorsement.

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        kristina 3 weeks ago

        Full recommendation I would like to recommend to anyone suffering from breakup.

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        FlourishAnyway 15 months ago from USA

        Dear Faith Reaper - We sure have missed you here. Can't wait to see you back writing again. I hope your husband heals nicely and that you've been happy and well. Happy New Year to you!

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        Faith Reaper 15 months ago from southern USA

        Happy New Year, Dear Flourish!

        I'm off for the holiday today and thought I'd pop in to read a bit and see what I've missed ....missed a lot!

        You're still the Queen of the great playlists. I do know a lot of these songs, especially the country songs, but I love John Waite's Missing You from so long ago.

        I hope to get back to writing here soon. My husband had knee replacement surgery and then just other life issues kept me away.

        Peace and blessings always, dear lady

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        FlourishAnyway 15 months ago from USA

        a - "A" stands for "awesome." Thank you and have a Happy New Year!

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        15 months ago

        Here are mine

        Say Something-A Great Big World - Say Something I am giving up on you

        Love Yourself - Justin Bieber - I will be moving on

        We Don't Talk Anymore- Charlie Puth We Don't Talk Anymore like we used

        Too Good - Drake - I'm too good for

        Wrecking Ball - Miley Cyrus aI put you up in the sky now your not coming down

        Cry Me a River - Justin Timberlake You told me you love me why did you leave me

        Hair - Little Mix - Goota get him out of my hair

        Blow Me One Last Kiss -Punk I think I finally had enough

        Same Old Love -Selena Gomez - I'm sick of that same old love

        50 ways to say Goodbye - Train Help Me Help me I'm out of lies

        Babe I'm Going Leace You - Led Zeppelin I will let the title speak for itself

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        Yves 16 months ago

        Thanks for adding those, Flourish. So sweet of you. I wish you a joyous holiday as well!!

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Savvy - Thanks for the great additions. I've included them as 59 & 60. You're right about ruminating about one's ex. While dwelling on the past, one may miss the next great love or underinvest in the current relationship which isn't fair to anyone. I hope you are well. Have a wonderful holiday season!

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        Yves 16 months ago

        Wonderful Playlist, Flourish! I have two favorites which I would like to contribute:

        1) What Hurts The Most by Rascall Flatts

        What hurts the most was being so close

        And havin' so much to say

        And watchin' you walk away.... (Sigh, it gets me every time)

        2) Unbreak My Heart by Toni Braxton

        Un-break my heart

        Say you'll love me again

        Undo this hurt you caused

        When you walked out the door...

        The only problem is that although a break-up occurred, the person who was left behind still longs for their lover and they're not making much of an effort to get over the ex. Lol.

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        MsDora - Thank you for stopping by. I like the quote by Horace as well. Why hide wounds that haven't healed? Hope you have a good week.

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Martie - Thanks so much. I hope people enjoy it.

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Heidi - Never!?! I'm still friends with the important ones because they helped to make me me who I am. Thanks for stopping by! I appreciate you!

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Jo - Thank you so much for your sweet encouragement. Have a wonderful week ahead!

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Gypsy Rose Lee - I love the new, the old and the in-between. Glad you saw some new ones as well as familiar ones. Thanks for stopping by!

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Linda - Thanks for reading anyway! I appreciate your sticktoitiveness. Have a wonderful week.

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        Linda Crampton 16 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

        I haven't heard of any of these songs, but I always appreciate the musical education I get by reading your articles. I'll have to look out for some of the songs that you've described. They sound interesting.

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        Dora Weithers 16 months ago from The Caribbean

        Don't know any of these songs, but l read through the article and I especially love the quote by Horace. True on many levels and in other situations besides love.

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        Gypsy Rose Lee 16 months ago from Riga, Latvia

        Fascinating list of songs. you know I am an old oldies fan and go into music as far at the 1990s Beyond that they lost me in the change of the century. What is interesting here is that I don't know any of these songs so I'll check them out. A great job on this hub as always.

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        Martie Coetser 16 months ago from South Africa

        I think this is a very useful list of beautiful songs! Thank you, Flourish! You lists are well organized.

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        Heidi Thorne 16 months ago from Chicago Area

        The interesting thing is that I've never been in this situation... ever. So even though I can't relate personally, I always like your playlists. :) I like "Problem" the best. And thanks for the 80s throwback John Waite's "Missing You." Happy Monday!

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        Jo Miller 16 months ago from Tennessee

        Another great list! You do such a good job of this.

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Larry - Thank you. Hope you are doing well.

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Nell - Ha! Don't we all-- some for the better and others not so much. Thanks for reading!

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        Larry Rankin 16 months ago from Oklahoma

        Another great list:-)

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        Nell Rose 16 months ago from England

        Great list Flourish, love some of these, and a few I had never heard of before, but yes I do still remember a few X's! lol!

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        FlourishAnyway 16 months ago from USA

        Bill - Mine, too! I love Rascal Flatts' ballads. Very sentimental. Have a happy week ahead!

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        Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

        "Moving On" is one of my all-time favorite songs. It is haunting, sweet, and beautiful....and now I think I'll go listen to it. :)