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Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
It was all fast heartbeats and goo-goo eyes in the beginning, but now you're left with that sinking feeling that you're all alone again.
Some people brood and get stuck pressing replay on all those old memories, reliving what went wrong. (Sorry, but you can't go back.)
Others reach deep down for their survivor spirit. What will you do?
Here's a winner's playlist of songs showing a variety of reactions to breakups, broken hearts, and relationship bust-ups. Have fun listening and go get your inspiration!
1. "I'm Moving On" by Rascal Flatts
In this emotionally raw song, contemporary country group Rascal Flatts (2001) describes a man who has faced personal demons in his past and has come to realize that his life is passing him by in his current relationship. He has packed up his belongings and is leaving town, hoping to find forgiveness down the road.
2. "Tears Dry on Their Own" by Amy Winehouse
Amy Winehouse (2006) sings about a love affair that has run its course. Although she knows she'll be some other man's lover soon, she regrets the end of their strained relationship. There is a poignant contrast in how they immediately handle the breakup:
He walks away, the sun goes down
He takes the day but I'm grown
And in your way in this blue shade
My tears dry on their own.
3. "Since U Been Gone" by Kelly Clarkson
In this 2004 rock song, Kelly Clarkson describes a girl who is relieved that her relationship is over. The couple began as friends, and their romance became intense. Now she is free and feels like she can breathe for the first time in a long time. And yes, she is glad he's miserable.
4. "What Goes Around" by Justin Timberlake
Justin Timberlake released this 2006 song as a sequel to "Cry Me A River" which was rumored to be about his breakup with Britney Spears. It's a can't-let-it-go song about a guy who was in love with a woman and ready to marry her.
However, she went and cheated on him. The brokenhearted Romeo reminds her that karma has a way of coming back around and kicking you in the backside. Ease up, Justin. She ain't worth it.
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5. "Somebody That I Used to Know" by Gotye (featuring Kimbra)
Blame and miscommunication are flying in this 2011 song. The man in the relationship tells his side of the story—that he felt lonely in the relationship and glad when it was over. He didn't understand why his old lover cut him off completely and treated him like a stranger.
6. "Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It)" by Beyoncé Knowles
In this unforgettable 2008 number, Beyoncé Knowles sings about a girl who has just broken up with her boyfriend of three years. On the rebound, she now has all the male attention she can handle, and it's driving her ex-boyfriend crazy.
If you liked it, then you shoulda put a ring on it
Oh, oh, oh.
7. "When I Was Your Man" by Bruno Mars
In this 2012 song, Bruno Mars' special lady now belongs to another guy. Having a major case of the coulda-woulda-shouldas, all he can do is ruminate over what he did wrong:
. . . I should've bought you flowers
And held your hand
Should've gave you all my hours
When I had the chance
Take you to every party
'Cause all you wanted to do was dance
Now my baby's dancing
But she's dancing with another man.
8. "Burn" by Usher
The relationship is coming to an end, and Usher delivers the final blow in this 2004 song. Even though he's the partner who is terminating the love relationship, he grieves the end of their romance.
He hates the thought of his ex-lover with someone else, even long after they have split. But hey, he lit the match that burned the bridge.
9. "Straight Tequila Night" by John Anderson
The lonely, heartbroken lady in this John Anderson song (1996) is friendly and fun when she's sipping Chablis. But when she's downing straight tequila, don't mess with the broad. That's when she's got her ex-lover on her mind. Baby, that's when she's a train wreck looking to tear up some tracks. Toot, toot!
10 Things Not to Do When Drinking and on the Rebound
|You'll be sorry if you . . .|
1. Tweet, update your Facebook status, or post messages on Internet message boards.
2. Call up your old flame to discuss unresolved relationship issues. Or show up at his/her apartment.
3. Call up your ex-lover's new romantic interest to give them the scoop on what Mr. or Ms. Right is really all about (or to wish the new couple well).
4. Try to find a new partner -- especially if that partner is also drunk and/or on the rebound.
5. Get a tattoo, cut your own hair, or both.
6. Profess your love to anyone.
7. Tell the world what you think of your ex through spraypaint.
8. Discuss your troubles with any and all who will listen.
9. Upload photos and videos to the Internet.
10. Re-enact any dramatic breakup music videos. (e.g., Single Ladies)
10. "My Give a Damn's Busted" by Jo Dee Messina
Jo Dee Messina is all fired up and tired of her man's lame excuses. She's kicking the no good buzzard to the curb in this 2005 country number. He's filled her head with lies, manipulated her, and used her. Ole' Jo Dee is DONE.
11. " I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor
It's an old tune (1978), but if you need a high-spirited, pick-me-up song after a breakup, then Gloria Gaynor delivers! She describes a woman who has been left by her lover and was dejected—a hollow shell of a human being:
At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side.
Later, however, the ex-lover returns to find a brand new version of his former sweetheart: strong, full of herself, and more than willing to toss him out:
Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore.
Weren't you the one who tried to break me with goodbye?
Did you think I'd crumble?
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh no, not I
I will survive . . . .
12. "Best Days of Your Life" by Kellie Pickler
Kellie Pickler wants to rub her ex-boyfriend's face in his mistake. The cheater broke her heart and is now marrying someone else, but she reminds him that she will always be there in the back of his mind as the one who got away.
Does it surprise you that Taylor Swift co-wrote this 2008 song?
I heard you're gonna get married, have a nice little family
Live out my dreams with someone new
But I've been told that a cheater is always a cheater
So I've got my pride and she's got you. . . .
13. "Forget You" by Cee Lo Green
This 2010 R&B song has two versions: the sanitized one and the naughty one, called "F*ck You." Cee Lo Green sings about the pain of being in love with a gold digger; she's left him for deeper pockets.
14. "Nothing Compares 2 U" by Sinéad O'Connor
This song was written by Prince, although Sinéad O'Connor made it famous throughout the world in 1990. She describes feeling empty, and she counts the days since her lover left her.
Although she now has the freedom to do anything she wants, her sleeping is interrupted, she's having crying jags, and she's gone to see a doctor to no avail. She's even willing to give their disintegrated relationship another try. The song paints the picture of a broken woman.
15. "Need You Now" by Lady Antebellum
One of the unhealthiest combinations is a broken hearted lover who's been drinking and has access to a phone late at night. It inevitably leads to the drunk dial. This is what Lady Antebellum is contemplating in this 2010 song.
It's a quarter after one
I'm all alone
And I need you now
And I said I wouldn't call
But I'm a little drunk
And I need you now.
N-o-o-o-o! Don't do it! Nothing good comes from the drunk dial. Just sleep it off, or go write a song.
16. "Never Ever Getting Back Together Again" by Taylor Swift
Taylor Swift sings about an on-again/off-again love affair in this 2012 Grammy Award nominated song that was inspired by her ill-fated relationship with actor Jake Gyllenhaal (of Brokeback Mountain fame). There's frequent picking of fights, screaming, and gossiping with friends. It doesn't sound like these two need to get back together. Sound familiar?
Facts About Divorce & Singledom
- Did your parents divorce? This makes you up to 4 times more likely to get divorced yourself.
- The odds of first marriages succeeding are about 1 in 2. The odds of second marriages succeeding are about 1 in 3. Third marriages? Almost 1 in 4.
- The number of divorce filings tend to rise dramatically each January. There's even an unofficial "Divorce Day," the Monday after Christmas break when divorce attorneys return to their offices to LOTS of inquiries.
- The third full week in September is National Unmarried and Single Americans Week.
17. "You Don't Even Know Who I Am" by Patty Loveless
Relationships don't always end in verbal flame throwing and slammed doors. Sometimes they just die on the vine, as in this 1994 song by country singer Patty Loveless.
She describes a wife who realizes she and her husband have fallen out of love long ago. The wife leaves her wedding ring and a note on her pillow that says the following, and husband calls her to say he feels the same way:
You don't even know who I am
You left me a long time ago
You don't even know who I am.
18. "Apologize" by Timbaland (featuring One Republic)
Timbaland (2006) describes the emotional torture that plagues some relationships as they die off.
He is a lover who desperately loves his sweetheart. However, she plays with his heart, letting him dangle "10 feet off the ground" . . . seemingly for the fun of it. He finds that there are some things you can't take back, and it's too late to apologize.
19. "50 Ways to Say Goodbye" by Train
Train brings rare humor to grieving the loss of relationship in this 2012 song. Left by his lover, a snarky man refuses to tell his friends the truth about the demise of their affair. Instead he tosses out suggestions of what happened to her. What great ways to say, "You are both gone and forgotten."
20. "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover" by Paul Simon
If your love relationship has ended but you haven't technically broken up yet, Paul Simon offers some advice on how to become officially single again in this fun 1975 classic:
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be Coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.
21. "I'm Still Standing" by Elton John
In this upbeat 1983 rock number, Elton John informs his cold-blooded ex-lover that threats and emotional manipulation are not enough to take him down. He's still standing, stronger than ever before. So take that!
22. "Wrecking Ball" by Miley Cyrus
Miley Cyrus shed her Disney Hannah Montana image like a snake discards its skin. By 2013 she was sporting a bleach blonde pixie cut, twerking with Robin Thicke on the VMA Awards, and announcing the breakup of her wedding engagement.
Although she didn't write this song, the emotional upheaval seems to fit her. People who have been through a tumultuous relationship can identity:
I came in like a wrecking ball
Yeah, I just closed my eyes and swung
Left me crouching in a blaze and fall
All you ever did was break me
Yeah, you, you wreck me. . . .
10 More Ideas for Paul Simon's "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover"
|You Could . . .|
1. Become a fella, Stella.
2. Stow away on a plane, Elaine.
3. Pretend to be dead, Ned.
4. Fail to make bail, Mikail.
5. Tell it like it is, Liz.
6. Join the CIA, Ray.
7. Become a nun, hun.
8.Move out of state, Nate.
9. Hide under a rock, Jacque.
10. Claim to have ebola, Lola.
23. "Someone Like You" by Adele
Adele shows up out of the blue to remind an ex-boyfriend that although he married is to someone else now, moving on is not so easy for her. Unable to stay away, she relives their old times, even if it's just in her memory.
In 2011, she was famously brought to tears performing the song at the Royal Albert Hall.
24. "You'll Think of Me" by Keith Urban
In this country ballad, Keith Urban grieves the end of his romance as his cheating girlfriend leaves him for someone else. He tells her to take what she feels she needs to—it's only stuff. He is confident that while she is sleeping with her pride, he will long linger in the back of her memory.