Audrey Hunt, renowned vocal coach, teaches you why you dislike your voice and how to sing better.
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6 Reasons That Lead You To Believe You Can't Sing Well
Singing makes us happy. It's as simple as that. When we sing, feel-good endorphins are released into the brain. Singing is also a great way to express yourself. If singing is your birthright then why do you doubt your own vocal abilities? What are you afraid of? What happened to make you think you can't sing? What is robbing you of this pleasure?
If you identify with any part of the list given below, it's time to erase the old negative dialogue that consumes your mind:
- You were told you can't sing. Whether this statement came from a parent, teacher, friend or otherwise, it's completely ridiculous and untrue. Still, you buy into this false belief which can rob you of a lifetime of joy.
- At one time or another you witness others laughing at someone's singing You are embarrassed for them and vow to never let this happen to you.
- Comparing your voice to others, you think your voice should sound like your favorite singer, and because you're unable to duplicate the same sound, you believe you can't sing. Big mistake!
- The fear of being judged negatively or laughed at imprisons your desire to be heard so you save your singing for the shower.
- You've recorded your voice and hate the way it sounds.
You compare your voice to others. You think you'll never sing that well.
It's time to erase each of these reasons, find solutions, and release your true voice with freedom and joy.
Solutions For Thinking You Can't Sing
Starting with the first reason you doubt your ability to sing, a solution will be given. Read each one carefully and remain open to the possibilities. Your reaction may be, "this is stupid and doesn't apply to me," or "this makes perfect sense - hooray!" Try these solutions anyhow. You just may find that they work.
- You were told you can't sing. This is completely ridiculous and untrue. Still, you buy into this false belief. You are robbed of a lifetime of the joy of singing.
Who told you that you can't sing? A parent, sibling, friend, teacher or another singer? Why are they judging your voice in the first place? Is this person an expert on singing? What is this person's agenda? Others may not like your voice for a hundred different reasons (most of which is their own stuff,) but it doesn't mean you can't sing.
Find a private place and begin making musical sounds. Accept whatever you hear without judging or being critical. Feel the energy of the sound coursing through your body. Repeat these sounds again and again. Experiment with different emotions: happy, sad, excited, angry, passionate.
- You witness others laughing at someone singing. You are embarrassed and vow to never let this happen to you.
This is your low level of self-esteem directing your thinking. It hasn't happened and probably never will so dismiss this type of self-sabotage now. Picture yourself on stage singing to a large audience. You are filled with confidence and full of excitement and everyone loves your voice and the message you deliver through the lyrics of the song. They can't get enough of your showmanship and vocals.
- Thinking that your voice should sound like your favorite singer, you are unable to duplicate the same sound which leads you to believe you can't sing. Big mistake!
Most of us learn a new song by duplicating a recorded singer. While this is fine in one respect, it's not so good in another. As we sing along to the lyrics we are imitating the original singer instead of singing with our own natural style and voice. To make things worse, people not knowing any better, tend to judge a person's singing ability by how well they can duplicate the original artist. I insist that my vocal students find and use their own original, unique sound.
Discover your own unique and special voice. Start by singing an easy song that you really like. It can be a hymn, Christmas carol, folk song or even Happy Birthday to You. Try singing different ways allowing your voice to take liberties and soar.
- The fear of being judged negatively or laughed at imprisons your voice so you save your singing for the shower.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "The antidote to fear is knowledge." To eradicate your own fear you must face it - again and again. I grew up singing publicly during most of my younger years. This was great preparation for my professional career as a singing entertainer. I faced my fears repeatedly until singing in front of others became a natural, exciting experience.
Learning all you can about the human voice places you in a more comfortable, confident position. When you know you're singing correctly, fear diminishes and you actually sound better. Take some lessons. Start singing for others: the elderly, sick people, babies, or join a community or church group or choir. There is safety in numbers.
- You've recorded your voice and hate the way it sounds.
Unfortunately, we grow up hearing everything but the sound of our own voice. When we finally hear it for the first time, we are in shock and probably denial. This is true for both the singing and speaking voice. It took me some time before I accepted the sound of my own voice.
One reason for hating the sound of our voice has to do with the way we hear. When people hear themselves on a recording, they tend to think they sound 'nasal', 'shrill', or off-key The fact is, we simply don't hear the highest elements of our own voice. Our sound is confined to the area between our ears and not the projected sound that others hear. The good news is, the more we work with the sound of our voice, the more we/ll come to accept it.
- Comparing your voice to others
Most of us compare our voices to other singers at one time or the other. When we do this, we are judging ourselves and we aren't capable of judging our own singing anyhow which is why we depend on a vocal teacher. Comparing our own singing to someone else's voice is the #1 reason we dislike our singing. Instead of comparing your voice to others, which is irrelevant and inaccurate, continue to improve on becoming a new and improved version of yourself. No one in this world can do a better job of singing your own unique sound than you. I love this quote, " Michelangelo said, “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.” So it is with your singing voice.
Think You Can't Sing?
I'm glad you're here, and you've come to the right place if you think you can't sing. As a vocal teacher for over 45 years, I've proven time after time that if you can speak, you can sing.
When Kristen signed up with me for vocal lessons, she had no idea that she would one day become a contestant on the television show "American Idol." I knew she had something special the instant I heard her sing. So, I took her under my wing and created a vocal study program designed for her needs. She worked hard, week after week, month after month, and soon her voice escalated to new heights.
She performed on television and a slew of other venues trying out her new vocal style. She did well on the national TV show "Nashville Star" and auditioned for "American Idol," where she placed in the top finals.
So, maybe you think you can't sing because you've been told you can't carry a tune in a bucket, or maybe someone made some negative comment about your voice. Well, you're not alone. You've joined the masses that have convinced themselves they cannot sing. In fact, the number one fear among people isn't death; it's the fear of public speaking and singing.
There are legitimate reasons why we're afraid to expose ourselves by singing in front of others. For one thing, we all have some degree of fear when it comes to being evaluated or judged. When we direct our concentration on how we come across to others, we avoid concentrating on the business at hand, which is when we mess up. The mind can only focus on one thing at a time, so when we choose fear over performance skills, this opens us up to forgetting lyrics, when to take a breath, and most important of all, interpretation. We lose control over the entire song.
Maybe you'd be satisfied to sing better than you presently do. Perfect! This is doable. Even if you're convinced that you can't sing a note, I'm going to convince you otherwise. While living in Hawaii, I was inspired to record what became the #1 singing instruction program, "Anyone Can Sing." I'm convinced that it was popular because the title confirmed that we could all sing.
The biggest reason we think we can't sing has to do with perception. If you're told you have a terrible voice or fail an audition for the school choir, you perceive such experiences to be true. Then you clam up and swear you'll never sing again. You're giving away your power and your right to sing when all along, you were born to sing. Every tool involved in singing you already have, and it's right inside of you. You were born to use these tools, and no one has the right to rob you of this natural ability. No one!
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You Can Sing: Fact or Fiction?
Each of the above reasons for thinking that you can't sing can be changed to knowing you can sing. The first step is to realize that you were born with every tool needed to produce a beautiful singing voice. All you have to do is to learn how to use these tools. You deserve a decent singing voice.
Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. So what are you feeding it? Are you allowing your mind to swallow fact or fiction? Well here's a thought:
- Fiction - Singing is a gift given to a selected few. You either sing with a beautiful voice or you sound terrible.
- Fact - We are born with all the tools needed in order to sing. We all have vocal chords, a breathing system, and resonating chambers which produce sound. Singing requires all three.
Take a minute to examine whether your present thinking about your singing is true or false.
Vocal Lessons Help Reduce the Fear of Singing
Benefits of Vocal Lessons
Singing is exciting and learning to sing well is of inestimable value. Vocal training establishes principles of efficient breathing, good posture, rich tonal quality, and effective communication.
Vocal lessons, with a good, professional teacher, can point out the strengths of the singer as well as the weaknesses. Through proper exercises and singing material, the voice can grow to a higher level.
Because we can't hear how we sound, we need feedback from a trained instructor. Our vocal technique is analyzed by the teacher, followed by a broad range of solutions to each vocal problem through exercises. Lessons are not limited to beginners and all levels of singing must be regularly monitored by an expert to keep the voice in top shape, including professionals.
Our human body is our instrument with which we can produce a beautiful, rich, range of endless variations in tone and expression. Vocal lessons with a qualified, sensitive and experienced teacher will bring out the best of you, through lessons and quality feedback.
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“The greatest respect an artist can pay to music is to give it life.” – Pablo Casals
Summing It All Up
Singing is an expression of self-love. You were born to sing whether you know it or not. You may not like your voice regardless of what you've read here. But you do have all the tools you need to sing. So sing. You simply have to use these tools and give yourself a chance to accept your singing sound. Whether "Happy Birthday" is your choice of song or an aria from Verdi's
"La Traviata," it's all singing.
We are all unique in personality and looks. Each of us is different. This difference makes it possible to recognize each other. Our singing should be unique as well and not a copy of someone else.
Discover your own voice. Listen to the sound without judgment. The more you hear your singing voice the sooner you will become used to it and accept the sound. Working with a vocal coach will help you sound your best. The better your vocal technique - the better your singing will be.
Let go of any and all negative thoughts about your singing. Refuse to give your vocal power to someone else. You and only you are instilled with this power.
All singing is powerful. It affects us deeply and reminds us of our connection to ourselves and the world. We are music.
Sing, little bird, sing.
Questions & Answers
Question: Can I send a video to you to judge if I'm good at singing?
Answer: Please contact me by email by going to my profile.
Question: People say I sing amazingly, but I don’t think so. All I hear is bad singing. Why is that?
Answer: You may be comparing your voice to someone else. Learn to embrace your singing voice. It all starts with the mind. What precisely is it that you don't like about your singing?
Question: I love to sing and I sing every day but my friends say that I sing terrible, so I only sing at home. What should I do to improve my singing?
Answer: Keep on singing no matter what your friends say. I also recommend looking into a good vocal coach.
Question: I’m currently working with a vocal coach. The thing is, when I’m working with him on difficult songs, he tells me that I lose control of the intonation. How can I fix that?
Answer: Thanks for your question. To control the intonation problem, I suggest checking your breathing. Be sure you are taking in plenty of air from the belly and not inhaling from the chest. Tone is supported by air. It "rides" on air. If you're breathing for singing the same way you breathe for speaking, problems will occur with your singing voice. Click on this link to learn diaphragmatic breathing: https://hubpages.com/learning/TheMiracleofBreathin...
I also recommend studying with a good ear-training program.
Question: My best friend says I can sing well but my other (sort of) friend says I really can't, who could be lying?
Answer: A good vocal teacher will tell you what your singing strengths or weaknesses are. Don't be influenced by what others say, because they are not experts in the field of singing. Only a professional has the ability to evaluate your voice. Meanwhile, keep singing and enjoy it. And you might want to seek more supportive friends.
Question: My friends know I can sing but I’m still not sure, how can I tell for sure?
Answer: I suggest you see a vocal coach who will evaluate your singing and let you know. Keep in mind, that we all have the right vocal tools inside our body. Through lessons or youtube videos, we can learn how to use them and develop a nice voice.
Question: I've been practicing a lot with a specific music style that takes a lot to perfect and it affects my singing in a choir and with friends. What do I do?
Answer: Singing in a choir is beneficial for any vocal style. It gives the singer an opportunity to practice breath control, tapping into resonating areas, articulation, dynamics and much more. It's a great way to practice vocal skills.
Question: Everytime when I sing, my throat hurts a lot. Even though I'm warming up. I can't take singing lessons because I don't have any time and my parents don't know that I want to sing. Reason for it is because when I was a child my parents told me that in the end becoming a singer is hard and only a few can make a living on it. So do you may have any tips on how to learn to sing by yourself?
Answer: It sounds like your singing needs some help. The best way to begin is by learning how to breathe using what is called "the belly breath or diaphragmatic breathing." I'm sending you a link to teaching you how to do this: https://hubpages.com/learning/TheMiracleofBreathin... Practice the exercises as outlined until your new way of breathing becomes automatic. Use this way of breathing every time you sing to support your tone. When your throat hurts while singing, this is a clear sign that the voice is being strained. I've also created an article on teaching yourself to sing: https://hubpages.com/learning/Find-Your-Natural-Si... This will help you, for now, however, I always recommend studying with a qualified vocal teacher.
© 2015 Audrey Hunt
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 22, 2020:
Hello. I remember you from commenting on one of my other articles. So nice to see you again and thank you for being here.
Sing with joy!
bhattuc on February 21, 2020:
This is a great article rather a comprehensive guide. Good work.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on November 17, 2019:
Singing is a natural gift available to us all. Don't allow another person to rob you of your voice or the songs you write. I understand why you may feel depressed. Keep on writing your music...someone is waiting to hear your song.
delight on November 10, 2019:
I am depressed today because I did a spiritual gift test in church.
My results were exhortation giving craftsmanship and mercy.
I missed music/worship by one point because I have not put in 100% time I mastering my voice.
I have written a couple of gospel songs. And served in the choir in my previous church
I really felt depressed today' feeling it is not my calling.
I am over 40year old and shouldn't be feeling this way
I may never produced this songs I have written
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 21, 2019:
I agree with you...the tone of the voice is what you're referring to and if our tone is not rich, controlled and technically correct, not much else matters. Thank you for being here!
firstname.lastname@example.org on September 16, 2019:
Anyone can sing, of course. But it's the sound of the voice itself that deems it pleasant or not. People can hit note after note perfectly pitched, but the SOUND... Like, Kirsten Dunst. She can sing on key. But I find her voice itself not entirely unpleasant, but... nothing great, either. Idk how to word it right lol.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 25, 2018:
Thanks for stopping by. Here's my advice: I'm writing a book which is sub-titled "Anyone Can Sing!" Singing provides many health benefits including increased happiness and better health. So...sing, Avery. Follow your heart.
Avery on September 25, 2018:
HI I’ve come by your article because I was told I couldn’t sing by my parents I really like singing and I’m new to it I’m only 17 and I wanna get better because it’s fun to sing and it makes me happy do you have any advice for me?
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on August 07, 2018:
Thank you for sharing your comments about your situation. My suggestion is to check out the many youtube videos for vocal lessons. They are free and some of them are very good. Search for beginning singing lessons. Good luck and keep your dream alive!
Ericsona on August 05, 2018:
Hello, my name is Eric. This year I am going to be 17. My love for music is unbelievable. I live in Bosnia and Hercegovina and in my city there is no vocal coach. My biggest dream is to go to America and maybe one day become a famous singer. My family has a money issue and I can't really travel anywhere. So I am basically stuck in my home and I cry every day that my love of music is never going to come true. I found myself in one of the reasons. I hate the way my voice sounds when recorded. I would like to have a vocal coach but there isn't one in my city. Everyday I watch on my Laptop people accomplishing their dreams and singers growing and I am stuck in this stupid country and can't even have a vocal coach. Music is still the only thing keeping me sane in this country, every morning to night I just sing inside of my soul. I am shy because in the past I was bullied. I pray every night to God to find an escape. So I beg you if you have any advice for me. Please just give me one. And the thing that bothers me the most is that time is going fast and I am growing older and many other celebrities started music very early. Please help me, please
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on July 16, 2018:
Do not allow "fear" to rob you of success. Lack of confidence is in your mind and it's not true. Singing is your passion and sing you must. To reduce your fear I want you to start singing for others. Begin with singing in front of just one person, sing out loud to nature, even an animal or little child. Gradually increase your audience until you feel confident performing for a large group.
Here is a link that may help you reduce your fear: https://discover.hubpages.com/entertainment/Singin...
James MacDonald on July 16, 2018:
I sing everyday. As soon as i put my head phones i feel myself becoming immersed in music. It has got to the stage where everywhere i go when i am out walking i sing and have been doing this for about 2 years. I used to get some strange looks however now i pay no attention as i am in my old world of Music. I have also been told off of many people i have a fantastic voice however for some reason i have convinced myself it isn't good as i don't want to believe peoples reactions due to confidence. I really want to audition or a singing contest however my Anxiety is Through the roof at the thought.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 21, 2018:
I'm glad my article is helpful for you. Now, listen up! The only way you will ever feel "qualified", is through experience. So, jump in and just sing. The more you sing with this band, the more comfortable you will feel. Please let me know how you're doing with your new experience.
Panda on April 21, 2018:
I love singing but i used to only sing to my very closed friends. One of these close friends has a band and asked me a while ago if I want to try singing for them. There is nothing I would love to do more but in the mean time im freaking out bc im more than underqualified for this. Still I want to try. Your article helped me a little with my anxiety, so thank you!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 13, 2018:
Thanks for being here, reading my article and leaving your comment. Glad to hear you love to sing. It's a healthy thing to do!
Sam Dreiberg from India on March 12, 2017:
Excellent article.. I always thought I am not made to sing. But after reading this, I'm definitely gonna start singing..
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on October 08, 2016:
Thanks so much. I appreciate the information and look forward to checking out Gareth Malone. What a wonderful thing he's doing!
Peace and happiness,
Jo Alexis-Hagues from Lincolnshire, U.K on September 04, 2016:
Hi Audrey, I hope you're having a beautiful Sunday. About my singing potential, I'm afraid that boat has well and truly sailed, but thank you for the offer. If you'd like to find out more about Gareth Malone, you can take a look at his website @ garethmalone.com or Wikipedia. Gareth Malone OBE brings together people with little or no previous singing experience to form a choir with extraordinary results. You may have heard of the Military Wives Choir. He has done remarkable work with school children who were very shy and lacked confidence. If 'The Choir' is not yet a movie, it ought to be. :-))
My best always.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 03, 2016:
I want to thank you for your marvelous comments. I appreciate all the shares as well. You're exactly the type of person I'd love to take under my wing and help develop your singing. You'd even end up liking your voice after a few lessons. Now, about Gareth Malone...how can I find him and is 'The Choir" a movie? Thanks again.
Jo Alexis-Hagues from Lincolnshire, U.K on September 03, 2016:
I wished I had read this inspirational hub when I was in my early teens. I loved to sing until I heard my voice on a tape recording and that was the end of my dream of a singing career. I can well believe that singing can boost our health, especially our mental health, so I'll just keep singing in the bath. Anyone who doubts that human beings were born to sing should see Gareth Malone's The Choir. Thank you for this awesome hub. I'll be sharing on FB, G+, and Twitter.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 25, 2016:
I agree that it's not a good idea to list your number. BTW, I like all your hubs. :)
C E Clark from North Texas on April 25, 2016:
All I know is my voice usually changes over a landline phone, and a mic seems to change it too. My mother's voice changed over the landline phone too.
I do read every word because I find this subject especially fascinating.
I think it would be grand to get together! I would love to meet you. I'm afraid to go very far in my old car anymore ('95), but if you get down this way, by all means send me a message on the email provided by HP, so we can meet. I'd put my number here but no telling how many calls I might get, especially because of some of my more controversial hubs. ;)
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 19, 2016:
Hello my friend. Actually a microphone only amplifies your voice whether good or bad :) However, most of the time the "echo chamber" is turned on and with this addition the voice is 'enhanced.' Also, if the microphone is linked to the 'production board' the producer adds 'fillers' to make the voice sound full and rich.
I love your comments! They would benefit others for sure. I can tell you read every word of my hub and thank you for doing so. Usually if one has a good speaking voice the singing voice is pretty darn good since singing is an extension of speaking. Technical factors enter into this though. Proper breath support, vocal placement and a good ear must also be studied and applied to singing.
And how right you are about a judge, parent, teacher or even a friend judging the voice completely wrong! As you mentioned, this does the most damage of all and lasts a life-time. Shame on these people!
You are a gem - if I ever take a trip to Texas or if you visit Nashville - how great it would be to get together!
Sing with joy,
C E Clark from North Texas on April 19, 2016:
Seems to me a microphone often changes a person's voice and usually for the better. Is that my imagination or for real? Speaking in front of large audiences doesn't bother me at all, but singing? I'm not so sure about that. I've competed in singing contests years ago and got a second place once -- mainly because it was a duet and my usual partner wasn't there. They marked us down for that. :(
Have heard if one has a good speaking voice they should also have a good singing voice, but again, I'm not so sure about that. But I do think it's better to perform a song in one's own style and voice than try to replicate someone else. If everyone sounded the same no one would stand out. So I think everyone should do their own interpretation of a song for unique and best results.
Great advice here Audrey. Hope everyone reads this and improves their attitude about themselves. No telling if someone is hiding a fantastic voice just because someone who wasn't necessarily the best judge made them feel inferior many years ago.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on April 18, 2016:
I'm glad your son (very wise) encouraged you to sing. I'm also happy you listened to him. The wonderful quality about musicians (your son) is - they encourage others to seek their passion for music using their musical instrument - in this case - the voice.
Hurray for you both!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 08, 2016:
Well let me "gift you" some complimentary vocal lessons. Contact me and soon.:). You give so much to your own students and are so caring. Please allow me to do the same. Thanks my friend.
Hahaha...you naughty girl...making fun of your singing! I should give you 20 lashes with a wet noodle. :). And I would...accept this is the funniest comment ever.
Do you appreciate your talent? Comedy is considered the most difficult of all talents...you are a natural! Well, Paula, if I don,t get to you in this life...ill get you in the next. I do not give up. You will sing. Just a friendly warning.
Now what do you think about that?
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 08, 2016:
Your positive attitude about singing is so refreshing. How I wish more folks felt the same way. Thank you kindly for reading my hub and for sharing on Hp.
I would love to see the video of your grandson singing. Please send me a link. Children are influenced more than we know when we sing to them. In fact this is one of the most powerful influences for singing later on as the mature and grow.
Good for you to contact j. Lopez...even if she didn't respond. Can't wait to hear this young man sing.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 02, 2016:
Dear Georgia -
I love hearing you tell me you are trying my tips for singing. It's especially rewarding to me to know that your confidence is growing. Remember I am here to help. Sing with joy!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on February 01, 2016:
annart - Love your opening line! We could all sing without concern by following your example. Thanks Ann for chiming in.
tillsontitan - Dear Mary. I hope by now you are healing up and the surgery was a success. Pretty scary thing. Take it very slow with your singing. Begin with humming only, followed by small interval work. Do not over-use your speaking voice. I'm sure you've had therapy and know what to do. Sometimes the singing voice is not addressed.
My thoughts are with you dear friend.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 31, 2016:
FlourishAnyway - I sure love the way you think. Great advice and I hope others read your comment and follow this. Thanks.
Dear Miss Lizzy - You are certainly convincd that you can't sing. But I am here to tell you, you can! Six weeks...that's what I'd need to change your mind. A qualified ear=training instructor knows how to direct your ear to hearing correct pitch and then producing what you hear. You can sing! Thanks Liz.
When you sang, the sounds you heard were not barking dogs but the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. The police were only trying to save you from the many fans clamouring to hear more singing. Surely you know this, Mike.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 28, 2016:
always exploring -
I'm very happy to know that you sing in a choir. This is so neat. And finding the songbook...a message to you for sure. Keep on singing Ruby!
You'll progress and slowly see that your voice is growing. Thanks my friend.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 28, 2016:
I feel a lecture coming on:) Singing is a gift to you from yourself. Relish the sound you make - the music longing to break free. Your voice is a means of communication. Your voice releases pent up emotions. Who cares if your singing doesn't measure up to another persons standards? What do they know?
I could continue endlessley trying to convince you to sing for yourself without judgement. YOU must make the decision to enjoy your gift regardless of what anyone tells you. Don't allow anyone to rob you of the joy of singing and expressing yourself.
Thanks for your comments.
Catherine Giordano from Orlando Florida on January 07, 2016:
I've always loved singing from the youngest age I can remember. I fall into your first category--I was told by everyone that I can't carry a tune. So whenever there was group singing I'd just mouth the words. One day, my son who is a musician (go figure) said I could too sing. So now I sing. I enjoyed your hub for encouraging people to sing. Singing is a joy that should be enjoyed by all.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on January 04, 2016:
MarleneB - I'm so glad you've shared your story. You are 100% right when you say that most people just need to believe in themselves. All singers make a mistake now and then and that goes for recording stars as well. You'd be surprised if you knew all the 'patching work' that goes into a recording.
Thanks so much for being here and for your comments. Best to you Marlene.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on December 28, 2015:
Thank you so much for your wonderful, up-lifting comments! I hope my readers look at what you've written. So glad to have found you here on Hub Pages. I'll be visiting you soon. Appreciate your taking time out to read my article.
Thank you my friend for being here. Your comments are a song to my heart. Appreciate the share.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on December 28, 2015:
Love your attitude about singing! Thanks for taking time to read my hub as well as your great comments.
So how's the singing going? Love hearing that you're going to up your game and sing more often.
The reason singer's use "mi" instead of "doe" is because of resonance. The sound of 'ee' positions the jaw and tongue closer to the hard palate which produces an easier resonating sound. When shaping the 'oh' sound, notice how the jaw and tongue drop downward from the hard palate which lessens the vibrations needed for a resonant sound.
Oh - the science of singing! I love it! So happy you asked this question so I can show off a bit. :)
Al Wordlaw from Chicago on December 27, 2015:
Thank you Audrey, I agree with you 100% and another thing, just because a person doesn't get parents or other family support doesn't mean not to pursue a singing career. Singing is a great exercise for the voice. Like even in sports, coaching can turn out good singing in a person that needs to learn the fundamentals of singing. If one really wants to do it then just try hard at it. There's nothing to it.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on December 27, 2015:
The Dirt Farmer -
Singing in a choir or other forms of group singing is both fulfilling and fun.
Whether singing in harmony or a capella the ability to express oneself through singing is marvelous therapy. Thank you for your valuable comments.
Faith Reaper -
The memories of grandma singing to her grandchildren are precious and last a life-time. A beautiful gift indeed. I'm thrilled to hear that you love to sing and that you sing each day. Wonderful! The love of singing itself increases the beauty of the tone.
Sing with joy and thank you dear friend.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on December 27, 2015:
Hi Will - How nice! Just send me an email and I'll give you the information. Thanks a heap!
Genna - Our vocal instrument is meant to be used and the more we sing the better we will get. Using the proper tecnics such as breathing by using the diaphragmatic area, knowing when to take a breath and how much helps our voice to sound it's best.
Regardless of how our singing sounds, like you say, it's a healthy thing to do, both mentally and physically.
Thanks my friend.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on December 27, 2015:
bravewarrior - Hi Sha. Correcting pitch (singing-off key) can absolutely be attained. It is a learned skill. I have trained thousands of folks to acquire the ability to go from a voice that sings off-key to a voice that sings right on key consistently.
As a college music teacher back in the 80's I offered a class in "ear training." The class was available to both singers who had trouble staying on pitch and to singers who sang on-key but wanted to advance in sight-reading music.
The class was a successful one and I offered it for six years. Most professional vocalists work regularly at ear-training as it entails a variety of interval training along with major, minor, dimisnhed scales and modes.
There are many ear-training programs available (including mine) which are offered to the public. Like most programs, we just need to be sure we purchase the right one. If we get the wrong one, we can end up being even more discouraged than ever. Just poor teaching.
Thanks my friend.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on December 27, 2015:
Dear Jodah - Your experience, as a child, is exactly why I tell my teachers never to do such a thing. Young minds and beliefs are shaped forever by what they are told by teachers. This person has no business in musical theatre working with kids. Shame!
You are left to play this tape again and again and it is false! How do you erase it? By re-taping the truth. You were born to sing. You have a perfect vocal instrument consisting of vocal bands to vibrate sound, resonating properties (the head, mouth, nose and sinus areas along with the chest. You have a mouth opening for releasing sound and lips and tongue for forming words. And you have a pair of lungs and the diaphragmatic muscle to breathe in air and expell it for holding the tone.
So your now ready to accept your beautiful singing voice...enjoy it and share your songs with others. This is how you thank your maker for providing you with a perfect vocal instrument.
Rochelle Ann De Zoysa from Moratuwa, Sri Lanka on November 11, 2015:
Thanks for this encouraging article and I'm sharing this :) I love to sing :)
Peg Cole from Northeast of Dallas, Texas on October 12, 2015:
Thanks for this great article, Audrey. I'm sharing it for the benefit of some of my relatives who have always contended that they can't sing.
Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2015:
Brilliantly put together and so true about singing. You have an open mind about this topic and I do agree.
Audrey Howitt from California on September 24, 2015:
Amen and Amen! Sending this around!
Adrienne Farricelli on September 19, 2015:
Great article on reasons why you think you can't sing. As a child, I once sang a song whispering it into my friend's ear. My friend was impressed by my singing skills, so she told our music teacher. Next class, the music teacher called me and told me"I was told you have an amazing voice, let us hear it." I was terribly shy and my voice was horrible that day and I also made my friend look bad 'cause she was raving about it. So definitively I fall in the "you feel embarrassed and better sing in the shower" category. I think I can sing decently well, but let me do it by myself when nobody is around.. not even my dogs. The best I can do it record it and let others hear.
Suzie from Carson City on September 03, 2015:
Oh Audrey, you wonderful woman. Please just trust me. I c a n n o t sing.
OK, if you prefer, I can sing, but I should not, dare not, better not. I will send you references to gladly back this up. Those would be the people who have had the unfortunate experience of hearing me sing. Mostly my sons. All 4 owned a pair of ear plugs. Silly me, I thought they were for swimming.
My poor Dad, the musician....have you ever seen a grown man cry? Well, I sure have.
When I'm at a Birthday Party & it's time to sing, someone always asks me to go get the ice cream...
Maybe in my next life.....I'll return as Adelle or Mariah Carey or Celine Dion. In this life, I'm afraid it's Olive Oyl. Paula ~~~~ STOP laughing!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on September 03, 2015:
breakfastpop - Sing on my friend! Thanks for being here.
This kind of thing coming from a teacher just breaks my heart. It should never ever happen because it follows us through our entire life. Shame on this person!
I'm glad your husband is singing in spite of his experience as a young person. Continue to encourage him and God Bless you!
Dianna Mendez on September 01, 2015:
I do love to sing. I only wish I could take lessons. Your words are encouraging and will help someone out there to begin singing with renewed spirit. Blessings!
Shyron E Shenko from Texas on August 30, 2015:
Audrey, I use to sing all the time every day. I remember watching as my four year old grandson was watching me with amazement as I sang. He sings and I wrote his story of singing, and I sent it to Jennifer Lopez. And hoped that she would choose him to sing on American Idol, but I don’t know if she even listened to it, but that was when she invited people to send in videos. I sent her the link to my hub, American Idol – I have the courage to try. The Youtube video’s are my grandson singing.
Blessings and Hugs my friend
Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on August 28, 2015:
Excellent hub and I enjoyed going through!
I agree with your six reasons why a person may not want to sing. I believe any one can sing and should sing for the pleasure it gives to the soul. I have always loved singing and I do sing not only on stage but also when I am alone to please my own self and feel happy to do so.
Thanks for sharing this wonderful hub! Sharing on HP!
Mrs Frugal from United States on August 25, 2015:
I love these tips and I've already tried some of them out! I am not the best singer but your tips have made me more confident when I do sing. Thank you! Hope you have a great day~ :)
Mary Craig from New York on August 25, 2015:
Right now my singing voice is a little wobbly...well my whole voice is. I guess once I heal completely from the thyroidectomy things will get back to normal.
As always your advice is supportive and educational.
When my kids were little we always sang "Sing a Song", it was one of their favorites and I believe one that tells it all...."sing out loud, sing out strong...sing of happy not sad." Every word in that song is encouraging, just like you!
Blessings my friend.
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on August 25, 2015:
I'm quite sure that growing up in a family of singers had a strong impact on you and therefore your voice. When a person loves to sing, like you do, combined with the influence of singing during childhood, they usually have a darned good voice. Just say'in.
Thanks my friend and all good things to you.
Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on August 24, 2015:
Thank you Will. I knew it was old, the pages have turned yellow from age. It has all the good old songs my grandmother used to sing.
Ann Carr from SW England on August 24, 2015:
I like to sing and don't really care if someone thinks I can or not.
I was very interested in your statement that we 'don't hear the highest elements of our own voices'. I didn't know that. I must admit that when I hear my recorded voice I think, 'Do I really sound like that?!' Now I know why so that makes me feel better about it, thank you!
Wonderful, encouraging hub.
mckbirdbks from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas on August 20, 2015:
OK, OK Audrey I sang. Can you hear the neighbors dogs who have joined in the chorus. The cops will be here in a few minutes, having warned me about this. You are always so enthusiastic.
Liz Elias from Oakley, CA on August 20, 2015:
I don't even sing in the shower; I only sing if I think no one is near enough to hear, such as alone in the car. :(
I did have some negative feedback, years ago, from my very musically-talented and good-ear ex-husband...he said I sang flat off-key. My younger daughter, who inherited his talents, and sang in the SF Girls' Chorus (and has perfect pitch), once told me, "keep your day job." I'm a very sensitive soul, so I take such comments to heart, especially when they come from people who do have such talents...and when they are family, who supposedly will tell you truths no one else will..
I did take some lessons for a short time, but sadly, that instructor passed away. I also took a college voice class for 2 semesters, and that instructor was very nice. But I was always missing notes.
My main problem is my (lack of) musical ear; I cannot perceive and reproduce subtle differences in sounds. I would be a half-step off, and could not 'hear' the difference inside my own head, and what was coming out of my mouth, even though I could clearly discern it coming from the piano.
Further complicating the issue is, I cannot separate out the melody from the accompaniment. My ear needs to have the melody piped straight in, or my singing veers off to any of the other notes that might sound more dominant, i.e. louder, than the main melody.
Therefore, I cannot sing a harmony part--my ears get drawn to and hear only the soprano part (and they usually get to have the main melody!), and I am no soprano, so I'm instantly in trouble.
So, no--I sing only for my own amusement, and only when I'm alone, which is damned seldom these days.
And they've taken away our ability to vote, or I would have voted this up, useful and interesting.
FlourishAnyway from USA on August 20, 2015:
Good advice here Audrey! I love to sing and don't care who hears. We should all worry a little less about what others think and just enjoy ourselves.
WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on August 20, 2015:
1937, if my Roman numeral reading is correct.
Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on August 20, 2015:
I went to a yard sale this week and found an old song book, ( Great songs of the church ) and I bought it for one purpose only, to practice singing. I heard my voice Sunday morning at church and it was either higher or lower than the others. So that's what I'm doing, singing, hoping to improve. Your articles are always very helpful. Thank you so much.
PS The book was dated mcmxxxvll, so m is a thousand c is 100 the three x is 30 vll is 7, so what year was it printed? lol..I am confused!
Rose Clearfield from Milwaukee, Wisconsin on August 19, 2015:
Fantastic job as always! Nothing makes me sadder than hearing someone say that he thinks that he doesn't sing well. I truly believe that it's a skill that anyone can (and should) learn.
WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on August 19, 2015:
I found "Anyone Can Sing" by Audrey Hunt! I think I'll get the CD instead of downloading.
North Wind from The World (for now) on August 19, 2015:
Such an interesting hub! I used to sing all the time and then I heard my own voice and everything changed. I hated the sound of it and could not get over it. I began to believe that everyone who told me I could sing was lying. Now I barely sing and if I do I do it when I am alone. If someone asks me to sing a song so that they can recognize it, I usually do it in a silly way so that they can not decide whether I can sing or not. It is weird, I know but you are right I should get over it. I used to love singing. Not in front of people that much but just with myself.
William F Torpey from South Valley Stream, N.Y. on August 19, 2015:
Good advice. Excellent Hub. I sing virtually every day -- always have. As you can tell by my avatar Bing Crosby is/was my ideal. I often sang "White Christmas" at friends' parties and sang two or three times at karaoke. Singing certainly does lift ones spirits.
Marlene Bertrand from USA on August 18, 2015:
When I was a band leader for a local church it was hard to recruit people to join the band. I would tell people, "If you can talk you can sing." I think people just need to believe in themselves and just sing. It took a while but I finally built the band to 15 people who listened and sang like beautiful birds.
Faith Reaper from southern USA on August 18, 2015:
You inspire and encourage ...I sing everyday and can't imagine not singing even though I may be off key, I still love it as it makes me happy. I especially love singing to my precious grandchildren and singing songs with them too. It brings a lot of joy in this life.
I believe I told once before about the time I heard my voice on the answering machine ...yikes! LOL It was like torture and I felt bad for all ...
Up ++++ and sharing everywhere
Blessings and hugs always
Genna East from Massachusetts, USA on August 18, 2015:
I always enjoy your hubs, Audrey, and learn so much from them. I hum and sing a little -- almost every day. It lifts my spirits when they need lifting, and I find that it lightens the load, so to speak. It's amazing what music from within can achieve. :-) Voted up and shared.
WillStarr from Phoenix, Arizona on August 18, 2015:
"While living in Hawaii I was inspired to record what became the #1 singing instruction program, Anyone Can Sing."
Did I miss that? Where can we get it?
Great Hub, Audrey! Voted up!
Audrey Hunt (author) from Idyllwild Ca. on August 18, 2015:
Vellur - I so appreciate what you've written here. It's nice to receive a confirmation that in time we do get used to our singing sound. Thanks a lot!
Glenn Stok - It's great to hear that you haven't had any bad feedback when you sing. This is so important when it comes to singing with confidence. I love that you're engaging in Karaoke. I'll bet your fans look forward to the nights you perform.
Recording your singing is so important for constant vocal development - glad you do this Glenn. Keep up the great work. Thank you for your kind comments.
mary615 - I'm very happy to hear that my hub has inspired you to get back to singing. Hooray! Your sweet doggie will love to hear you sing. I sing to mine all the time.
Thank you for your kind vote up,across and for sharing.
drbj and sherry from south Florida on August 18, 2015:
This is so inspiring, Audrey, I vow to sing more often - even if it is only to myself. Mi, mi, mi, mi.
BTW, why do singers often use that syllable when warming up their voices? If they are professionals, why not dough, dough, dough? Just wonderin'.
Certified Noob on August 18, 2015:
Excellent hub . I sing because I like to sing. It does not really matter what other people think about my singing abilities. Fortunately most of them seem ok with it. Nobody asks me to shut up which I won't even if they ask me to :).
Up voted and polled .
Jill Spencer from United States on August 18, 2015:
Reading your hub makes me realize how much I miss singing in a choir. Singing in the car and around the house just isn't the same as singing with others. I do miss it.
Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on August 18, 2015:
I sing all the time, whether it's to the radio or a Capella. My mom and I can both carry a tune, however my dad and sister sing flat and off-key. Yes, they have the physical capabilities to sing, but not the pitch. Wouldn't that fall under one of the reasons why a person can't sing? Can it be corrected?
John Hansen from Queensland Australia on August 18, 2015:
Hi Audrey, I always loved to sing as a kid, but once for a school production of "Oliver" we had to practice the songs and the music teacher walked up behind and listened to each person ...out of about 20 children she told myself and four others that we had to mime the songs on stage because we couldn't hold a tune well enough. That has stayed with me and I will very rarely attempt to sing in public. I did so at my son's wedding reception when they had a karaoke...but that's it. Good helpful and encouraging hub.
Susan Deppner from Arkansas USA on August 18, 2015:
In grade school, my husband was told to just mouth the words of the song, so he's thought for all his life that he can't sing. That story made me very sad for him when I first heard it. The good news is that he sings more and more with each passing year and I love hearing his voice! Neither of us will ever be a star, except to each other and that's what matters. Thanks for the encouragement!
breakfastpop on August 18, 2015:
I'm singing right now thanks to your encouragement!
Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on August 18, 2015:
When you want to learn something, learn from a pro. That's what I do when I read one of your articles. I know I can sing....not as powerfully as I once did, but I can sing. Natural? or Environment? I grew up in a family of singers....but I really don't know the answer to that question. I just know I love singing.
blessings and hugs
Mary Hyatt from Florida on August 18, 2015:
I sang when I was younger: choir, glee clubs, even solos at friend's weddings, etc., but over the years I have just stopped singing!
Your Hub has inspired me to start singing again; thanks.
Voted UP, etc. and shared.
Glenn Stok from Long Island, NY on August 18, 2015:
I guess I'm glad that I never got negative feedback from friends. I know I'm no professional, but people tell me I can keep a tune. That's really all it takes. I have recorded myself and I think that listening to oneself is a good way to improve. I sing Karaoke and many times I sing at home just to feel good. You hub is an inspiration to keep singing.
Nithya Venkat from Dubai on August 18, 2015:
I sing along when I hear my favorite song. As you say if we keep singing we will get used to listening to our singing voices. When I record and listen to my voice it does sound different! Your hub inspires me to keep singing, thank you for sharing this.