Think You Can't Sing? You Were Born to Sing
Do You Think You Can't Sing?
So you think you can't sing. You can't carry a tune in a bucket. Well, you're not alone. You've joined the masses that have convinced themselves they cannot sing. In fact the number one fear among people is the fear of public speaking and singing. Even before death we fear singing and speaking in public.
I'm glad you're here. You've come to the right place. As a vocal teacher for over 35 years I've proven time after time that if you can speak - you can sing. While living in Hawaii I was inspired to record what became the #1 singing instruction program, Anyone Can Sing. Why was this instruction program so popular? I believe it's because the title confirms that you, your aunt Rosie and the entire neighborhood can in fact sing.
The big reason you think you can't sing has to do with perception. If you're told you have a terrible voice or fail an audition for the school choir you perceive such experiences to be true. Then you clam up and swear you'll never sing again.
You're giving away your power and your right to sing. No one has the right to rob you of this natural ability. No one!
Why You Think You Can't Sing
Singing makes a person happy. It's as simple as that. It's also a great way to express yourself. Singing is your birthright. You are born to sing. If you identify with any part of the list given below, it's time to erase that old negative dialogue.
You were told you can't sing. Whether this statement came from a parent, teacher, friend or otherwise, it's completely rediculous and untrue. Still, you buy into this false belief. You are robbed of a lifetime of the joy of singing.
At one time or another you witness others laughing at a person singing. You are embarrassed and vow to never let this happen to you.
Thinking that your voice should sound like your favorite singer, you are unable to duplicate the same sound which leads you to believe you can't sing. Big mistake!
The fear of being judged negatively or laughed at imprisons your voice so you save your singing for the shower.
You've recorded your voice and hate the way it sounds.
You compare your voice to others. You think you'll never sing that well.
You Can Sing: Fact or Fiction?
Each of the above reasons for thinking that you can't sing can be changed to knowing you can sing. This is the first step. You deserve a decent singing voice. Believe in yourself.
Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. So what are you feeding it? Are you allowing your mind to swallow fact or fiction? Well here's a thought:
Fiction - Singing is a gift given to a selected few. You either sing with a beautiful voice or you sound terrible.
Fact - We are born with all the tools needed in order to sing. We all have vocal chords, a breathing system, and resonation chambers which produce sound. Singing requires all three.
Take a minute to examine whether your present thinking about your singing is true or false.
Open and closed vocal folds
Vocal Lessons Help Reduce the Fear of Singing
Solutions For Thinking You Can't Sing
Starting with the first reason you doubt your ability to sing, a solution will be given. Read each one carefully and remain open to the possibilities. Your reaction may be, "this is stupid and doesn't apply to me," or "this makes perfect sense - hooray!"
You were told you can't sing. This is completely rediculous and untrue. Still, you buy into this false belief. You are robbed of a lifetime of the joy of singing.
Who told you that you can't sing? A parent, sibling, friend, teacher or another singer? Why are they judging your voice in the first place. Is this person an expert on singing? What is this person's agenda? A person may not like your voice for a hundred different reasons (most of which is there own stuff,) but it doesn't mean you can't sing.
Find a private place and begin making musical sounds. Accept whatever you hear without judging or being critical. Feel the energy of the sound coursing through your body. Repeat these sounds again and again. Experiment with different emotions: happy, sad, excited, anger, passionate.
- You witness others laughing at someone singing. You are embarrassed and vow to never let this happen to you.
This is your low level of self-esteem directing your thinking. It hasn't happened and probably never will. Dismiss this type of self-sabotage now.
Picture yourself on stage singing to a large audience. You are filled with confidence and full of excitement. Everyone loves your voice and the message you deliver through the lyrics of the songs you sing. They can't get enough of your showmanship and vocals.
- Thinking that your voice should sound like your favorite singer, you are unable to duplicate the same sound which leads you to believe you can't sing. Big mistake!
Most of us learn a new song by duplicating the recorded singing voice. While this is fine in one respect, it's not so good in another. As we sing along to the lyrics we are imitating the original singer instead of singing with our own natural style and voice. To make things worse, people not knowing any better, tend to judge a person's singing ability by how well they can duplicate the original artist. I insist that my vocal students find and use their own original, unique sound.
Discover your own unique and special voice. Start by singing an easy song that you really like. It can be a hymn, Christmas carol, folk song or even Happy Birthday to You. Try singing different ways allowing your voice to take liberties and soar.
- The fear of being judged negatively or laughed at imprisons your voice so you save your singing for the shower.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "The antidote to fear is knowledge." To eradicate your own fear you must face it - again and again. I grew up singing publicly most of my younger years. This was great preparation for my professional career as a singing entertainer. I faced my fears repeatedly until singing in front of others became a natural, exciting experience.
Learning all you can about the human voice places you in a more comfortable, confident position. When you know you're singing correctly, fear diminishes and you actually sound better. Take some lessons. Start singing for others: elderly, sick people, babies, etc. Join a community or church group or choir. There is safety in numbers.
- You've recorded your voice and hate the way it sounds.
Unfortunately we grow up hearing everything but the sound of our own voice. When we finally hear it for the first time, we are in shock and probably denial. This is true for both the singing and speaking voice. It took me some time before I accepted my speaking voice. It took me even long to accept my singing voice.
One reason for hating the sound of our voice has to do with the way we hear. When people hear themselves on a recording, they tend to think they sound 'nasal', 'shrill', etc... The fact is, we simply don't hear the highest elements of our own voices- the shape of the skull and placement of the ears guarantee this. (www.quora.com)
The more we work with the sound of our voice, the more we will accept it.
- Comparing your voice to others
Most of us compare our voices to other singers at one time or the other. When we do this, we are judging ourselves. There's no one worse to judge. And we aren't capable of judging our own singing anyhow which is why we depend on a vocal teacher. Comparing our own singing to someone else's voice is the #1 reason we dislike our singing.
Instead of comparing yourself and your singing to others, which is irrelevant and inaccurate, continue to improve on becoming a new and improved version of yourself. No one in this world can do a better job of singing your own unique sound than you. I love this quote, " Michelangelo said, “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”
Summing it all up
Singing is an expression of self love. You were born to sing whether you know it or not. You may not like your voice regardless of what you've read here. But you do have all the tools you need to sing. So sing. You simply have to use these tools and give yourself a chance to accept your singing sound. Whether "Happy Birthday" is your choice of song or an aria from Verdi's
"La Traviata," it's all singing.
We are all unique in personality and looks. Each of us is different. This difference makes it possible to recognize each other. Our singing should be unique as well and not a copy of someone else.
Discover your own voice. Listen to the sound without judgment. The more you hear your singing voice the sooner you will become use to it and accept the sound. Working with a vocal coach will help you sound your best. The better your vocal technique - the better your singing will be.
Let go of any and all negative thoughts about your singing. Refuse to give your vocal power to someone else. You, and only you, are instilled with this power.
Sing, little bird, sing.