Why You Think You Can't Sing
American Idol Contestant Proves She Can Sing
Do You Believe You Can't Sing?
I'm glad you're here and you've come to the right place if you think you can't sing. As a vocal teacher for over 35 years, I've proven time after time that if you can speak you can sing. When Kristen signed up with me for vocal lessons she had no idea that she would one day become a contestant on the television show "American Idol." I knew she had something special the instant I heard her sing. So, I took her under my wing and created a vocal study program designed for her needs. She worked hard, week after week, month after month and soon her voice escalated to new heights. She performed on television and a slew of other venues trying out her new vocal style. She did well on the national TV show "Nashville Star" and from there auditioned for "American Idol" where she placed in the top finals.
So, maybe you think you can't sing because you've been told you can't carry a tune in a bucket or maybe someone made some negative comment about your voice. Well, you're not alone. You've joined the masses that have convinced themselves they cannot sing. In fact, the number one fear among people isn't death, its the fear of public speaking and singing.
There are legitimate reasons why we're afraid to expose ourselves by singing in front of others. For one thing, we all have some degree of fear when it comes to being evaluated or judged. When we direct our concentration on how we come across to others, we avoid concentrating on the business at hand and this is when we mess up. The mind can only focus on one thing at a time so when we choose fear over performance skills, this opens us up to forgetting lyrics, when to take a breath, and most important of all, interpretation. We lose control over the entire song.
Maybe you'd simply be satisfied just to sing better than you presently do. Perfect! This is doable. Even if you're convinced that you can't sing a note, I'm going to convince you otherwise. While living in Hawaii I was inspired to record what became the #1 singing instruction program, "Anyone Can Sing." and I'm convinced that the reason it was popular was because the title confirmed that we can all sng
The big reason we think we can't sing has to do with perception. If you're told you have a terrible voice or fail an audition for the school choir, you perceive such experiences to be true. Then you clam up and swear you'll never sing again. You're giving away your power and your right to sing when all along, you were born to sing. Every tool involved in singing you already have and it's right inside of you. You were born to use these tools and no one has the right to rob you of this natural ability. No one!
6 Reasons That Lead You To Believe You Can't Sing Well
Singing makes us happy. It's as simple as that. When we sing, feel-good endorphins are released into the brain. Singing is also a great way to express yourself. If singing is your birthright then why do you doubt your own vocal abilities? What are you afraid of? What happened to make you think you can't sing? What is robbing you of this pleasure?
If you identify with any part of the list given below, it's time to erase the old negative dialogue that consumes your mind:
You were told you can't sing. Whether this statement came from a parent, teacher, friend or otherwise, it's completely ridiculous and untrue. Still, you buy into this false belief which can rob you of a lifetime of joy.
At one time or another you witness others laughing at someone's singing You are embarrassed for them and vow to never let this happen to you.
Comparing your voice to others, you think your voice should sound like your favorite singer, and because you're unable to duplicate the same sound, you believe you can't sing. Big mistake!
The fear of being judged negatively or laughed at imprisons your desire to be heard so you save your singing for the shower.
You've recorded your voice and hate the way it sounds.
You compare your voice to others. You think you'll never sing that well.
It's time to erase each of these reasons, find solutions, and release your true voice with freedom and joy.
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Solutions For Thinking You Can't Sing
Starting with the first reason you doubt your ability to sing, a solution will be given. Read each one carefully and remain open to the possibilities. Your reaction may be, "this is stupid and doesn't apply to me," or "this makes perfect sense - hooray!" Try these solutions anyhow. You just may find that they work.
You were told you can't sing. This is completely ridiculous and untrue. Still, you buy into this false belief. You are robbed of a lifetime of the joy of singing.
Who told you that you can't sing? A parent, sibling, friend, teacher or another singer? Why are they judging your voice in the first place? Is this person an expert on singing? What is this person's agenda? Others may not like your voice for a hundred different reasons (most of which is their own stuff,) but it doesn't mean you can't sing.
Find a private place and begin making musical sounds. Accept whatever you hear without judging or being critical. Feel the energy of the sound coursing through your body. Repeat these sounds again and again. Experiment with different emotions: happy, sad, excited, angry, passionate.
- You witness others laughing at someone singing. You are embarrassed and vow to never let this happen to you.
This is your low level of self-esteem directing your thinking. It hasn't happened and probably never will so dismiss this type of self-sabotage now. Picture yourself on stage singing to a large audience. You are filled with confidence and full of excitement and everyone loves your voice and the message you deliver through the lyrics of the song. They can't get enough of your showmanship and vocals.
- Thinking that your voice should sound like your favorite singer, you are unable to duplicate the same sound which leads you to believe you can't sing. Big mistake!
Most of us learn a new song by duplicating a recorded singer. While this is fine in one respect, it's not so good in another. As we sing along to the lyrics we are imitating the original singer instead of singing with our own natural style and voice. To make things worse, people not knowing any better, tend to judge a person's singing ability by how well they can duplicate the original artist. I insist that my vocal students find and use their own original, unique sound.
Discover your own unique and special voice. Start by singing an easy song that you really like. It can be a hymn, Christmas carol, folk song or even Happy Birthday to You. Try singing different ways allowing your voice to take liberties and soar.
- The fear of being judged negatively or laughed at imprisons your voice so you save your singing for the shower.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "The antidote to fear is knowledge." To eradicate your own fear you must face it - again and again. I grew up singing publicly during most of my younger years. This was great preparation for my professional career as a singing entertainer. I faced my fears repeatedly until singing in front of others became a natural, exciting experience.
Learning all you can about the human voice places you in a more comfortable, confident position. When you know you're singing correctly, fear diminishes and you actually sound better. Take some lessons. Start singing for others: the elderly, sick people, babies, or join a community or church group or choir. There is safety in numbers.
- You've recorded your voice and hate the way it sounds.
Unfortunately, we grow up hearing everything but the sound of our own voice. When we finally hear it for the first time, we are in shock and probably denial. This is true for both the singing and speaking voice. It took me some time before I accepted the sound of my own voice.
One reason for hating the sound of our voice has to do with the way we hear. When people hear themselves on a recording, they tend to think they sound 'nasal', 'shrill', or off-key The fact is, we simply don't hear the highest elements of our own voice. Our sound is confined to the area between our ears and not the projected sound that others hear. The good news is, the more we work with the sound of our voice, the more we/ll come to accept it.
- Comparing your voice to others
Most of us compare our voices to other singers at one time or the other. When we do this, we are judging ourselves and we aren't capable of judging our own singing anyhow which is why we depend on a vocal teacher. Comparing our own singing to someone else's voice is the #1 reason we dislike our singing. Instead of comparing your voice to others, which is irrelevant and inaccurate, continue to improve on becoming a new and improved version of yourself. No one in this world can do a better job of singing your own unique sound than you. I love this quote, " Michelangelo said, “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.” So it is with your singing voice.
You Can Sing: Fact or Fiction?
Each of the above reasons for thinking that you can't sing can be changed to knowing you can sing. The first step is to realize that you were born with every tool needed to produce a beautiful singing voice. All you have to do is to learn how to use these tools. You deserve a decent singing voice.
Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. So what are you feeding it? Are you allowing your mind to swallow fact or fiction? Well here's a thought:
Fiction - Singing is a gift given to a selected few. You either sing with a beautiful voice or you sound terrible.
Fact - We are born with all the tools needed in order to sing. We all have vocal chords, a breathing system, and resonating chambers which produce sound. Singing requires all three.
Take a minute to examine whether your present thinking about your singing is true or false.
Benefits of Vocal Lessons
Singing is exciting and learning to sing well is of inestimable value. Vocal training establishes principles of efficient breathing, good posture, rich tonal quality, and effective communication.
Vocal lessons, with a good, professional teacher, can point out the strengths of the singer as well as the weaknesses. Through proper exercises and singing material, the voice can grow to a higher level.
Because we can't hear how we sound, we need feedback from a trained instructor. Our vocal technique is analyzed by the teacher, followed by a broad range of solutions to each vocal problem through exercises. Lessons are not limited to beginners and all levels of singing must be regularly monitored by an expert to keep the voice in top shape, including professionals.
Our human body is our instrument with which we can produce a beautiful, rich, range of endless variations in tone and expression. Vocal lessons with a qualified, sensitive and experienced teacher will bring out the best of you, through lessons and quality feedback.
Open and closed vocal folds
“The greatest respect an artist can pay to music is to give it life.” – Pablo Casals
Summing It All Up
Singing is an expression of self-love. You were born to sing whether you know it or not. You may not like your voice regardless of what you've read here. But you do have all the tools you need to sing. So sing. You simply have to use these tools and give yourself a chance to accept your singing sound. Whether "Happy Birthday" is your choice of song or an aria from Verdi's
"La Traviata," it's all singing.
We are all unique in personality and looks. Each of us is different. This difference makes it possible to recognize each other. Our singing should be unique as well and not a copy of someone else.
Discover your own voice. Listen to the sound without judgment. The more you hear your singing voice the sooner you will become used to it and accept the sound. Working with a vocal coach will help you sound your best. The better your vocal technique - the better your singing will be.
Let go of any and all negative thoughts about your singing. Refuse to give your vocal power to someone else. You and only you are instilled with this power.
All singing is powerful. It affects us deeply and reminds us of our connection to ourselves and the world. We are music.
Sing, little bird, sing.
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Questions & Answers
I love to sing and I sing every day but my friends say that I sing terrible, so I only sing at home. What should I do to improve my singing?
Keep on singing no matter what your friends say. I also recommend looking into a good vocal coach.Helpful 6
Can I send a video to you to judge if I'm good at singing?
Please contact me by email by going to my profile.Helpful 19
People say I sing amazingly, but I don’t think so. All I hear is bad singing. Why is that?
You may be comparing your voice to someone else. Learn to embrace your singing voice. It all starts with the mind. What precisely is it that you don't like about your singing?Helpful 19
I’m currently working with a vocal coach. The thing is, when I’m working with him on difficult songs, he tells me that I lose control of the intonation. How can I fix that?
Thanks for your question. To control the intonation problem, I suggest checking your breathing. Be sure you are taking in plenty of air from the belly and not inhaling from the chest. Tone is supported by air. It "rides" on air. If you're breathing for singing the same way you breathe for speaking, problems will occur with your singing voice. Click on this link to learn diaphragmatic breathing: https://hubpages.com/learning/TheMiracleofBreathin...
I also recommend studying with a good ear-training program.Helpful 3
My best friend says I can sing well but my other (sort of) friend says I really can't, who could be lying?
A good vocal teacher will tell you what your singing strengths or weaknesses are. Don't be influenced by what others say, because they are not experts in the field of singing. Only a professional has the ability to evaluate your voice. Meanwhile, keep singing and enjoy it. And you might want to seek more supportive friends.Helpful 1
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