Why You Hate Your Voice and How to Fix It

Updated on June 14, 2018
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Respected vocal coach and professional singer, Audrey Hunt lays it on the line when it comes to the responsibility of singing.

Do You Hate Your Voice? You're Not Alone!

If you're one of the majorities of people who feel this way, you've come to the right place because you're about to learn why you hate your voice and how to fix it.

As I was lurking around the "Question and Answer" forum on HubPages, I came across the topic, "I hate the sound of my voice" and decided to write a Hub about it. (Thank you Kallini for the post). This is not an uncommon topic, either -- in fact, I'd love to get a dollar for every person who's said to me, "I hate my voice." Nearly half of my students say the same thing when I asked them why they have come to see me.

Note: While hating your own voice can refer to both your speaking or singing voice, my comments are directed to the speaking voice for now.

For the next few minutes, make believe you are among the gazillions of people who, after hearing their own voice recorded, swear that they will never speak another word. In fact, only 10% of us recognize our own voice when hearing it for the first time. So, you're not alone, and vocal coach is here to help you. Here's what you can expect from this Hub:

  • Learn about why you can't hear your true voice
  • Why does your voice sound different to you vs. when recorded
  • The male vs. female voice
  • Common things people hate about their voice
  • How to correct your vocal problems in a few steps
  • You absolutely can change your vocal sound
  • Breath right to sing right.

So stay tuned to learn why you hate your voice.

Why You Can't Hear Your True Voice

How many of us, growing up, record our speaking voice every day? Ridiculous question, isn't it? And yet, that's exactly what is required for us to grow into adulthood and accept and like our speaking voice.

Why? Because we never hear our true voice when we talk. We go through life thinking that the sound we hear is the sound others hear. That actually isn't so.

Your voice sounds different to other people than it does to you because it's different. You're actually the only person who hears yourself the way you think everyone else does.

Let's examine why this is so.

Amazing View of Vocal Cords While Singing With Multiple Voices

Why Does My Voice Sound Different To Me vs. Recorded?

When you speak, the vocal folds in your throat vibrate, which causes your skin, skull, and oral cavities to also vibrate; we refer to this as sound. These vibrations mix with sound waves, which travel from your mouth to your eardrum. No one hears this sound but you. Your sound is confined within these resonators. Again, because it bears repeating: only you can hear this sound.

Your speaking and singing voice sound totally different to others. This is why it's a good idea to listen to your recorded voice as early in life as possible.

The first time you hear your voice recorded, you're likely shocked by what you hear. Your pitch is usually higher and your speech sounds slower. This is the moment of truth -- this is what your voice sounds like to everyone else.

Vocal Folds and Vibrations

  • The glottis. Your vocal folds (bands, chords, cords) are positioned at the base of the larynx and are the "vibrator" of sound. They are flat triangular bands. The space between the vocal cords is called the glottis.
  • Voice. Vibrations are caused when the vocal folds are set into motion because of air expelled from the lungs. This is called voice. Air is forced up the trachea from the lungs, at a certain pressure, forcing its way through the vocal cords and pushing them open.
  • The pliable vocal folds are set into quasi-synchronous vibration as the air passes between them.
  • The vibrations are amplified by resonators within areas of the body.
  • Male vs. female vocal folds. Male vocal folds are larger than the female vocal folds. The male vocal folds are approximately 0.75" to .75" in length, while the female's are approximately 0.5" to.75" in length. This is one of the reasons for the difference in vocal pitch between genders.

To Change the Sound of Your Voice, You Must First Hear it By Recording

Record your voice using your computer.  Make it a daily habit so that you'll get used to your sound.  Recording also helps to change the sound of your voice by identifying problems.
Record your voice using your computer. Make it a daily habit so that you'll get used to your sound. Recording also helps to change the sound of your voice by identifying problems. | Source

Correcting Your Vocal Problems in a Few Easy Steps

The good news is, you can change the sound of your voice. If you'd like a lower, richer sound you can have one. If you talk too fast you can learn how to slow your speech down and speak clearly. Regardless of how you sound now - you can learn how to sound better.

Changing your voice will take dedication and consistant practice. Without true commitment there is merely a repetition of something that needs to be redeemed rather than repeated.

Commitment, willingness, and agrrement can bring about real change.

The quality and sound of your voice is largely due to habit. And, luckily, bad habits can be broken and good ones learned. It just takes practice. If you are willing to put the time into learning correct vocal production, you can develop a speaking voice to be proud of.

Step 1: Listen to Your Recorded Sound

The first step to changing your speaking voice is to listen to your recorded sound. This can be done by using your computer. Locate the microphone and speaker and record a short sentence such as "Michael row the boat ashore," or "Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream." You can also record on your answering machine or cell phone.

After recording the sentence three times in a row, play it back and listen. This will be the hardest part of the exercise. Don't expect to like the sound of your voice. Grab a sheet of paper and as you listen to the recording the second time, list what you hate about your voice. Continue to do this several times. Take your time with this first step.

Remember, it's normal to dislike what you hear.

Look at the following list of things we hate about our voice. Are your thoughts on this list?

Common Things People Hate About Their Voice

Dry -- monotonous
Too expressive
Too many pauses
Off-key (out of tune or flat)

Step 2: Practice Simple But Effective Exercises

Now that you are over the initial shock of hearing your "real" voice and your list is complete, the next step will teach you how to make corrections.

Remember also that tension is the worst enemy for the speaker, singer, and actor. As you practice your daily vocal workout, be sure to release all neck, shoulder, knee, and hand tension.

Let's begin with one of the most important factors for improving your speaking: too much tension in the tongue. The tongue is the rudder for sound. When we try to hold back emotion, we tense up our tongues. We must release this tension if we are to sound better when speaking.

During this step, you will practice this simple but effective exercise:

  1. Start with the tongue lying flat in the bed of the mouth
  2. Bring the tongue forward (stretching it), slightly over the bottom lip and pant like a dog.
  3. Then, gently pull the tongue back to rest in the bed of the mouth and feel the relaxed position.
  4. Get in the habit of teaching your tongue to feel relaxed when speaking all vowels.
  5. Using the word 'hello,' very slowly speak the word, noticing the relaxed position of the tongue on the first part of the word, 'heh.'
  6. Speak just the 'heh' three times, while keeping a nice, relaxed feeling in the tongue.
  7. The tongue will draw up to touch the hard palate (roof of the mouth) to form the 'l' and then drop down to form the 'o.' Be sure the tongue is positioned correctly, attacking no further back then just at the forward part of the hard palate. If the tongue is drawn too far back on the 'l' with too much tension, the result will be a throaty sound.

Relaxing Vocal Tension and Lifting the Soft Palate by Yawning


Step 3: Stretch the Top Of Your Throat (to Fix the Nasal Sound)

A closed soft palate (located behind the hard palate or roof of the mouth) will cause you to sound nasal. When you yawn, the soft palate rises which opens the back of the throat.

Yawning is actually a stretching exercise for the soft palate, which is the top of your throat, including the little movable part in the back of your mouth where the uvula quite visibly hangs down. The soft palate is responsible for the overtone in the mask area around the nose and sinuses. It's a kind of buzzing sound and feeling that helps the voice to carry and sound clear.

This step will teach you to stretch the top of your throat. All you have to do is yawn. But make sure your jaw doesn't come forward. A good way to do this stretch is to:

  • Yawn as you regularly do.
  • Yawn with your mouth closed, as if you're trying to stifle a yawn.

You must exercise the tongue and the soft palate on a daily basis. Then, forget them and let them work on their own. Let them do their job.

Because a closed throat results in a nasal sound, this exercise will help reduce speaking through your nose. The back of the throat needs to be open as we speak.

  • Go into a yawn position
  • Using the word 'yeah,' repeat several times. The sound should not be whiney or nasal with the throat open. Learn to do this exercise using different consonants and vowels.
  • This requires daily exercising for several weeks before the nasal-ness is completely gone.

Step 4: Change Your Voice by Regulating Your Pitch

You can actually speak by generating sound from different places in the body called vocal registers. Each of these registers vibrate at different rates of speed to produce sound.

This step will teach you how to regulate your pitch (high, medium, or low). Let's say you don't like your voice because it's too high and you sound like a child. (Ladies, have you ever answered the phone and been asked if your mommy is home?)

Here's what you can try:

  • Speak from your chest register. To bring the pitch down, or speak with a more mature sound, you must speak from your chest register. To connect with your chest sound, speak the word 'whoa' in a very deep voice, as if you are riding a horse and want it to stop. Place your hand on the chest area and feel for the vibrations as you speak the sound of 'whoa.' Do this several times, recording the sound.
  • Get on all fours. To help you connect to the low chest register, while on the floor, position yourself on all fours while on your knees and hands. Make sure your head is positioned down like you're looking at the floor and say the word 'whoa' as low as you can without straining your voice. Really concentrate on the vibrations in your chest.
  • Practice. Practice mixing the chest sound with your regular sound to bring out a nice, rich speaking voice. Then, record words and finally sentences.
  • Mix it up. If your speech is too slow and boring, speed up your sentences and practice until it feels natural at your new pace. Accent certain syllables to add interest to your voice.
  • Speak clearly. Speaking clearly is one of the most important elements for all speakers. Articulate. Do not "drop" consonants at the ends of your words.
  • Breathe properly. Breathe correctly by using your abdominal wall (diaphragmatic breathing, sometimes called the belly breath). Don't know how? Here are complete instructions to teach you how.
  • Try jogging. Finally, your voice needs energy to sound its best. Try jogging in place while speaking a few sentences. If jogging is out for you, sit on an exercise ball and bounce up and down as you speak.

For Overcoming Sluggish Articulation

Step 5: Don't Forget About Tapping Into the Unused Portion of Your Vocal Tract

Choose the first line of any speech or paragraph in a book or newspaper.

  • Imagine that the sound you are about to make is coming directly from the belly.
  • Make a 'huh' sound.
  • Say the first word of your text, matching the pitch of the 'huh.' Remember, the sound is coming from your belly.
  • After the first word, allow your voice to go anywhere it needs to go to express the remainder of the line.
  • Repeat this procedure with each successive line of the speech, starting with 'huh' and then match the first word of the line.
  • Notice how starting each line with 'huh' puts your voice in a freer place.
  • Practice this exercise for twenty minutes each day for several weeks. If you have success, then only think the 'huh' sound and match the first word.
  • Continue to repeat and experiment with this exercise until it begins to feel comfortable and more natural.

For most people, the sound will start in the lower half of the voice. This is especially useful for women who tend to avoid the lower half of their voices.

The end result will be a richer, more confident, and pleasing sound.

The Breath Is The Life Force of The Voice

Breath is life. We come into this world on the breath and we go out of this world on the breath. It is how we breathe that benefits our physical and mental health This is also true for developing our voice for better speech and singing.

Until you learn how the diaphragmatic muscle works for functional breathing, it will be difficult to change the way you presently inhale and exhale. I encourage you to begin now to explore the difference between chest breathing and the belly breath.

Your singing tone "rides" on air (breath". Air acts as a cushion for the tone. The better you breathe, through diaphragmatic breathing, the better you will sound as a singer. You need breath pressure to stabilize and enrich your voice.

Every sound that comes out of your mouth must be supported by the breath.

To Completely Relax all Tension, The Rag Doll Position Works

Keep the neck completely relaxed while in the rag doll position.  Slightly bend the knees.
Keep the neck completely relaxed while in the rag doll position. Slightly bend the knees. | Source

Have You Been Told You Can't Sing?

It's hard to believe that Enrico Caruso, the greatest tenor in the world, was told by his teacher that he had no voice.

Equally surprising is the following: Elvis Presley gave one performance In 1954 at the Grand Ole Opry in Nashville, Tennessee. He was immediately fired by Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry. "You ain't goin' nowhere, son. You ought to go back to drivin' a truck".

The world would have been robbed of immense talent had these two vocalists listened to what others had to say about their voices.

Not everyone is going to approve of your singing. So what? Sing anyhow. Singing is all about you and how you choose to communicate a particular lyric. Stop giving your power away. You don't need anyone to tell you you're ok. You're already ok.

Life is a song that must be sung. It can only be sung by you.

Final Thoughts - Love Yourself to Love Your Voice

I hope you have learned something about why you hate your voice, and how to fix it.

It could be that you need to love yourself more and then you'll love your voice. There's no better way to feel love for yourself than by being of service to others. As you become a kind, patient, forgiving person, you are exhibiting love. And this love begins to fill your mind and spirit with love. This is the way to feel self-love. This is the quickest way to learn to love the sound of your unique, wonderful voice.

In the end, remember that you must really want to discover a better sounding voice and trust that you will. One of the biggest mistakes we make is comparing our voice to other singers. Stop doing this. Instead, find your own sound. Once you do this than develop and enhance the sound you hear as your own.

Your voice is an instrument and, like any other instrument, it must be taken care of. It is not enough to say, "When I get emotional, my throat tightens up and my voice gets squeaky."

Whatever happens to your voice when you get emotional is a habit. You must take responsibility for the condition of your instrument. Remember that most problems can be traced to tension in the neck, jaw, and tongue, along with restricted breathing.

I recommend recording your voice consistently as you practice to bring about change. You'll soon get used to your true vocal sound and accept it as part of the wonderful person you are.

Note: Please see your doctor whenever you experience throat pain. If any of the above exercises cause discomfort, stop immediately.

If you have heard your voice recorded...

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© 2012 Audrey Hunt


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      Audrey Hunt 6 days ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Go to my profile page and click on fan mail. You will be able to contact me through hub pages.

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      Nick 6 days ago

      I can't find you email address. How do I send the mp3 file?

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      Nick 6 days ago

      I struggle a bit to talk clearly, and I also get hated on for my voice. I'll send you a recording when I arrive home

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      Audrey Hunt 7 days ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Yes, I will. Are you having throat problems or discomfort?

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      Nick 7 days ago

      If I send a recording of my voice, can you tell me if I need to go to the doctor or if it sounds ok?

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      Audrey Hunt 8 days ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      You are so cute. Your voice is not horrible. Consider a small child banging on the piano. Get's on your nerves in no time. However, if you teach the child how to use the piano, the banging turns into a lovely melody.

      Wish you were in my area. I'd show you how to use your marvelous singing tools! Thank you.

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      Audrey Hunt 11 days ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Lady Penelope

      I appreciate your heart-warming comments so very much. You've seen right through me. I care how others feel about their singing voices. This matters to me. Thank you!

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      13 days ago

      how to send my voice recorder?

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      Eileen Kersey 2 weeks ago from Kingston-Upon-Hull

      Fascinating and so informative. I will have to drop back to read fully when I have more time. Yes I hate my voice but I will let you into a secret it is because it is horrible :)

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      Lady Penelope Piddleworthy 2 weeks ago from Piddleton Hall, Piddleshire, The Disunited Kingdom

      How positively informative. Thank you for such an interesting and somewhat, educational article.

      One can clearly see that you understand the sorrow felt by those who hate their own voices. Simply marvellous.

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      Audrey Hunt 2 weeks ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      I would need to hear your voice to advise you correctly. Please contact me for this. Meanwhile, mixing more of your chest voice into your"girl" sound may help. You may want to consider making the most of your natural voice and keeping your present sound. Many men would love to have a tenor voice.

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      Ali 2 weeks ago

      My voice like girl but I am a boy so what I do sir plz give me some suggestions?

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      Audrey Hunt 6 weeks ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Dear Jack,

      Your voice will probably be changing, if it hasn't already. Your chest voice will deepen your sound. DO NOT feel ashamed. Your friends are not true friends if they lack understanding and ridicule you.

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      jack 7 weeks ago

      I am 16 year boy, and i really hate my voice especially when i listen my voice through whats app voice chating and listening to the recorder,i feel that still i am not aged and it sound like a 5 year old child, i am really ashamed of myself , i dont know how my friend felt toward me when they hearing my voice, I WISH IF U CAN HELP ME

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      Audrey Hunt 2 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      The best advice I can give you is to schedule a few lessons with a qualified vocal instructor. This way, your voice will be evaluated and a program will be designed for your individual needs. As you practice needed exercises, your voice will improve.

      Contact me, if you like.


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      Sharansh123 2 months ago

      My throat was operated because of goiter and my voice becomes heavy and a little hoarse. My dream was to become a videogame commentator, so can I do commentary with my current voice?

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      ElizabethLewis123 3 months ago

      Hello, I was recording my voice as a voice over, when I realised how drastically different my voice is to other people. It is incredibly whiny, rapid, not articulate at all and has a nasal tinge to it. To myself, I sound like an average person. Furthermore, though i have a London accent, it isn't very clear at all, and I am devastated that people have to listen to this. It seems incredibly articulate, clear and of a neutral tone to me. I am sorry for such a long message, but I'm getting desperate.

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      Paul 3 months ago

      How can one resolves the issues of deep voice?

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      Audrey Hunt 3 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      It sounds like you have a "Michael Jackson" sound and that ain't bad! I recommend accepting your natural sound and re-invent your style of singing. Ignore what others say about your voice.


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      Ra 3 months ago

      Im 16, and when I record my voice and when other people hear my voice, it sounds like im "gay" or "camp" or with a "feminine tone" and that type of tone, and I really hate it and am desperate to fix this, any help :(

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      Audrey Hunt 4 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      Please send me an email. I'll be able to give you some personal help. I know exactly what the problem is and how to fix it. I look forward to hearing from you.


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      Eve 4 months ago

      When I record my voice, singing or speaking, it sounds wobbly?? Like I would love if when I sang I stayed on one note and could draw it out, but it just sounds weak and awful, any help?

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      Audrey Hunt 5 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      It sounds like you may be using the wrong type of mic. Your problem could also be the sound system.

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      Bob 6 months ago

      Dearly Lee beloved are you listening I can’t remember a word that you saying

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      Akshay 7 months ago

      I am a budding singer. During practice, my voice really gets melodious but...

      On mic, my voice automatically turns blocky sorta and I try my best to avoid it but it doesn't happen? Any solution?

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      Alex Hunter 9 months ago

      Hi dear Author, I've got a strong British accent and my voice is unclear and so loud. The worst problem annoys me is Starting Every Sentence with 'U Know'. I hate it and everyone knows that. Even my classmates mock me in the worst way then I'll get humiliated. I've lost my confidence and I think everyone hates me. I'm fed up with my voice. I've visited many doctors in U.K. who were the best in their profession but all these visits were in vain. Please help me to have confidence and be courage. Sometimes I think I'm the worst,unfortunate person in the universe. I'll be thankful to see ur reply,

      Yours faithfully, Alex

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      Audrey Hunt 9 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      These singing exercises also apply to the speaking voice so in time they should help. Also: Practice your pitch with a piano accompaniment. Try counting from one to eight along the pitch of middle C then drop down on one note.

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      Jackie Lynnley 9 months ago from The Beautiful South

      Oh well, it is not to sing, I am actually OK with that. (Not that I am a hit there but the sound of my singing is just a better voice, to me anyway.) I do hate my speaking voice and although I have not gone over this really good yet I really think it might help. Sounds like practice and exercise. I can do that! Will let you know! Although I am sure it may take awhile.

      Again, thanks!

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      Audrey Hunt 9 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Hi Jackie

      I'm 'over the moon" happy to know that you're not giving up on your voice. If I can help you feel free to contact me. I'm only an email or phone call away. :)

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      Jackie Lynnley 9 months ago from The Beautiful South

      I am going to copy this Audrey and really try it. I do hate my voice and always have. It is too low. It is sure worth a try.

      Sorry I missed this. Thank you!

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      Audrey Hunt 9 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      The best exercises for all vocalists are breath control using the diaphragmatic muscle, ear-training and exercises to beautify your tone.

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      Dan 9 months ago

      Hey Audrey. I really don't like my voice but i love to sing and I want to Austin diction for a choir. Are there and exersizes besides the one she aboveboard that will make my voice sound like I'm not one of the bloopers on a talent show. Thanks a lot.

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      Audrey Hunt 10 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      Your voice can change. Find a good vocal coach or speech therapist. Exercises will be given to you to help lift your voice to a higher level. Contact me anytime and I wish you success, Just remember that you're not stuck with the voice you have.

      Hi Shauna

      I can help you ... and so can other qualified vocal instructors. Do not stop singing just because you don't like your voice and accent. All you need is a little knowledge presented through instruction. Yes, it costs but the cost is well worth it.

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      Shauna 10 months ago

      I cringed when I heard my recorded voice recently and have been looking for help every since that dreadful moment. I'm southern (SC) and my accent is strong. How can I improve this?

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      Deena 10 months ago

      My voice is way too low and I'm a lady

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      Audrey Hunt 13 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      Thanks for your question. Now sit back and listen! It matters very much how we feel about our speaking or singing voice. Our self-esteem is related to how well we like our sound. For the most part, the voice can be altered. I not only altered my own sound from a "little girl" voice to a rich confident woman's voice. We're not stuck with the voice we are born with.

      The voice can be enhanced and changed with the help of a qualified instructor (teach or vocal coach.) Notice the word qualified. I've experienced astounding results with my students from changing the vocal color to a clear, distinct, rich, pleasant voice.

      Every time the words "I hate my voice" are repeated damage is being done to the person as well as the voice itself. Listen to the tightness in your sound when you repeat "I Hate MY Voice" as opposed to the softness of the phrase "I Love my voice".

      Your body reacts to exactly what you believe and belief stems from your thoughts. Change your thoughts to change the results.

      End of lecture my friend. I care. I really do care.


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      kallini2010 13 months ago from Toronto, Canada

      Hello, Audrey:

      Even though I have asked the question and you were courteous to provide an answer, I have never got around to doing anything about "hating" my voice. The exercises seemed too much for me.

      I recorded myself talking and singing and hated every second of it - I decided to live with the feedback - "oh, there is nothing wrong with your voice, your accent is adorable, I really like your voice". As you said in the article about happiness - it's all in my head and my thoughts.

      So, I can live with it (unless I record it! ha-ha-ha) and others just don't mind.


      As you could imagine (an add another 25 cents to the jar), now my son refuses to speak because ... he "hates" his voice. He has a relatively low bass - it cuts through the air and makes me wish he did not take after his grandfather. Now I have two basses walking around. I prefer midrange (baritone?), softer, easier on the ears male voices.

      But what can we do?

      I'll be happy if he slowed down and worked on his articulation so I won't go "What? What? What?"

      "Mother, you are deaf just like grandpa. I'm not going to talk to you".

      If I'm deaf, what does it matter whether I love or hate any voice?

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      Crystal 13 months ago


      I absolutely hate my voice on recording. It sounds so nasally and deeper than how i hear my voice. I am an aspiring musician and the way i hear myself, i thought that i was alright. When i first heard myself on recording, i thought there was something wrong with the mic, not me. But now ive come to realize this, i was shocked. Its very discouraging. I asked my friends if i sound different to them on recording and their answers confirmed my worst fears. I dont know what to do. :( This article has been so helpful. If there is something i could do to solve this, please feel free to tell me. :)

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      Audrey Hunt 13 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Hi Paul

      Well, we can fix that problem. Check out my tutorial " The Most Important Thing Beginning Singers Need to Know." Apply this information to your singing and let me know how you're doing.

      Thanks for being here and sing with joy!


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      Paul Dennis 13 months ago

      I think my voice is fine but no one can understand me the say I sound like boomhaur lol

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      Audrey Hunt 14 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Even though you may not like your singing voice, keep right on singing. Studies show that singing is a healthy thing to do. Thanks for being here.

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      Msksjdmckc 14 months ago

      I hate my voice

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      stephanie 14 months ago

      Hey how can I fix my Throat

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      Audrey Hunt 14 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      To answer your question "Did you ever hate your voice?"...I can truthfully say no. However, after hearing my recorded singing I found a few areas that clearly needed improvement. Working for a short time with an excellent vocal coach I soon began to hear a difference.

      With most of my vocal students I zero in on what needs to be addressed vocally and fix it ASAP. The result is 100% a singer who is happy with their voice.


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      Lauren 14 months ago

      Did you hate your voice

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      Audrey Hunt 14 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      To deepen your voice and remove the whiney sound, using lots of breath and the word 'woah', place your voice in the deep chest area. It will take a few times but this exercise works wonders. Feel for the chest vibrations...this is where your sound must originate from.

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      Evvie 14 months ago

      My voice is higher than in my head, and whinier. Eww. I absolutely hate it! I hope with theses methods I can fix that

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      prince 15 months ago

      hey audrey i just wantes to ask is their any operation for changing the voice into the type of voice we hear of ourselves plz tell me

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      Helen Laxner 15 months ago from Illinois

      Great article. I wish my high school music teacher would have had me do these exercises instead of turning the pages at the piano. I will definitely be referring to this article to learn how to change the sound of my voice. Thanks for sharing your expertise!

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      Daddy Grey 15 months ago

      Dear Audrey Hunt, 3,16,17

      Hey it's been a while! How are you? Great? Well I just swallowed my......tongue. It tasted like azz berries.

      Love, Daddy.

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      Audrey Hunt 15 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      We all have a "bridge" when we sing. The bridge connects the tone as we sing from low to high. I have an exercise that will teach you how to do this. Please contact me by email for this lesson. It involves a combination of steps. Fear can only be diminished by walking through that which you fear. You can't wish it away but you can take action to reduce or even eradicate your fear. Fear exists only in the mind. I recommend you read my article on overcoming fear. Thank you.

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      Simone 16 months ago

      Thank you for this inspiring blog! I've always been passionate about singing, and can carry a tune, but I'm nervous about singing in front of other people. I have deep, long-standing confidence issues which make me hypercritical about many aspects of my being. I have been making an attempt to practice my singing as I have yet to find my true voice. I find myself alternating between a low voice and a much higher, airier sound (and not really loving either of them). The best way I can describe my core issue is to say that I feel I lack a bridge between these two voices and suspect my "real" (powerful and attractive) voice lies somewhere in the middle. Does this sound familiar to you at all? I look forward to any suggestions you might have :) Thank you!

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      Kenneth Avery 16 months ago

      Hi, Audrey (vocalcoach),

      If by now you have read my reply to your comment on my hub about stationary bikes, then you will recall that in my reply I said that I was going to visit your hubs and read some of them.

      I got stuck on this one due to the topic of "hating one's voice," which I do.

      I would love to have the gift of singing like my wife and others at church, but when the recording starts, I start sweating because I know that I sound like a backwoods hillbilly, which I am and not meaning any disrespect to other hillbillies.

      Your topic is very helpful and doable.

      Thanks so much.

      I learned not one, but two things:

      1.) I can fix my voice according to this hub Yay!

      2.) You name is Audrey. I never knew that. All of this time I have only known you as vocalcoach and now the hub topic and your pen name makes perfect sense.

      Please keep up the great work and do not lose touch with me.

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      Audrey Hunt 21 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      Oh, thank you my dear friend. I'm so happy to win this award. It means so much to me. I sure appreciate you and the many years of support and friendship you've brought to me. How blessed I am!




      If you go to my bio you will find a link to my email. Thank you for your comments.


      Thank you my friend. I also congratulate you on your award! It's so very nice to be honored and appreciated for one's work.

      Blessings to you,


      Hi Paula

      How wonderful to see you here. A big thanks for your support and taking the time to read my hub!

      Dream On

      It's important to enjoy practicing whenever we learn something new. I love a challenge. And although I'm a professional pianist and do well with my repertoire I continue to work on the most difficult Chopin, Beethoven and Bach to keep my brain busy. :)

      I'm always here for you my friend - my door is always open. Now I must get back to the books I'm writing about singing - what else? :)

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      Dream On 21 months ago

      I am more excited about your comment than your hub. Now I find that hard to believe. I have been trying to just practice some of the videos on your hub and see if it is just a passing phase. I am having fun right now just articulating and learning. Thank you for such a wonderful and generous offer. I never want to waste anyone's precious time so I have to see where my thoughts take me. I must say doing even a little makes me feel good. A different kind of good.The same feeling when I write something I appreciate and like even if the world doesn't see it. I will message you a little more if you don't mind. I just want to thank you for your kindness and your friendship. You have so many hubs it takes me awhile to read. Thanks so much for sharing and caring. Wishing the best night where everything just goes right.

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      Audrey Hunt 21 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Faith Reaper

      Your comments are always guaranteed to put a big 'ol smile on my face! Thank you dear friend. You're a winner too!




      Thank you so much my friend! I appreciate you taking the time to read my hub.

      Have a great day,


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      Paula 21 months ago

      Hip Hip Hurray!! CONGRATULATIONS AUDREY!! Way to go!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 21 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Congratulations for the Hubbie award for this excellent hub!

      I appreciated it earlier and appreciate it again. So happy to see you win . Enjoy your award and have a blessed day!

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      Kushagra S 21 months ago

      hey Audrey,

      as you'd have understood why i'm here, i've got a really disgusting voice and that sucks to me,i'm 16 and male, i really wanna sing but my voice is the biggest obstacle, i also tried some free online singing classes but they didn't helped even a little, also my voice can define my future, so its a humble request to you that please tell me source i can contact you with, please help me, and i hope you will.

      warmest regards.


      PS: I can't pay fee.

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      Audrey Hunt 21 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      How very nice of you to come by and congratulate me! Thank you very much.



      Hi Mike. I hear you singing and you sound great! Your congratulations echoes clear across the USA - from California to Tennessee. Thanks dear one.



      Hi Sha. As you've experienced the correct breathing process you know that it takes time to re-learn how to breathe. But what a great accomplishment! Not only does the speaking and singing voice sound better, diaphragmatic breathing provides us with a healthier body including the brain.

      Thank you for recognizing my hubbie award and may I congratulate you as well on your award. Nice going!

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      Audrey Hunt 21 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Dream on

      I think you have a secret desire to sing...really sing. You haven't said as much, but I'm pretty good at reading between the lines - especially when it comes to singing. So with that said, just let me know and I will comp you some lessons.

      Very glad you've read my article and thanks.

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      Maria Jordan 21 months ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Happy to see this wonderful post won a Hubbie award, dear Audrey - congratulations to you....!

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      MsDora 21 months ago

      Congratulations on your Best Hub on Spinditty Award. Best to you, going forward!

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      Faith Reaper 21 months ago

      Congratulations, Dear Audrey, on winning a well-deserved Hubbie Award for this wonderful hub! This hub is certainly a winner, as are you!

      Hugs and blessings

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      Shauna L Bowling 21 months ago from Central Florida

      Audrey, when I was in broadcasting school one of the first things we were taught was how to breathe. Basically, we had to re-learn how to breathe in order to speak in our radio voices. After a while it became habit to breathe from the diaphragm as we recorded or were on air.

      The first time I heard my recorded voice I couldn't believe it was me. I don't sound like that! Now I know why.

      Excellent article, Audrey and congratulations on your 2016 Hubbie Award!

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      mckbirdbks 21 months ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      Hello Audrey, can you hear me singing Congratulations to you. Best Hub on Spinditty: This is very much deserved.

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      Chris Mills 21 months ago from Missoula, Montana through August 2018

      Congratulations, Audrey, for having your hub chosen as a Hubbie Award winner.

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      Dream on 21 months ago

      I read your hub and found so many things you said true and funny at the same time. My voice always sounds high pitched and much different than I hear. I use to joke and say I am going through puberty at 20, 30,40, 50 . Friends just look at me funny. I thought like so many other people the voice we have we are born with and there is no changing that. A kind of luck of the draw. How wrong was I and so many other people. Thank you for a wonderful and interesting hub. Now the hard part is will I take any steps to make it better. Recently I told you how I took up whistling and I am learning to when I never could.

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      Audrey Hunt 21 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      The goal in managing this problem is to improve the glottic efficiency, reduce strain to the vocal folds, and improvement in the overall voice quality.

      Use proper vocal technique - especially when it comes to controlling your air. Because the sound of your voice 'rides' on air you want to make sure your breathing is absolutely correct.

      Also, you may want to look into some speech therapy. Be sure to rest your voice as much as you can and avoid all shouting!

      I've also heard about collagen injections helping but be sure to check with your surgeon about this.

      Feel free to email me for further help.

      I wish you every success,


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      Hoarsevoice 21 months ago

      Hi Audrey,

      I was born with a congenital sulcus, wherein the voice flaps don't come together when I talk,

      thus leaving a gap which creates hoarseness. Any suggestion as to how I can address that.

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      Audrey Hunt 22 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      Don't hate your voice...use it, embrace it and enjoy singing. We all feel disappointed the first time we hear our voice. It's normal. You can always change your voice with the help of a good vocal coach. Thanks.

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      Audrey Hunt 22 months ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Oh, come on now Amby...you don't want to stop talking to girls. It's relatively easy to change the tone of your voice. Some options are:

      Work with a private vocal coach

      Take Acting lessons

      Find someone who will even donate some time to helping you change the sound of your voice.

      But, gee, don't stop talking to girls.

      Thanks for being here.


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      Amby 22 months ago

      am in that category of people who don't like their voices. I have this app that records every call that I make. there was a time when I wanted to listen to one of the calls I made to this lady who I was hitting on. at first I was so shocked and thought that maybe someone had used my phone to call her, coz the sound in the recording, 'my voice' was so soft, less confident and to me, it was like I wanted to cry in the next word. I'll try this tutorial, or I'll stop talking to girls.

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      KOOLADE52 23 months ago

      Ia just hate my vois becaus it sond s difrent from what i expect but its not bad

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      You're just the person I write these types of articles for. Never let anyone 'bring you down - especially when you sing." Love your voice by accepting it and ignore others who say negative things to you. It's funny but once you accept your singing and sing with confidence others will accept it too. Thanks for reading my article. When you have time read some of my other suggestions about singing. Take care.



      Thanks for being here and sharing your thoughts with me. I'm so happy to hear how much this helped you. Good for you for following my suggestion to record your voice. It really does help. I'm so grateful for your comments. You've given me an excellent rating and made my day!

      Hope to see you again.


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      Arunav 2 years ago

      This helped me change my voice so freaking much! I used to sound like a drunk person, sloppy and slow with my words, nasal type voice. I always thought that my voice sounded good, because, I didn't record it... this helped me change and perfect my voice to such a great extent! Thanks mate! Big up !!

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      Andramax 2 years ago

      Thanks really much for the advice!I really appreciate that,especially that I hated my boice so much and i was discriminated because of it

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.


      Well I've never heard a cockroach sing. In order for me to help you I first must identify what the problem may be by hearing you sing. You can contact me for more information.

      But I would like to say: Sing for your own enjoyment. Avoid listening to the remarks from friends. If you like your sound...that's really all that matters.


      Sing with joy!


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      balbirsingh1976 2 years ago

      Amazing! Your in depth knowledge of vocals is amazing. For the last couple of years I was searching for a person who could understand my vocal problems minutely and I think I have found it.

      I am a singer from India and trained in Indian Classical Vocal, but I feel there was abuse of voice along with wrong way of practice and other reasons for which I had to face vocal problems. A lot have improved, but still I have some issues. I would like to discuss with you.

      Could you let me how should I send you details?

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      RTalloni 2 years ago from the short journey

      So interesting. Have definitely been surprised at recordings of my own voice and agree that bad habits such as you mention are the problem when I am not being careful. Being careful is a lot of work! However, the fix you discuss solves that related problem so thanks for insight into solving it.

      Have been thinking about this issue in the context of older people, noting to self that I want to be careful not to allow my good diction to deteriorate.

      Voice quality and diction can be worked on even in later years. Helping seniors in this area could be a great service/business because many do not want to let either slide.

      I'm seeing it as different than speech therapists' work in nursing homes because boomers are living longer and living well. They are even starting businesses, working as mentors, and involved in other activities that require important interaction with people.

      They would be interested in learning about how to maintain/improve their speech that can begin sliding with age (for any number of reasons) if we are not paying attention. Continuing to be able to influence people with their voice quality could be very important to them.

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      jarette 2 years ago

      i always record my voice. My friends said that my voice is so high. sounds Like a kid. But for me, it doesnt. That's why i hate speaking so loudly in front of some people because they will say that i sounds like a cockcroach. Please help m with my problem.

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Hi Fiona - Surgery is one way and works well. A more feminine voice sounds smaller, softer, lighter, and more expressive, while a more masculine voice sounds bigger, heavier, and more matter-of-fact. Another possibility is to sing using your falsetto voice. Then gradually merge from singing to speaking.

      I highly recommend a good vocal coach who specializes in this practice. Be very careful that you avoid any strain or damage to the vocal folds.

      Good luck.


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      Fiona 2 years ago

      I am a transgender person and I have changed from male to female and I would like to know how to get a higher pitch to my voice please.

      Thanking you,


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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Mark - Actually there is something you can do. Send me a 'clip' of your voice using your computer and I'll help you fix the problem. It's also important that you "get used to" hearing your voice no matter what. Try not to be judgmental - just listen over and over again. mzvocal@sbcglobal.net

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      Mark 2 years ago

      I work in a call center. When I play my voice back to myself, it makes me depressed. Oh well, there's little I can do...

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      If you use more of your chest voice you won't sound like a squeaky boy. I'm glad you're going to try some of my tips and thanks lordgandalf for being here.


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      lordgandalf 2 years ago

      Im going to try out some of these tips. I recorded my voice for streaming/videos on the internet an i sound like a squeeky boy while for me it sounds a lot lower and more manly so yeah going to work on that

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Hi Naz - Send me an email at mzvocal@sbcglobal.net and I will be happy to answer your questions. I can help you. Thanks fo reading my hub and glad to see you here.


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      Naz 2 years ago

      can and body please recommend a DVD or books that helps to change ones voice . and what is the right person/profession to go to teach me as all what i found they are for singing.

      thank you

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      Audrey Hunt 2 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Hi Kristen - Sorry for my late reply. Been recovering from knee surgery. Thanks so much for reading my hub and leaving your comments. My best to you.


      I enjoyed your comments very much. Thank you for being here and sharing your experiences. Sing with joy!


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      MT 3 years ago

      I'll try those all exercises. When I first heard my first recordings, I thought like "Oh,sh, what the hell is wrong with my iphone recordings! My voice is not that awkward although I know myself that my voice is deep." After hearing my recordings, I can see that it's understandable why my friends make fun of my deep deep voice.

      *English is my second language. I always try not to talk loudly especially in school presentations as I worry my voice would be over powering for them. But my teacher gave feedback that my volume is low during presentation.

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      Kristen Howe 3 years ago from Northeast Ohio

      Great hub Audrey. I never liked to hear my voice on the answering machine or to sing period. Great tips. Voted up!

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      Jeannie InABottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      Thank you! I will give it a try. :-)

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      Audrey Hunt 3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Hi Jeannie - To fix a nasal sound you must learn how to open the back of your throat while singing. You will actually be lifting the soft palate just like a yawn. Begin by yawning several times to feel the lift of the soft palate (the moon shaped part in the back of the throat.) While in the yawn - allow your tone to execute. This takes a lot of practice and time but it will cause you to sing without the nasal sound.

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      Jeannie InABottle 3 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      I am not a big fan of my voice. Maybe I need to work on it. I think I sound too nasal. Perhaps if I practice enough I will have a better singing voice, too, which has always been one of my goals. Thanks for sharing these tips!

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      Audrey Hunt 3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Au fait - Your comments are marvelous! Thanks for being here and adding your own thoughts. I appreciate it. And how kind of you to share my hub with others. Thanks too for the great votes!

      Tamirogers - A nasal sounding voice occurs when the soft palate (back of the throat) is not raised. The sound becomes trapped in the nose.

      Not sure about your pin question on hubpages. Can you clarify please? Thanks.

      Hi Audrey - Recording our own voice is a valuable tool. I love your comments which will be helpful to other singers. Thanks so much!

      peoplepower73 - What are ESL members? I love Toastmasters and have done a fair amount of presentations for them. Excellent organization! They help so many speakers overcome their fear of speaking publicly. Thanks for your comments and votes. Audrey

      DzyMzLizzy - Oh yes, Gilbert and Sullivan can wake up any lazy tongue with their songs. Thanks my friend!

      Dennis - You're actually doing both. As you get used to your vocal sound you can begin to improve on it.

      megan - Instead of your goal being to show others that your voice is better than theirs, concentrate on your own vocal technique and style.

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      megan 3 years ago

      My comment how can i make my voice sound like taylor swift but different when i preform i want to let everyone know that my vioce is bettwr then theres

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      Dennis 3 years ago

      Hi Audrey, first of all: i really liked your hub! But I have a question: if i'm gonna record my voice and listen to it, am i really fixing my voice or am i just getting used to my voice?

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      Liz Elias 3 years ago from Oakley, CA

      It's me again! LOL I just re-read the article, and it occurred to me that the "sluggish articulation" issue might be helped by practicing the recitation of one of the Gilbert and Sullivan "patter songs." ;-)

      "I am the very model of a modern major general..." etc.. hee hee hee

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      Mike Russo 3 years ago from Placentia California

      Hi Audrey: I belong to a toastmasters club that has a lot of ESL members. I know exactly what the lady in the videos is explaining because I see and hear it at almost every meeting. If you don't mind, I'm going to share this with my club members. By the way, if you didn't already know, toastmasters is an international organization that teaches people how to overcome their fear of public speaking...voting up, sharing and very useful.


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