Why You Hate Your Voice and How to Fix It

Introduction: Do You Hate Your Voice? You're Not Alone!

If you're one of the majority of people who feel this way, you've come to the right place because you're about to learn why you hate your voice and how to fix it.

As I was lurking around the "Question and Answer" forum on HubPages, I came across the topic, "I hate the sound of my voice" and decided to write a Hub about it. (Thank you Kallini for the post). This is not an uncommon topic, either -- in fact, I'd love to get a dollar for every person who's said to me, "I hate my voice." Nearly half of my students say the same thing when I asked them why they have come to see me.

Note: While hating your own voice can refer to both your speaking or singing voice, my comments are directed to the speaking voice for now.

For the next few minutes, make believe you are among the gazillions of people who, after hearing their own voice recorded, swear that they will never speak another word. In fact, only 10% of us recognize our own voice when hearing it for the first time. So, you're not alone, and vocalcoach is here to help you. Here's what you can expect from this Hub:

  • Learn about why you can't hear your true voice
  • Why does your voice sound different to you vs. when recorded
  • The male vs. female voice
  • Common things people hate about their voice
  • How to correct your vocal problems in a few steps

Why You Can't Hear Your True Voice

How many of us, growing up, record our speaking voice every day? Ridiculous question, isn't it? And yet, that's exactly what is required for us to grow into adulthood and accept and like our speaking voice.

Why? Because we never hear our true voice when we talk. We go through life thinking that the sound we hear is the sound others hear. That actually isn't so.

Your voice sounds different to other people than it does to you because it's different. You're actually the only person who hears yourself the way you think everyone else does.

Let's examine why this is so.

Why Does My Voice Sound Different To Me vs. Recorded?

When you speak, the vocal folds in your throat vibrate, which causes your skin, skull, and oral cavities to also vibrate; we refer to this as sound. These vibrations mix with sound waves, which travel from your mouth to your eardrum. No one hears this sound but you. Your sound is confined within these resonators. Again, because it bears repeating: only you can hear this sound.

This is why the first time you hear your voice recorded, you're likely shocked by what you hear. Your pitch is usually higher and your speech sounds slower. This is the moment of truth -- this is what your voice sounds like to everyone else.

RARE Studio Film Footage

Vocal Folds and Vibrations

  • The glottis. Your vocal folds (bands, chords, cords) are positioned at the base of the larynx and are the "vibrator" of sound. They are flat triangular bands. The space between the vocal cords is called the glottis.
  • Voice. Vibrations are caused when the vocal folds are set into motion because of air expelled from the lungs. This is called voice. Air is forced up the trachea from the lungs, at a certain pressure, forcing its way through the vocal cords and pushing them open.
  • Male vs. female vocal folds. Male vocal folds are larger than the female vocal folds. The male vocal folds are approximately 0.75" to .75" in length, while the female's are approximately 0.5" to.75" in length. This is one of the reasons for the difference in vocal pitch between genders.

Amazing View of Vocal Cords While Singing With Multiple Voices

To Change the Sound of Your Voice, You Must First Hear it By Recording

Record your voice using your computer.  Make it a daily habit so that you'll get used to your sound.  Recording also helps to change the sound of your voice by identifying problems.
Record your voice using your computer. Make it a daily habit so that you'll get used to your sound. Recording also helps to change the sound of your voice by identifying problems. | Source

Correcting Your Vocal Problems in a Few Easy Steps

The quality and sound of your voice is largely due to habit. And, luckily, bad habits can be broken and good ones learned. It just takes practice. If you are willing to put the time into learning correct vocal production, you can develop a speaking voice to be proud of.

Step 1: Listen to Your Recorded Sound

The first step to changing your speaking voice is to listen to your recorded sound. This can be done by using your computer. Locate the microphone and speaker and record a short sentence such as "Michael row the boat ashore," or "Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream." You can also record on your answering machine or cell phone.

After recording the sentence three times in a row, play it back and listen. This will be the hardest part of the exercise. Don't expect to like the sound of your voice. Grab a sheet of paper and as you listen to the recording the second time, list what you hate about your voice. Continue to do this several times. Take your time with this first step.

Remember, it's normal to dislike what you hear.

Look at the following list of things we hate about our voice. Are your thoughts on this list?

Common Things People Hate About Their Voice

Dry -- monotonous
Too expressive
Too many pauses
Off-key (out of tune or flat)

Step 2: Practice Simple But Effective Exercises

Now that you are over the initial shock of hearing your "real" voice and your list is complete, the next step will teach you how to make corrections.

Remember also that tension is the worst enemy for the speaker, singer, and actor. As you practice your daily vocal workout, be sure to release all neck, shoulder, knee, and hand tension.

Let's begin with one of the most important factors for improving your speaking: too much tension in the tongue. The tongue is the rudder for sound. When we try to hold back emotion, we tense up our tongues. We must release this tension if we are to sound better when speaking.

During this step, you will practice this simple but effective exercise:

  1. Start with the tongue lying flat in the bed of the mouth
  2. Bring the tongue forward (stretching it), slightly over the bottom lip and pant like a dog.
  3. Then, gently pull the tongue back to rest in the bed of the mouth and feel the relaxed position.
  4. Get in the habit of teaching your tongue to feel relaxed when speaking all vowels.
  5. Using the word 'hello,' very slowly speak the word, noticing the relaxed position of the tongue on the first part of the word, 'heh.'
  6. Speak just the 'heh' three times, while keeping a nice, relaxed feeling in the tongue.
  7. The tongue will draw up to touch the hard palate (roof of the mouth) to form the 'l' and then drop down to form the 'o.' Be sure the tongue is positioned correctly, attacking no further back then just at the forward part of the hard palate. If the tongue is drawn too far back on the 'l' with too much tension, the result will be a throaty sound.

Relaxing Vocal Tension and Lifting the Soft Palate by Yawning


Step 3: Stretch the Top Of Your Throat (to Fix the Nasal Sound)

A closed soft palate (located behind the hard palate or roof of the mouth) will cause you to sound nasal. When you yawn, the soft palate rises which opens the back of the throat.

Yawning is actually a stretching exercise for the soft palate, which is the top of your throat, including the little movable part in the back of your mouth where the uvula quite visibly hangs down. The soft palate is responsible for the overtone in the mask area around the nose and sinuses. It's a kind of buzzing sound and feeling that helps the voice to carry and sound clear.

This step will teach you to stretch the top of your throat. All you have to do is yawn. But make sure your jaw doesn't come forward. A good way to do this stretch is to:

  • Yawn as you regularly do.
  • Yawn with your mouth closed, as if you're trying to stifle a yawn.

You must exercise the tongue and the soft palate on a daily basis. Then, forget them and let them work on their own. Let them do their job.

Because a closed throat results in a nasal sound, this exercise will help reduce speaking through your nose. The back of the throat needs to be open as we speak.

  • Go into a yawn position
  • Using the word 'yeah,' repeat several times. The sound should not be whiney or nasal with the throat open. Learn to do this exercise using different consonants and vowels.
  • This requires daily exercising for several weeks before the nasal-ness is completely gone.

Position For Locating The Chest Voice

Step 4: Change Your Voice by Regulating Your Pitch

You can actually speak by generating sound from different places in the body called vocal registers. Each of these registers vibrate at different rates of speed to produce sound.

This step will teach you how to regulate your pitch (high, medium, or low). Let's say you don't like your voice because it's too high and you sound like a child. (Ladies, have you ever answered the phone and been asked if your mommy is home?)

Here's what you can try:

  • Speak from your chest register. To bring the pitch down, or speak with a more mature sound, you must speak from your chest register. To connect with your chest sound, speak the word 'whoa' in a very deep voice. Place your hand on the chest area and feel for the vibrations as you speak the sound of 'whoa.' Do this several times, recording the sound.
  • Get on all fours. To help you connect to the low chest register, while on the floor, position yourself on all fours while on your knees and hands. Make sure your head is positioned down like you're looking at the floor and say the word 'whoa' as low as you can without straining your voice. Really concentrate on the vibrations in your chest.
  • Practice. Practice mixing the chest sound with your regular sound to bring out a nice, rich speaking voice. Then, record words and finally sentences.
  • Mix it up. If your speech is too slow and boring, speed up your sentences and practice until it feels natural at your new pace. Accent certain syllables to add interest to your voice.
  • Speak clearly. Speaking clearly is one of the most important elements for all speakers. Articulate. Do not "drop" consonants at the ends of your words.
  • Breathe properly. Breathe correctly by using your abdominal wall (diaphragmatic breathing, sometimes called the belly breath). Don't know how? Here are complete instructions to teach you how.
  • Try jogging. Finally, your voice needs energy to sound its best. Try jogging in place while speaking a few sentences. If jogging is out for you, sit on an exercise ball and bounce up and down as you speak.

For Overcoming Sluggish Articulation

Step 5: Don't Forget About Tapping Into the Unused Portion of Your Vocal Tract

Choose the first line of any speech or paragraph in a book or newspaper.

  • Imagine that the sound you are about to make is coming directly from the belly.
  • Make a 'huh' sound.
  • Say the first word of your text, matching the pitch of the 'huh.' Remember, the sound is coming from your belly.
  • After the first word, allow your voice to go anywhere it needs to go to express the remainder of the line.
  • Repeat this procedure with each successive line of the speech, starting with 'huh' and then match the first word of the line.
  • Notice how starting each line with 'huh' puts your voice in a freer place.
  • Practice this exercise for twenty minutes each day for several weeks. If you have success, then only think the 'huh' sound and match the first word.
  • Continue to repeat and experiment with this exercise until it begins to feel comfortable and more natural.

For most people, the sound will start in the lower half of the voice. This is especially useful for women who tend to avoid the lower half of their voices.

The end result will be a richer, more confident, and pleasing sound.

Final Thoughts

I hope you have learned something about why you hate your voice, and how to fix it.

In the end, remember that you must really want to discover a better sounding voice and trust that you will. Your voice is an instrument and, like any other instrument, it must be taken care of. It is not enough to say, "When I get emotional, my throat tightens up and my voice gets squeaky."

Whatever happens to your voice when you get emotional is habit. You must take responsibility for the condition of your instrument. Remember that most problems can be traced to tension in the neck, jaw, and tongue, along with restricted breathing.

I recommend recording your voice consistently as you practice to bring about change. You'll soon get used to your true vocal sound and accept it as part of the wonderful person you are.

Note: Please see your doctor whenever you experience throat pain. If any of the above exercises cause discomfort, stop immediately.

If you have heard your voice recorded...

  • The sound shocked me and I hated it
  • I was shocked by the sound but I'm ok about it
  • Well, I sorta liked it
  • I liked it alot
  • I neither like it or didn't like it - doesn't much matter
  • I haven't recorded my voice
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Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

I really hate my voice. I heard it on our answering machine and thought, who is that calling here, and much to my horror it was me calling to tell my husband I had to stop somewhere before I would be home from work. LOL It was most disturbing to say the least. Thank you for the insightful information here. It is a most excellent hub. I will practice all of these as you have suggested. Did feel a bit silly doing the tongue thing, but no one is around. LOL

Voted Way Up In His Love, Faith Reaper

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everythingdazzles 4 years ago from Pittsburgh, PA

My voice used to drive me crazy. Then I went to the doctor only to realize I needed a tonsillectomy! lol Totally worth it. Great hub.

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Scribenet 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

My voice is softer than I hear it in my head and while I don't mind it, I have tried to make it stronger and more like I hear it in my head because I like that one the best.

Thanks for the lessons in improving speech because I can't sing... those lessons could not help dog was concerned when I sang...thinking something was wrong...she had me laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes and decided to keep my singing to myself forever after!

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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Audrey, this a fabulous hub. Very practical and useful. I am bookmarking this and sharing it too.

Voted up, useful and awesome.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I feel kind of weird because I like my voice. lol This is a great hub about a unique subject. Nice job Audrey; this was a pleasure to read.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Faith Reaper - You made me laugh :) First I giggled out loud when you wrote " I heard it on our answering machine and thought, who is that calling here, and much to my horror it was me calling ." LOL. And your last line struck me as hilarious - "I will practice all of these as you have suggested. Did feel a bit silly doing the tongue thing, but no one is around. " Again, it really tickled me to read this. You are just great!

everything dazzles - Hi there! How good it is to see you here. I remember when I had my tonsills out. Pretty much ended all my sore throats. Glad you liked my hub. I'll be over to read one of your hubs!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

scribenet - I laughed so hard reading about your dogs reaction to your singing! How cute is that. Thanks so much for sharing this and for being here to comment.

rajan - It's such a joy to see you here and to read your kind comments. I have such great respect for you, both as a writer and as a person. I am glad you are bookmarking this and your vote up and ratings are most generous. Thank you, my friend.

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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

Audrey - Having been a radio and TV broadcaster, I'm well familiar with the way my voice sounds. Increasing one's range by using the "Ah" or "Huh" method is also possible by constantly raising and lowering the tone used and holding it at the high or low end for extended periods of time. Most that would hear their voices for the first time were astounded not only by the sound, but by the failure to enunciate. To help in curing this, one can take a pencil, place it across the mouth corners, and push it back so the jaws are holding it. Then, talk as you normally would, but exert more effort so you can be understood. This will strengthen the tongue and get you moving your mouth more, as most tend to mumble somewhat. When I did comedy I learned to do one thing more... open the mouth wide when speaking. It really helps to understand what is being said. Great Hub!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

billy - I, too like the sound of your voice. You are one of the 20%. The first time I watched your video and heard your voice I was impressed. Most of us aren't so fortunate.

Thanks billy for giving your "seal of approval."

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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

I do hate my own voice! I remember hearing it for the first time...I thought I'd never speak again. My voice is very low...EW! I'm gonna have to see if I can fix that now! Awesome hub!

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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Audrey, what a great hub. I happen to like my voice, but there's always room for improvement. This is very useful information for taking a closer "listen" to my voice, to think about how I might make it work even better and also keep it in good shape for the future. Off to read about breathing and maybe try some ball bouncing. Up, interesting, useful!

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lisa42 4 years ago from Sacramento

Great article. I never knew you could change the sound of your voice with simple exercises. Thank you for sharing!

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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Thank you, vocal coach, for such an nice answer to my question. I guess it is a good start for the people who may not be too happy about their voices. And, yes, the first time is usually a shock!

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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Thank you, vocal coach, for such an nice answer to my question. I guess it is a good start for the people who may not be too happy about their voices. And, yes, the first time is usually a shock!

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teaches12345 4 years ago

What an interesting hub! I am neutral on my voice, would love to have better articulation though. I enjoyed reading the different exercises on how to change your voice, nasal sounds, etc. Voted way up.

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kallini2010 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

I am sorry for the doubled comment - it was a "technical" difficulty... You can deny one of them. Thanks!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

rcrumple - Thanks so much for sharing these comments. Very helpful. I actually have used these techniques along with others that I just didn't have room to include. I'd love to hear your voice. What a treat that would be! I'm so glad you added these terrific tips. Thanks, my friend!

RealHousewife - I'll bet your low voice is very sexy :) If you want it to be higher - start by humming a middle to high tone and then turn the tone into a word like "money". Sing it high but not too high. Keep adding words like "lots of money" keeping it itched on the higher humming tone. You're so cute Kelly!

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Sally's Trove - It's great to find someone who likes their voice. Excellent! Thanks for reading this hub and for liking it. Add I love using my exercise ball to bounce on (wakes up my brain.)

Thanks for voting up and more. You're a jewel!

lisa42 - I'snt that interesting? To find out we can change our voice? Years ago, I had a teacher who made it very clear to me that I needed to add richness to my "young" voice. I did and what a difference. Thanks for being here.

kallini - Thank you so much for inspiring me to write this hub. If not for your question I might not have tried this. Even though I teach speakers to improve I never entertained the idea of writing out some of my lessons.

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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

And here I though I was the only one who hated the sound of my own voice. Very informative and I thank you for the helpful hint of recording and listening to my voice for adjusting it.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

teaches12345 - The ability to articulate each word clearly begins with forming proper mouth position for vowels and then emphasizing all consonants, supported by diaphragmatic breathing. Because you are a fine teacher yourself, learning this will come easy. Thanks so much my friend for taking time to read my hub and comment.

shiningirisheyes - Hi there! LOL - So now do you feel better about your own voice (knowing we all feel the same way? ) And if you really focus when you begin the exercises for recording your voice, the change can come quite quickly. Thanks.

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drbj 4 years ago from south Florida

You are so right, Audrey, we never really know how we sound to others. Only how we think we sound. Sometimes a world of difference exists between those two perceptions. Thank you for this extremely educational examination of the subject. I shall bookmark it and return to study it again. Wonderbar! And voted Up, m'dear.

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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

drbj - Why must you live so far away? I would love to just sit down and chat with you. I know that I have so much to learn from you. And yet with all your brilliance you still find a way to make me shine. You've been such a good friend to me these past 2 years. Stay close now.

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Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

Hi Audrey... Morning to you and found this hub to be very interesting and as well enlightening. Society has become rather lazy in regards to things like articulation. We have come to accept a much lesser standard than used to be expected when it comes to speaking and communicating. Expert writing and coaching is what we need more of...

Thanks for doing this one and I have it bookmarked.

Many Hugs from Canada

Sueswan 4 years ago

Hi Audrey,

I have heard my voice so I know it sounds different to me than it does to others. I don't hate my voice but the first time I heard it I said, "I don't sound like that." It didn't sound bad to me though.

I have been told I have a nice telephone voice.

I really enjoyed the last video.

Voted up and awesome

Hope you are doing well.

Take care :)

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tammyswallow 3 years ago from North Carolina

I had no idea we could fix our voices. I don't like my voice as much as I dislike my accent. I guess that would be a hub in itself. I have parts of my mom's Jersey accent mixed with a southern accent I have picked up in my 20 years of living in the south. Great tips here and a very interesting subject!

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Anil and Honey 3 years ago from Kerala

I love my voice,but some times especially in recording it will be bad.Thanks for sharing.

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Millionaire Tips 3 years ago from USA

I don't like to hear myself talking either. The voice is fine, but the words are too mumbled and unclear. I do need to record myself and work on improving. It would change the way I am perceived and received. Thanks for teaching us how!

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manicpanicplease 3 years ago from Canada

Interesting Hub! I've always hated hearing recordings of my voice but I've never realized how easy it is to try to fix. Loved all the details you added to this article, especially the video of the vocal chords. (Even if it was a little bit gross) Voted up, interesting, shared.

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Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

What an awesome hub, Audrey!

I love singing and have always hated my recording. gotta learn via your exercises to improve my voice. Thanks much

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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL

Oh my about my voice! I don't like it recorded. Also when I was interviewed for the local news recently I cringed listening to my squeaky sound...Haha! Thank you for the tips!!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Rolly - The most frustrating times for me are when a phone call comes in and I can't understand a word being said. Often, I have to ask for 2 or 3 repetitions. Urggggh!

And you are right about society using a more relaxed form of speech. Thank you for your comments Rolly. Hugs back!

Sueswan - I'm so glad to hear that you are ok with your recorded voice. You probably have one of those rare voices that some are born with. I love to hear a voice like that. And if others tell you that your telephone voice is nice, that is an indication that you naturally have a pleasing and well executed sound. Congratulations!

Thanks for asking about me. I am doing better each day since wearing the CPAP at night. Thanks so much!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

tammy - I'd love to hear your voice because I like to hear accents. Not sure you want to change that - it's part of who you are:) Thanks my friend.

Anil and Honey - The recording equipment can have something to do with that. Still, the recorded sound is closer to your real sound. Thanks.

Millionaire Tips - When you begin a program to work on diction, choose just one vowel at a time and study that vowel until it is automatic. That will make the rest of your diction improve that much faster. Thanks for being here!

manicpanicplease - How great to see you here! It makes a big difference in how you perceive the sound of your voice by evaluating what it is you like and don't like. Then start with a plan of action and smile as you one day "fall in love" with your true vocal sound. :)

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Ruchira - Thanks so much for liking my hub. I'm so glad you love to sing. That's great. These exercises work miracles in no time if you stick with it. Thanks for your vote and take care my friend!

Sunshine625 - Well, just remember Linda, that everyone hearing your voice liked it because they have nothing to compare it with:) Also, the listeners were paying attention to what you had to say and not to the sound of your voice! "You are my only sunshine...(singing to you.)

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Hyphenbird 3 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

What wonderful tips and exercises! Thank you. My voice is slow and has a very heavy accent. When I say "Mike" people think I am saying "Mack". I have been sitting here saying "huh" and my family is looking at me odd and asking if I am okay. lol. I shall endure though. Thanks so very much!

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ignugent17 3 years ago

Wow ! great information. I would love to try the corrections to improve my voice.

Thanks for sharing. :-)

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Oh Brenda, You've got me laughing so hard. I'm sitting here giggling myself silly as I visualize you say "huh" and your family asking if you are ok:)

Thanks for the nice comments and especially for the fun time I've had reading your comments.Hugs.

ignugent17 - Thanks for being here and for your appreciation. I hope you try the exercises. They really work well. Take care.

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livewithrichard 3 years ago from Charleston, SC

Wow, this is a lot to digest... I have been working for years on trying to change how I sound. After living in a few Southern States for about 15 years, I could never get rid of my strong Chicago accent, so I did the only thing that would make me fit in... I moved back to Chicago. I am practicing by listening to my recorded voice through video and making small improvements. I think traveling to different parts of the country helps too by observing how others speak and by participating in small interpersonal speaking groups.

Great hub and I will be back for more..

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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

I will practice this. Always hated my voice, southern and low and really gross on a recording, so embarrassing. Now that more city people move in the more I stand out, not that I ever think I can talk like New York Citians, lol.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

livewithrichard - Hi Richard. I appreciate your comments and enjoyed hearing about how traveling to different parts of the country can be helpful to those wanting to improve or correct their speaking voice. I smiled as I read your solution for dealing with your Chicago accent. Thanks so much.

Hi Jackie - I'm glad to see you! Most of us aren't happy with the way we sound. I sure had to work on my own voice at one time. And I still check it out from time to time so that I don't slip back into any bad habits. Take care and thanks so much!

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Melovy 3 years ago from UK

This is such a useful and interesting article! I have avoided listening to my own voice on recordings for most of my life because I disliked it, but my husband's iphone produces an echo and I hear myself every time I speak to him on it. I am delighted to see your instructions for curing nasal speaking, because that's how I think I sound. I will print this out so I can do your exercise every day! Thanks so much for the tips!

Voted up of course!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Melovy - Thank you so much for your wonderful comments and for sharing this with me. I'm so glad I wrote a little about being nasal. You have made my day!

Mattie Mae 3 years ago

I had no idea how many people hated hearing the sound of their own voice. You can definitely count me in on that one. Thanks for writing such an informative hub. I plan on practicing those techniques to hopefully get my speaking voice at least into a range I can stand.

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CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

This is fantastic. I have to go back and re-read it again because it simply is fascinating. I will admit though that I skipped the video on "vocal chords in action"-- I just feel gross watching it (no offense). He....he...he....

However, I did finish the other 2 videos on "speaking clearly" with my hubby and we were both following her instructions right at that instant. *giggle*

Well, this is one informative and enjoyable hub Audrey. Thumbs up all the way and certainly sharing.


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xstatic 3 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

This is outstanding information. I was lucky, but still shocked, when I heard my voice recorded, as are most people. Doing some stage acting helped and I took a great voiceover class that ended with a studio recording of commericals. It was great. I suppose no one is ever happy with his voice except maybe Carl Castle (NPR).

SandCastles 3 years ago

Good Information.

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KenWu 3 years ago from Malaysia

Great tips on correcting your voice to the tune that you love. I've heard my own voice via recording and absolutely hated it. I shall follow what you peach up there.

Voted UP and everything except 'funny'. Shared it too.

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truthfornow 3 years ago from New Orleans, LA

The first time I heard my own voice I was really shocked. It is very high pitched and sounds like a 5 year old. I don't know how other people stand it. It is definitely strange how you hear yourself speaking and sounding one way and then how the way it really sounds is totally different. Interesting to learn that I can actually do something about the way I sound.

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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

Well, I've never really had a problem with my speaking voice. It is a bit deeper than I would like but I once had a teacher tell me I could get a job with a 900 number because my voice is sexy on the phone. I guess a lot of it is the other person's perception as well as your own.

This is a great hub with so much useful information. How wonderful that we have our own 'vocal coach' right here in Hubville!

Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Mattie Mae -

Thanks so much for sharing your comments Mattie. Yes, it's pretty amazing how many folks really dislike the sound of their voice The sound is something we all need to get used to. Take care.

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LongTimeMother 3 years ago from Australia

My eldest daughter, in her mid-30s, has a child-like voice. She questions whether the hospital gave me the wrong baby because the rest of the family including her younger sisters have quite deep speaking voices.

She has tried in the past to lower her tone, but I will direct her towards your hub. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

Voted up and awesome and very useful!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hello Cris Sp - Gee, thanks so much for the great comments and all. And I totally understand how you could get grossed. out by the video on the vocal cords in action. Really appreciate the thumbs up and sharing!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hello xstatic - Both stage acting and voice recording classes, etc. are quite helpful for preparing a person to accept

the vocal sound. You look like you could be a well-trained actor for the stage! Really appreciate your comments.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

SandCastles - Thanks for being here and finding my hub informative!

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KenWa - Thanks so much for finding my hub useful. In time you will come to appreciate your vocal sound. It is wonderfully unique!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

truthfornow - Most all women have a high pitch sound and it is shocking to hear it. By speaking in a lower pitch and practicing, your speaking voice will lower and sound richer in texture. Thanks so much for commenting.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

tillsontitan - Ah...thank you Mary.900 number eh? Gee- I've never been told that :) I sure appreciate the votes and for sharing.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hello LongTimeMother - I love your comments. I know your daughter has the ability to lower her speaking voice with a little help from my hub. And I will gladly help her if she is interested. Thanks so much for your comments and the votes.

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LongTimeMother 3 years ago from Australia

Thank you for your kindness, vocalcoach. :)

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MJennifer 3 years ago from Arizona

This hub really resonated with me. I dislike my own voice so much that I rarely leave voicemail messages for people, and I won't watch the clips when I've been interviewed on TV or have been a featured speaker at various events. Others find my voice "soothing." I find it too weak and boring. Surprisingly, I'm an effective public speaker -- go figure. I've always been thankful to be at the podium rather than having to listen to my own voice from the audience.

I am very relieved to find that I'm at least normal in my own dislike for my voice! I will put your exercises to good use. Thank you for this helpful article!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

MJennifer - Hi. What is it that you specifically don't like about your voice? Perhaps it's simply a case of "getting used" to the sound. Let me know by email if you would like my help. If others find your voice "soothing", that is certainly an indication that you sound wonderful to everyone but yourself :)

Thanks for your comments!

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MJennifer 3 years ago from Arizona

Hi, Vocalcoach,

I feel my voice doesn't have any "strength" to it, as well as being a tad monotone. To combat that, prior to my speaking engagements I used to practice my speeches to my dogs. If I varied my voice enough it would have them tilting their heads and staying engaged. It was good practice and dogs are honest in their feedback -- they were interested only in the sound, rather than the substance. If I try to add more volume to my voice, it cracks. Worst of all, I can't sing worth a darn! Thanks again. You've done such a terrific job articulating so many useful points.

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Nicole S 3 years ago from Minnesota

Interesting lens! I enjoyed your use of videos as well here!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Nicole - Thanks so much. Appreciate your visit!

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RonElFran 3 years ago from Mechanicsburg, PA

I don't particularly like the way I sound to myself, but as a minister I have the advantage that my voice is recorded every week. I remember when I first started, and was pleasantly surprised by what I heard on tape. So, maybe a lot of people actually sound to others better than they think. Thanks for an informative hub.

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Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

I think most people are surprised by the sound of their own voices, and they often don't like how it sounds. I've never thought about trying to change it. This hub is brilliant! Many votes!

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smcopywrite 3 years ago from all over the web

this is an interesting subject matter and well written. thanks for providing some useful info for a common issue many of us have. thanks again

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Victoria - Thanks for being here and sharing your thoughts. Ones voice is so closely related to the self-esteem. If we can simply accept our vocal sound and focus on the beauty and uniqueness we then are on the right track. Appreciate the votes.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

smcopywrite - I appreciate your comments and thank you for finding my hub useful. Enjoy your day!

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Kevin Peter 3 years ago from Global Citizen

I always felt that I had a bad voice. But after reading your hub I have started feeling that it was not true. I recorded my voice and when I listened to it I was greatly shocked. My sound though not so perfect, its OK. Thanks a lot for this informative hub.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Kevin - I'm thrilled that the information I've give here has lead you to this success. I congratulate you on your efforts and thank you for your trust. When you have time, check out more of my topics on singing. Thanks!

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Aplethora23 3 years ago from North Cali

Very interesting read. I have never read anything like this before. Thank you for posting this. :)

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FullOfLoveSites 3 years ago from United States

Yes, I can't hear my true voice until I tested myself from recording it on my own cellphone and then listened to it. Yep, it was a bit bad... it sounded thready. In speaking and worse in singing. LOL.

Thanks for your simple steps... I will try this and see what happens. Up and useful. :)

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Hezekiah 3 years ago from Japan

Interesting Hub. Because I do music recording a lot (not signing) I do a lot of microphone tests. Listening to your voice does improve your confidence in how you sound and the delivery of your speech.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

FullOfLoveSites - Thanks so much for reading my hub and leaving such insiteful comments. These steps outlined in the content will definitely help. I'm coming over to visit you now :)

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hezekiah - Hello. Thank you for confirming how listening to your voice improves your confidence in how you sound. Appreciate that so much! I am on my way over to check out your hubs now.

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KenDeanAgudo 3 years ago from Tiwi, Philippines

hahaha no comment with my voice right now

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

KenDeanAgudo - Well, that is a comment in itself! :) Thanks Ken for being here and enjoy your day!

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RachaelLefler 3 years ago from Illinois

About 5 years ago I did some youtube monologue videos. I didn't like my voice. I didn't like how dull and slow I sounded, and how much I used filler words like "um" too much. Speaking has always seemed tough for me, but you can learn singing lessons if you know anything about singing and apply that to the breath control necessary for a good voice. I also just try to think of someone who's voice I like and try to copy them.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

RachaelLefler - Thank you for being here. I enjoy your comments and hope to see you again very soon. Enjoy your day!

auguscool 3 years ago

wow its really a tremendous page.My passion is singing.But actually I am not a confident person in my voice.This hub really help me to increase my confidence level.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

auguscool - Very good to hear that my hub has helped you with your confidence. Keep singing and just enjoy it. Do not judge your voice. Singing is your birthright and your voice has it's own quality and dimension. Live your passion each day. Let your heart rule - not your head. Thanks and Sing with Joy ~ Audrey

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Maggie Bennett 3 years ago from New York

Excellent advice here! I am a professional speaker and I have recently had some extreme dental work that is causing me some vocal problems. Your bub was a God send. I savored every bit of it.

Voted up and useful and interesting! I will be perusing all your hubs.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Maggie - You made my day! And as for dental work - oh yes, it can be the cause of vocal problems for sure. I'm elated to hear that my hub came at a good time for you.

Thank you for the vote and more. I'll be looking forward to seeing you again soon. Take good care of yourself. ( I did a healing meditation for you after reading your hub on Ticks. ) Beautiful blessings coming your way ~ Audrey

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skin-care-natural 3 years ago from USA, East Coast

I've actually read books about this before because I dislike my voice so much. Your tips are very actionable which is great!

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

skin-care-natural ~ Thanks so much for being here. I hope you continue to sing.

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AnnaStevens1552 3 years ago from USA

I think that the tips and guide which you have provided is really enough for anyone to clarify his/her vocals. It will be a great help for the people who want to speak more clear and want to attract people with the help of their speech.

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WillStarr 3 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

Excellent! How did I miss this one? Voted up and bookmarked!

pragya 3 years ago

i really hate my voice!..:(

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

AnnaStevens1552 - Thanks so much for your comments. Nice to see you here. I will visit you soon and look forward to your hubs.

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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi WillStarr - How are you? So glad to see you and absolutely thrilled with your comments. Take care, my friend - Audrey

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pragya - What is it you don't like and have you thought about taking some lessons from a qualified vocal coach? Thanks for visiting.

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fpherj48 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

I liked this hub so much...guess what? I read it all over again and recorded the entire thing in my own voice! LOL......I don't mind my own voice so much, but I notice that it "cracks" once in a while.......also, when I'm on the phone, trying to get a point across without being interrupted...I notice my voice kind of shakes. I'm actually aware of these things, so it seems I should be able to conquer them...right, VOCAL COACH??

I hope so...... I always wanted a raspy sexy voice.....but it's too damned late to wish for that now! Wouldn't impress s single soul. Hmmmmm wait a minute! I could embark on a part-time career from home in my retirement. I could be a voice for the 1-900 calls!

Nah.....never mind. I really don't want a job, but it's obvious I need a hobby of some kind!

Thanks for this wonderful LESSON. I'm really going to work on it, Audrey! UP+++

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DzyMsLizzy 2 years ago from Oakley, CA

WOW! Most interesting, indeed! Bookmarked for reference.

I have never liked my voice, like many, as you point out.

HOWever, at age 65, I'm not sure there's much that can be done at this late stage of the game.

I know when I took vocal lessons for a short time, the teacher had me lie on my back to get the 'belly breath,' because she said it's nearly impossible to do shallow breathing in that position.

But, I still am doing something wrong, because I can rarely sing without being interrupted by yawning in the middle. (Same thing happens when I read things out loud--so my kids got kind of gypped on story time.)

And I have had people tell me I have a "very unique voice" ... that's rather non-committal, I think...LOL ... my hubby thinks I have a bit of a Lauren Bacall tone...and no, I've never been asked on the phone if my mommy was home, but I have been addressed as "Sir!!" I feel I belong in the tenor section...anything with much range above "A in the octave starting with middle C" (I don't know the pitch frequency numbers....)...I cannot match without dropping an octave. This results in a rather awkward switching of octaves in any piece with a large no, I don't sing in public. LOL

Voted up ++

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Aplethora23 ~ So nice to see you here. Thank you for sharing your appreciation for this article.

skin-care-natural - Thank you so much!'

Oninz 2 years ago

Thanks to you vocalcoach!, i find it very helpful,i,m so excited to try all of the excercises you mention above.

Im working as a Customer service reps. For about more than 3 years now. At first people says that i do have a good voice over the phone. But lately i've notice that other customers having hardtime understanding me, so i decided to listen on my recordings and im shocked! like what the hell, it wasn't me! my tone of voice was really really bad.

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hello Oninz - I'm happy to hear that my article has helped to improve your voice. It's always a shock when we hear our recorded voice for the first time. I invite you to check out some of my other articles on the voice. I'm here to help you.

Thank you ~ Audrey

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

fpherj48 - Hello great lady. Recording your voice is a brave step to take. Yeaaaaah! I still hate my speaking voice. (Thank goodness for studio sound effects.) When that sexy voice of your cracks, tension is the cause. Think of Marilyn Monroe and her soft, breathy voice. No tension there. Try speaking in a lower tone which will place your voice in the chest resonator. Cracking will vanish.

Now, to keep the voice from shaking, take a full breath before speaking each phrase. Sound 'rides' on air. If you lack air, you lack control when speaking. If this doesn't work, go ahead and apply for that 911 job (they'll teach you plenty) :)

You can always check out my CD on singing. The lessons are about the same for speaking. I'm hear to help ~ Thanks.

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

DzyMsLizzy - You remind me of one of my favorite vocal students, Corrine. Most of her songs had to be transposed to a lower key. She, too, had a Lauren Bacall voice. You made me laugh at being addressed as 'sir' on the phone. I'm not giving up on you, my dear. Sing!

And in any choir that's worth their salt, they would kill to find a woman bass. How popular you would be.

Have I convinced you yet? I don't give up easily, if at all. And you don't need to drop an octave when you sing a song. The song can be written in your key to suite your fantastic voice!

So lovely to see you here. And thanks for the votes.

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susi10 2 years ago from The British Isles, Europe

This was a very useful hub, Audrey! I absolutely hate my voice, it produces a nasal sound which is so annoying. I recorded myself speaking once and I swore to never speak again after what I heard. It might not actually be that bad, I suppose it is all in our nature to not like what we here. I might try the yawning technique to reduce the nasality of my voice.

I enjoyed reading this, it contains so many helpful tips! Voted up +++, sharing and interesting.

Faye 2 years ago

My talking voice is so-so; it is my singing voice that is flat and terrible....I can't sing. If only I have a halfway decent singing voice so I could join the church choir, sing solo, all without feeling embarrassed and ashamed.

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

susi10 - I'm so very glad you liked my hub. The yawning lifts the soft palate and this is how the nasal sound is removed. Very happy that you are doing this. Thanks so much. Appreciate the vote, rating and for sharing. Happiness to you ~ Audrey

Faye - If you go to CD Baby and type in "Anyone Can Sing" you can either download my singing lessons or purchase the CD. You CAN sing, Faye. And however you sound, your singing can be improved so that you can sing in the choir. Thanks - Audrey

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momsdoworkathome 2 years ago from Michigan

I have a question. My voice was hoarse while going through a terrible virus last winter. I tried to continue singing through it and noticed after singing I could only speak in a whisper. I battled with not speaking for two months. I sought after doctors and they told me that it was a virus and my voice would return soon. It took two months to get some of kind of voice back. Now I am unable to sing. My pitch goes off in another direction. I used to be a soprano, now my voice can barely reach a high tenor when singing. I am so frustrated because I enjoy singing so much. I enjoy singing to my children. My son hates to hear my voice now. What should I do? Have you ever heard of this problem? Thank you for your feedback.

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

So sorry to hear this. You must be terribly frustrated. If you have insurance, I suggest seeing an otolaryngologist. Obviously the vocal bands have suffered some damage. When a virus is present the vocal cords become inflamed and it can take a long time for them to heal. Absolutely no singing or whispering should be done during this time. I recommend humming only. The vibrations from humming are confined to the mask and lip area and can do no further damage.

I also recommend steam. Inhaling steam either from a hot shower or a pot of hot water is hydrating and can help to heal the swelling in the vocal cords.

I have helped singers with this problem for years. Believe it or not, its more common than you think. Limit your talking as much as you can. Increasing your air when you inhale, from the diaphragm is a must when you return to singing again.

I hope I have been of help. Please let me know how it all goes. I would like to be informed. My best to you.


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ajwrites57 2 years ago from Pennsylvania

Great tips! Thanks vocalcoach! Voted and shared!

Looking forward to trying them!

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momsdoworkathome 2 years ago from Michigan

Oh gosh. I am always talking. Wow. I have to communicate, and I am always yelling up the stairs, down the hall, or whatever. Ok, I must change some things and definitely I will see otolaryngologist.

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Yelling alone will damage your vocal cords. Be a good girl and "tone it down." :)

Thanks ajwrites57. By the way, we have the same initials. Audrey June here. What is yours? Appreciate the vote and sharing.

Carl 2 years ago

Interesting! I hate my voice more than anything else. But not only when recorded. I think it sounds terrible even when I speak directly. The problem with my voice is that it's so quiet and weak and it sounds like I cry when I speak. I have often been made fun of because of the way I speak and told to "speak up". The problem is that I can NOT speak up. Even when I shout at the top of my lungs it doesn't sound that loud. When I try to raise the volume of my voice I just sound angry. My voice is also monotone. Even when I try to add more melody and expression to it it still sounds monotone and boring. I have recorded myself speaking trying to speak in different ways, in different pitches, with different intonation and breathing but without any positive results. I hate my voice so much that I have stopped talking voluntarily. The only times I say something is when someone asks questions.

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SRPowell 2 years ago from USA

Wow, I had no idea there were actual ways to fix things I don't like about my voice. Thank you for this hub. I want to try these exercises and see the differences take shape.

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

SRPowell - I'm so glad to see you here. You absolutely can change the sound of your voice. In fact, I'm working on a hub now that I think will be most useful for helping you. You have an excellent attitude!

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vocalcoach 2 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Carl - Learn to love yourself first and then you will accept and like your voice. You have allowed others to dictate to you how you should hate your voice. Get new friends! Thanks, vocalcoach

Gina 2 years ago

Honestly...I love myself and accepted my voice and for so long I've gotten so angry and couldn't understand why no one respects me no matter how respectful and genuinely caring I am..I've heard my voice before and have had the proof but until now I guess I've just been unwilling to accept that to other people I sound like I'm a 5 year old girl...On the phone today I got a call from an education recruiter because I had looked up college information to get a grasp of what I can expect when I get my GED . I told him I was just looking into it and not ready since I don't have my GED and he asked "So are you still working towards your high school diploma?" and I chuckled and said "I'm way too old to still be able to get my HS diploma" I wished him well and said goodbye as he awkwardly muttered a few words and hung up. Then the woman today, sounded in her 20's mind you, Who I needed to talk to about an insurance issue calls. As soon as I answer the phone she is snapping at me "Are you on speaker phone?! Are you on a mobile phone?! Could you PLEASE turn your phone volume up I CAN'T HEAR YOU." I then proceed to tell her it's a land line, not on speaker and that it is currently on it's loudest possible volume setting and she snaps "Well I'll just have to try to see if I can understand you." I apologized and explained that I have an extremely soft voice. Sorry for my rant I really appreciate your hub you don't know how much I need it! And don't even get me started on people asking if there is and adult they can talk to.."Is there someone over the age of 18 we can talk to" Me: "Yeah." - ....1-2.5 minutes of silence until they realize it..XD!! The fact that I look young for my age doesn't help matters...I'm 27....Still have a voice that sounds like I'm 5...

Anonymous 24 months ago

I hate my voice so much, even the one which I hear, that I stop midway while speaking something after hearing myself. I can't speak fluidly for more than 1-2 sentences.

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RachaelOhalloran 23 months ago from United States

Hi Audrey, I will admit that I used to hate the sound of my voice, along with my New York/Philly/Newark New Jersey accent. LOL. But, I haven't heard my voice since 1977. I am totally deaf in one ear and more than 50% deaf in the other. At age 30, I was attacked on my way to work one night and my attacker perforated my eardrums with an ice pick, among other injuries which I won't go into here. However, he did nothing to my throat so one would think that my voice shouldn't have been affected. But from fright my voice managed to go to a very low register, some said it was even a flat monotone.

I was given hearing aids which did nothing in the "aid" department. I have had numerous surgeries trying to restore but the last one 4 years ago was a botch so that I lost more hearing in the good ear.

In the 1980s, a funny thing happened. My voice changed - so I am told - from a rather low pitch to a fairly high pitch. When they were growing up, my children would tell me that I was screeching at them when I thought I was speaking normally. I refused to learn sign language because I'm stubborn and at the same time, want people to treat me like they treat everyone else. So I studied to become an excellent lip reader, so that I can even read the words people try to hide behind their hand or with the tilt of their head. lol My only concession is the TTY for the phone so I can communicate with my family members.

In the car, (but not in the house), I can feel the beat of music and often sing my own words to the beat I feel and my kids would tell me I got the words all wrong. Of course I did, I couldn't hear the words! But it was enjoyable to a degree. Actually, one of my exercises right after the attack was to sing. If I sang Mary Had A Little Lamb one more time, it would be the death of me. Every day for more than a year, I had to sing it more than 20 times, over and over to strengthen my voice and exercise my middle ear, trying to get the one eardrum to vibrate.

It's been 37 years and in the last 5 years, my voice has gone from a high pitch back to a low register again but doctors tell me that it's the progression of my Sjogren's Disease which is affecting my voice along with incredibly dry eyes, a typical symptom. It's funny, I can hear and feel the vibration of my voice inside my head and I get frustrated when someone says "what did you say?" I figure if I can feel the vibration strongly, they should be able to hear me! I have learned over the years the difference between actual voice and vibration, which are two different things. The vibration you hear in your head when you hum is similar to what I hear when I speak. If I whisper, I feel nothing. If I whistle, it is similar to what you know as ringing in your ears. I've been to the top specialists in the country and there is nothing to do to restore hearing, but if I keep my voice in a low register, I can salvage what little hearing I have left. Your exercises were interesting to me - I tried a few of them and that is how I was able to write here about what it feels like. I even called my husband into the room to look it over because some of the exercises were familiar to me, but I couldn't put my finger on the memory. He was able to remember them from a time when I couldn't quite remember going from doctor to doctor with all their remedies. I enjoyed reading this article. Voted up, interesting and useful.

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vocalcoach 23 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Thank you for sharing your story. Many women never use the chest voice and should. This area enriches the sound of the voice. vocalcoach


Working with a vocal coach will help you develop a speaking sound that will please you. Give it a try. Thanks. vocalcoach


Oh, Rachael, I'm so very sorry to hear about your attack and the damage on your ears. How good it is to find that you enjoyed this article. My background in helping develop voices includes working with the deaf. I understand your past frustrations. Thank you and sending you happy thoughts. Audrey

Andy 23 months ago

I like this article, but I just want to point out a small error.

" The male vocal folds are approximately 0.75" to .75" in length, while the female's are approximately 0.5" to.75" in length."

In math, 0.75 = .75

so 0.75 is the same as .75 because the zero in front does not count as a significant figure, so it's optional. I assume you were trying to say, 0.075 to .75

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vocalcoach 23 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Thank you for liking my article. Also, thanks for pointing out the error. I've never done well in math. :)

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Jason Faith 23 months ago from Grand Rapids MN

ty very interesting

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vocalcoach 23 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Jason Faith

Hello. So nice to see you here. Thanks for finding my article interesting. Please visit my other hubs on singing. Take care Jason. vocalcoach

Mindy 21 months ago

I hate how I sound because Im nervous and I keep saying phrases like "you know" ,like and other words that are so not classy. How can I remember not to say that stuff??

Thanks so much!!

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DzyMsLizzy 21 months ago from Oakley, CA

Stopping back by to ask another question about a 'weird' problem I suffer.

I notice that any time I am in any large building that has a central air filtration/A/C/heating unit, it is less than about 15 minutes before I sort of "lose my voice," start to sound hoarse, and my volume drops.

I have had this happen a LOT, because it definitely happens in hospitals (where I sadly spend quit a bit of time when my husband has an incident--especially in the ER, where they tend to keep it COLD).

It also happens when I am trying to speak to the council members at meetings at city hall.

(Our city hall is not huge, but this is a new problem there, since they built that building, and stopped having meetings in a small school library.)

It makes my voice weak, and crack, and sound lacking in confidence, but intent, actual confidence and knowing correct techniques does not help in these situations. It seems to be a purely physical reaction based on the mechanicals in the building.


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vocalcoach 21 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Thanks for being here. To answer your question:

1. Every time you catch yourself using a filler word, stop and repeat the phrase out loud without the filler word.

You've simply developed a bad habit and it can be corrected. I hope this tip helps.

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vocalcoach 21 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Air conditioning and heating systems can cause many vocal problems. With air conditioning it tends to make anyone with allergies just miserable.

It also alters the humidity level of the room which can cause all kinds of problems with the voice.

I advise singers and speakers to drink extra amounts of water. I'm sorry you have to experience these maddening symptoms Liz.

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Au fait 20 months ago from North Texas

You have a lot of information here and this is a great resource for people who want to make their voice more pleasant.

I remember when I first heard my voice on a recording as a kid. I couldn't believe it was me, and I hated it as you suggested. My adult voice is different and it's more different on the phone or when a mic is involved. My mother's voice was the same way. She didn't sound like herself on the phone at all.

It's so good of you to write this article to help people who want to modify their voices and sound more sophisticated and professional. Voting this up.

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Au fait 20 months ago from North Texas

Sorry, I got distracted at the end. Voting this up, useful, interesting, and awesome. Also sharing with followers and pinning to Awesome Hubpages.

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Tamirogers 20 months ago from Seattle, Washington

Yes! I love this sister has a really nasal voice that she hates and I am sending this to do you pin to awesome Hubpages? not sure what that is..can you explain? Voted up and useful!

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AudreyHowitt 20 months ago from California

Amen! I record all my practices these days--I note what I hear and then make a couple of changes--then do it all over again---I was surprised by just how much sound a make--it just feels normal to me, buts when everything is well balanced, it is a lot of sound--Great hub Audrey!

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peoplepower73 20 months ago from Placentia California

Hi Audrey: I belong to a toastmasters club that has a lot of ESL members. I know exactly what the lady in the videos is explaining because I see and hear it at almost every meeting. If you don't mind, I'm going to share this with my club members. By the way, if you didn't already know, toastmasters is an international organization that teaches people how to overcome their fear of public up, sharing and very useful.

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DzyMsLizzy 20 months ago from Oakley, CA

It's me again! LOL I just re-read the article, and it occurred to me that the "sluggish articulation" issue might be helped by practicing the recitation of one of the Gilbert and Sullivan "patter songs." ;-)

"I am the very model of a modern major general..." etc.. hee hee hee

Dennis 20 months ago

Hi Audrey, first of all: i really liked your hub! But I have a question: if i'm gonna record my voice and listen to it, am i really fixing my voice or am i just getting used to my voice?

megan 19 months ago

My comment how can i make my voice sound like taylor swift but different when i preform i want to let everyone know that my vioce is bettwr then theres

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vocalcoach 19 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Au fait - Your comments are marvelous! Thanks for being here and adding your own thoughts. I appreciate it. And how kind of you to share my hub with others. Thanks too for the great votes!

Tamirogers - A nasal sounding voice occurs when the soft palate (back of the throat) is not raised. The sound becomes trapped in the nose.

Not sure about your pin question on hubpages. Can you clarify please? Thanks.

Hi Audrey - Recording our own voice is a valuable tool. I love your comments which will be helpful to other singers. Thanks so much!

peoplepower73 - What are ESL members? I love Toastmasters and have done a fair amount of presentations for them. Excellent organization! They help so many speakers overcome their fear of speaking publicly. Thanks for your comments and votes. Audrey

DzyMzLizzy - Oh yes, Gilbert and Sullivan can wake up any lazy tongue with their songs. Thanks my friend!

Dennis - You're actually doing both. As you get used to your vocal sound you can begin to improve on it.

megan - Instead of your goal being to show others that your voice is better than theirs, concentrate on your own vocal technique and style.

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Jeannieinabottle 17 months ago from Baltimore, MD

I am not a big fan of my voice. Maybe I need to work on it. I think I sound too nasal. Perhaps if I practice enough I will have a better singing voice, too, which has always been one of my goals. Thanks for sharing these tips!

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vocalcoach 17 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Jeannie - To fix a nasal sound you must learn how to open the back of your throat while singing. You will actually be lifting the soft palate just like a yawn. Begin by yawning several times to feel the lift of the soft palate (the moon shaped part in the back of the throat.) While in the yawn - allow your tone to execute. This takes a lot of practice and time but it will cause you to sing without the nasal sound.

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Jeannieinabottle 17 months ago from Baltimore, MD

Thank you! I will give it a try. :-)

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Kristen Howe 16 months ago from Northeast Ohio

Great hub Audrey. I never liked to hear my voice on the answering machine or to sing period. Great tips. Voted up!

MT 16 months ago

I'll try those all exercises. When I first heard my first recordings, I thought like "Oh,sh, what the hell is wrong with my iphone recordings! My voice is not that awkward although I know myself that my voice is deep." After hearing my recordings, I can see that it's understandable why my friends make fun of my deep deep voice.

*English is my second language. I always try not to talk loudly especially in school presentations as I worry my voice would be over powering for them. But my teacher gave feedback that my volume is low during presentation.

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vocalcoach 16 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Kristen - Sorry for my late reply. Been recovering from knee surgery. Thanks so much for reading my hub and leaving your comments. My best to you.


I enjoyed your comments very much. Thank you for being here and sharing your experiences. Sing with joy!


Naz 14 months ago

can and body please recommend a DVD or books that helps to change ones voice . and what is the right person/profession to go to teach me as all what i found they are for singing.

thank you

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vocalcoach 14 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Naz - Send me an email at and I will be happy to answer your questions. I can help you. Thanks fo reading my hub and glad to see you here.


lordgandalf 13 months ago

Im going to try out some of these tips. I recorded my voice for streaming/videos on the internet an i sound like a squeeky boy while for me it sounds a lot lower and more manly so yeah going to work on that

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vocalcoach 13 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

If you use more of your chest voice you won't sound like a squeaky boy. I'm glad you're going to try some of my tips and thanks lordgandalf for being here.


Mark 13 months ago

I work in a call center. When I play my voice back to myself, it makes me depressed. Oh well, there's little I can do...

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vocalcoach 13 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Mark - Actually there is something you can do. Send me a 'clip' of your voice using your computer and I'll help you fix the problem. It's also important that you "get used to" hearing your voice no matter what. Try not to be judgmental - just listen over and over again.

Fiona 12 months ago

I am a transgender person and I have changed from male to female and I would like to know how to get a higher pitch to my voice please.

Thanking you,


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vocalcoach 11 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Hi Fiona - Surgery is one way and works well. A more feminine voice sounds smaller, softer, lighter, and more expressive, while a more masculine voice sounds bigger, heavier, and more matter-of-fact. Another possibility is to sing using your falsetto voice. Then gradually merge from singing to speaking.

I highly recommend a good vocal coach who specializes in this practice. Be very careful that you avoid any strain or damage to the vocal folds.

Good luck.


jarette 9 months ago

i always record my voice. My friends said that my voice is so high. sounds Like a kid. But for me, it doesnt. That's why i hate speaking so loudly in front of some people because they will say that i sounds like a cockcroach. Please help m with my problem.

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RTalloni 9 months ago from the short journey

So interesting. Have definitely been surprised at recordings of my own voice and agree that bad habits such as you mention are the problem when I am not being careful. Being careful is a lot of work! However, the fix you discuss solves that related problem so thanks for insight into solving it.

Have been thinking about this issue in the context of older people, noting to self that I want to be careful not to allow my good diction to deteriorate.

Voice quality and diction can be worked on even in later years. Helping seniors in this area could be a great service/business because many do not want to let either slide.

I'm seeing it as different than speech therapists' work in nursing homes because boomers are living longer and living well. They are even starting businesses, working as mentors, and involved in other activities that require important interaction with people.

They would be interested in learning about how to maintain/improve their speech that can begin sliding with age (for any number of reasons) if we are not paying attention. Continuing to be able to influence people with their voice quality could be very important to them.

balbirsingh1976 8 months ago

Amazing! Your in depth knowledge of vocals is amazing. For the last couple of years I was searching for a person who could understand my vocal problems minutely and I think I have found it.

I am a singer from India and trained in Indian Classical Vocal, but I feel there was abuse of voice along with wrong way of practice and other reasons for which I had to face vocal problems. A lot have improved, but still I have some issues. I would like to discuss with you.

Could you let me how should I send you details?

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vocalcoach 6 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Well I've never heard a cockroach sing. In order for me to help you I first must identify what the problem may be by hearing you sing. You can contact me for more information.

But I would like to say: Sing for your own enjoyment. Avoid listening to the remarks from friends. If you like your sound...that's really all that matters.


Sing with joy!


Andramax 5 months ago

Thanks really much for the advice!I really appreciate that,especially that I hated my boice so much and i was discriminated because of it

Arunav 5 months ago

This helped me change my voice so freaking much! I used to sound like a drunk person, sloppy and slow with my words, nasal type voice. I always thought that my voice sounded good, because, I didn't record it... this helped me change and perfect my voice to such a great extent! Thanks mate! Big up !!

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vocalcoach 5 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


You're just the person I write these types of articles for. Never let anyone 'bring you down - especially when you sing." Love your voice by accepting it and ignore others who say negative things to you. It's funny but once you accept your singing and sing with confidence others will accept it too. Thanks for reading my article. When you have time read some of my other suggestions about singing. Take care.



Thanks for being here and sharing your thoughts with me. I'm so happy to hear how much this helped you. Good for you for following my suggestion to record your voice. It really does help. I'm so grateful for your comments. You've given me an excellent rating and made my day!

Hope to see you again.


KOOLADE52 3 months ago

Ia just hate my vois becaus it sond s difrent from what i expect but its not bad

Amby 2 months ago

am in that category of people who don't like their voices. I have this app that records every call that I make. there was a time when I wanted to listen to one of the calls I made to this lady who I was hitting on. at first I was so shocked and thought that maybe someone had used my phone to call her, coz the sound in the recording, 'my voice' was so soft, less confident and to me, it was like I wanted to cry in the next word. I'll try this tutorial, or I'll stop talking to girls.

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vocalcoach 2 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Oh, come on now don't want to stop talking to girls. It's relatively easy to change the tone of your voice. Some options are:

Work with a private vocal coach

Take Acting lessons

Find someone who will even donate some time to helping you change the sound of your voice.

But, gee, don't stop talking to girls.

Thanks for being here.


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vocalcoach 2 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Don't hate your voice...use it, embrace it and enjoy singing. We all feel disappointed the first time we hear our voice. It's normal. You can always change your voice with the help of a good vocal coach. Thanks.

Hoarsevoice 8 weeks ago

Hi Audrey,

I was born with a congenital sulcus, wherein the voice flaps don't come together when I talk,

thus leaving a gap which creates hoarseness. Any suggestion as to how I can address that.

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vocalcoach 8 weeks ago from Nashville Tn. Author


The goal in managing this problem is to improve the glottic efficiency, reduce strain to the vocal folds, and improvement in the overall voice quality.

Use proper vocal technique - especially when it comes to controlling your air. Because the sound of your voice 'rides' on air you want to make sure your breathing is absolutely correct.

Also, you may want to look into some speech therapy. Be sure to rest your voice as much as you can and avoid all shouting!

I've also heard about collagen injections helping but be sure to check with your surgeon about this.

Feel free to email me for further help.

I wish you every success,


Dream on 7 weeks ago

I read your hub and found so many things you said true and funny at the same time. My voice always sounds high pitched and much different than I hear. I use to joke and say I am going through puberty at 20, 30,40, 50 . Friends just look at me funny. I thought like so many other people the voice we have we are born with and there is no changing that. A kind of luck of the draw. How wrong was I and so many other people. Thank you for a wonderful and interesting hub. Now the hard part is will I take any steps to make it better. Recently I told you how I took up whistling and I am learning to when I never could.

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cam8510 6 weeks ago from Columbus, Georgia until the end of November 2016.

Congratulations, Audrey, for having your hub chosen as a Hubbie Award winner.

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mckbirdbks 6 weeks ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

Hello Audrey, can you hear me singing Congratulations to you. Best Hub on Spinditty: This is very much deserved.

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bravewarrior 6 weeks ago from Central Florida

Audrey, when I was in broadcasting school one of the first things we were taught was how to breathe. Basically, we had to re-learn how to breathe in order to speak in our radio voices. After a while it became habit to breathe from the diaphragm as we recorded or were on air.

The first time I heard my recorded voice I couldn't believe it was me. I don't sound like that! Now I know why.

Excellent article, Audrey and congratulations on your 2016 Hubbie Award!

Faith Reaper 6 weeks ago

Congratulations, Dear Audrey, on winning a well-deserved Hubbie Award for this wonderful hub! This hub is certainly a winner, as are you!

Hugs and blessings

MsDora 6 weeks ago

Congratulations on your Best Hub on Spinditty Award. Best to you, going forward!

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marcoujor 6 weeks ago from Jeffersonville PA

Happy to see this wonderful post won a Hubbie award, dear Audrey - congratulations to you....!

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vocalcoach 6 weeks ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Dream on

I think you have a secret desire to sing...really sing. You haven't said as much, but I'm pretty good at reading between the lines - especially when it comes to singing. So with that said, just let me know and I will comp you some lessons.

Very glad you've read my article and thanks.

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vocalcoach 6 weeks ago from Nashville Tn. Author


How very nice of you to come by and congratulate me! Thank you very much.



Hi Mike. I hear you singing and you sound great! Your congratulations echoes clear across the USA - from California to Tennessee. Thanks dear one.



Hi Sha. As you've experienced the correct breathing process you know that it takes time to re-learn how to breathe. But what a great accomplishment! Not only does the speaking and singing voice sound better, diaphragmatic breathing provides us with a healthier body including the brain.

Thank you for recognizing my hubbie award and may I congratulate you as well on your award. Nice going!

Kushagra S 6 weeks ago

hey Audrey,

as you'd have understood why i'm here, i've got a really disgusting voice and that sucks to me,i'm 16 and male, i really wanna sing but my voice is the biggest obstacle, i also tried some free online singing classes but they didn't helped even a little, also my voice can define my future, so its a humble request to you that please tell me source i can contact you with, please help me, and i hope you will.

warmest regards.


PS: I can't pay fee.

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ChitrangadaSharan 6 weeks ago from New Delhi, India

Congratulations for the Hubbie award for this excellent hub!

I appreciated it earlier and appreciate it again. So happy to see you win . Enjoy your award and have a blessed day!

Paula 6 weeks ago

Hip Hip Hurray!! CONGRATULATIONS AUDREY!! Way to go!

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vocalcoach 6 weeks ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Faith Reaper

Your comments are always guaranteed to put a big 'ol smile on my face! Thank you dear friend. You're a winner too!




Thank you so much my friend! I appreciate you taking the time to read my hub.

Have a great day,


Dream On 6 weeks ago

I am more excited about your comment than your hub. Now I find that hard to believe. I have been trying to just practice some of the videos on your hub and see if it is just a passing phase. I am having fun right now just articulating and learning. Thank you for such a wonderful and generous offer. I never want to waste anyone's precious time so I have to see where my thoughts take me. I must say doing even a little makes me feel good. A different kind of good.The same feeling when I write something I appreciate and like even if the world doesn't see it. I will message you a little more if you don't mind. I just want to thank you for your kindness and your friendship. You have so many hubs it takes me awhile to read. Thanks so much for sharing and caring. Wishing the best night where everything just goes right.

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vocalcoach 4 weeks ago from Nashville Tn. Author


Oh, thank you my dear friend. I'm so happy to win this award. It means so much to me. I sure appreciate you and the many years of support and friendship you've brought to me. How blessed I am!




If you go to my bio you will find a link to my email. Thank you for your comments.


Thank you my friend. I also congratulate you on your award! It's so very nice to be honored and appreciated for one's work.

Blessings to you,


Hi Paula

How wonderful to see you here. A big thanks for your support and taking the time to read my hub!

Dream On

It's important to enjoy practicing whenever we learn something new. I love a challenge. And although I'm a professional pianist and do well with my repertoire I continue to work on the most difficult Chopin, Beethoven and Bach to keep my brain busy. :)

I'm always here for you my friend - my door is always open. Now I must get back to the books I'm writing about singing - what else? :)

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