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Songs About Cheatin' Cheaters: When Love Turns Sour
Most people have at least one cheating story to tell—whether they've done it, seen it, or merely heard about it. I'm gonna share with you a brush I had with a cheating partner, but I sure hope you'll return the favor.
When I was much younger, a purty young thang (who was even younger than I was) took a sudden liking to my steady boyfriend. Quite by accident, I intercepted a gift meant for him—a nice t-shirt—and the love note that went with it. Until then, I had no idea that there even was a third wheel in our relationship.
Rather than crying and making a mess of myself, I donned the offending apparel and marched right up to the corner drug store where the interloper was a part-time cashier. I waited in her register line, ensuring she would be the one to ring my items up.
As Miss Thang spotted my t-shirt, her eyes grew big. I started in: "I got your gift. Fits great. But if you are cheating with him, then you can dang well have him because I got NO use for a cheater."
Then I flipped my hair as only a young woman of a certain age can do and went to take care of business with that no-good boyfriend.
Please share your story of cheating in the Comments Section below. If you prefer, you can describe "someone else's" experience. (Wink, wink.) Hey, we won't judge.
1. "If Loving You Is Wrong (I Don't Want to Be Right)" by Barbara Mandrell
In 1979, Barbara Mandrell hit the top of the country music charts with this single about a woman who is having an affair with a married man. (Country vocalist Lee Ann Rimes also recorded it in 2006.) Against the advice of friends and family, she settles for sloppy seconds from him, although she knows their relationship is morally wrong:
Am I wrong to fall so deeply in love with you ...
Knowing you've got a wife and two little children
Depending on you, too?
The mistress decides that if loving him is wrong, she doesn't want to be right. Please, someone go call this man's wife.
2. "Ring On Her Finger, Time On Her Hands" by Lee Greenwood
As this young couple stood at the altar, neither intended to break their vows to one another. However, as the years passed, work, infidelity, or whatever (we just don't know) took the husband away, and the couple's three-bedroom home became the bride's prison.
The Mrs. was left lonely and longing for some lovin'. She was forced to find it outside her marriage. Both Lee Greenwood (1982) and Reba McEntire (1995) sang this sad song so well that you sympathize with the wife.
3. "She Just Started Liking Cheatin' Songs" by Alan Jackson
What do you do when you notice your special lady has developed a sudden, unexplained interest in songs about infidelity? If you're like Alan Jackson (1999) or John Anderson (1980), you sing this catchy number:
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She just started liking cheatin' songs and what's bothering me
I don't know if it's the cheatin' she likes or just the melodies.
4. "Whoever's In New England" by Reba McEntire
In 1986, Reba McEntire won a Grammy Award for this sad song in which a loyal wife lets her husband know that he's spending an unusual amount of time away from home on "business" in Massachusetts. She reminds him that when the affair goes stale, she'll be waiting at home. Oh, Reba!
5. "Stay" by Sugarland
Sung from the pained perspective of the other woman, this is Sugarland's signature song (2007). It was inspired by Reba McEntire's "Whoever's In New England" and Jennifer Nettles' desire to tell the other side of the story.
The mistress begins the song insisting that her married lover stay with her when his wife telephones. She explains, "I'm so tired of being lonely."
Midway through, however, there is a shift in her perspective, accompanied by a raw emotional revelation. She doubts that he will ever leave his wife as promised. By the end of the song, the mistress has gained both emotional strength and power of voice, telling him to go home to his wife and stay there:
So next time you find you wanna leave her bed for mine
Why don't you stay?
6. "Sin for a Sin" by Miranda Lambert
Someone crossed the wrong girl here. She'll do more than just cut you. Miranda Lambert sings (2009) about a woman who discovered her man sleeping with another woman in their bed. The girl went all cray-cray, and will soon be receiving her mail at the state penitentiary. Although we're not sure exactly how she took them out, she references "fire and brimstone, dirt and a headstone." I hope she looks cute in a prison jumpsuit!
7. "Who's Cheatin' Who" by Alan Jackson
In this catchy, up-tempo song (1997), Alan Jackson has a tough time distinguishing who's being faithful, who's a cheater, and who just doesn't care.
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8. "You Ain't Woman Enough to Take My Man" by Loretta Lynn
This 1966 classic by Loretta Lynn describes a feisty confrontation between a wife and a mistress, told from the wife's perspective. The other woman has come bearing news of an impending break-up. Amidst the insults, Loretta has news of her own: You'll be taking that cheating man over my dead body.
One must admire the wife's spunk, although I do hope she put her man on a short leash for awhile afterwards.
9. "Soon" by Tanya Tucker
Tanya Tucker (1993) tells of a summer fling with a married man that got out of hand and turned into a string of broken promises about when he was going to leave his wife. As the seasons come and go, the lonely mistress realizes that "soon" will never come.
10. "Wish I Didn't Know Now" by Toby Keith
Poor Toby Keith (1993) suspected his lady was cheating, but he preferred not to know until she made it so painfully obvious that he had to leave her. The crestfallen fella regrets finding out.
11. "Married, but Not to Each Other" by Barbara Mandrell
It sure isn't easy loving someone else's husband, especially when you have your own husband to keep track of, too. So says Barbara Mandrell in this 1977 song. The cheaters are each tied to other people and don't want to hurt them, so they worry about whether their alibis sound like lies. It makes you wonder whether the excitement of their relationship lies chiefly in its forbidden nature.
12. "All These Years" by Sawyer Brown
Not every affair ends in divorce. In this 1992 Sawyer Brown ballad, the husband comes home early from work one day and catches his wife with another man. In a surprising twist, he blames himself for being neglectful of her needs ("... don't you rub it in too hard that I've been wrong.") The wife takes responsibility, too. She has realized that after all these years she has a lot to lose by betraying him.
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13. "Kerosene" by Miranda Lambert
Murder? Are you kidding me? There is some major caustic hatred in this song. Miranda Lambert tells the story of a betrayed woman who has given up on love. Rather than crying, she has taken up cigarettes and strategically spreads the kerosene:
Now I don't hate the one who left
You can't hate someone who's dead.
If you're like me and a little slow on the uptake sometimes, here's a gentle reminder: Miranda Lambert was the girl who also sang "Sin for a Sin" (#6 on our list). Cheat on her at your own risk. You've been warned.
14. "Blame It on Your Heart" by Patty Loveless
Patty Loveless sure knows where to place the blame for a failed relationship. In this 1993 song, she tells her lover he doesn't know right from wrong and he's made a bad mistake:
So blame it on your lying, cheating, cold dead beating
Two-timing and double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart.
15. "Tell Me a Lie" by Janie Fricke
In this 1983 song, Janie Fricke is a lonely lady in a bar who sees a handsome stranger remove his wedding ring. Then she has a one-night stand with him. Yet in the ultimate mind game she pleads with him to tell her a series of lies: that she looks familiar, that he just got into town, that he's not a married man, and that he loves her.
Janie! You are delusional, sister! (And don't even get me going about how dangerous your behavior is.)
16. "Lucille" by Kenny Rogers
Kenny Rogers (1977) describes a married woman who has cozied up to a stranger in a bar when in walks her husband, a struggling farmer. The husband chastises her:
You picked a fine time to leave me, Lucille
With four hungry children
And a crop in the field
I've had some bad times
Lived through some sad times
But this time your hurtin' won't heal
You picked a fine time to leave me Lucille.
When the cheaters leave the bar for a motel room, the other man cannot respond to beautiful Lucille's advances because the husband's refrain still echoes in his mind. Ain't nothing like a conscience, even if it's a few minutes late.
17. "Nobody" by Sylvia
Released in 1982 by Sylvia, this song became a crossover hit on both contemporary and country charts. It tells the story of a suspicious wife who has caught wind of troubling new behavior in her marriage: her husband's stolen glances towards a certain lady, unexplained hang-up phone calls, his distracted attention, and his late work hours. She's no fool. Get ready for a smack-down.
18. "You Belong with Me" by Taylor Swift
Taylor Swift's 2008 song takes us all back to high school as she sings about a favorite crush who needs to be persuaded that he's with the wrong girl. Taylor thinks she makes a better match.
The girlfriend doesn't get his music or humor like Taylor does and wears a completely uptight style of clothing that contrasts with his and Taylor's. Taylor and he belong together because of their own easy-going relationship. So why hasn't the guy seen this all along?
19. "Lyin' Eyes" by The Eagles
This Eagles hit was a 1975 crossover from the rock charts. It tells the story of a woman who lies to her rich old husband so that she can go out to the cheating side of town for the evening. She meets up with a guy she knew from school and also tells him lies about a future together that will never happen. She's a practiced liar, but her eyes give her away.
20. "Talkin' In Your Sleep" by Crystal Gayle
In this 1978 Crystal Gayle song, a husband is coming dangerously close to being busted for his infidelity, thanks to his unfortunate tendency to talk about his love life in his sleep. His wife still hopes it is her he is alluding to because he hasn't mentioned anyone's name.
21. "Does He Love You?" by Reba McEntire and Linda Davis
These two women play the wife and mistress in this 1993 song. They compare notes about their love for the same man:
But does he love you
Like he loves me?
Does he think of you
When he's holding me?
And does he whisper all his fantasies?
Does he love you like he's been lovin' me?
22. "Ruby, Don't Take Your Love To Town" by Kenny Rogers
A paralyzed war veteran sits in bed begging his wife, Ruby, not to go out. She dolls herself up for the evening and goes searching for love regardless. The door slams and he wishes he could chase after her with a gun. Kenny Rogers made the song famous in 1969.
23. "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood
When Carrie Underwood suspects her man is cheating, she takes the matter into her own vengeful hands and teaches him a lesson in this 2007 song. Angry about the "bleached-blond tramp" her lover has ditched her for, she keys his car, carves her name into his leather seat, takes a baseball bat to the headlights, and slashes his tires.
24. "Jolene" by Dolly Parton
In 1973, Dolly Parton treated the world to this classic song about a heartbroken wife who pleaded with Jolene, a beautiful red-headed mistress, to leave her husband alone: "I'm begging of you please don't take my man. Please don't take him just because you can." The husband had been talking about Jolene in his sleep.
25. "Your Cheating Heart" by Hank Williams, Sr.
Hank Williams, Sr. made this song a country music standard way back in 1953. It warns lovers that the guilt of infidelity will keep them up at night. This song was released just weeks after the 29-year-old singer died of heart failure, aggravated by substance abuse.
26. 'When I Think About Cheatin'" by Gretchen Wilson
Gretchen Wilson's man has little to worry about in this 2004 song. She reassures him that although she's had plenty of opportunities to cheat—and has even come close a time or two —the thought of him leaving keeps her faithful.
27. "The Thunder Rolls" by Garth Brooks
Talk about a woman scorned. Passion runs high in this Garth Brooks song (1991) as a woman seeks vengeance against her cheating husband. He has returned home at 3:30 a.m. smelling of another woman's perfume, and she takes action:
She runs back down the hallway and through the bedroom door
She reaches for the pistol kept in the dresser drawer
Tells the lady in the mirror, 'He won't do this again'
'Cause tonight will be the last time she'll wonder where he's been.
28. "You Lie" by The Band Perry
The unfaithful husband who is the subject of this 2010 song by The Band Perry is a no good, cheating liar. He better be ready to hear the insults because they're flying everywhere in this song!
29. "Cheatin'" by Sara Evans
Sara Evans is a scorned woman who likes to rub it in that she got the better deal in the divorce. In this 2005 song, she reminds her ex-husband that while he is living in a furnished room, driving a beat-up old car, and eating pork and beans off paper plates, she is living a far better life on his money. Some things just work out that way!
30. "War Is Hell On the Home Front, Too" by T.G. Sheppard
These days, the housewife T.G. Sheppard sings about in this 1982 song would get arrested for what she did. A man vividly recalls his seduction at age 16 (yes, that's right) by a lonely World War II bride:
War is hell on the home front, too
God only knows what a woman goes though
She still needs what a man that's gone can't do.
31. "Whose Bed Have Your Boots Been Under?" by Shania Twain
Wearing her 1990s mom jeans, Shania Twain playfully asks a lover in this 1995 song how many girls he has cheated with. She even has some guesses.
32. "Tequila Makes Her Clothes Fall Off" by Joe Nichols
You don't know whether to laugh at the poor fella Joe Nichols is singing about or clue him in. In this humorous 2005 song, the man's lover has him convinced that tequila makes her clothes fall off. He tells her to put an extra layer on because she's been known to kick off her shoes, leave her jacket in a bathroom stall, lose an earring in her drink, or a contact down the sink.
Sometimes we only see what we want to see.
33. "There's Your Trouble" by Dixie Chicks
Sometimes when we choose a mate, our "picker" is off and we pick a loser. That is exactly what the Dixie Chicks are trying to say in this upbeat 1998 hit.
34. "Stand by Your Man" by Tammy Wynette
Tammy Wynette's signature song was released in 1968, much to the chagrin of women who wanted her to grow a freaking backbone. The song celebrates a woman who supports her cheating husband regardless of the mistakes he makes:
You'll have bad times, and he'll have good times
Doin' things that you don't understand
But if you love him, you'll forgive him
Even though he's hard to understand
And if you love him, oh be proud of him
'Cause after all he's just a man.
The song was negatively referenced by Hillary Clinton during the 1992 presidential campaign when Gennifer Flowers claimed she had a 12 year affair with the then-Arkansas Gov. Bill Clinton.
35. "Girls Lie Too" by Terri Clark
The secret is out! Terri Clark revealed to the world in this 2004 song that yes, girls actually do lie too!
36. "White Liar" by Miranda Lambert
Miranda Lambert is unravelling the thread of lies in the relationship with her lover. He has a pattern of infidelities that he calls white lies. But now,
The truth comes out a little at a time
And it spreads just like a fire
Slips off of your tongue like turpentine.
Then she drops a bombshell: he's not the only white liar. She's pretty accomplished at it herself.
37. "Angel in Your Arms" by Barbara Mandrell
Both Barbara Mandrell (1985) and Reba McEntire (1977) recorded versions of this sassy song about a wife warning her cheating husband that while he's out betraying their marriage yet again, she just might be doing the same. The Mrs. admits that while she was upset when she first discovered the husband's infidelity, she has now become just like the mistress: "The angel in your arms this morning is gonna be the devil in someone else's arms tonight."
38. "Stealing Kisses" by Faith Hill
Faith Hill takes a nostalgic look at what it was like to be young, desirable, and connected to the man she loves in this 2005 song:
I was stealing kisses from a boy
Now I'm begging affection from a man
In my house dress ... don't you know who I am?
Take a look at who I am, I'm stealing kisses.
For years, her husband makes excuses to be away from home while she is left lonely, knowing the truth about what he's doing. She urges high school girls to "run, run, run" before they end up just like her.
39. "Should've Said No" by Taylor Swift
It was one moment of weakness when the man in this 2006 song said yes. However, Taylor Swift is not about to let him forget his mistake. She's going to kick him in the teeth a few times with some lyrics before she breaks up with him. Don't ever cheat on that girl. She will sing about it and make you infamous.
40. "You'll Think of Me" by Keith Urban
In this 2004 song, Keith Urban tells an unfaithful lover to go get packing. He seems to understand that the best revenge is living happily and never looking back:
Take your records, take your freedom
Take your memories, I don't need 'em
Take your space and take your reasons
But you'll think of me.
Even More Country Love Songs About Cheating and Lying
41. Kiss This
43. Then What
45. That Girl
46. She's Actin' Single (I'm Drinkin' Doubles)
47. A Woman Knows
48. She Don't Love You
49. I Let Her Lie
50. Queen Of My Double Wide Trailer
51. On the Other Hand
53. From a Table Away
54. I'll Be the Moon
55. Holding Her and Loving You
Earl Thomas Conley
56. Red High Heels
57. You Don't Lie Here Anymore
59. Why Does It Have To Be Wrong Or Right?
60. When Will I Be Loved?
61. Papa Loved Mama
62. In Another's Eyes
Garth Brooks and Trisha Yearwood
63. Cheater, Cheater
Joey & Rory
64. Trying Not To Love You
65. Linda On My Mind
66. Facebook Friends
67. Stranger In My House
68. Does My Ring Hurt Your Finger
69. Send Me Down To Tuscon
70. Look It Up
71. Ex-Old Man
72. Revenge of a Middle-Aged Woman
73. God Help My Man (If He's Fooling Around)
Joey + Rory
74. Let That Pony Run
75. I Guess You Had To Be There
77. Lyin' Jukebox
Hank Williams Jr.
78. Reasons I Cheat
79. Fist City
80. Don't Close Your Eyes
81. That's My Story
82. Good Hearted Woman
83. Heaven's Just a Sin Away
84. Broken Promise Land
85. Why Baby Why
86. There's More Where That Came From
87. You'd Make an Angel Wanna Cheat
88. Third Rate Romance
90. Dirty Laundry
91. When You Love Someone
93. Phones Are Ringing All Over Town
94. Easier to Lie
Sugarland (featuring Taylor Swift)
96. Stays in Mexico
97. If I'm the Only One
98. Easier to Lie
99. Lie Baby Lie
100. Pretty Little Lie
101. Lie to Me
102. You Lie
103. Rumor Has It
104. I've Seen That Look on Me (A Thousand Times)
105. I Hope
106. Lovin' Your Man
107. Radio Lover
108. What She Don't Know Won't Hurt Her
Euphemisms Associated with Adultery or Infidelity
In the 1920s and 30s, the saying became popular as a way of describing an affair.
"Slipped my moorings"
When CIA Chief Gen. David Petraeus was caught cheating, he used this nautical term to describe the breach in his ethical anchors.
"Hiking the Appalachian Trail"
In 2009, South Carolina Gov. Mark Sandford famously used this excuse to cover up a weekend getaway with an Argentine mistress. He was completely off the grid. The saying now means going "missing" to be with a secret lover.
"Extradyadic behavior, extrarelational sex"
Academics often use these clinical terms to describe infidelity.
"Carry on with"
In the 1800s, it simply meant courtship. Now it implies an extramarital affair.
Mistress of senior military officers.
Questions & Answers
Question: Who sang the country song about a man talking to his mistress and pretending that he's talking to his boss?
Answer: The song was called "Yes, Mr. Peters" (1965) by Roy Drusky and Priscilla Mitchell and can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCHX0mgHfZA.
Question: What is the country song that features a young man sitting at a bar contemplating cheating and an older man sees and advises him against it due to his own experiences?
Answer: The part about the old man and young man sitting at the bar throws me off. However, here's a country song that involves a guy dispensing advice to his friend not to cheat for a variety of reasons. He acknowledges looking is not a crime and he's done it from time to time. Lyrics are both clever and meaningful. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RriwQbiLJNA
Clay Walker, "Then What?" (1998)
Well, I got a good friend who's got a good life
He's got two pretty children and a real nice wife
Yet he never seems quite satisfied
I said, "I know what's on your mind
But you better think about it before you cross that line
The grass ain't always greener on the other side"
Then what, what you gonna do
When the new wears off and the old shines through
And it ain't really love and it ain't really lust
You ain't anybody anybody's gonna trust
Then what, where you gonna turn
When you can't turn back for the bridges you burn
And fate can't wait to kick you in the butt, then what?
Oh, then what?
Well, I ain't saying that looking's a crime
Well, I've done my share from time to time
It don't mean that you gotta take that leap
When you're standin' on the brink
Before you jump you gotta step back and think
There's a price for every promise you don't keep.
Then what, what you gonna do
When the new wears off and the old shines through
And it ain't really love and it ain't really lust
You ain't anybody, any body's gonna trust?
Then what, where you gonna turn
When you can't turn back for the bridges you