112 Songs About Stalkers and Obsession

Popular music is full of songs about creepers, stalkers and people who cannot take "no" for an answer when it comes to love.  What gives?
Popular music is full of songs about creepers, stalkers and people who cannot take "no" for an answer when it comes to love. What gives? | Source

The Creeper in Apartment 16C

Let this serve as a warning to anyone who sets up housekeeping in a residence that someone has previously occupied: Make sure your locks are changed. You don't know who else has a copy of that key. I learned this lesson the hard way more than 20 years ago.

Straight out of college, I took a job and relocated to Louisiana, 800 miles from where I grew up. Living on my own for the first time, I rented a one-bedroom apartment that was considered upscale for the area. (But these places can have creepy or dangerous residents, too!)

The first person I met in my new apartment building was my next-door neighbor, an outgoing divorced man named Ron. He was unemployed and always home. In his mid-50s, Ron was the self-proclaimed social butterfly of the building. He typically kept his apartment door wide open — even with his air conditioning running full blast — so he could watch people come and go and invite them in to chat.

An overly friendly neighbor kept his apartment door wide open (even with his air conditioning running full blast) so he could watch people come and go and invite them in to chat.
An overly friendly neighbor kept his apartment door wide open (even with his air conditioning running full blast) so he could watch people come and go and invite them in to chat. | Source

Attempts to Avoid My Neighbor

After a few months, however, I began to avoid Ron. He tended to talk too long and overshared a lot of personal drama. I found myself spending more time away from home and sneaking up to my second floor apartment to avoid his detection.

Ron claimed he was having a long-term affair with a married nurse named Louise. He desperately wanted Louise to leave her husband. Ron said he had tried to commit suicide because he was so despondent about their future.

Louise visited him once or twice a week, but from my brief interactions with her, I thought she was out of Ron's league. She was considerably more attractive than him and seemed too stable. It left me befuddled about what he could possibly bring to their relationship.

When I pressed redial on my home phone one night, I learned that my neighbor had been secretly letting himself in to my apartment.  He still had a key from the prior tenant.
When I pressed redial on my home phone one night, I learned that my neighbor had been secretly letting himself in to my apartment. He still had a key from the prior tenant. | Source

The Surprise When I Pressed Redial

One evening, I returned to my apartment and pressed redial on my home phone. I was certain that my boyfriend was the last person I had called.

However, Louise answered instead. Somehow Ron had been in my apartment and used my phone to call her.

When I confronted Ron, he became distraught and blubbery, begging me not to alert police. He admitted that the woman who lived in the apartment before me gave him a copy of her key after she had locked herself out one too many times. Ron said his purpose for entering my apartment was simple curiosity and he just wanted to play with my orange kitten, Oscar.

I could only guess what else he did in my apartment!

My mentally ill neighbor not only acknowledged he had a key to my apartment but he also showed me how someone could  climb onto my patio and balcony.
My mentally ill neighbor not only acknowledged he had a key to my apartment but he also showed me how someone could climb onto my patio and balcony. | Source

Reader Poll

Why do you think my mentally ill neighbor, Ron, was in my apartment?

  • He just needed a change of scenery from his own apartment.
  • Take the man at his word: he liked the orange kitten.
  • He was trying on your underthings and fa-noodling himself in your bed.
  • Something sinister. There was more about Ron than people realized. (Did you count your kitchen knives?)
  • Only he really knows.
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Chilling Advice and a Demonstration

What really sent shivers up my spine, however, came next. Ron gave me a "helpful warning" to always lock the sliding glass door to my balcony.

He showed me how he could climb from the second-floor landing to my apartment's patio. Ron said he had helped the previous tenant break in to her own apartment that way. He also volunteered that Louise was a psychiatric nurse.

I didn't need to hear anymore. I immediately called the apartment office to have the locks changed and shortly thereafter moved out-of-state with my job.

Who knows what the real story was with Ron. What was he really doing in my apartment? Were he and Louise truly involved in an affair, as he claimed? Or, was she perhaps just a healthcare provider performing home visits on a mentally ill man?

I reiterate: Make sure your locks are changed.

What Is Stalking?

The U.S. Department of Justice defines stalking as "a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear."

Examples of Stalking Behaviors

If it's repetitive, unwanted and causes the target to fear for their safety or that of a loved one, stop it. That's stalking.
making unwanted phone calls
sending unsolicited or unwanted letters or e-mails
following or spying on the victim
waiting at places for the victim
showing up at places without a legitimate reason
SOURCE: U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics. -

1. “Every Breath You Take” by The Police

In the 1980s. we didn't yet have a name for stalking, but this song was creepy even in 1983. It's about an obsessed ex-lover who promises that

Every move you make
Every step you take
I'll be watching you...

Sting, the musician who penned the hit, acknowledged, "I didn't realize at the time how sinister it is. I think I was thinking of Big Brother, surveillance and control."

2. "One Way Or Another" by Blondie

This catchy 1979 song was inspired by lead singer Debbie Harry's experience in which an ex-boyfriend pursued her relentlessly. It takes the perspective of an obsessed love interest who promises that one way or another, he'll

  • find you
  • see you
  • meet you
  • trick you
  • get you and
  • win you.

His ominous plans include drive-bys and trailing you at the mall, supermarket and on the bus. What a weirdo.

3. "You're Beautiful" by James Blunt

Creeper alert. This 2005 song seems like a love song, but listen closely and you'll see an unhealthy fixation on a stranger. A man spots a woman on a subway and develops a preoccupation with her. From brief eye contact, he perceives that they "shared a moment that will last till the end." Thankfully, however, he admits to himself they'll never be together.

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Have you ever ...

  • repeatedly given someone unwanted gifts to try to get them to like you?
  • repeatedly called, visited, or made contact with someone over social media when the person didn't want you to?
  • tracked someone's movements electronically, followed them, or had others "keep an eye" on them and report back to you?
  • received this type of unwanted attention yourself?
  • more than one of these
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4. "Don’t You Want Me" by The Human League

Five years previously, the man in this wicked 1981 song met his love interest when she was a waitress in a cocktail bar. Now that their relationship has ended, however, he refuses to move on.

The protagonist warns the woman that he made her who she is, and he won't tolerate rejection:

When you think you've changed your mind
You'd better change it back or we will both be sorry.

5. "Black Widow" by Iggy Azalea, featuring Rita Ora

Watch out for the spurned woman in this 2014 hit. A wronged woman seeks vengeance on a man whom she says should have known better than to mess with her. She threatens to love him "until it hurts" and promises that he'll end up hating her.

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6. "Sunglasses at Night" by Corey Hart

A person who wears sunglasses at night either has vision problems or they're dangerous. In this 1984 song, it's the latter.

The guy watches a woman but also reports visual hallucinations; he says the glasses help him "keep track of the visions in my eyes." He also tells his target not to "switch the blade on the guy in the shades." He's trouble waiting to happen. Call the police.

7. "Possession" by Sarah McLachlan

This 1993 song is based on the singer's experience with two fans early in her career. In it, there's a deranged man who imagines forcing his affection on her:

And I would be the one
to hold you down
kiss you so hard
I'll take your breath away
and after, I'd wipe away the tears
just close your eyes, Dear.

8. "Hello" by Lionel Ritchie

"Hello, is it me you're looking for?" asks this 1984 song. A man has become irrepressibly smitten by a woman who occasionally passes by his door. He longs to introduce himself by telling her that he loves her, and he fantasizes that she will love him too. Dude, get a life.

Stalking is a crime under the laws of 50 states, the District of Columbia, the U.S. Territories, and the Federal government.

9. "Come To My Window" by Melissa Etheridge

This 1994 song is a Grammy Award winner which describes an obsessive lover's intense feelings for her target. The video features a mental patient talking to herself:

I would dial the numbers just to listen to your breath
And I would stand inside my hell and hold the hand of death
You don't know how far I'd go to ease this precious ache
And you don't know how much I'd give or how much I can take.

10. "Stan" by Eminem

This song from 2000 is Eminem's most highly acclaimed, but it is often censored for its disturbing level of violence. The song features an escalating exchange between "Stan," an overly zealous fan, and the celebrity he worships. Stan grows more frustrated and bitter when his fan letters are unanswered. Finally, he commits murder-suicide and makes a recording of his death for the celebrity.

Almost 1/3 of stalkers have stalked before.
Almost 1/3 of stalkers have stalked before. | Source

11. “The More You Ignore Me, The Closer I Get” by Morrissey

Oh, is the guy in this 1994 song demented. Morrissey was a one-hit wonder (at least in the United States) with this song in which a stalker tells the person he's following that they might as well concede to his demands:

I bear more grudges
Than lonely high court judges
When you sleep
I will creep
Into your thoughts
Like a bad debt
That you can't pay
Take the easy way
And give in.

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12. "Shiver" by Coldplay

The lyrics of this song from 2000 surely will make you shiver. It's about an obsessed lover who won't take "no" for an answer, so he follows her. (Like that will change her mind!) His target may look straight through him, not seeing that he is there, but he issues this warning: "I'll always be waiting for you." He further taunts, "Just you try and stop me."

13. "Stephen" by Kesha

It looks like a fellow rocker named Stephen has found himself some dangerous, unwanted attention. The protagonist in this 2010 song is seriously pissed that he won't return her calls, and she won't let his girlfriend stand in the way of their eventual coupling.

What's even worse is that she fully realizes she's playing "evil girly games":

You're my object of affection
My drug of choice, my sick obsession.

14. "I Want You to Want Me" by Cheap Trick

First released in 1977, there are multiple versions of this song. All of them feature a desperate man trying in vain to get the attention of a woman he is obsessed over.

15. "I Will Follow Him" by Little Peggy March

People were obsessive back in the 1960s, too, although they didn't have a name for stalking. Think of this 1963 song is a creepy trailblazer. A woman describes how nothing will stop her from following the man she desires, no mountain, no ocean, nothing. She calls him her "destiny."

One in 7 stalking victims reported that they moved because of stalking.
One in 7 stalking victims reported that they moved because of stalking. | Source

16. "I'm On Fire" by Bruce Springstein

This super creepy song from 1985 by "The Boss" will convince you that we just don't pay attention to song lyrics. The protagonist asks a young boy whether his mother is home because he's feeling amorous. However, the man's "bad desire" is surely sinister:

Sometimes it's like someone took a knife, baby, edgy and dull
And cut a six inch valley through the middle of my soul
At night I wake with the sheets soaking wet
And a freight train running through the middle of my head
Only you can cool my desire
Oh oh ohh, I'm on fire.

17. "Hungry Like The Wolf" by Duran Duran

The stalker in this disturbing 1982 song is so close he's breathing down his target's neck. He says he'll hunt her down like prey and that his mouth is watering. I hope she is locked, loaded, and ready for him.

18. "You Oughta Know" by Alanis Morrisette

"Did you forget about me, Mr. Duplicity?" asks the distraught, frenzied woman in this Grammy Award-winning 1995 hit. She interrupts an ex-lover's dinner with his new fiancee. Then, in a scathing tear-down she berates both him and his new lady friend.

Alanis Morrisette wrote the song based on her own experience with an ex-boyfriend. Some people you just don't mess with!

19. "Two Steps Behind" by Def Leppard

This 1993 is the reminder from a nefarious stalker who intends to never give up.

20. "Right Here Waiting For You" by Richard Marx

The menacing man in this 1989 song calls a woman he is in love with just to hear her voice. He is sad that she seems to be avoiding him and promises that he'll always be waiting for her.

21. "The Old Apartment" by Barenaked Ladies

Even though he is now in a new relationship, the ex-roommate in this 1996 song breaks into the apartment he and his ex-lover used to share. She still lives there, and the intruder demands to know why she changed the locks and plastered over the hole he punched in the wall. He claims he only broke in to talk. (Yeah, like we're believing that one.)

22. "Jenny (867-5309)" by Tommy Tutone

Poor Jenny. Someone wrote her name and number on a bathroom wall ("Call for a good time"), and now this obsessed stranger won't stop harassing her. He's memorized the number and now thinks he needs her love.

Take stalking seriously by alerting authorities.  Almost half of stalking cases lead to violence.
Take stalking seriously by alerting authorities. Almost half of stalking cases lead to violence. | Source

23. “Invisible” by Clay Aiken

The deranged man in this 2003 song is transfixed by a woman who doesn't notice him, and he believes he is nothing without her. He can't tell her how he feels because of the threat of rejection, yet he wants to spy on her like a fly on the wall. Does she even know she has a stalker?

24. "Escape" by Enrique Iglesias

This 2001 song is about forced love. (Shouldn't some singers be better than that? There are so many topics to write a song about!) He had a failed relationship with someone and now refuses to let go of the past:

You can run you can hide
But you can't escape my love.

25. "Keep On Loving You" by REO Speedwagon

Listen to the lyrics of this 1980 hit. and you'll know that the unconditional acceptance offered by this man is seriously unhinged.

You played dead
But you never bled
Instead you lay still in the grass
All coiled up and hissin' ... .

Even More Songs About Stalkers, Creepers and Obsessive Love

Year Released
26. You Belong To Me
Carly Simon
27. I Will Possess Your Heart
Death Cab for Cutie
28. Father Figure
George Michael
29. I'm Gonna Love You Forever
Jessica Simpson
30. I'll Be There
Jackson 5
31. I Want You
Elvis Costello
32. Run for Your Life
The Beatles
33. You’re Sixteen
Ringo Starr
34. Dancing With Myself
Billy Idol
35. I'm Gonna Make You Love Me
Diana Ross & The Supremes and The Temptations
36. Never Gonna Give You Up
Rick Astley
37. Keep Watching You
Melissa Etheridge
38. American Woman
The Guess Who
39. All I Need
40. Kiss With a Fist
Florence + the Machine
41. I Will Follow
42. Nights On Broadway
The Bee Gees
43. All for Leyna
Billy Joel
44. Can't Get You Out of My Head"
Kylie Minogue
45. (Everything I Do) I Do It For You
Bryan Adams
46. Living Room
Tegan and Sara
47. Tainted Love
Soft Cell
48. Alone
49. Always Be My Baby
Mariah Carey
50. Love You Till Tuesday
David Bowie
51. I Will Find You
52. #1 Crush
53. Lily My One and Only
Smashing Pumpkins
54. Baby, Now That I've Found You
Alison Krauss
55. Turn Around
56. Baby It's Cold Outside
Al Hirt and Ann Margaret
57. The Stalker
58. Somebody's Watchin' Me
59. Somebody's Watching Me
60. Private Eyes
Hall & Oates
61. She Will Be Loved
Maroon 5
62. Crash Into Me
Dave Matthews Band
63. Stalker Song
64. Stacy's Mom
Fountains of Wayne
65. Drain You
66. Wrong Way
67. Woman In Love
Barbara Streisand
68. Obsession
69. Turn Around and Look at Me
The Vogues
70. Eye in the Sky
Alan Parsons Project
71. Hey There, Delilah
Plain White Ts
72. I Knew I Loved You (Before I Met You)
Savage Garden
73. Iris
Goo Goo Dolls
74. I Put A Spell On You
Annie Lennox
75. Creep
76. The Creep
Lonely Island, featuring Nicki Minaj & John Waters
77. I'm Gonna Get You Good
Shania Twain
78. Please Don't Go
Mike Posner
79. I Can't Stay Away From You
Gloria Estefan
80. Someone Like You
81. Somebody That I Used To Know
Gotye, featuring Kimbra
82. Crash Into Me
The Dave Matthews Band
83. I Can't Smile Without You
Barry Manilow
84. Hopelessly Devoted to You
Olivia Newton John
85. Jessie's Girl
Rick Springfield
86. Grenade
Bruno Mars
87. Disease
Matchbox Twenty
88. If I Can't Have You
Bee Gees
89. Why Don't You Write Me?
Simon & Garfunkel
90. Surrender
2002 (unreleased)
91. Straw Hat and Old Dirty Hank
Barenaked Ladies
92. Radar
Britney Spears
93. I'm Your Boyfriend Now
They Might Be Giants
94. Paparazzi
Lady Gaga
95. Rikki Don't Lose That Number
Steely Dan
96. No One Gonna Love You
Jennifer Hudson
97. It's Over
John Legend, featuring Kanye West
98. Bust Your Windows
Jazmine Sullivan
99. Your Love is My Drug
100. Til I Get My Way/Girl Is On My Mind
The Black Keys
101. Pictures of You
The Cure
102. I Touch Myself
The Divinyls
103. Losing My Religion
104. Off To the Races
Lana Del Rey
105. Right Before Your Eyes
106. Moon Over Bourbon Street
107. Your Love Is My Drug
108. Girl That You Love
Panic! at the Disco
109. Your House
Alanis Morisette
110. Silver Springs
Fleetwood Mac
111. Kentucky Rain
112. Redneck Crazy
Tyler Farr
Did we forget one? Make a suggestion in the Comments Section below!

What's In A Name? Locations With Names Associated With Stalkers, Creepers and Obsessed Lovers

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A markerCreepy Spring, Utah, USA -
Creepy Spring, Utah, USA
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B markerCriminal Lake, Texas, USA -
Criminal Lake, Texas 75855, USA
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C markerFright Creek, Montana, USA -
Fright Creek, Montana, USA
[get directions]

D markerHurt, Virginia, USA -
Hurt, VA 24563, USA
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E markerLookout, Washington, USA -
Lookout, Washington 99350, USA
[get directions]

F markerScary, West Virginia, USA -
Scary, WV 25177, USA
[get directions]

G markerStalker, Australia -
Stalker, VIC 3237, Australia
[get directions]

H markerStrange, Canada -
Strange, ON L0G, Canada
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I markerTerror Lake, Alaska, USA -
Terror Lake, Alaska 99615, USA
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J markerTorment Hill, New York, USA -
Torment Hill, Cortlandt Manor, NY 10520, USA
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Stalkers and Creepers Are Also In Lots of Movies

Stalkers, creepers and obsessive love are also frequent topics in movies.
Stalkers, creepers and obsessive love are also frequent topics in movies. | Source

Tell us why you think stalking, creeping and obsessive love are such popular topics in music and movies.

Weigh in using the Comments Section below!

43 Movies About Stalkers, Creepers and Obsession

The Bodyguard (1992) - A music star hires a former Secret Service agent as a bodyguard to protect her from an unknown stalker.
Fatal Attraction (1987) - A married man has a weekend tryst with a woman who becomes obsessed with him.
Swimfan (2002) - The star of a high school swim team becomes the target of an obsessed teenage girl.
One Hour Photo (2002) - A desperately lonely employee of a one-hour photo becomes dangerously obsessed with a family, his favorite customers.
The Hand That Rocks the Cradle (1992) - A vengeful woman becomes a nanny in order to destroy a young family.
Cape Fear (1991) - A convicted rapist who learns that a former public defender used improper defense tactics seeks vengeance years later.
Single White Female (1992) - A crazed young woman who says her twin was stillborn makes her new roommate's life hell by impersonating her.
The Stepfather (2009) - A serial killer changes identities and lures women into marriage.
This Means War (2012) - A romantic comedy involving two men vying for the same woman. They both bug her apartment and phone in this romantic comedy that isn't funny.
Copycat (1995) - A leading criminal psychologist becomes the target of a stalker who seeks to replicate the acts of famous serial killers.
Notes on a Scandal (2006) - A domineering spinster who has trouble making friends develops a strong interest in a younger woman.
When A Stranger Calls (1979) - A babysitter receives harassing calls from a stalker.
Passion (2012) - A woman who has betrayed her boss discovers the hard way that the boss isn't the only crazy, obsessed person in the mix.
Orphan (2009) - A grieving couple adopt an orphaned Russian girl, only to discover that she is actually a 33-year-old woman with a growth disorder and a violent past.
The Resident (2011) - A newly single woman moves into an apartment and is stalked by a neighbor.
Sleeping With the Enemy (1991) - An abused woman fakes her death to escape her husband, but he terrorizes her by stalking her.
P2 (2007) - A businesswoman is stalked by a psychopathic security guard at her workplace.
Audition (1999) - A widower auditions women for a new wife and engages in a cat-and-mouse game with the mentally off-balance woman he has chosen.
Play Misty For Me (1971) - A radio disc jockey is stalked by an obsessive fan.
Vertigo (1958) - A retired police detective is hired by a friend using false pretenses to follow his wife.
Sleep Tight (2011) - An apartment concierge tries to make the lives of everyone around him miserable, and when one woman is hard to upset, he goes to extreme measures.
Creep (2015) - A man answers a Craigslist ad and becomes the target of a twisted man.
Uncanny (2015) - An MIT graduate is lured by an investor to create a realistic human robot, but the robot takes an obsessive, dangerous turn.
The Boy Next Door (2015) - A high school teacher has a one-night stand with a young neighbor who develops a dangerous obsession with her.
Poison Ivy (1992) - A deranged teenage girl develops a fatal attraction for another girl.
Some Velvet Morning (2013) - A man hires a prostitute to act out a stalking and obsession scenario with a him.
The Hoarder (2015) - A young woman is stalked in an underground storage facility by a killer.
The Juror (1996) - A single mother selected for jury duty is followed by a mobster who wants to influence her jury decision.
Silver (1993) - A woman moves into a Manhattan apartment and is pursued romantically by other tenants of the building, one of whom is surreptitiously filming residents.
Misery (1990) - A prominent novelist is taken hostage by a fan who is a stalker.
The Gift (2015) - A former high school classmate comes back to seek revenge on his former bully by stalking him.
Devil In the Flesh (1998) - A teenage girl placed into foster care after the mysterious deaths of her parents stalks her teacher.
Chuck & Buck (2000) - A man attempts to resolve his obsession with another man whom he has had a crush on since they were preteens.
Alone With Her (2007) - A young woman's life is turned upside down by a tech-savvy stalker who uses spy cameras.
The Roommate (2011) - A college freshman is stalked by her roommate.
The Fan (1996) - A baseball player is stalked by a mentally deranged fan.
Cyberstalker (2012) - After killing a young woman's parents years before, a stalker reemerges in her life.
Taxi Driver (1976) - An ex-Marine turned taxi driver becomes disgusted with the scummy street life of New York, and as a part of his instability he stalks a Presidential candidate.
Secret Window (2004) - A writer accused of plagarism becomes the obsessive target of a psychotic man.
Pacific Heights (1990) - A couple unknowingly rent out a first-floor apartment in their home to a dangerous mad man.
Wicker Park (2004) - A young advertising executives becomes obsessed with a woman he believes is his long lost love.
Unlawful Entry (1992) - A young couple whose home was burglarized become the target of obsession by an off-duty police officer.
Prom Night (2008) - A deranged high school teacher is obsessed with a teenager.
Did we miss a creepy stalker movie? Recommend it in the Comments Section.

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FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA Author

Dwolf - Glad to see you've joined HubPages. Hope you will write some hubs or perhaps share your personal experience with stalking. Stay safe.

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FlourishAnyway 2 months ago from USA Author

DWolf - Excellent additions! They are now on the list. I'm so sorry you received obsessive, unwanted attention from stalkers. We often have no idea the kind of emotional baggage that people are carrying around or what they may be capable of when they don't get what they want. Yes, women can stalk men. The movie "Fatal Attraction" is still one of the most frightening movies to me because it's rooted in human behavior -- complex and often unpredictable. Thanks for commenting.

Dwolf 2 months ago

Having been stalked by two women myself (thanks for not limiting your list to males stalking females), I appreciate your article. You forgot two songs that always creep me out, though:

1) "Silver Springs" -- Fleetwood Mac

2) "Kentucky Rain" -- Elvis

DWolf 2 months ago

Having been stalked by two women myself (thanks for not limiting your list to males stalking females), I appreciate your article. You forgot two songs that always creep me out, though:

1) "Silver Springs" -- Fleetwood Mac

2) "Kentucky Rain" -- Elvis

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FlourishAnyway 3 months ago from USA Author

Ashleigh - Awesome add! Consider it 107 now!

Ashleigh 3 months ago

In a talent show I performed ''Your Love is my Drug'' clean version.

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FlourishAnyway 4 months ago from USA Author

Sha - He was a weirdo, all right. I never thought about many of the lyrics but now that I've looked closely at them, I'm pretty amazed. Thanks for reading!

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bravewarrior 4 months ago from Central Florida

Flourish, you had quite the creepy (scary) introduction to living on your own! I'm glad you finally got out of there. The man was delusional and probably dangerous, if provoked.

So many of these songs surprise me that they're about stalking and/or obsessive love. I didn't interpret them that way at all as I sang along and looked forward to hearing them on the radio. Now I feel kinda dirty - naive at the very least.

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FlourishAnyway 4 months ago from USA Author

Larry - Yes, some of these songs are super creepy when you read the lyrics. Every Breath You Take definitely deserves the top spot. Thanks for reading.

Larry Rankin 4 months ago

Every Breath you Take and O go Walking after Midnight are the quentisential stalker songs to me:-)

Great read.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Gemma - Now you've given me the willies with that information on Diane Downs! I now wonder what ever became of Ron, if he is still alive and un incarcerated. For everyone's safety let's hope he is locked up or has gone to meet his maker. Thanks for reading!

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Genna East 5 months ago from Massachusetts, USA

This Ron character gave me the willies. These are the kind of fellows that can snap, unexpectedly, and are in dire need of therapy. The fact that he let himself into your apartment was a clear case of B&E. Thank goodness you moved, and thank goodness stalking is a crime. This is an amazing selection of music. By the way, the song by Duran Duran, "Hungry Like a Wolf," was a favorite of sociopath Diane Downs, a stalker and murderer who attacked her own children.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Kaili - That is a creepy one. I'm adding it! Thanks for the suggestion.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

vespawoolf - Thanks for taking the time to read my first-hand account of my neighbor who broke laws, boundaries, and trust.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Linda - Thank you for your kind kudos and for sharing. Stalking and obsessive attention (which sure isn't love!) don't get enough recognition for the danger that they pose to the target and his or her loved ones.

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AliciaC 5 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

This is a great music article and so much more, Flourish. You've shared very important information and advice about stalking. I'll share the article because it's not only entertaining for its music reviews but also important for people's safety.

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vespawoolf 5 months ago from Peru, South America

I hope your experience of being stalked could help others to avoid a similar situation. Unfortunately, stalking is all too common. The first song I thought of about stalking was from The Police. Many of the others I hadn't even thought about. Thank you for this interesting article.

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Kaili Bisson 5 months ago from Canada

What a creepy glad nothing happened to you! The song I always thought was creepy was by innocent old America, "Right Before Your Eyes" is the song.

"Today I'm done with games (Today I'm done with games)

Gonna ask you for your name

Say I've been watching you

I even know what you do"

I always called it the stalker song....

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

swalia -"Every Break You Take" is creepy alright but it was so popular back in the day! What were we thinking? Thank you for reading and commenting.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

MsDora - Thank you for stopping by. I'm glad you were able to find some songs you like. We often don't pay a lot of attention to the lyrics, even for our favorites!

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MsDora 5 months ago from The Caribbean

Scary story about Ron. Happy for you that the story had a good ending. I appreciate the patient research it seems to put into compiling these lists. Played Lionel Ritchie all the way through. Didn't understand the drama until now. Thanks!

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swalia 5 months ago

A thorough and carefully compiled list. 'Every breath you take' rightfully deserves the top spot.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Susan - I agree. If he wanted to play with my orange kitty he could've just asked. Some people are just so freaky. I'dbet he was sitting or laying on my furniture and going through my cabinets, mail and dresser drawers too. Yuck!

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Devika - Thanks so much for tweeting and for commenting. I wonder whether stalking and creeping are as much of a problem in other cultures.

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Susan Hambidge 5 months ago from Hertfordshire, England

Someone invading your home space is really unnerving. The place where you are supposed to feel safe. In movies, that's always the thing that gets me most freaked out! Love the playlists.

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DDE 5 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

I like the choices you share here! Songs I can go back down memory lane and think of to myself. I Tweeteted

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

heidithorne - Thanks for reading! When you have to sneak into your own apartment to try to avoid a neighbor, that's a big sign something isn't right. Then came the terrifying evidence! The Gift was a super creepy obsessive movie! Have a great weekend.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Linda - He was a really weird guy. Somewhere out there he's probably still creeping on other people. Thank you for reading! Have a great weekend!

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Bill - Thanks for reading. Creepers abound in popular music, movies and culture! Have a great weekend!

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Carb Diva 5 months ago

Wow, Flourish. Your story gave me shivers. Thankfully you escaped Ron without being harmed. I love your playlist. Thank you for discussing this important topic. Great hub. (I wish we still had the thumbs up's).

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heidithorne 5 months ago from Chicago Area

Yikes! Glad you got away from your neighbor and lived to tell.

It's interesting that we definitely abhor stalking behavior. Yet, as your playlist demonstrates, we are fascinated by it, even condone it. In one of his books, Wayne Dyer noted how the lyrics in so many popular songs are so victimizing ("Can't live if living is without you..."). Sad.

Movie to add to the creep list. "The Gift" from 2015 with Jason Bateman and Joel Edgerton. OMG!

Hope your weekend is creep-free and wonderful!

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billybuc 5 months ago from Olympia, WA

Just the title of this article creeped me out. There are a couple songs on this list that I love and had no idea that's what they were about. LOL I'm glad I read this. :) I always love these lists of yours.

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Frank - Thanks for stopping by. I've always enjoyed Cheap Trick's song, too, but never paid all that much attention to the lyrics. The part about "I need you to need me. I'd love you to love me. I'm begging you to beg me" is creepy and obsessive, especially given that the protagonist doesn't really know the person they're singing about. Who knows? She's probably crying because he won't leave her alone. LOL

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FlourishAnyway 5 months ago from USA Author

Faith Reaper - Looking back, I imagine that Ron had some unsavory secrets that I didn't know about -- even though he tended to overshare. The thought of an uninvited person sneaking into one's living space and doing who knows what is so repulsive. My cat Oscar didn't tell me about Ron's visits but I forgave him because he was a baby. Ron's demonstration of how he could climb onto my second story balcony patio really sealed the deal. Bonafide demented guy.

I can imagine that you are so friendly in person and that some people misinterpret that as an invitation to intrude upon your life in unwanted ways. The following page is very interesting, as it describes good vs. bad advice for victims of stalkers: It seems that even the experts don't agree on how to appropriately handle criminal harassment.

Researching songs and their lyrics really opened my eyes that stalking and obsession are such pervasive themes in our culture. I've also been singing at least parts of REO Speedwagon's song, "Keep on Lovin' You." Except for the striking lyrics about the snake in the grass, it sounds like a sweet, devoted song of forever love.

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Frank Atanacio 5 months ago from Shelton

I love the playlist.. but I never really knew that Cheap Trick's I want you to want me was a stalker type song.. well... I've been whistling that tune for decades and now I find out the true meaning behind it..LOL I always enjoy your playlist hubs :)

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Faith Reaper 5 months ago from southern USA

Wow, Flourish,

I'm so glad you saw through your creepy neighbor, Ron, and moved away! No telling what that guy is capable of doing. I would totally freak out if I knew someone had been in my home lurking around.

Well, I know I have been stalked a good bit, and who knows ...probably even now. As you point out, the stalking lasts years. My mother taught us to always be aware of our surroundings.

Being I am a friendly and approachable person, unfortunately, many times attracts those unwanted savory characters.

I believe you've covered all the creep stalker songs, but I had to laugh at some being I never really thought of them to be stalker songs, like REO's Keep on Lovin' You. I guess movies about stalking are so popular because it is unnerving to think that is happens all the time, and who knows, maybe happening at this moment.

Important hub to bring awareness.

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